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 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 151
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Second, where did Belle and I actually said we like pain? Ever wake up and discover a bruise and have no idea how it got there?


I agree with you Charmin. What I do not understand is why talking about your sexuality or what you like constitutes a sign of insecurity. If anything, it says that WE are comfortable with what we like and what we pursue. ALSO, having a little bit of passion that ends up with a little pain, does not necessarily means S&M. It means passion.

I dated for a while a woman that in a previous relationship was into S&M, and I told her that I was very vanilla, yet a passionate person. So no rope tying, or bondage or anything like that, but a variety of tantric sex. She actually preferred our more vanilla version because as she told me, the problem with the whole S&M thing is that unless there's escalation, her partner would not get off, and escalation got to a point that was more of a chore than a pleasure.

So really, at the center of what Belle describes is not pain, but passion, to do things with abandon, to give herself completely to her man. Which by the way, it's not degrading your self, but enjoying yourself. And in the end, its not about a pre-determined formula, but what will work between the two consenting adults.
 Dan198508
Joined: 11/7/2014
Msg: 152
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 7:35:04 AM
What I suggest is that you have sex in the morning. My neighbors do that because they are always tired in the evening. At 5:30am I hear the shower and...the comments "ahhhhhhhhhh suck my****aahhHAHAHAHAH WWAHAHAHHA!!AHAHAHH!!" So I put a pillow over my left ear and go back to sleep.

So it's an option. Also keep in mind that testosterone will be higher for men at 5am than 10pm so it will be more rewarding.

And if you fall asleep at work because you had sex in the morning I suggest seeing a psychiatrist. Narcolepsy has nothing to do with diabetes and is treated with heavy duty medication.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 153
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 8:29:23 AM

So it's an option. Also keep in mind that testosterone will be higher for men at 5am than 10pm so it will be more rewarding.


Dude, something we agree on. This amount of testosterone produces what is called morning wood. If you are in a good relationship where there's a lot of communication with your woman or the woman with the man, it can turn many many mornings into a excellent way to wake up. For starters, there are a lot of women that love morning sex. But it requires a special type of woman. Why? Because in the morning you have bad breath, and if before doing anything the other person has to perform all this brushing or cleaning it's going to kill the mood completely.
What I like best about morning sex is to go at it for a little bit and stop short of having an orgasm. I anything, make sure that she got one, or feels like wow.

It will give you all this energy at work. When you are in meetings you will feel this sense of positive power that is hard to describe. What is even better is that the idea of that encounter will pop in your head, and since you had unfinished business, you may quite easily end up with a hard on again. Also your partner, as she thinks about what happened may spend half her day wet, thinking about it, and of course, wanting to put the finishing touches to what was started. So along the day, there may be an exchange of naughty texts. To then after dinner, or after putting kids down to bed, or finishing watching some TV show, to go ape wild and conclude that started with the morning activities.
 DeepakTolle
Joined: 3/18/2015
Msg: 154
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 8:34:16 AM

What I suggest is that you have sex in the morning. testosterone will be higher for men at 5am than 10pm so it will be more rewarding.


You reminded me of a woman I dated who refused to have sex until bedtime which was usually after 11. Well, at that time I was in a habit of going to bed around 10 and getting up at 5 , so I was usually wiped by then. I'd try to get things happening in the afternoon or early evening but nope, she would say she'd rather wait and spurn my advances.

I like a woman who is " kinky " enough to have sex GASP ! while it's still daylight.



Speaking of morning sex, I remember this one time having a round with a gf but I didn't finish, then we took a train to a small village ( this was while I was living in Europe ), and because I didn't finish I only had one thing on my mind.

It was funny, because she kept talkin about the things she was noticing about the village while I was looking for a forest where we could go finish what we'd started earlier !

Good times !
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 155
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 9:25:48 AM
^^^
Ahh...morning woodies...

Natures Viagra.

I've had that similar dilemma a few times.

She worked third shift and insisted on coming over at midnight, and I woke at 5. I must be getting old because I only agreed once.

Another reached over for a feel in the morning before telling me, 'That feels nice, let's get up and have breakfast.'

Hmm, no. I am up and I'd like to have some venison for breakfast, now...
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 156
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 10:03:38 AM
I'm trying hard not to say something........................

