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 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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& she is MARRIED.

Of course she is
 OtisGreening
Joined: 12/8/2014
Msg: 102
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Posted: 1/21/2015 8:32:04 PM

That is pretty messed up. Seriously? I wonder if she refuses to recieve head too? If so, I understand. If she likes head, then she must give to recieve.


LOL @ "pretty messed up". She claims she doesn't like to receive either. She is not a sexual person at all and doesn't care for sex, doesn't seen what the big deal is, etc. I know she's not a virgin but sex is just not what she enjoys to do.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 103
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Posted: 1/22/2015 4:37:03 AM
^^^^^

Now that's funny :)
 the_summerwind
Joined: 9/11/2014
Msg: 104
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Posted: 1/22/2015 6:27:24 AM

I'd say it was no big deal. I haven't read all the replies, but at least if he got it from you, you'd be the best he'd ever had.


^^^^ Yes I agree too, as that's was funny....

And what happened to the good old days when "Cool Whip" or Hall's cough drops was a option ? Hope that helps...
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 1/22/2015 9:49:46 AM
Of all the things folks put on their "Bucket List" I can't imigian this not being in the top 5 on most lists. It is definately something you would need to experience so you could at least cross it off as no big deal (although I would find that hard to believe ;) wait I meat difficult to believe.
 CarefreeBeauty
Joined: 5/30/2014
Msg: 106
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Posted: 1/22/2015 3:15:37 PM
^^^tumuchfun

Bucket List haiku


it's hard to believe
wait, wait---I meant difficult
but hard to fathom

(you guys would NOT believe)

haha
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 1/22/2015 5:38:08 PM
Well I have to say
Nothing beats good head...haikus
Well except good head
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 1/22/2015 6:51:12 PM
Just got head tonight
Checked off the bucket list
On to the bondage!
 OtisGreening
Joined: 12/8/2014
Msg: 109
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Posted: 1/22/2015 11:44:27 PM

Someone great in bed has had way too much practice


yeah, because blanket statements are always accurate.
& you assume this practice is with a bunch of people? anyone who is intimidated by someone's sexual past is insecure. as long as they're safe, clean and only with you now, why should that matter?
 AwesomeKisser
Joined: 11/1/2010
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Posted: 1/23/2015 12:19:08 AM

yeah, because blanket statements are always accurate.
& you assume this practice is with a bunch of people? anyone who is intimidated by someone's sexual past is insecure. as long as they're safe, clean and only with you now, why should that matter?


Exactly. I would far rather be with someone great in bed than with someone even mediocre or average. Great sex strengthens a relationship and adds onto the other great parts of it.
 nocrapzone
Joined: 1/10/2015
Msg: 111
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Posted: 1/23/2015 11:39:57 AM
many want head
though it's something I dread
most use teeth or high-suction

LOL..people that are good at sex are more likely to be able to keep their lovers long term

the people that have a long string of one nights stands?

perhaps it's because they SUCK in bed? (pun intended)
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 112
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Posted: 1/23/2015 12:15:31 PM

This would fall in the category of "stupid". I never said that he could get away with being stupid, he just didn't need "game". Big difference between "not having game" and being "downright stupid". (smile)

I have known men who could sleep with women, very attractive women, without ever exchanging more that a half dozen words.

I have to agree, although that last statement is stretching it a bit -- more like not needing to "win her over" with any skill or long convo at all to have her come back to his place.

It's basically 3 categories:
- Having 'Game' (from a mild boost to pickup artist)
- Neutral Zone
- Having 'Anti-Game' (from being too odd/quiet to "being stupid")

Attractive guys or guys who are very social and have many friends who have friends, etc -- they can sit in the Neutral Zone and be just fine.
Very Attractive guys who aren't incredibly social or don't have much of a social base -- they can also sit in the Neutral Zone and be just fine.

