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 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 251
Red flagsPage 11 of 14    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14)

Even when I was married, I never knew her SSN and she didn't care to have mine.

I still have both mine and my ex's memorized. Guess who handled all of the finances and did the income taxes every single year.

vvvvvvv

I have several bits of info that could be used to totally upset her happy little life (pictures/video of her in bondage, an unfinished love letter to the farrier while still married and living with me, court audio of her testifying about the emergency sale of her horse for $100 at a time when her bank records show she had $4,000 in savings, etc.). This all could have been posted to the internet, sent to her parents, and sent to her current boyfriend of seven years, but I choose not to do that. I am tempted, however, to include it all in my last will and testament.
 motowncowgirl
Joined: 3/24/2015
Msg: 252
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Posted: 4/16/2015 8:34:04 AM
^^^ haha, I remember my ex's SSN# too. this is from 1983. I can't find my glasses when they're on top of my head, but that # is seared into my brain. every year, I report him to the IRS just for the hell of it.


he emptied my bank account, the fukker!
[I guess this is one of those red flags. sorry to both of my admirers.]
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 253
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Posted: 4/16/2015 11:33:35 AM

I guess a newly divorced is better than ones divorced years ago.why? Because I don't want a woman that had a couple tens or hundreds of mans passed thru her bed,so I will chose a newly divorced over any other ones.

Yes -- strike while the iron is hot! You could be That guy who passes thru her bed before the others do! ;)

^But I thought the best way to get over someone was to get under someone else?

Actually, there's a lot of truth in that. It by itself won't, but it's part of the process -- including going out on dates with a Lot of people (but not needing to sleep with a ton of them). Isolating your opp-sex drama with your ex in your mind will keep it lingering. You want to find drama, good or bad, with others to help wash it away.
 MaleFeasance
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 254
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Posted: 4/16/2015 3:49:20 PM
There is a word for a woman with no red flags: boring.
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 255
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Posted: 4/20/2015 7:28:26 PM
I look at every ignored message that I sent out as a bullet dodged.
 gfe0787
Joined: 4/24/2015
Msg: 256
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Posted: 4/27/2015 5:20:27 PM
I think my red flag or turn off in reading a profile is too many dont's listed on their page. Like, 20 points sometimes.
Maybe I am wrong but it seems as if they feel really entitled or picky. I just feel the person might be a lot to deal with?
Or when I read on someone's page 'looking for someone who can keep up'. I wonder what do I have to keep up with? Will we be hiking a lot or sky diving? Or an emotional rollercoaster/ obstacle course? Seems a bit intimidating for me lol. I don't know that's just my 0.02.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/27/2014
Msg: 257
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Posted: 4/27/2015 8:14:54 PM

I look at every ignored message that I sent out as a bullet dodged.

May I ask why you have to be so dramatic? She's just not interested or busy talking to another guy or doesn't check her messages. I've sent out a lot of messages and most of them went ignored, if I took it so personally every time I'd be a nervous wreck. I usually forget about them in about two minutes.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 258
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Posted: 4/27/2015 8:42:45 PM
I would not be investigating any man that I meet for the first time for just a meet. If I felt it was going to go anywhere and we had actually met for a couple of dates then I may consider the background check if I felt uneasy about him in any way. I have nothing to hide so I am happy for a guy to do the same with me. Of course you are relying on the person giving you their real name etc.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 259
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Posted: 4/27/2015 8:44:51 PM


I may consider the background check if I felt uneasy about him in any way


If you feel uneasy, why continue to see him?
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 260
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Posted: 4/27/2015 8:45:10 PM
sigungq

That is just salving your ego in thinking that there is something inherently wrong with a woman who dares to ignore any messages from you. Reading your comments a woman may well feel she has dodged a bullet lol!
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/27/2014
Msg: 261
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Posted: 4/27/2015 8:54:27 PM

That is just salving your ego in thinking that there is something inherently wrong with a woman who dares to ignore any messages from you. Reading your comments a woman may well feel she has dodged a bullet lol!

A surprisingly high number of men on here feel that ignoring their message amounts to a deliberate act of disrespect. Whatever, I ignore people's messages just as they ignore mine.
 ThePig0fYourDreams
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 262
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Posted: 4/27/2015 9:28:49 PM

I've sent out a lot of messages and most of them went ignored.


That's a bit surprising. You're very attractive.
 GalacticExplorer
Joined: 2/8/2015
Msg: 263
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Posted: 4/30/2015 8:32:36 PM
Just WOW,

After reading only 3 pages of this Red Flag post, Mostly by the Same People I have come to only One Conclusion.