Morning wood is only good for when you want a good punishment, lol. It is way too hard, like a stainless tube sliding in and out, it has no flexibility, it's uncomfortable, it limits the enjoyment.

That's all folks, I'm trying to be good.

vvvvvvvv

No, because it's the flexibility that makes it pleasurable, the fact that it can follow the mold inside. Like when you up or down (not in motion, in angles), the penis follows and adjusts, that's the beauty of it all, that they accommodate each other because neither is inflexible. But with morning wood, if you weren't fully awake, you're gonna be now! lmao.

It's not a straight path inside nor is it rigid, otherwise a stainless tube will do and no one would interested in the real thing, lol.
 Axis555
Joined: 3/29/2015
Msg: 157
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 10:30:06 AM
I don't like morning sex, I'm not much of a morning person and doing it in the morning just feels odd. It's the last thing I'm thinking about in the morning.


It is way too hard, like a stainless tube sliding in and out, it has no flexibility,

I thought that was a good thing
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 158
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 12:51:44 PM

Sooooo focused I dont even think about it nor do I have an ABC and D to follow, I just follow/lead/blend with the man Im with.


Vicky, you have it totally wrong. Once you've done AB then C it's a matter of time and a mix of D with pi, but you can introduce B and D, while skipping C. But if that is the case you may have to approach A(B+D)-C+D2 to the square root of 7. Seven being the days of the week.

I hope that helps.

Hehehehe.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 159
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 1:20:21 PM
With all due respect, I'm not interested nor bored enough to participate in a long debate about how you process the information that you read, and what I write.

I usually google when I don't understand something, so I went ahead and looked it up for you:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vanilla_sex

I hope that helps clarify that I'm referring to something that exists, and not what I'm labeling your sex life to be about. And about that last line, remember I said "when I'm lazy", not when women are lazy or anything like that, I was referring to me, entirely to me. I don't get where got the whole fit/healthy/supple crap came from, because I was not implying that women are lazy if they participate in vanilla. It's all in your head.....like the zombie song.

Of course it is all about me, it's my sex life, duh!

To each it's own.

I appreciate you as a person and all but sometimes you get stuck on the most mundane of things, lol. It's not that serious.
 ThePig0fYourDreams
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 160
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 1:38:43 PM
I like having lobsters clamp down on and dangle from my nipples.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 161
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 1:58:03 PM
I have better things to do than offer my opinion of you. This is not the first time a much older woman perceives an insult where there was none, then attempts to attack me, then attempts to insult me.

I'm going to leave it at that as there are many people who are not deserving of my time or attention, and I'm not going to bait myself into getting reported by responding how I otherwise would.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 162
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 2:15:25 PM

Food and wine and sex and hairdos. And colours. And dog breeds. And cats. And cars. And flowers. If we all enjoyed the same in the same amounts at the same times the world would be f´ing boring plain, woudn´t it? :-(


indeed
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 163
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 2:26:05 PM

My favourite dish is pork tripe stewed with chorizo and lots of hot smoked paprika. Those who don´t like it don´t have taste in food. Those who haven´t tried it don´t know what they are missing. Those who won´t even try are religious zealots or squeamish sissies.


I dare you!!! How could you!!!! Who do you think you are? I personally believe in the immortality of the holly cheese burger and fries, hold the ketchup. But such burger HAS to be made in the proper way with 2/3 lean beef, and 1/3 pork. And the bun must be made not of that nasty sweet bread, but a Chiabata, any deviation from that and you will burn in a hell hotter than a Zaracha factory getting ready to bottle. So my wrath will burn all those that do not adhere to scriptural preparation!!!!!

(Face turns red and explodes)

Okay, it's almost time to go home and open a nice bottle of Tempranillo.

Cheers.
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 164
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/1/2015 8:15:49 PM

reminded me of a woman I dated who refused to have sex until bedtime which was usually after 11. Well, at that time I was in a habit of going to bed around 10 and getting up at 5 , so I was usually wiped by then.


the dance clubs would close at 2 am and when I took my girlfriend or date home we'd be primed.
I did some of my best work @ 3:30 or 4 am
 Aprilikeswhiteroses
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 165
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 4:25:52 AM


What I suggest is that you have sex in the morning.