Women want all guys to be in the Neutral Zone ("just be yourself" implies that) -- because they don't want awkwardness or an a-hole (anti-game), but they Also don't want a guy with "skill", even if natural, to amp up their like and/or trust to a guy, as they themselves instead want Complete control over how they feel about the guy (fear of being manipulated or merely not purely in control).
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 1/25/2015 5:04:01 AM
^^^^
Because they are just platonic friends,

why does everyone have porn for brains :/
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 114
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Posted: 1/25/2015 12:26:22 PM

I don't really agree with this. ..... Some women really do want guys to "just be yourself".

That is the neutral-zone -- having No Game, good or bad. "Just Be Yourself". We subconsciously put at least SOME (attempt at) game out there 99% of the time. I will agree though, they don't want it -- BUT they respond better to it (when it's good/decent/effective), so in a sense, they Do unknowingly want it. Depends on the context we're talking about.

I can say that a person skilled in social interactions can easily fall into the "Having Game" category, but appear to be on neutral ground.

Yep, I agree. When you have good game, you're going to be interacting the same way thru almost all of it the same way as if you have a GF, and are just socializing out there. Hence, the conundrum that many guys may complain about: "Why is it when I have a GF, it's easier to pick up women, but when I don't, it's harder?" Your game is better, that's why. You find her attractive, so whether for the most part it's consciously or subconsciously, that's why you're striking conversation with her, but you have nothing to lose, nor are you trying to Pick her Up. You'll notice that gals will fancy you in this situation and you ask why that couldn't be when you're single.

Anyway, back to the point, and to what I meant by it: Gals don't want guys to apply 'game' to them. The concept in and of itself feels/seems orchestrated/fake, and they'll feel like a Lower person -- that's why. It's much the same way with magic tricks... unless someone's in the mood to see them, people don't want to be fooled, even in such a setting. They'll feel lower. Many gals will see/feel 'game' as some lower-tier attempt at 'magic tricks' (when they most often are not) -- to be 'fooled' to some degree, in some way to take a liking to them. To them, it resonates with the notion that guys are fake -- but more importantly, it's the fear of looking/feeling stupid.

In reality though, a good 'game' isn't what it's cracked up to be. And to a particular guy, that 'game' is going to be as Natural as anything else. Any time you have two people who don't know each other well (not to mention at least one liking the other on top of it) -- you're going to have a 'different gear' on Both sides being had. She's not going to "be herself" any more than a guy with good honest 'game' is. He has that in response to gals having a wall/shield up to varying degrees.
 OtisGreening
Joined: 12/8/2014
Msg: 115
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Posted: 1/25/2015 1:03:44 PM

Did she mention that she was just friends with this guy somewhere in the thread? I just read her first post which doesn't sound like they're friends. It sounds like she met a guy she likes that she's a bit unsure of because he's sexually inexperienced. Finally, the topic deals with a guy never getting a BJ, so who has porn on their minds?..LOL


This thread is 6 pages now and I've explained my background with the person that this story is centered around already.

Reading comprehension. Get it.

Thanks Basilisk :)

& do men really think by proclaiming "I've never [insert sexual act here]" to their female friends/acquaintances that MOST women are going to get on their knees/back/whatever and do you a "favor". *rolls eyes*

You'd have better luck saying that to gay men, because that's how men tend to operate - not women.
 OtisGreening
Joined: 12/8/2014
Msg: 116
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Posted: 1/25/2015 1:14:50 PM

I go off the first post and comment. If you were just friends with the guy, then you should've said so in your first post.


I don't need to coddle lazy readers.
 i8pineapple
Joined: 6/20/2014
Msg: 117
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Posted: 1/25/2015 3:03:47 PM
Somebody should just take one for the team and give the guy a polish.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 1/25/2015 3:04:36 PM
That is how some platonic friends are. Some can discuss sex and not feel anything about each other. Talking about sex with an opposite sex friend does not mean you want to have sex with them. It means you want to discuss the topic of sex and get their input on a matter that is on your mind. Especially informative if you don't understand an aspect of the opposite sex.
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 119
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Posted: 1/26/2015 9:53:09 AM
[over 30s LADIES: how would you respond if you met a 30 yo man who had never gotten sucked? He's not a virgin..only had sex with one girl and that was 5+ years ago.
Would this be weird? Not a big deal?]


