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 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 26
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Bad sex is lame - deal breaker
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 27
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Posted: 2/18/2015 1:04:31 AM
Was with a woman who wasnt the best in bed but stayed with her because of the family thing....enjoyed the atmosphere but in the end she was pretty much a user and specially in the sack.....just wasnt assertive enough .....was a first for me for sure....most woman Ive dated loved the attention I gave them and returned the favor even if they werent versed in GOOD physical....they wanted to know more....wierd
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 28
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Posted: 2/18/2015 7:06:11 AM

I once dated a woman who only needed a good kiss to be wet'n'ready--which sucked for me b/c I love foreplay and all I did was overstimulate her. She didn't pick up on it b/c the guys before me were all "plug in and play" lovers.


Alas GTO, the super juicy type of woman. I love that type. Since they are ready to go without foreplay, make everything else foreplay. Take her out to eat and ask her to wear no panties. While driving or at the restaurant ask her if her **** is wet, if she was wishing to be penetrated. Do that all night and tease and tease her. When you finally penetrate her she is going to be so wet that unfortunately you are not going to feel a thing. So play with her. Instead of just pounding her hard. Go out, make her wait, tease her, go in deep. Go out and tease her more. But you have to take control and drive her completely crazy.

Just saying....
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 29
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Posted: 2/18/2015 8:22:29 AM
alas, had I asked those questions, I would have recieved a funny look--I was being too direct. But everyone's different. Making this particular situation worse, she was a horse-rider and have developed thigh-muscles. So, I'd explore her body, and her legs would clamp shut. I actually first thought she was a victim of sexual assault.

Never did move beyond merely getting her naked, her legs would clamp shut and I didn't want to feel like a rapist. Broke up with her, and we'd keep in touch on and off and she'd tell me how she found out she was a squirter and all about her sex life--maybe trying to make me jealous. Looked her up last summer, she's with someone who may have the sense to marry her.

Will confess, she's gained weight but more importantly, she's become one of those who's waiting for "a life" to just fall out of the sky and into her lap. Makes her a little less attractive, in the "entire package" way. Years ago when we met, she was younger and more fun, just as all of us typically are--less stress of life, less need for us to act like a grownup achieving goals, etc.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 30
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Posted: 2/18/2015 8:29:48 AM

Never did move beyond merely getting her naked, her legs would clamp shut and I didn't want to feel like a rapist.


I hear you. Perhaps it was better that you did not pursue any further. There are women that like the idea of the man being bold enough to still take them. I don't play to that. I am with you on that one, women need to take ownership of their own sexual behavior. They are not doing you a favor, they are pursuing their own desires. A fun game to play is ask the woman to tell you, what she wants you to do to her body. And after they tell you, ask her to repeat it again.
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 31
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Posted: 2/18/2015 11:34:25 AM
salty blumist

Are you kidding??? Just because a man can get it up and get it off does not mean he is good at sex.
Any idiot can do that. The technique is important to most women. If a woman is lethargic and just accommodating a guy
then she is not really into him or into sex, or both. Sex with intimacy is ideal but I have had good sex with those I am not emotionally involved with. Sometimes the lack of inhibition that comes from not really caring about what he thinks makes for very good sex.
 flirtingwithdisaster55
Joined: 12/16/2014
Msg: 32
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Posted: 2/18/2015 2:08:59 PM
No sex is better than bad sex.

That's all.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 33
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Posted: 2/18/2015 6:39:23 PM
petula1908
Just because a man can get it up and get it off does not mean he is good at sex.
Any idiot can do that.

Oh really now... any idiot can do that lol. Well if that's the case, then who's idea was it to come up with this little blue pill called "Viagra"? Or did someone think that men should take it to get an erection so he could have some place to hang his hat? And I'll add, it's a woman's responsibility to know how to perform sexually. And if she can't, then she souldn't be having sex with a man. And if their not into a man like you said, then why would she be having sex with him?
 matthew83co
Joined: 2/11/2015
Msg: 34
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Posted: 2/18/2015 8:56:48 PM
Buy a gun, get a membership at a shooting range, buy ammunition, and shoot targets until you don't care about the bad sex anymore.

OR

Talk to your significant other about how you would like to reinvigorate the scene in the bedroom.

OR

Call it a day and end the relationship.

OR

Act like you don't care about feeling better about it or changing the circumstances.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 35
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Posted: 2/19/2015 7:12:50 AM

And I'll add, it's a woman's responsibility to know how to perform sexually. And if she can't, then she souldn't be having sex with a man.