It's a Wonder Any of you Actually Have Any dates At All since you So Busy Excluding People who use LOL, ride motorcycles, go camping, have pets in their pictures, like to travel, Are close to their kids, Go to the Gym a Lot or don't go to the gym a lot, have pictures with other people in them, Are democrats or republican's, Liberals or Conservative's, Saying they have Baggage, Saying they have No baggage, Etc, etc, etc, etc.

Man, It's Just Incredible some of the things people are saying are Red Flags for them.
Talk about being Judgmental People. Wow.

Here's a Thought. How about Realizing that Nobody is Perfect including YOU and I am Sure that You have so called Red Flags for Other People too. Oh wait, your Perfect Right.

Makes me want to Delete Everything in my profile Except for " Hi, How you doing ". Then I would be safe from everybody's red flag list except those whose red flag is "Writing too short a profile"

Here's another thought. Maybe if you weren't so busy dissecting and judging people by what they say in their profiles and emails you might actually meet someone decent and you might just might have a good time with them. Oh wait that's a red flag too, People who say they want to have Fun. I'm Sure it's listed in Someone's post.

Here's MY Red Flag

Imperfect People who Judge Other People simple by what they say in there profiles or there initial emails Without ever actually talking to them or meeting them to see what there really like. Yep, That's a deal breaker for me LOL..........
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 264
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Posted: 4/30/2015 8:41:10 PM

Imperfect People who Judge Other People simple by what they say in there profiles or there initial emails Without ever actually talking to them or meeting them to see what there really like. Yep, That's a deal breaker for me LOL....


^^^^^^^

Not a red flag.....but imperfect yes.

It's their, their and they're.

You've experienced a pof cyber castration. You're not the first or the last. They're quick, lethal and indiscriminate. Don't take it personally. :)
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 2/17/2015
Msg: 265
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Posted: 4/30/2015 8:49:07 PM
^ Every time you post, all I can think is "cop porn". I should probably have you deleted :/
 LadyEssKay
Joined: 2/13/2015
Msg: 266
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Posted: 4/30/2015 8:59:44 PM

It's a Wonder Any of you Actually Have Any dates At All




Here's MY Red Flag

Imperfect People who Judge Other People simple by what they say in there profiles or there initial emails Without ever actually talking to them or meeting them to see what there really like.


Same person said these.

I sh!t you not.
 GalacticExplorer
Joined: 2/8/2015
Msg: 267
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Posted: 4/30/2015 10:14:34 PM

Not a red flag.....but imperfect yes.

It's their, their and they're.

You've experienced a pof cyber castration. You're not the first or the last. They're quick, lethal and indiscriminate. Don't take it personally. :)


Another one of my Red Flags.
People who are Sooo Anal they point out that others use their and they're incorrectly in a post on a website.
Do you point out Miss-spellings too, I'm Sure of it. Man, Get a Life LoL

And No I don't take it personally



It's a Wonder Any of you Actually Have Any dates At All





Here's MY Red Flag

Imperfect People who Judge Other People simple by what they say in there profiles or there initial emails Without ever actually talking to them or meeting them to see what there really like.


Same person said these.

I sh!t you not.


I did say that didn't I :) and I stand by what I said.
What, You couldn't bash me enough in my other post that you had to sort thru 12 Pages of posts in this thread till you found something I said in this one to TRY and bash me with. Your a LUNE lady. No Seriously you ARE......

Laugh MFAO @ LadyEssKay, hey Lady, and I use that term Very Loosely. Bash me all you want But I will come back at you and you will Lose Every Time. have a Nice Night LUNE........
 GalacticExplorer
Joined: 2/8/2015
Msg: 268
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Posted: 4/30/2015 10:49:29 PM

A surprisingly high number of men on here feel that ignoring their message amounts to a deliberate act of disrespect.


Well I cant speak for All men But I don't think that myself.

I will say that sometimes I find it frustrating that woman complain how they want more in a initial e-mail from a man then just Hi, How you doing But wont respond to a well thought out email that someone took the time to write them..

When I first joined this site I use to take the time and write a pretty long and detailed email about myself, her profile, and why I think we might be compatible with each other. I stopped doing that when I discovered it really didn't matter what I write. 9 times out of 10 you were not going to hear back from the other person anyway so Why bother.

My Experience has been it's all in the pictures anyway and not what you write or what's in your profile.
Now it's Hi, how you doing and maybe a few more lines but I no longer take the time to write out a well crafted email.
Saves me both time and frustration.

All that said I am guilty of it too. I don't reply to every email I get either....

My 2 cents....
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 269
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Posted: 5/1/2015 1:52:17 AM

I've sent out a lot of messages and most of them went ignored, if I took it so personally every time I'd be a nervous wreck

If they were active users (being seen on the active within 24 hours list) -- very very few, If Any ignored any of your messages. Not replying doesn't mean they Ignored your message... it means they just didn't follow through. Some can have some potential interest, just none at the time (hands full in the dating market; wanting to take a break, etc), so they don't reply. I agree that not replying doesn't = No attraction. It just means at least for the time being -> No interest (which is different).




