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 jlynn1955
Joined: 8/24/2012
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a deal breaker for me. Mine dont necessarily have to be inside all the time. But they are coming in at night...period. Dont like it? Hit the road.
 Fire_and_Ice4_You
Joined: 10/28/2014
Msg: 102
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Posted: 1/11/2015 6:14:27 PM
Same question...Same poster.....Same answers.....
I think someone's yanking our chain.....
I think the two humans... should live outside together in the heated dog house and let the dogs have the house...;)
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 103
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Posted: 1/11/2015 7:40:59 PM

Her dog is afraid of him, hides and bow her head because he raises his voice around her and presents his "alpha" self in order to teach her dog that it is "HIS house"


If your dog does NOT like this man, there is a very good reason. Animals know and sense the true character of a person.
And yet you think this man is someone to live with, get married to, AND have a child/children with? Seriously, WAKE up and smell the coffee. This man is emotionally unhealthy, manipulative, and controlling, and I'm being nice to just say this!
OP, please seek professional counseling, to help gain the knowledge as to why you think this relationship is good, healthy and your only option?
I say this with kindness and with sincerity.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 104
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Posted: 1/11/2015 7:54:07 PM
^^^
Agree.IIRC correctly from the last time,there were other stipulations from this man.
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 105
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Posted: 1/11/2015 9:30:34 PM
don't forget the number one rule of love:

the dog will love you every minute of every day for it's entire life.

will your lover?
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 1/11/2015 9:38:31 PM
Well, my dog sleeps on the bed, on my side. The cat sleeps on my head. They stay off, until I let them on, which is right before I go to sleep. Clearly this man would not like to live with me either:)

Pets have always been an integral part of my life. My current dog is being disability trained for bracing, if I should trip with my lyme disease while walking difficult paths. If the man in my life is not a spooner, the dog is also there to pick up the slack--or else my arm hurts. This too is a bracing thing. My dog is very "thick". He also has short hair and gets bathed in neem oil, so does not smell badly.

My ex did not like dogs at first, but this dog is a con artist. He was soon cuddling him as well. Going through a break up, I let the dog sleep with him the other nite, as he comforts us both now:) I still got the cat on my head. He is on chemo, so I have to be a bit forgiving of that.

I respect the man's choice. I hope it is not cold where they live. An indoor dog, is not going to be okay with being put out, unless there is a cozy pack environment to be shared and the weather is great. I would not have moved in, given the attitude towards dogs unless I kept my place and conducted an experiment, to be evaluated by both parties to see if the dog inside was acceptable.

It is hard enough coming to an agreement about a dog sleeping on a bed. But not allowed in the house at all, is a very big difference between a dog lover and someone who needs a spotless, germ free, dog free home. Even harder than dogs, if you are a germophobe is toddlers. Will that be okay with this man?

I feel bad for them.
 i8pineapple
Joined: 6/20/2014
Msg: 107
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Posted: 1/11/2015 10:47:53 PM
Maybe a compromise is the fairest thing all round. Let all the dogs sleep in the doorway, half inside the house and half outside. Problem solved.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 1/12/2015 1:41:22 AM

Secondly most of the breeds that exist now are created through human intervention. The breeds weren't bred for outside living they were bred for ease of care (more delicate, smaller and with less hair and defenses). Factor in the overbreeding and overdevelopment of the human animal a lot of predator animals injure or eat canines if left outside. Are people on this thread are so stupid they don't use common sense when it comes to this?

Don't think any of us "stupid" people are advocating throwing a Yorkie outdoors to live, and the breeds that are suited to it actually have thick undercoats that Nature has designed to protect them from the elements, which we humans DON'T HAVE and is why WE need heated shelters , as "common sense" dictates.



Your attitude towards her is unwarranted.


This poster seems to have NO problem with insulting opinion of others as well as throwing around personal insults that are also "unwarranted" as well as based on what appears to be emotion and NOT correct information.