So, you're saying that all the guy has to do is get a hard on, and from there on it's the woman's responsibility to make sex into something worth while?
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 36
After a long time of no sex, even bad sex looks good :)
Posted: 2/19/2015 9:01:13 AM
"Well if that's the case, then who's idea was it to come up with this little blue pill called "Viagra"?...And I'll add, it's a woman's responsibility to know how to perform sexually. And if she can't, then she souldn't be having sex with a man"

>>>if memory serves (my father used to joke, "they told me the memory was the second thing to go, but I forgot what the first was), Viagra was discovered by accident during a search for blood pressure medication. Pharm companies are always looking to make money, and "Pfizer riser" practically sells itself.

It would help a woman to know what turns herself on. It helps a man to know what turns himself on. Before the Internet, one had to buy guides by mail, now they can go on the Internet. Are we responsible for the pleasure of others? If we care about them, we might not care if its a responsibility, we might just want to do it.

If salty blumist's attitude is getting him laid, fine for him. I will state the obvious, that not everyone agrees with his premise, and with those people, it therefore won't work in the bedroom. What works for us, works for us.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
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Posted: 2/19/2015 2:27:31 PM
So, you're saying that all the guy has to do is get a hard on, and from there on it's the woman's responsibility to make sex into something worth while?

InnerGorilla,

Is that what it sounds like I'm saying? Well, lets face it women have it much easier than men do this way. If a man can't get it up he's screwed, or better put not screwed lol. But if a woman's having trouble getting aroused all she has to do is apply some lube, and problem solved. And like I stated in my first reply, all of what men do or are expected to do as far as thrusting goes and so on.

@ gtomustang

Don't worry about me mate, I don't have any problems getting laid. Some women like my attitude and those who don't I don't care if they don't. As long as I do my part in the sack, and make them real happy, I'm happy lol.
 Aradia96
Joined: 10/25/2014
Msg: 38
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Posted: 2/20/2015 9:30:09 AM
I'd rather no sex over bad sex or sex with FWB or with someone I'm not that into.
I could of had it with my ex/last guy I dated but I'd rather be alone than having sex with that soulless jerk.

Explains why I haven't had any for a few months U.>

 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 39
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Posted: 3/3/2015 4:28:46 AM
Was in that very situation....she wanted me to do all the work....problem I was in love with her and while she was a busy mom and all I let it go way too long...once I called it she was quick to be back out there whoring around so to speak....alot of other things came to mind after but geuss thats the way things go.....just took a while for me unlike her...lol
 Della D
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 40
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Posted: 3/3/2015 3:49:53 PM
Oh my, getting ever more entertaining here, smile.


but how can men suck at sex? It just sort of stumps me how any man can suck at sex as long as he can get it up


Reality check: The good old “hard on” has long since gotten some serious competition thanks to the adult toys industry. Saying, any woman looking for just that definitely does not need a man in this day and age!!!

Therefore, once engaging in sex with a man, he better brings more to the table, bed, or whatever location, than just a hard on, lol, that alone just won’t magically do by itself for some quality sex.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
Msg: 41
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Posted: 3/3/2015 8:04:40 PM
The good old “hard on” has long since gotten some serious competition thanks to the adult toys industry. Saying, any woman looking for just that definitely does not need a man in this day and age!!!

So what are you saying then, you want a man who can some how make his hard on to vibrate like a toy? Or you want a man who will feel more like a dildo than an actual man made penis? Lol. Doesn't sound to realistic to me. Sounds like a case of what I've come to call "technology corruption". Perhaps you should just stick with your toys if that's really what you want.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 42
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Posted: 3/4/2015 6:46:50 AM

So what are you saying then, you want a man who can some how make his hard on to vibrate like a toy?


Why opposites? Why not complements.

Yet there's an unfortunate fact of nature. A great number of women cannot achieve orgasm solely from vaginal penetration. Or from some styles of vaginal penetration. Thus the complement of BOB. So instead of being a substitute to men, they become men's little wing man. I've known women that to finished themselves off, wanted to give a bj while BOB finished the job. Or others that had to play with BOB in order to get their a ss lubricated and then welcome the penis. Or simply her playing with BOB while watching an erect penis get bigger and ready to pound on her. Or better yet, being penetrated while applying BOB to the clit. Yet, it is also true, that too much BOB and the whole area becomes desensitize. No different that men that masturbate too much to porn, so when they get the real thing they don't know what to do.

Even a massive dildo all it provides is penetration and it completely misses on that huge kinetic energy that is the whole man mashing his body against a woman's body, smacking his balls against her a ss, as he penetrates her with intensity.

This is when the woman drops the BOB to the side of the bed, grabs the men's buns and demand for the guy to go harder.