If I felt it was going to go anywhere and we had actually met for a couple of dates then I may consider the background check if I felt uneasy about him in any way. I have nothing to hide so I am happy for a guy to do the same with me. Of course you are relying on the person giving you their real name etc.

Whoah, easy there! I actually think you said this in another thread. A background check if you figured things were going somewhere (but had any uneasy feelings possibly crop up)? Really? If you felt things were going to go somewhere, obviously they couldn't be big problems -- probably more out of anxiety, a couple question marks... great, I'll do a background check on him! That's a potential mood/situation killer, if he wasn't ga-ga about you.

People who Judge Other People simple by what they say in there profiles or there initial emails Without ever actually talking to them or meeting them to see what there really like. Yep, That's a deal breaker for me LOL..........

We all judge, though. It may be not so definitive, especially since it's a profile said person themselves made, but yeah -- there's Plenty of profiles that you and I judge people on. Of course. There's some that would be too hasty to judge on, correct. But there's going to be a judgement call about them in terms of Probability, on whether to reply/chase/flow with that person or not. A profile's going to garner a judgement call -- about said person in it. That's common sense. There's no obligation, even by a shred of "politeness" to get to know someone (which would require more than a quick online chat) -- to know what they're REALLY like. That requires some dating.

But there are such things as stuff that will NIX someone Without getting to know them beyond how they described themselves in their profile. Heck, they're the ones evaluating themselves -- not some gossip queen in their neighborhood, right?
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 270
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Posted: 5/1/2015 2:38:38 AM
^^^^^^^^
...it's like reading the ingredients label on a box of cereal.....


People who are Sooo Anal they point out that others use their and they're incorrectly in a post on a website.


Let's get something straight sunshine. I was merely trying to help you out as every rebuttal you made to a post was a borderline fifth grade attack and you were displaying yourself in a negative light.

You wondered in and need to stumble on out. So get with it and don't let the door hit'cha where the good lawd split'cha. :/
 drinkthesunwithmyface
Joined: 3/27/2012
Msg: 271
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Posted: 5/1/2015 7:13:16 AM
Hey don't go being so mean to our 420 friendly galactic explorer. Should we not consider that some people get too forum-institutionalized and cynical? Maybe he was just taking a tour of our solar system when he posted, eh?
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 272
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Posted: 5/1/2015 7:33:16 AM

When I first joined this site I use to take the time and write a pretty long and detailed email about myself, her profile, and why I think we might be compatible with each other. I stopped doing that when I discovered it really didn't matter what I write. 9 times out of 10 you were not going to hear back from the other person anyway so Why bother.


Alas. What a waste of time. First of all, women don't owe you d i ck. They don't have to respond to you, regardless of what you write or how hot you may think you look.

But, also, looks in the end are not as important as you think. Words are. But wait!!? You tried that and failed. So what ta fvck did you do wrong?

Everything.

First of all. Never start with a Hi. Women get about 300 Hi's a week. Why should they respond to your hi, when there are 20 hot looking guys that said hi, 150 rich as s h it guys that said hi, and you rank very low on that list.

So start with something different. Thus the saying that comes from advertising "differentiate or die."

You have to be the one with the balls to be different. Be cryptic. Do not sell. If you start selling, you lose. Be cryptic, be intriguing and ask her something that she must get off her chess. How do I know this? Because I was in your shoes, then discover my own shoes and dated super hot women until one of them damn women took me off the market.

I am here for the forums and the fee pop corn.

For instance. My woman responded to a headline that said "Flamenco." And a lady I dated responded to the "Alpe d' Hues" and another one responded to Provance and another one responded to Champs Elysées. Another one to Lake Como.

Then I tell them something that they and only they would understand from their profile. Quick, simple, no selling, and the ask her a question.

For instance. "I saw your picture of you with Lance behind. Which switch back was that? Did you climb up the mountain as well? What do you ride? Have you done Six Gaps?"

Boom, she had to respond. And wrote me a whole page. It's that simple. But also realize that you are not going to hit it off with ALL women. And once you accept one, you get ready for the other.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/13/2015
Msg: 273
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Posted: 5/1/2015 8:52:39 AM
Red flag- When woman says "don't contact me unless you're over a certain height". Even if I meet their height criteria this still turns me off. How many women would contact a man who says "DDs only need apply"?
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 274
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Posted: 5/1/2015 9:19:17 AM

Red flag- When woman says "don't contact me unless you're over a certain height".


If it's a short guy contacting an American woman, the best thing to do is specify his height in centimeters only. Americans think a centimeter is a bug with a lot of legs.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 275
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Posted: 5/1/2015 10:59:53 AM
When her headline is "Only if you can spoil me!"
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