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 deepthoughtlighthumour
Joined: 2/15/2015
Msg: 76
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not that I dont love years and years of the same selfie being taken over and over at the same angle by women


fifty percent of the blame rests with the new guys. The ones who haven't been around the sites for decades, to see that none of the fine beautiful ladies around here age even an iota.

But then again, I've fallen for three guys who posted women's pictures(*), five women who posted pics from porno websites (with the interesting parts out of the view), and two ladies who were I think robots or else transvestites from outer space.

Men are visual, and if women try to capitalize on that, well, then, who is to blame, actually? It's marketing, and as Adams, the creator of Dilbert said, "marketing, when done properly, is only two steps away from grand larceny." Or maybe it was Steve Jobs who said that.

(*) VK, you were one of them, back 3 years, two months, and five days seven minutes ago... Hoo, boy, was I eager to court the woman whose pic you had up. The present one is even better looking... well, some have it all.
 deepthoughtlighthumour
Joined: 2/15/2015
Msg: 77
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/22/2015 2:31:05 PM
Happiness... is a warm and fuzzy nose warmer on a cold day like today.

It's dipped below freezing again. I was out back, repairing bikes all day. I sure could have been happier with a warm and furry little ball of love, one that I could blow my drippy nose into once in a while.
 BLonde^j^AngeL
Joined: 1/2/2015
Msg: 78
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/22/2015 6:56:13 PM

To me, he seems like a man who has suffered greatly in some of his prior relationships, has then decided that he had a part in how they had all turned out, has done the hard work to grow in self-awareness, and has taken that new-found knowledge back into the dating pool. In addition to working on his dating related issues, he's also keeping himself fit and in shape. As a result, he has found happiness in his present relationship.

I'm finding this kind of thing inspirational. But I can see, on second thought, how it would be less than appealing to those who prefer to blame everybody else on how their lives are going. So much easier to call him a braggart and continue to feel sorry for yourself, than to use him as an example and do some work on yourself.
 old_hag
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 79
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/23/2015 1:35:28 PM
I'm happy. I was given a 2nd chance at life after my liver transplant. That's something. I have a house, a good job, a car than runs, food and a little money in the bank. Oh and my dogs. They make me happy. I'd love to find my perfect match, but even if I don't, I'll still be happy :)
 elmuchoburrito
Joined: 8/27/2013
Msg: 80
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/25/2015 10:01:49 AM
Yep - but it took losing nearly everything - selling the rest; and relocating overseas.
Biggest decision is which direction I am going to ride the bike today; what is on the menu for lunch.
Living out of a back pack and no other baggage allowed.
Happiest I have been in years.
 Eternityboreme
Joined: 3/18/2015
Msg: 81
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/25/2015 10:53:25 AM
^^That's great! Enjoy...
 Grl_next_door
Joined: 6/28/2014
Msg: 82
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/25/2015 11:56:36 AM
"...then we medicate ourselves with our own drugs of choice purchased at inflated prices after we have submitted ourselves to the medical/drug/happiness industry for "evaluation" and "diagnosis" to see just which mass produced poison/drug with known and unknown side effects that will make us "happy".....if the side effects don't make us unhappy that is".

Pharmaceuticals save lives. We are beyond the pill popping of the 50's -70's in which the best thing a doctor could provide those with deficiencies were within the valium family. These days it still requires patience and some experimentation to find the right medication, one that might introduce calm and 'normal' to someone who has never experienced it. Not everyone's brain can produce the needed serotonin, dopamine or endorphins they need to function with some degree of comfort in life.
I don't care how much pharmaceutical companies profit, and I refuse to stereotype or judge anyone that needs the help that is now so available for those with mental health conditions.

 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
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Posted: 3/25/2015 3:09:14 PM
No problem,just don't be like most and judge those who decide how to medicate themelves instead of listening to someone else tell them how they feel and why they feel that way....all drugs should be legal for adults,the only reason they are not is so relief from pain of all kinds can be sold at the highest possible price.....on both sides of the law....if people could find a way to keep you from breathing without paying them for air they would do it.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 3/26/2015 11:08:06 PM
Happy?

No...

But then again, happiness is a feeling and feelings are, by their very nature...fleeting.....

Do I have moments of happiness...yes, if I'm lucky I can find some each and every day....

Only problem is...

Other days, I have to use a shovel and maybe even a backhoe, to suss them out....

Only thing keeping THIS woman out of the asylum, is HOPE....