I like the theory, the moods there, the energy's there, its the smell I dont like. Morning breath, smelly armpits and other bits yuk.


Who says you have to kiss in the mouth?
About body odor, if the person bathes in the night before going to bed, then in the morning it should not smell bad.


you can introduce B and D, while skipping C.


Yup.!!
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 166
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 4:46:04 AM

Morning breath, smelly armpits and other bits yuk.


Ahhhhh, the smell of a human.

I prefer the sweet smell of sweat.

Yep, I do.

Why?

Cause it means we are putting an effort into it.

I hate the smell and the look of starfish though.
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 167
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 5:43:33 AM
from Vicky
''''its the smell I dont like. Morning breath''''

can't help you with the private parts smell but I use two products that keep my breath fresh and tongue kissing sweet for a full 12 hours.

they both eliminate morning breath and many other odors including alcohol , garlic and onions instantly. I keep a small bottle of it in my car when i'm out drinking.

the two I know of are SmartMouth and TheraBreath. I've used both and they work for me. yes for 12 hours.
if I gargle at night I have NO MORNING BREATH.

these are basically mouthwashes but slightly different. SmartMouth is a two ingredient mix. it comes in two pump bottles that you mix in a two ounce shot cup. TheraBreath is ready out of the single bottle.

they don't taste good. they are chemically. minimum 30 seconds gargle. before I go out to the dance club I gargle and leave it in my mouth for a minute before I leave. they work! I can attest to it.

THEY ARE BOTH PRICEY AT $14 EACH.

I had an FWB come over and she had garlic breath. I said, "If you want some of this, i'll need you to use this" and I gave her TheraBreath. she spit it out almost immediately because of the taste. but those few seconds were all I needed. her garlic breath was gone! we proceeded to the couch.........
 tgif111
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 168
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 6:22:36 AM
the mouthwashes I mentioned are state of the art bacteria, germ and odor killers.
garlic, onions, coffee and alcohol. I believe they have the same ingredients of a product called Anti-Poleez. it's a lozenge that disguises alcohol.

these mouthwashes, SmartMouth and TheraBreath also remove the odor from overnight smelly bits, underarms and -ahem, the back side if you're going in that direction!!

back in the old days when there was morning breath and morning odors I just hit it from behind and leaned my body back so that the only contact was our genitals and that area that makes those "slapping" sounds.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 169
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 6:34:13 AM

these mouthwashes, SmartMouth and TheraBreath also remove the odor from overnight smelly bits, underarms and -ahem, the back side if you're going in that direction!!


Sooo, Tgif, how do you do gargles with your b u tt?
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 170
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 6:38:39 AM
Altoids and Vicks Mentholatum work in a pinch.

The thing with the Altoids, or Tic Tacs for that matter, is that they make a jangling sound when bouncing around in your pocket.

I went to a Bed, Bath and Beyond recently to buy some scented candles and diffusers.

The gal at the register locked up my logical mind when she asked if I was trying to 'deodorize' or 'freshen the air' at my place?

Uh, I don't know, just ring it up please...
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 171
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 6:51:59 AM

i've already told you once but if I must Ill repeat it. The 'your missing out bit' implies that Ive not experienced what I should of. Also the but with the prefer is a tad condescending:-


You're right that it does imply you've not experienced it... duh!!!
the condescending part is how it made YOU feel, it wasn't a put down but its' how it made you feel so you've decided to call it a put down and this is what you do. You voice it and go into point by point to draw it out into a long tit for tat.
You think it's condescending? That's YOUR problem. Fight with yourself.



but you two ladies appear to assume I was referring to you and I guess thats where Charms put down of preferring a ring comes from. Though Belle did agree so maybe thats where it got confused:-


No.. you were referring to us. Nice backpaddling but no dice.
Oh yes... you got confused



Not really sure what vanilla is as I dont tend to label things


Maybe that's where your confusion stems.


maybe its YOUR lack of understanding/definition of my sex life/vanilla that you know naff all about


Oooh I see what you're doing there. Nope. not going to work.


Wow, it really is all about you.


jealous?


I guess its a bit like the difference between turning up with your whip and angry or turning up with your burlesque and good sex frame of mind.


