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 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 201
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Blue moon gives the guys a pass for not checking age boxes correctly and ASSUMES karma doesn't go by her profile of plus or minus whatever years.


Nope, go read my last three of four posts on here. Your comprehension skills are lacking, as usual.

My point is....its okay to have an age preference (even Karma does)...so, its okay to have an age preference BUT you can't state an age preference in your profile. Its smoke and mirrors - you can have an age preference and can "think" it, live by it, talk to your buddy about it, tell me about it....but damn it....you can't post it in your profile.

I don't get it. You can be 50 and bang a 30 year old BUT you can't put on your profile that you are 50 and looking for a 30 year old. WTF. Makes no sense.
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 202
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Posted: 2/20/2015 12:38:53 PM
You know....it just dawned me that I don't even look at their restrictions.
As the message is most important to me....I just don't pay that much attention to the profile and pic.

Yikes....I guess before I meet the gentleman I am talking to now....I should read his profile again more thoroughly.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 12/26/2014
Msg: 203
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Posted: 2/20/2015 12:50:19 PM
You dont like older men and I cant remember how many times you have made very sweeping generalizations about older men.Just admit that you like to trash older white men....

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I like my father, my uncles, my grandfather, my (former) father-in-law with whom I'm still on excellent terms. What is your point? I've been out on several dates with men my age who were extremely attractive and my type, and I would have loved to take things further, but it didn't pan out. They were too busy with their jobs, traveled a lot, or weren't interested in dating me. Do I complain about that? No, I date men who are interested in me, and those were mostly younger men.

What I don't like is older entitled men of any race who see it as their God-given right to hit on much younger women even though they have nothing to offer themselves in terms of looks, accomplishment or whatever, yet shun women their own age or older because they think they deserve "better". **** that. I don't need to that crap. At least my ex father-in-law, who is very attractive even in his late 60s, always dated women his age, not younger. He didn't think he was "above" them. He is currently engaged to a lady who is one month older than him. Good for them.

And before you start again that I also date younger men - yes, BUT the difference is:
- I don't harass them with messages, they message me, because I don't feel I "deserve" them or are entitled to them, I'm always very flattered and surprised actually
- I have always dated and will date older and same age guys, and I don't think I'm above them or that I deserve "better"
- I want a man who likes WOMEN, all women, not just younger women, because I like MEN, younger or older, as long as I'm attracted to them.
- The reason I have mainly dated younger is because I'm turned off by many men my age or older focusing on mainly much younger women. The same would apply to men who are younger than me and only want younger women, but those don't contact me anyways, so I don't care.
 _babblefish
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 204
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Posted: 2/20/2015 12:51:52 PM

slowitalldown

Thank you for saying it.



So now women also have to worry about looking like someone else? THIS is what you choose to comment on? How does Blonde look like Karla Homolka? Please let me know. Blonde might not get the Canadian reference btw.

I am amazed at how offensive that comment was. truly offensive. sickening.



I found it very offensive myself. My ex went to school with Bernardo. I guess when people make comments like this they don't understand the scope of how it touches other peoples lives besides the intended target.

LePew

sickening indeed, it didn't stop with the two supposed 'jesters' ( if it even is two people) in this thread either; when one further pushes the boundaries of reprehensible behaviour in a youtube referencing her wigged guise and openly showing mirth/ frivolity of her likeness to a woman who organized her own sister's rape, torture and death, leaves me with only one conclusion, and i voiced that in another thread
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 205
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Posted: 2/20/2015 1:25:52 PM

I want a man who likes WOMEN, all women, not just younger women, because I like MEN, younger or older, as long as I'm attracted to them.