That and LOTS of wine sometimes....LOTS and lots and WHOOOOLE bunches!!!! LMAO
 cesska
Joined: 11/7/2011
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Posted: 3/27/2015 8:04:00 PM
where does it say we are supposed to be happy?
 Eternityboreme
Joined: 3/18/2015
Msg: 86
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/28/2015 3:52:58 AM

At this time, I would have to say that I am not happy, now once I find a nice lady I will be happy, having a partner in life is a very important aspect of living.


I sincerely hope you find what you seek...
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 87
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/28/2015 7:00:03 AM
I wonder sometimes if striving for and coming to the point of reaching total happiness in life is a natural human state or a manufactured goal everyone is taught to try to achieve. One example is the super rich: the multi-millionaires and billionaires: If they make enough money to live very comfortably for the rest of their lives by the time they're middle-aged, why do so many spend the rest of their lives trying to make even more money-often working 15, 18 hours a day, 7 days a week, and worrying about how many more millions they will make in the next fiscal time frame? A lot of them are making deals to make even more money right up to the time they kick the bucket. They can be on their death bed, told they only have week or two left to live, but some of them will still be wheeling and dealing right up to their last breath. I guess they believe that you can take it with you. Do you think Donald Trump will starve to death if he decides to retire?

But that's pretty much the same attitude with the middle class and the rest of society. Everybody is trying to achieve more than what they already have-a constant need for more material goods and to have the latest of greatest of everything. And it's a life long goal. It would very rare to hear someone say: "I'm happy with everything I have. I will never need anything else, other than food and water." Everybody is always reaching for the proverbial brass ring, thinking the brass ring is the key to happiness.
 KingAlaskanCrabLegs
Joined: 1/12/2015
Msg: 88
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/28/2015 9:58:58 AM

having a loving partner completes life, each complementing the other.
 deetristate
Joined: 12/4/2014
Msg: 89
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/28/2015 3:12:13 PM
I would venture to say that most people are pretty much in a state of contentment 75% of the time. Sure, life has us and downs and you encounter people that enjoy making others miserable (it makes them happy) but you continue to live and before you know it something nice happens, if it is no more than a bird singing, someone laughing or the sun shining at just the right angle.
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Posted: 3/29/2015 1:33:17 PM
yes-- for happiness.

I give my adult students a form to fill out with two columns : My lucky vs My less than Lucky.

I show them my list. short. simple.

I have more lucky than unlucky.

:)
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 91
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/29/2015 1:34:28 PM

it's a case of having a loving partner completes life


My life was complete before I met my partner. He was the icing on the cake, so to speak. The cake tasted good without any icing---but even better with it.

By the same token, the icing tastes good on its own---but it tastes even better on the cake.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 92
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Posted: 3/29/2015 1:46:30 PM
The icing might taste better on a partner and licking it off.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 94
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/29/2015 2:46:27 PM

tickle_me_pank:
TNS, if you're looking for someone to "complete" you, then the subtext is that you are INCOMPLETE.

Not trying to bust your chops because there is nothing inherently wrong with wanting a partner. But the underlying premise that anyone is incomplete without one is fukked up.


I would say this depends on whether You believe in Synergy & "The whole is greater than the sum of its parts" .......
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 3/30/2015 4:27:31 AM
as for InnerGorilla I don't really believe him about having a hot woman, and the even hotter sex life, so it is rather sad really. Men who are really successful with women don't brag about it or talk about it in such detail to strangers on the net.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 3/30/2015 4:36:25 AM
Well said Literate hiker. Putting your life in someone else's hands for your happiness is a recipe for disaster. Neediness, desperation is not at all attractive to healthy people. Putting your life on hold in case someone comes along to make you complete, is a total mistake.
 Never_in_Life
Joined: 1/13/2015
Msg: 97
Is there anybody that is really happy in their lives?
Posted: 3/30/2015 5:11:23 AM
^^^I bet anything that you have never heard the phrase: "Oh look! Pank is here! Now the party can start."

Which is odd considering what a joy it must be to bask in your glow.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 3/30/2015 5:38:10 AM
I'm in the middle on this. Content I suppose.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 99
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Posted: 3/30/2015 6:25:41 AM

^^^I bet anything that you have never heard the phrase: "Oh look! Pank is here! Now the party can start."

Which is odd considering what a joy it must be to bask in your glow.


I think she's pretty funny. She comes out with some amusing zingers from time to time:


F#ck off, turd blossom!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 3/30/2015 6:36:34 AM
All I see in these posts is a bunch of people who want nothing but to be themselves and are terrified of being something else involving being in a relationship.
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