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 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 26
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Msg 27: A player is someone that hits and runs.


If two people agree to the "hit", who is the player and who is the victim?
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 27
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Posted: 3/10/2015 5:39:47 PM
Depends on whether one person considers the hit to be the beginning of something and the other thinks it is the end.
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 28
Player? Damn near killed her!
Posted: 3/10/2015 7:25:45 PM

If two people agree to the "hit", who is the player and who is the victim?

I think the player who 'runs' IF the other is left standing. Or, in forum-complaining-lingo -- it's the person who not necessarily runs, but isn't all-that interested in them after the fact. :)
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/10/2015 7:28:11 PM

On behalf of all the rude women who didn’t respond to you, “not interested.”


But he sucked in his gut and everything.
 Cdan1957
Joined: 9/17/2013
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/11/2015 6:22:39 AM

If two people agree to the "hit", who is the player and who is the victim?


Why is there a victim? A player is interested in getting laid, that's it. If both people are interested in the same thing a victim doesn't exist. There is only a "victim' if one of the parties misrepresents his or her intentions.
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 31
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Posted: 3/11/2015 6:44:48 AM
The only time you become a victim, is when you succumbs to whining or blubbering about circumstances, as opposed to dealing with them.

So you can the victim of extreme circumstance with or without it being at the hands of others. Or you take it upon yourself to act to the benefit of yourself. under extreme circumstances, regardless of others. Hell, go down swinging if you have to

Save the hysteria till the circumstances prove to be insurmountable. And even then don't.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 32
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Posted: 3/11/2015 10:02:42 AM
I agree with CTRL-Vector. A victim is not someone who stomps their feet and whines if things don't go exactly their way. A lot of women use sex as a way to get what they want from a man, and if he doesn't succumb to her wants and puts a ring on her finger, she goes into victim mode. People like this are a victim-of their own mind.
 PenelopeLeChat
Joined: 7/29/2014
Msg: 33
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Posted: 3/12/2015 11:46:43 AM
Cdan
Why is there a victim? A player is interested in getting laid, that's it. If both people are interested in the same thing a victim doesn't exist. There is only a "victim' if one of the parties misrepresents his or her intentions.


Maybe they just played victim.

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 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 34
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Posted: 3/12/2015 4:16:44 PM
Players play because there is a game to be played,a prize to be won, and people,regardless of what they say, that want to be played.....supply and demand.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 2/17/2015
Msg: 35
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Posted: 3/13/2015 2:39:46 PM
I've been called a "player" more than once. According to my definition, nothing could be farther from the truth. And when you ask for clarification, they never explain. I think when men use the word to refer to women, it carries as much meaning as "poo head".
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 36
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Posted: 3/13/2015 2:55:19 PM
msg.#28:

I agree with you a 100 %
a no response already lets you know they are not interested.
Unless the person is asking the background of your photo if it is in Florida ect..
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 2/17/2015
Msg: 37
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Posted: 3/13/2015 3:03:50 PM

There are a lot of players on here who say they are not who they are.You have to be careful about who you reply to. They lie to you about things.


Your picture is from 2005...
 dinno76
Joined: 9/29/2014
Msg: 38
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Posted: 9/17/2015 10:17:21 AM
Both men and women can be players. If you get played once their fault. If you get played twice your fault.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 39
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Posted: 9/17/2015 10:15:46 PM
LH

It is amazing how one's beauty can turn to ugliness suddenly in the eye of the beholder once he realises he is not getting anywhere. lol!! Sour grapes.... Denigrating that which he cannot have. An old ploy....
 MaleFeasance
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 40
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Posted: 9/18/2015 2:03:50 AM
Let's see... A player is a guy who will have sex with you if you agree to have sex with him, under the assumption that you know what you are doing.
On the other hand, a guy who second guesses you and questions your decision for ethical reasons, is being condescending by assuming he is better able to understand the ramifications of your decision than you are and that you need to be protected from yourself. The latter seems worse, actually.
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Posted: 9/18/2015 5:02:21 AM

A player is a guy who will have sex with you if you agree to have sex with him, under the assumption that you know what you are doing.

It's not good enough or accurate to explain this by simply pointing out that each person has sex voluntarily.

I don't think, for a lot of people, that this is the dynamic which applies concerning what a player is. Instead, it would be when someone does not know what they're doing and doesn't know that they don't know...because the other person creates and/or nurtures a misunderstanding in their mind about who they are and what's going on.

Often it's not about the fact that both people choose to have sex...but it's about why one of them chose to have sex and if they were deceived into doing so.

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About msg # 26
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 42
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Posted: 9/18/2015 6:40:53 AM
Every single thread on this forum is about people lying to get sex. Absolutely nothing to read here lately.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 43
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Posted: 9/18/2015 9:45:38 AM
Yes, Swan spirit. Exactly. If sex is a big deal to you, then have some self control and don't have it early. First see what's going on. If you're gonna have it early, don't complain.

I don't have sex at all usually and it saves me a lot of headache.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 44
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Posted: 9/18/2015 1:27:18 PM
"I don't have sex at all, usually, and it saves me a lot of headache"

>>>funny, I thought it had to be done in the opposite order.
 tequila157
Joined: 9/3/2015
Msg: 45
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Posted: 9/20/2015 10:25:50 AM
Players are every where! Not just online.. If you allow yourself to get duped multiple times, you're doing something wrong.
 oneday57
Joined: 10/17/2015
Msg: 46
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Posted: 11/24/2015 3:30:50 AM
DUH.....and wish I could get that bigger!....ALL sights are the same and as adults we have to use descretion....whatcha gonna do cry when you get wronged....ain't high school anymo!
 oneday57
Joined: 10/17/2015
Msg: 47
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Posted: 11/25/2015 4:45:16 AM
Been on a couple of sights and still the players are plentiful.....wont and cant figure it out....at any age!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 48
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Posted: 11/25/2015 9:55:38 AM
^^^"Been on a couple of sights and still the players are plentiful.....wont and cant figure it out....at any age!"

What, in your mind, constitutes a player? Is it someone who won't commit to a serious relationship or marriage after a first meet? Of course, that would never happen in real life. (lol)
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Posted: 11/26/2015 1:27:46 PM

What, in your mind, constitutes a player?

I believe that I've answered this:

It's not good enough or accurate to explain this by simply pointing out that each person has sex voluntarily [or whether or not someone wants marriage or something long-term].

I don't think, for a lot of people, that this is the dynamic which applies concerning what a player is. Instead, it would be when someone does not know what they're doing and doesn't know that they don't know...because the other person creates and/or nurtures a misunderstanding in their mind about who they are and what's going on.

It's not about the fact that both people choose to have sex, or someone not wanting more...but it's about why one of them chose to have sex and if they were deceived into doing so.
 oneday57
Joined: 10/17/2015
Msg: 50
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Posted: 11/28/2015 2:36:29 PM
HAHA.....dont consider myself a player but have met some real rude woman from this sight.....and by the way this isnt any different from any other sight...just free....which will prob end in short time....nothings free!....lol
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