Well no sh@t. That's the magic word..."attracted". There's not a man walking who would'nt agree with that in a gender reversal statement. You just don't like where some start their search.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 206
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Posted: 2/20/2015 1:54:24 PM

What I don't like is older entitled men of any race who see it as their God-given right to hit on much younger women even though they have nothing to offer themselves in terms of looks, accomplishment or whatever, yet shun women their own age or older because they think they deserve "better"


You still haven't explained why you give a sh1t about what strangers do on a dating site or in real life that have nothing to do with you. All I see is total hatred of men who won't play by your rules, even if you're not involved or not contacted by them. If you get a message from a dating site and the guy doesn't meet your criteria, wouldn't it be easier to delete and ignore instead of going on a tirade about how horrible men are? Contrary to popular belief, men are not mind readers, so they won't know how explosive this issue is to you if they don't meet all of your quality checks.
 slowitalldown
Joined: 1/25/2013
Msg: 207
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Posted: 2/20/2015 2:05:29 PM
Babblfish I am confused- are you talking about something from another site??? Isnt it hard enough just to keep track of this one without running around the internet to see what people are doing?


ANyway it wasnt that person who said the comment I objected to
 CuriousInDB
Joined: 7/12/2014
Msg: 208
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Posted: 2/20/2015 2:20:49 PM
Who posted that Blonde looks like Karla Holmolka? I gotta see that and can't find it.

karma:

oMG, I don't contact them, I respond when they sent me a message


Karma, was this intended for me? I do wish folks would do their best to ... Really. Was this intended for me?

Who said they were contacting these loser men? I don't see that anywhere.

Karma, karma. When everyone is trying to help, when so many people are making the same suggestions that you seek help, where do you go with that? In your mind, what is your thought process there? We're all wrong and all this is ... well, normal??

I gotta know, karma. And maybe, just maybe, if everyone reads your response here, we'll all just leave you alone to post the same things over and over and over and over. That sorta thing can garner someone a whole lotta attention, can't it??
 _babblefish
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 209
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Posted: 2/20/2015 2:25:03 PM

Babblfish I am confused- are you talking about something from another site??? Isnt it hard enough just to keep track of this one without running around the internet to see what people are doing?

ANyway it wasnt that person who said the comment I objected to



i run around the internet for all kinds of things but not this, what i commented i found right here on POF,
what you did, was defend one of the offenders, maybe look before you leap, especially when that person concocted that crap up with another for shits and giggles, there is absolutely NOTHING FUNNY about the Holmolka case no matter how you stretch it . .
 CuriousInDB
Joined: 7/12/2014
Msg: 210
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Posted: 2/20/2015 2:26:51 PM
It was LePew who said that about Blonde and Karla?
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 211
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Posted: 2/20/2015 2:46:22 PM
No, it was anti republican in post 34


BTW, what is with the Karla Holmolka pic?


Frankly, I don't see it.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 212
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Posted: 2/20/2015 3:04:11 PM
@karma
Your father in law , grandad and uncles are not men you date.
If a man contacts you he's interested.Men can "hit on"anybody they can make a contact with.What makes you think an older man has nothing to offer a younger woman, especially a single mother? He can't make her life more enjoyable?
You can just ignore anybody you don't care for....chiding these guys....yeah, you're trashing them.
 slowitalldown
Joined: 1/25/2013
Msg: 213
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Posted: 2/20/2015 3:32:39 PM
Look before I leap?

This was the only reference to Homolka I have seen on POF. Am I supposed to read every thread that exists before I am allowed to post? I thought it was offensive to call ANYONE Homolka. It was offensive to everyone.

So, as I have said in the past here, I call them as I see them, not based on how I feel about someone in general.


seriously some things are not funny, and I don't care what that person may have been referencing, it wasn't in that thread and didn't need to be dragged in.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 214
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Posted: 2/20/2015 5:10:25 PM

You still haven't explained why you give a sh1t about what strangers do on a dating site or in real life that have nothing to do with you.


This isn't directed necessarily to the person who posted the above but after reading this whole thread and so many others, there sure seems to be an awful lot of people giving a sh1t about what strangers do on a dating site or in real life that has nothing to do with them, not only in this thread but dragging said sh1t from thread to thread.