Just saying.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 43
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Posted: 3/4/2015 7:39:43 AM

So what are you saying then, you want a man who can some how make his hard on to vibrate like a toy?

Yes!!!! I'm praying for a day in which a real life penis can vibrate on it's own, as likely just going in an out is will produce the necessary tickle.


Or you want a man who will feel more like a dildo than an actual man made penis?

No, dildos already exist, they are the literal definition of a hard penis who does nothing for you. You gotta really work it and imagine it is actually doing something, in order to trick yourself into an orgasm. Kinda like real life, lol.


Doesn't sound to realistic to me. Sounds like a case of what I've come to call "technology corruption". Perhaps you should just stick with your toys if that's really what you want.


In a world where people prefer to talk on a computer than meet in person, I'd say this "technology corruption" is a 100-legged medusa. There is corruption everywhere, and whatever produces instant gratification (BOB) will be preferred over the hard way of doing things (Dildo/penis).

Ever heard of the industrial revolution? It resulted in massive amounts of men losing their job because the machines could do it better and faster. No different from a vibrator, it's putting a lot of men out of business. Making a woman orgasm used to be a mode of therapy when women were unhappy. They'd go see the doctor/shrink, and the shrink would basically perform (not in a traditional fashion) an orgasm, and she'd become happy till next time/session. Further proof an erect penis does not suffice.

Now now.............I'm not saying I don't find sex to be satisfying, but I don't want to be in bed with a dildo (aka: just a hard penis), it by itself does not produce anything.


Even a massive dildo all it provides is penetration and it completely misses on that huge kinetic energy that is the whole man mashing his body against a woman's body, smacking his balls against her a ss, as he penetrates her with intensity.


WTF IG, I'm at work! stop it stop it!

*goes to bathroom to wipe*
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 44
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Posted: 3/4/2015 4:38:34 PM
"Ever heard of the industrial revolution? It resulted in massive amounts of men losing their job because the machines could do it better and faster. No different from a vibrator, it's putting a lot of men out of business. Making a woman orgasm used to be a mode of therapy when women were unhappy. They'd go see the doctor/shrink, and the shrink would basically perform (not in a traditional fashion) an orgasm, and she'd become happy till next time/session. Further proof an erect penis does not suffice."

What an odd thing to go to a doctor for!
Such a shame men back then didn't know about the clit or gspot
nor was it the norm to perform oral obviously!
It's no wonder BOB came into being. ( pun intended)

I wonder why "unhappy women" didn't just learn
to rub one off for themselves though!
I guess masturbation wasn't ladylike.

"Now now.............I'm not saying I don't find sex to be satisfying,
but I don't want to be in bed with a dildo (aka: just a hard penis),
it by itself does not produce anything."

Same here, but the vibrator, now that's a different story!
 Della D
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 45
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Posted: 3/5/2015 12:48:04 PM
@ salty blumist:

What I was trying to say is that a “hard on” does by no means = quality sex in reply to your statement that a man can not suck at sex as long as he gets it up!

Seems like I did not explain it properly:

For just a hard on women do not need a man! Therefore, sex with a partner is about all these deliciously frivolous fun and games that even the most sophisticated toys can’t provide, at least not yet, smile.

Therefore any “vibrating” hard on, mechanical techniques and/or positions whatever…. is NOT what turns sex into mind blowing quality sex and therefore does NOT require a partner.

Saying, with a partner it has to go way beyond any mechanical vibrating, thrusting or whatever penetration, for which toys work just fine, plus surely are fun to be included in partner play, smile.

And to tie it back to the initial question: While what makes quality sex is a very personal issue, if it's not mind blowing.....No, thank you, for that we have our trusted toys.
 salty_blumist
Joined: 11/26/2012
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Posted: 3/5/2015 10:14:48 PM
Della,

Well if your really that into toys then all the power to you. I just can't fathom having to resort to toys to satisfy me, I prefer flesh over plastic anyday. I believe there could never be a toy made (at least not for me) that could ever come close to feeling as good as a real woman's vagina lol. The funny thing is, I've heard this from other women as well. But it seems so unladylike, since so many women seem to be looking for a romantic emotional connection from men in the lead up to and during sex. Some of you are so particular on this point you'll hold off of having sex for sometime before your convinced a man may be the right man to have sex with. So if your resorting to using a toy, your going without any human connection at all. I think it's a shame in a way that some people would rather share themselves with a sex toy rather than another person. This is why I just can't understand why some would be so opposed to a one off sex experience like a one night stand; I mean even if there's no so callled emotional connection, at least your able to experience real sex with another person rather than a dildo, vibrator or pocket pvs$y if your a man.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 47
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Posted: 3/6/2015 3:36:49 AM

Well if your really that into toys then all the power to you. I just can't fathom having to
resort to toys to satisfy me, I prefer flesh over plastic anyday.