As far as sled dogs go, when I have spent time in Iqaluit visiting my brother when he worked there, I had the chance to spend quite a bit of time with the natives who keep their sled dogs which are more important to them than being mere "pets" although they all have names and are well-taken care of, ie playtime, attention, treats, etc. They are dependent on them for their livelihood , the dogs can go many places that skidoos can't, and ALL of those dogs have shelter and blankets as well as food and water, and ANY signs of illness and/or injury are addressed promptly and efficiently.
Here's the interesting part....the average sled dog in the North lives longer than the average housepet kept indoors and "loved" by it's owner. Several of the huskies, malamutes and other crossbreeds that I met were upwards of 12-14 years old, still in great shape and raring to go on the COLDEST day, with NO sigsn of arthritis, cancers, etc....they also experience few, if ANY, behaviourial issues.

Can't even begin to count how MANY animals I've come across that have been almost "loved to Death" by owners who overfeed and rarely if exercise their dogs, but they DO keep them indoors, some to the point of NEVER seeing the outdoors and actually having a chance to BE a dog, because their owners are more interested in treating them as substitute children and dressing them up in "dog clothes" and feeding them too much as a sign of their "love"!!!
Frankly THAT kind of crap is MUCH more abusive in my opinion.
While I agree that dog's have feelings and their own psychology, it should be interesting to note that working dogs generally fair better than dogs that languish in a house all day waiting for their owners to come home. Many people also don't understand that dogs aren't people and have their own specific psychology that requires relating to them on their own level and in a way that they understand and that helps them to feel secure within their "pack"
Oh and btw, feeding your dog human food is bound to cause issues and is also considered a BIG no-no in veterinary circles, so again, NOT in the animals best interests, except for a "treat" on occasion, and as far as allowing your pet to "steal food" or sleep in your bed, again, you are giving the dog mixed signals that can and often do lead to behaviour problems...
I would think that the fact that many vets prescribing human meds for anxiety and depression to dogs these days is proof enough that many folks really don't have a clue as to how to treat their animal appropriately and the resulting behaviour problems are normally what leads to a good animal ending up euthanized.
As far as her dog being afraid of him, that could also be for any number of reasons...some dogs, especially females don't respond well to men because of the timbre of their voice, or they are very passive animals or perhaps he is disciplining the animal as SHE has failed to do, etc. Don;t remember seeing anything about him BEATING her dog, in the post...
Again, in the "pack" the Alpha dogs think nothing of "disciplining" the lesser members of the pack and they are NOT gentle about it...
 Strawberry_Jello
Joined: 5/13/2014
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Posted: 1/12/2015 4:36:37 AM
It IS COLD where they live. They are just outside of Windsor Ontario, I live just outside Detroit MI. Close enough that I often get matches from Windsor sent to me by POF. Last week I checked the weather forecast one day, it was 10 degrees F, with a Real Feel temp of -21! And she posted her original post was last year when we had BRUTAL winter weather.
I don't recall that she told us last time that he had heat in the dog shelter, so that's better than I thought it was. But I wonder what the temp was inside the shelter when it was -21 Real Feel?

Her dog has been living as an inside dog, so making her dog transition to an outside dog now would be abuse in my book. His dogs may be ok, but I still have some questions and doubts. Like what kind of dogs does he have? What breed is her dog?

I also wonder about elderly dogs, what then? Do they continue to live outside to the bitter end? My cat is getting old, arthritis and a sensitive stomach are bothering her now. I am trying to make life easier for her around the house. What does he do when his dogs start having problems?

People who say it's his house are wrong, if he invites her to move in, it becomes their mutual home. He does sound like someone too difficult to live with, regardless of the dogs.

I do NOT respect his choices. If dogs are too dirty to come inside, you live in this climate and in a low crime area, why have dogs at all?


I respect the man's choice. I hope it is not cold where they live. An indoor dog, is not going to be okay with being put out, unless there is a cozy pack environment to be shared and the weather is great. I would not have moved in, given the attitude towards dogs unless I kept my place and conducted an experiment, to be evaluated by both parties to see if the dog inside was acceptable.
 hotdogshop100
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 110
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Posted: 1/12/2015 5:35:27 AM
More excuses of why it's okay to abuse dogs, blah, blah, blah. Your argument are weak and get old. All of it equates to lazy selfish owners.
 BLonde^j^AngeL
Joined: 1/2/2015
Msg: 111
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Posted: 1/12/2015 5:53:19 AM
IMo, the only dog living indoors is the man who the OP is seeing.