I think this shows your confusion... you said whip and angry. Again, with ..as IG refers to as,.. passionate sex, there often is whip or anger. As I've said before and I'll reinterate, do not confuse what we are talking about with any part of bdsm. IG nailed it when he uses the term passion. Thank you IG :)


Well it wasn't til you started throwing the insults, then tried to back track but whatever


*pulls lollipop out of mouth* Nuh huh!!!! *points finger* You're the one who started it*!!! Wahhhhh!!
(*When you took my comment as condescending.)


Well I got a bit bored with your comments so no worries. As we are now giving advice, you come across as self centred and desperate btw.


Now who is insulting who, hmmm???



Guess the common denominator is you then. Maybe all the older women are not wrong and maybe you are actually insulting them????


Errr... I am an older woman and I side with her on her comments.


Yes and I hope you stop baiting others as well.


Ummm... she is NOT the one baiting.




Ill leave you to it though, I get enough sex not to have to drone on about it all the time.
I like the theory, the moods there, the energy's there, its the smell I dont like. Morning breath, smelly armpits and other bits yuk....



Thank you kindly for my first giggle of the day.
And that....you can take that however you wish. :p



*slurps hazelnut coffee with two shakes of cinnamon
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 172
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 7:11:44 AM

I like the theory, the moods there, the energy's there, its the smell I dont like. Morning breath, smelly armpits and other bits yuk.


There are a lot of people that get stuck in the theory and never move into practice.

I had a particular partner, that was a master mood killers. Everything had to be perfect. You had to have freshly bathed, brush teeth, FLOSS, shaven and deodorized for her to participate. It only worked for her when we were around a Jacuzzi. Try to initiate in any other environment and it was a disaster.

Then I had other partners that didn't care. They wanted the smell of a man, not perfume or cologne. Didn't want to waste the storm that was forming with having to stop, go to the bathroom, brush teeth and all that stuff. When people are that contrived, they don't understand that other level.

I had a partner that while driving home from some restaurant or the ballet would give me a look and told me to find a place to stop because she wanted to do it right then. I had to find a park, or a lake, or even an office building parking lot. She wanted to be in a public place. We did get caught a couple of times by the police, but back pedaled that we were running out of time with the baby sitter. And the cop gave us a look and said "I hear you." And let us go.

It takes a different type of person to enjoy these things. And it's has nothing to do with S&M. It has to do with passion, desire and the key ingredient, trust.
 kj521
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 173
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 7:15:34 AM
Mr. Tgif....


"back in the old days when there was morning breath and morning odors I just hit it from behind and leaned my body back so that the only contact was our genitals and that area that makes those "slapping" sounds."


With this statement...I no longer wonder about your singleness!

*shakes her head as she saunters off to find a man at Starbucks with coffee breath to match her own....
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 174
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 7:20:59 AM

*shakes her head as she saunters off to find a man at Starbucks with coffee breath to match her own....


The best way to combat coffee breath is to have a cup of coffee. Garlic breath, then have garlic bread.
Now, if you're doing it from behind in the morning, I want to smell her breath, engulf her body, kiss her ears, hear her half asleep moans, and make it cozy and intimate.
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 175
Boyfriend wants sex all the time?
Posted: 4/2/2015 7:25:46 AM

It takes a different type of person to enjoy these things. And it's has nothing to do with S&M.


I will insert that it does a bit of reckless abandonment to freely enjoy this passion.
It's like... oh... um.... riding a roller coaster. Eh?
The bottom is the vanilla.. .where it rolls along.. then you dip upwards, the climax. Everyone experiences this. Everyone
But for some of us we take it a bit further for that extra passion, the point after we reach the very very top and tilt down and away we go! Oh, that adrenalin!
It's the "I don't give a shyt" attitude
Next thing you know, there's scratch marks, bruises, ... and dare I say it? Hickies lol Oh lord. Silly I know but .. you only live once :)
I agree IG.... it takes a certain kind of person. But that's what makes us all unique eh?
That said, nothing wrong with sticking with what you know to. Yes,.... that line is referring to you Vicki




*shakes her head as she saunters off to find a man at Starbucks with coffee breath to match her own



*two thumbs up*

:)
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