My response would be tailored specifically to the person based on what I know at that point of him/her.
Weird? In my mind maybe but I would never say it outloud. It would be insulting. I would hate to make that person feel bad for revealing something to me.
I'd be as supportive as I can.
Answer any questions
advise however I can

Isn't that what friends are suppose to be?
 nocrapzone
Joined: 1/10/2015
Msg: 120
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Posted: 1/26/2015 10:36:11 AM

LADIES: how would you respond if you met a 30 yo man who had never gotten sucked?



Assuming that he was telling the truth..
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 121
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Posted: 1/27/2015 10:27:24 AM

No, but I personally find it odd that a man would discuss such a topic with a woman he had no interest in.

Ehh, I can see it. Now, I'm a non-PC person, so among friends who are female, they know that. When around female friends who aren't prudish & sensitive, the subject of sex to some degree may come up, especially guy vs girls talk, and comments like "Yeah, I've never done that...," in reference to the bedroom. So I could see her guy-friend, in a banter of chit-chat on the topic of dating with sexual relations woven in, throw out "Yeah, I've never had that / done that...". When it comes to anal sex, 3-some, hooking up in a tent with another couple 5 feet away, etc? OK. When it comes to merely "a girl going down on you"? Record screetches. :)

I don't think it's a given at all that he'd be bringing it up in terms of interest toward her (although it's possible).

I have plenty of female friends and the topic of sexual acts is generally avoided...because I'm not really thinking about sex around them. Maybe I'm a prude...

Usually not for me either. It's the arena where it's definitely going to be lesser brought up... but if people are drinking and talking about girls/guys -- maybe a mutual friend is out dating and b!tching about this and that -- and one thing leads to another in group-convo, it doesn't get dirty in any lingo, but someone says "Yeah, I've never done that," -- yeah, it happens. Even among those who can be kind of prudish (but with some beers, loosen up a bit to at least talk on a general level where that concept may 'spring' up).
 nocrapzone
Joined: 1/10/2015
Msg: 122
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Posted: 1/27/2015 10:54:26 AM

any woman that could/would give head and was fairly skilled at it made her an amazing slut. Stupid and ridiculous? Yes, but it was a different time.


and did they them give the catch all statement..

"I'"ve never done this before.." ?

things that make ya go hmmm..

"expert" with zero experience?

not sure it's one of those things one gets good at by reading a book

Today it is more like a slightly more intimate form of "kissing"..planting the baloney pony is a bit bigger hurdle, perhaps
 Aradia96
Joined: 10/25/2014
Msg: 123
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Posted: 2/23/2015 3:19:36 AM
That would be okay with me, I'd totally preserve his BJ virginity :D
truely! - I don't like giving them
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 124
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Posted: 3/25/2015 11:12:09 AM

I told a girl this She was 22 and me 30 and she did give me head then after she was done she was like haha I popped your cherry, I was a little shocked she seemed pretty egor to what to do it knowing I told her the last girl I was with years ago never gave me oral.

That's a good angle, especially on the younger gals under 25. "I've never gotten head before. I don't know if I'd like it or not... I'm so innocent... (cheeks reddening up)..."

Then, pulling back her pigtails as she's gobbling down like a fat kid at a pie eating contest, you give a thumbs-up to the camera.

When she's done and says "I popped your BJ cheery, how do you like That?"
You say "Oh, my world has changed. My world has changed.... I just never knew."
And she says "And knowing is half the battle..."
And you finish it with "... GI JOE! (wink to camera)"
 ThatGirlNamedAlli
Joined: 12/28/2013
Msg: 125
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Posted: 3/27/2015 9:47:21 AM
He's gone now, but i8pinapple's comment was funny.
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