OP do you think so little of yourself, let alone your dog, that you would want to be around such a nasty person?

Get some self-esteem & a spine & get the h e l l away from that man!

There are other men out there who are kind & would not act this way!
 Fire_and_Ice4_You
Joined: 10/28/2014
Msg: 112
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Posted: 1/12/2015 6:54:23 AM
Yep...Humans took a wild, outdoor animal that originated from a wolf and domesticated it.
For their own selfish reasons to have a "cuddle" mate...started breeding to get smaller, more needy in house breeds...
Does anyone wonder how a wolf or coyote lives in the wild....without a bed, a warm room, a brush and Alpo?
I do believe...a lot of dog types can still live outside comfortably and others absolutely have to be inside.
If two people have different views about their pets....probably is not going to work out.


My friend had a dog who ate shit. Gross

I know eh!! My child wouldn't be allowed to lick my face if they did that but see it all the time with pets....lol.
 ApriLikesWhiteRosesOnly
Joined: 1/8/2015
Msg: 113
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Posted: 1/12/2015 7:21:06 AM

Msg 115 ..They lick their own bollocks/arse, sniff other dogs bums.


Same thing your boyfriend is doing to you AND did to other women also...
Question for you ...: do you kiss your fiancé in the mouth?...do you please him orally?where do you believe that thing has been?.
Same question for men who thinks the same about germs inside the house ..WE ARE FULL OF BACTERIAS TOO.

P.S
I do not allow my pet to lick me in the face,but it is because I do not like the feeling.
 BLonde^j^AngeL
Joined: 1/2/2015
Msg: 114
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Posted: 1/12/2015 7:23:08 AM

Same thing your boyfriend is doing to you AND did to other women also...
Question for you ...: do you kiss your fiancé in the mouth?...do you please him orally?where do you believe that thing has been?.
Same question for men who thinks the same about germs inside the house ..WE ARE FULL OF BACTERIAS TOO.

P.S
I do not allow my pet to lick me in the face,but it is because I do not like the feeling.

And we know the dog has ONLY one owner ;0P (the canine, that is)
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 3/30/2014
Msg: 115
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Posted: 1/12/2015 9:36:08 AM
http://youtu.be/SdCsTWk-8ps
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 116
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Posted: 1/12/2015 9:50:16 AM
@April
LMAO.
I don't let my dogs lick my face.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 117
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Posted: 1/12/2015 10:07:42 AM

Yep...Humans took a wild, outdoor animal that originated from a wolf and domesticated it.


Yep...Humans started out living in caves and hunted for food everyday with crude spears and clubs to beat animals to death with, and then became domesticated. When was the last time an animal started a war and built killing machines? So who is the more domesticated one?
 Fire_and_Ice4_You
Joined: 10/28/2014
Msg: 118
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Posted: 1/12/2015 11:01:40 AM

Yep...Humans started out living in caves and hunted for food everyday with crude spears and clubs to beat animals to death with, and then became domesticated.

There still are humans that live like that...do you seriously not know this?

When was the last time an animal started a war and built killing machines? So who is the more domesticated one?

What?? When was the last time one paid for my food and my shelter...silly question or point.
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 119
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Posted: 1/12/2015 11:06:27 AM
Comparing wild wolves to domesticated dogs is a bit of a stretch. Wolves have more control over their own destinies as opposed to pet dogs who are at the mercy of their owners. I doubt dogs were originally domesticated to be cuddle buddies…my guess would be hunting partners, protectors…I know sheepdogs work on farms and many dogs work as service animals, with law enforcement, the blind, etc.

Animal advocates don’t compare, contrast, and dismiss abuse. THIS abuse is worse, so THIS abuse doesn’t matter. Who thinks like that?

“Mysticus_Amatrix,” you’ve never licked anyone’s crotch?