Of course you couldn't fathom it!And you know why?
Because you can have an orgasm via penetration alone!
75% of women don't come thru penetration alone.
I guess you missed that memo.


I believe there could never be a toy made (at least not for me)
that could ever come close to feeling as good as a real woman's vagina lol.


Of course not! Because our vaginas can't be replaced and your d*ck is
not nearly as nerve free as our vaginal walls are.most penetration positions
completely miss our clits and FYI that's how we orgasm.
Even with penetration the angle and size if a dyck can bearly
effect a lot of women's g spots sooooo. No orgasm for us!
But you? Snoozing soundly after you get yours.


The funny thing is, I've heard this from other women as well.

But it seems so unladylike,


It's "unladylike" to masturbate? Huh? Yeah it's a lot more ladylike
to phuck random guys tho! Lol


since so many women seem to be looking for a romantic emotional connection from men in the lead up to and during sex. Some of you are so particular on this point you'll hold off of having sex for sometime before your convinced a man may be the right man to have sex with. So if your resorting to using a toy, your going without any human connection at all.


Oh come on. Just because we get horny outside of a relationship doesn't mean we should have
to withhold relief by not using an aid to get ourselves off.


I think it's a shame in a way that some people would rather share themselves with a sex toy rather than another person. This is why I just can't understand why some would be so opposed to a one off sex experience like a one night stand;



So we should just go f*uck random men to get off so we aren't unladylike for using a dildo or vibrator?
Does that even make any sense?


I mean even if there's no so callled emotional connection, at least your able to experience real sex with another person rather than a dildo, vibrator or pocket pvs$y if your a man.


Sure if I want to accomodate a mans orgasm that would work perfectly for you, huh?


Real sex with a stranger that won't get you off if all he can manage
is penetration vs a sex toy?

I'll take the latter thanks.

Damned if we do and damned if we don't.

If some men understood it takes more than penetration
for most of us to get off,the sex toy industry would be in existance!

It's hard to find a guy willing to take care of our needs outside
a caring relationship so that's why we look for an emotion connection as
At least then there's a chance he'll take the time to get us off how WE NEED IT!

Not thru penetration alone.

Do me a favor. Next time you have sex onlylet the woman rub your nuts.

Don't let her touch suck lick or phuck you and see
How hard it is to get off if at all.

That's tantimount to how it feels when a guy thinks
all we need is for him to show up with a hard on
and assume that will be more than enough to get
a woman off.

WRONG!

And that's the point and why sex toys were invented
as they are orgasmically reliable where as most men just
aren't.

Sorry to burst your bubble.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 3/6/2015 5:01:29 AM
Oh my....there's some funny stuff going on in here!

Put me in the category of women that much prefer a toy to a man that thinks all he needs to bring to the table is a hard on!!

Of course we prefer that "human connection"...the touching, the kissing, the tasting of another human being.
But most want that to be with a person they have some sort of emotional (or mental) connection with....and instead of waiting for that person....we take matters into our own hands!!
Good Lord, if we had a ONS for every time we got horny.....we'd be doing the whole town!!

As for bad sex vs no sex..........
guess that what would depend on what made the sex bad!! I can deal with giving myself an orgasm if needed, but if it's because my partner makes no attempt to pleasure me in any way...then no thanks.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 49
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Posted: 3/6/2015 6:08:42 AM

Oh my....there's some funny stuff going on in here!

Put me in the category of women that much prefer a toy to a man that thinks all he needs to bring to the table is a hard on!!

Of course we prefer that "human connection"...the touching, the kissing, the tasting of another human being.
But most want that to be with a person they have some sort of emotional (or mental) connection with....and instead of waiting for that person....we take matters into our own hands!!
[B]Good Lord, if we had a ONS for every time we got horny.....we'd be doing the whole town!!


And then we'd be judged as non-relationship material for our high numbers!


As for bad sex vs no sex..........
guess that what would depend on what made the sex bad!!
I can deal with giving myself an orgasm if needed,
but if it's because my partner makes no attempt to
pleasure me in any way...then no thanks.


Welcoming back the voice reason and agreeing
100% with all points!
 MsMicki
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Posted: 3/6/2015 6:26:14 AM

And then we'd be judged as non-relationship material for our high numbers!

almost added that myself!!

and thanks for the welcome....good to be around some old friends!
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