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 ssm508
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Sooooooo………….. Does this ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ mean someone now has to agree, who will be paying …………..by the minutes?
Can I use a debit card? ?Gift card available?

According to some people on previous threads, gift cards, certificates, coupons etc are unacceptable sources of payment on the first date. LOL.
 Clytemnestra
Joined: 6/6/2018
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Posted: 1/12/2019 7:06:30 PM
msg#1826:
Sooooooo………….. Does this ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ mean someone now has to agree, who will be paying …………..by the minutes?
Can I use a debit card? ?Gift card available?

According to some people on previous threads, gift cards, certificates, coupons etc are unacceptable sources of payment on the first date. LOL.


Add 'paying in cash' to that list.
Way too old fashioned, too old school to make it in the World of OLD~
hahahaha
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
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Posted: 1/12/2019 7:59:45 PM
how much should I be charging for a 45 minute date? what about penalties for going over on time? and definitely no credit or gift cards, cash only!
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 1/12/2019 9:24:56 PM
^^^ If she runs over the allotted time, she'll work off the extra time...under the table!
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 1830
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Posted: 1/13/2019 9:24:32 AM
LMAO, ^ ^ ^ ^ As we say at work, "What happens under the table, STAYS under the table"
 ginghamgal
Joined: 10/11/2018
Msg: 1831
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Posted: 1/13/2019 10:22:40 AM

It doesn't take a perfect storm, actually. We don't think about how long it is unless it's really long -- hence, our skewed bias. All it takes is going where it's not super packed, you have a decent waitress, and you Don't Want to stay long.

I am just saying there can be additional factors besides what you mentioned. Needing extra time to decide what you want, ordering something that takes longer to cook or prepare etc. It may not sound like much. But it can add up. It has nothing to do with skewed bias. These are things are just simple observations.


According to some people on previous threads, gift cards, certificates, coupons etc are unacceptable sources of payment on the first date. LOL.

Is a personal check okay?
 pfif
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 1832
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Posted: 1/13/2019 2:56:53 PM
I'd be putting $30 in one of my pockets, $10 in another,
and $10 in a third -- and produce from the correct
pocket(s) to produce minimal cash in front of a new
acquaintance met through stranger-dating means. ;)

Maybe keep another $60 in a money belt. ;) And leave
all the plastic at home.

Carry a burn phone, too. ;)
 ontheotherhand
Joined: 6/24/2018
Msg: 1833
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Posted: 1/13/2019 4:52:24 PM

According to some people on previous threads, gift cards, certificates, coupons etc are unacceptable sources of payment on the first date. LOL.


OMG, I remember that thread. I think there's a difference between thrifty and cheap. A coupon wouldn't bother me. The money saved with coupons can be used for more fun.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 1/14/2019 11:02:43 AM

In my experience, dinner tends to be somewhat longer than lunch because people often have larger meals at dinner.

I honestly don't think that plays a role at all. Never have I been put in check by a gal, pleading to get her second wind to scarf down the rest of her grub. :) YMMV, but many places don't skimp out on the amt for lunch for the purpose of drawing people in. Most people eat till they're full, and leave the rest or put it in the to-go box when paying the bill.

I am just saying there can be additional factors besides what you mentioned. Needing extra time to decide what you want, ordering something that takes longer to cook or prepare etc.

There can be. There can be bad waiters or a place short on them that night, or you going to The place when everyone's out there at the same peak time, sure. My point it is, it doesn't take the stars to align to not run into that, and choosing places isn't random -- we play a role in it, too. Now, we don't care about that so much (well, except for the notably bad waiter part) -- when we want to be at the place to Unwind for a While like many people do (hence, the 'dinners take long'). We'll take our time with everything, because that's what we plan on doing anyway.

When we're not geared to go there to unwind (like being at a bar), it's quite easy to walk into a place at 7 with no line & be seated, and walking out the door shortly before the clock strikes 8. No bum-rushing anyone required, or super-fast service. We put "dinner" on a pedestal as somewhat of a 'big' date because it's Usually accompanied with purposely unwinding, kicking back, having drinks, etc etc.

According to some people on previous threads, gift cards, certificates, coupons etc are unacceptable sources of payment on the first date. LOL.

Yeah, some people are prissy and scoff ("Well, I Never!") at a guy whipping out a certificate/coupon with the check on the first few dates. How DARE he purposely apply a discount? The gal wants to be taken out for free, and for it ALL to come out of His wallet! HE'S the cheapskate, right? ;)
 ssm508
Joined: 5/27/2018
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Posted: 1/14/2019 4:21:14 PM

I honestly don't think that plays a role at all. Never have I been put in check by a gal, pleading to get her second wind to scarf down the rest of her grub. :) YMMV, but many places don't skimp out on the amt for lunch for the purpose of drawing people in. Most people eat till they're full, and leave the rest or put it in the to-go box when paying the bill.

I did say in my experience. When I go out for food (whether I'm alone, with friends, or on a date), I tend to eat more more at dinner because I'm usually more hungry then. Other people may have different eating patterns though.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 1/15/2019 1:24:23 AM

I did say in my experience. When I go out for food (whether I'm alone, with friends, or on a date), I tend to eat more more at dinner because I'm usually more hungry then. Other people may have different eating patterns though.

I tend to eat more too. And tend to plan on staying longer than during lunch hours. All I'm saying is that if one Wanted to Not Have to stay very long, they can -- without playing MacGuyver (putting a little thought on time & place). Our shared habits tend to lead us to believe by default it Is to last long, but I've avoided it when I had to, without much effort. All my point is, is that it's not Time that's really heeding us from having a date that centers around ordering from a post-lunch menu -- as opposed to a bar for drinks or going to putt-putt golf + post-coffee.
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