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 ScooterSB
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 25
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I've done nothing disrespectful. I'M the one who's been disrespected.


Someone not being interested is not disrespectful. Not every woman in the world is going to want to date you. If you see a woman's profile and decide you arn't attracted to her is that disrespectful? NO it's just personal preference.

What are you passionate about?
What makes you special and unique?
Why should a woman date you over the millions of other guys on this site?
What is it like to date you?
What attributes do you find attractive in a woman?
What does romance mean to you?

Answer these in your profile text and you'll be well on the way.



A good first message is something along the lines of

Hi ______

Really like your profile, you sounds really cool and fun. I see you enjoy _______ thats amazing, how long have you been doing it for? I'm really into _________ too, have you ever __________? How was your weekend? Do anything exciting?


Simple, shows you read the profile and have taken an interest in it along with shared interests. Also asking easy questions makes it easier to respond.
 Indy1017
Joined: 7/18/2013
Msg: 26
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Posted: 1/27/2015 12:26:12 PM
All I'm saying is that felt like a burn. Like, it starts off god then 4 minutes later in the conversation to get a "Yeah, sorry. I'm not interested."?
 ScooterSB
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 27
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Posted: 1/27/2015 12:32:19 PM
So what would you rather? She strings you along for message after message with no intention of ever dating you? Or she just stops messaging you making you wonder where she went and what her deal is?

She was straight and upfront with you. Respect that and move on.
 Che216
Joined: 12/24/2014
Msg: 28
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Posted: 1/27/2015 12:34:02 PM
It's not a burn. She apologized and said she wasn't interested. She could have ignored you but she decided to be direct and honest. She didn't want to waste your time or hers. If she just kept talking to you when she's not interested, she would have taken up the time you could be using to talk to someone who was interested.
 Indy1017
Joined: 7/18/2013
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Posted: 1/27/2015 12:40:36 PM
Anything I can do to make my account more successful?
 AussieNancy
Joined: 11/8/2014
Msg: 30
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Posted: 1/27/2015 5:28:09 PM


My goals are to finish BCC, earn a two year degree and become a voice actor. My aspirations are to find a good career, settle down and start a good family. I'm a little shy, always thoughtful. And sorry about the no car. Anything else you want to know, just ask. :)


First Date
Surprise me.



Ok, then. What else do I fill my profile with?


1/ Are you looking for friends only or a serious relationship with a view to start a family? You need to make that clear.
2/ What do you do for fun? What makes you tick?
3/ What sort of lady are you looking for?
4/ Never mind the car issue at this stage.

5/ First date is terrible, sorry. It shows you wont make any effort and have no imagination.
6/ Put some humour, some of your personality in your profile.
7/ Use your imagination and write something that will inspire the ladies to WANT to ask you for more details.
8/ Get clearer photos of yourself. Add a caption to each. Make them interesting and let your personality shine.

Best of luck to you.
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 31
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Posted: 1/27/2015 5:39:00 PM
"Anything I can do to make my account more successful?"
How about a nice photo of you in your new Ferrari, parked next to your yacht? That works pretty well.
Barring that, keep fishing !!!!
 Forums_only
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 32
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Posted: 1/27/2015 6:23:08 PM
You need a clear main photo, smiling, shoulders up.

You have that you're Looking For: FRIENDS. Girls have friends. This is a DATING site. Unless you forgot to add the ... 'with benefits"?

The profile is too skimpy to be of any use. Girls want to know what you'd have in common with them, so you need to add more information about your interests.

The conversation you had was with an escort. I can't believe you didn't figure that out.
 Che216
Joined: 12/24/2014
Msg: 33
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Posted: 1/27/2015 6:41:53 PM

The conversation you had was with an escort. I can't believe you didn't figure that out.


What? How are you getting that from the conversation?
 Forums_only
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 34
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Posted: 1/27/2015 6:52:44 PM
This:


1/27/2015 1219 PM
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I enjoy doing anything really how about you??
Indy1017
1/27/2015 1235 PM
I'm all right. Enjoying the blizzard? :P
Indy1017
1/27/2015 1253 PM
I'm open-minded to pretty much anything. So, I like having fun.


She was looking for him to bite and he was completely oblivious, so she moved on to the next guy who hopefully has his credit card already out.
 Che216
Joined: 12/24/2014
Msg: 35
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Posted: 1/27/2015 7:02:16 PM
The Open-minded quote is from OP. What each of them said is below their names. I was telling him that the thing about being open-minded came off like it had sexual connotations, which is why she said she wasn't interested.
 Forums_only
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 36
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Posted: 1/27/2015 7:51:10 PM
You're right, of course! I was reading it backwards (bad habit from work, sorry).

Yeah, then it's pretty obvious why she went 'poof'.
 Literate_Hiker
Joined: 1/1/2015
Msg: 37
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Posted: 1/27/2015 11:00:52 PM

What else do I fill my profile with?

Your profile is an advertisement to help you meet the kind of woman you want to date. The best profiles are well written, upbeat and interesting, with a dash of humor. Internet dating is a written, visual medium. Correct spelling and grammar are important because it shows you care about details. Write in short paragraphs. Nobody wants to read a wall of words.

Describe your best characteristics and strengths, activities you enjoy, and what you are looking for in a relationship. Talk a little about the type of woman you want to meet using personality traits.

Tell short, humorous and descriptive stories that illustrate your passions and personality. Men often write saying they loved my profile and photos. Stories from my profile:

"I love hiking to high alpine lakes surrounded by white glaciers and jagged mountain peaks. After dark I look up and feel awed by the glowing Milky Way and billions of sparkling stars. "

"On long hikes I delight people by pulling out a special treat like homemade, dark chocolate, chewy-gooey brownies. Instant hero."

"Skinny dipping at night made me a lifelong sensualist. August evenings at the lake were warm as bath water, accentuated by icy cold streams flowing up from the bottom. It was an exquisite experience I long to share."

"I have been volunteering for six years, helping low income students write essays for college entry and scholarships. Frequently they are from non-English backgrounds and can communicate well but struggle with writing. One of my best success stories is Elisabeth, who was awarded almost $85,000 in scholarships and grants in 2014. She wants to be a pediatrician. It thrills me to send these kids to college. "
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