Yep...Humans started out living in caves and hunted for food everyday with crude spears and clubs to beat animals to death with, and then became domesticated. When was the last time an animal started a war and built killing machines? So who is the more domesticated one?


Agree. I don’t understand how anyone, even a non-dog person, could dismiss even the *potential* of animal abuse. I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night or look at myself in the mirror, if I ignored a suffering animal. Dogs are pets, they need love and comfort and belong with their family members. Being left alone for endless days and nights probably hurts worse than having to endure subzero temperatures.


Her dog is afraid of him, hides and bow her head because he raises his voice around her and presents his "alpha" self in order to teach her dog that it is "HIS house"


I’m still waiting for OP to explain what she was/is doing while this is going on. Some jackoff would yell ONCE, and I’d be gone, with my dog with me. I don’t tolerate displays of aggressive disrespect. I doubt he’s only yelling at the dog, FFS.

Does he actually tell you that he’s deliberately frightening your dog to “teach her that it’s HIS house?” What he’s teaching the dog and SHOULD be teaching the OP is that he’s an abusive azzhole. How long does it take to learn.
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 120
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Posted: 1/12/2015 12:03:51 PM
I've actually listened to a few dog trainers, the real type of dog trainer, and they say that you must be the "alpha" in your home and with your dog. I understand this and I agree. Yes, my dog was my pet and I loved him dearly but I was the "boss", not the dog. Obedience training - its a good thing.

There are outside dogs and inside dogs. Not a damn thing wrong with that and it depends on the breed. The OP said the dog had a heated shed. Nothing wrong with that. What would be wrong is if this dog NEVER had any interaction with people or other dogs, if the dog was not walked or run, never played with and in essence, just ignored. I don't recall any post by the OP saying what this man does with his dog other than the fact it sleeps "outside" at night in a heated shed.
 nosima
Joined: 1/8/2015
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Posted: 1/12/2015 1:59:38 PM
The concept of alpha and pack theory is outdated in dog training. But that is by the by. The guy told you he thinks you are dirty - how many more clues do you need?
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 122
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Posted: 1/12/2015 2:01:53 PM
I have to Say, reading some Posts in this thread, leads Me to believe some Posters are the 'Beta' in Their Households.......
 hotdogshop100
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 123
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Posted: 1/12/2015 3:53:07 PM
Behind - spot on especially any female that would contemplate giving up all her life and power so she can tell others she has a man in her life. Pathetic.
 Dan198508
Joined: 11/7/2014
Msg: 124
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Posted: 1/12/2015 4:11:31 PM
I always give an answer without reading other posts so that it is not biased, then, I read the posts to see how off I am lol.

Assume the guy has a foot fetish, he might be ok with you having dirty feet but he won't be ok with you walking into dog urine or other things dogs excrete. I was admin on a porn forum so I know exactly what I'm talking about. It's a total turn-off. It's about the smell also. He wants to smell YOU, taste YOU etc. when you and the dog become one, you start smelling like the dog, your hands become...doggy...the room smells like the dog, you walk where the dog walks etc.

So the dog is sort of pestering the sexual experience. My parents have a dog, and I love it, but I wouldn't own one in the context of a relationship. I went to PetSmart 1,000 times and there's pretty girls there, some are very attractive, but I would have a poor experience fvcking them. It's the smell! It doesn't go away with showering! There are all sort of chemicals that absorb through the skin and stay there. Urine, hormones, sweat...it stays for up to a week!

Now lets be clear, some people don't mind this. Some people enjoy sex with animals also. And a friend of my grandpa was unable to get it up unless the woman was a 70 y.o. certified toilet cleaner and wasn't using any gloves to clean public washrooms. So it's a matter of taste and some people find it distasteful.
 hotdogshop100
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 125
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Posted: 1/12/2015 6:00:35 PM
I'm sure glad the hot chicks at Petco can rest assured that you will not be interested in them. Seems to me when you bring not be pleasing to f---ck them, that mindset is a turnoff completely to women. Maybe you should clean up your sick thoughts about having animals and equating it with human and animals having sex. That isn't even the subject matter. You need psych help seriously.
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