It doesn't matter what age you are - I'm thinking water will seek it's own level maturity-wise which will either leave you a happy camper eventually or the constant author of your own misfortune.
 VampyreLestat
Joined: 2/9/2015
Msg: 215
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Posted: 2/25/2015 7:52:34 AM
You could say that I fit into this category; however, not for those exact reasons.

I have never dated anyone over the age of thirty-five. I do not see myself ever dating within my age range, as I have absolutely nothing in common with anyone that I encounter that is both over forty and unattached.

This is not an indictment on older women, nor is it an attempt to just live vicariously through others. I am extremely spontaneous and will do something at the drop of a hat. In the past, it has been my experience that older women are not as receptive to just driving to the airport and picking up tickets to fly somewhere for lunch. Perhaps that spontaneity is a character flaw on my part. It does not change the fact that my personality does not match well with women in my own age group.

In response to physical appearance, yeah, there is nothing attractive about being old. Viagra commercials should have warnings that they may cause erectile dysfunction, as everytime one airs, the thought of some old dude taking a pill to have sex causes me to seriously think about celibacy.

At any rate, I have found this site completely useless for anything other than possible making a few new friends. The match feature is useless and offers pages upon pages of people that share no common interests. Granted, I do stand a bit outside of the mainstream; however, should I find someone closer in age that is up for hanging out backstage at an Industrial show, such as Combichrist, or even Velvet Acid Christ, I'll update the post. :)
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 216
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Posted: 2/25/2015 10:21:10 AM
^^^^what does this have to do with the topic?
other than to point out you're super special and older
woman aren't...what exactly are you trying to say, that
actually needed to be said here?

I for one can't wait for the update.
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 217
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Posted: 2/25/2015 10:30:54 AM
Boo - some folks need to ride the Special bus.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 218
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Posted: 2/25/2015 10:39:32 AM

In the past, it has been my experience that older women are not as receptive to just driving to the airport and picking up tickets to fly somewhere for lunch.


I'm a private pilot, so I don't need to buy tickets to fly somewhere for lunch. But if I need tickets, I'll buy them online on my cell phone, rather than driving to the airport to pick them up. You need to get with the times.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 219
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Posted: 2/25/2015 1:12:34 PM

When you're young, I think looks matter a lot.


It's not limited to the young.

I just came across a 43 year old woman's profile which contained the following info:

Among the "attributes" she states that appeal to her is a guy looking 10 years younger than his real age.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 220
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Posted: 2/25/2015 2:44:57 PM
Vampyre,the thought of an old dude....you are 54....dude.Just because you dye your hair doesn't make you 35.Everybody shows their age in some manner.

@fullmoonguy
Yeah 10 years younger.Settle for not looking terminally ill. :)
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 221
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Posted: 2/25/2015 3:49:28 PM

Vampyre, Msg 228:
In the past, it has been my experience that older women are not as receptive to just driving to the airport and picking up tickets to fly somewhere for lunch. Perhaps that spontaneity is a character flaw on my part. It does not change the fact that my personality does not match well with women in my own age group.


If you want a young woman who is spontaneous, who can go anywhere at anytime and do things unplanned, that's your prerogative. But a word of advice is to look for one who is chidfree and who plans on staying that way. The problem you might face with younger women is almost all of them get a bad case of baby rabies at some point, and all they think about is popping out babies. The fastest way to kill spontaneity and doing spur of the moment things is to have kids, or to be with someone who has kids.
 Muttonforpunishment
Joined: 2/20/2015
Msg: 222
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Posted: 2/25/2015 3:55:36 PM
^^^^^^ Thanks a lot Maleman.....now you know who will be here shortly with the usual speal ( eye roll )
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 223
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Posted: 2/25/2015 4:51:30 PM
^^^^^ Mutton...which one will be here with her usual spiel? Will she be angry? I'm ready...
 Muttonforpunishment
Joined: 2/20/2015
Msg: 224
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Posted: 2/25/2015 4:53:43 PM
Not a she Horndog
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 225
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Posted: 2/25/2015 5:13:19 PM
^^^^^ A certain guy that writes overly lengthy posts. Now I can beat my head against the wall...
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