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 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
Msg: 151
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What's wrong with shiny objec

ohhh...look a chicken!
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 152
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 10:31:57 AM

Because hell would freeze over before women started buying men shiny useless objects with their own money.


I have not been notified that hell has or has not froze over, but I can say, Why on earth would any man WANT a "useless object?" Paid for or not paid for by a woman?
If I were to take a guess, I would guess a man, any man, would prefer a "use for object." With a matte finish or shiny.
Just guessing here!

LOL Need help with that chicken Boo?
 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
Msg: 153
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 11:23:29 AM
^^^^^^hahahahaha!
:o)
 Stellan77
Joined: 2/8/2016
Msg: 154
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 11:37:46 AM

So why was there never any marketing for guys to get a prize from women when getting engaged? Retailers are missing out on half of the population.


My guess is that men are just not that impressed with expensive shiny objects- they would rather have a gift in the bedroom.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 155
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 1:21:08 PM
Guys would be impressed with expensive shiny objects as an engagement gift-if the shiny object is a new power tool or new rims for their pick-up truck. Women just have to use their imagination. Guys would be happy getting and wearing a ring out of a Cracker Jack box or a plastic decoder ring out of a box of cereal if they getting something useful as well.
 Stellan77
Joined: 2/8/2016
Msg: 156
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 2:02:41 PM
I've never heard of a woman proposing to a man with a new power tool or new rims for their pick-up truck.
 ThatGirlNamedAlli
Joined: 12/28/2013
Msg: 157
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 2:08:03 PM
He should just propose and give her an envelope of cash :)
hey, people do it for birthdays and christmas.
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 158
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 2:30:21 PM

Women just have to use their imagination.


Oh no no! Men don’t have to use their imaginations, all they have to do is walk into a jewelry store. Good thing, too. Why should WE have to waste valuable time considering a man’s feelings… obviously you don’t care about a woman’s. So there ya go with your equality.

Really I don’t think any of these crybaby guys have to worry about doing any thing for any woman, ever.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 159
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Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 2:35:03 PM
not unheard of for the woman to buy or contribute to her engagement ring, these days. Some like to show it off and see it as a reflection of her value to the man. You can get simulated gemstones now that look extremely genuine and much cheaper. I would go with that and still have the bling.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 12/24/2015
Msg: 160
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 2:42:31 PM
I suppose a guy's buying a woman a ring is a nicer way of marking his territory than if he were to pee on her.
 yougotmeakitten
Joined: 8/30/2014
Msg: 161
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 2:59:37 PM
^^^^ Stellan, if she gives you a drill you know you been screwed already. If you say yes, get over it and whimper in the corner like a good little man.

Le Pew
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 162
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 5:07:58 PM
Or nose hair clippers :)
btw, since I did not say before, we traded and worked and traded and worked to get my ring..
I'd sleep in a shoebox in the gutter as it means more than me than something shiny. I have lots of shiny stuff
Here we call people shiny who are as dumb as a sack of dead kittens but are cute
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 164
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Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/1/2016 5:26:04 PM
Guess we need to bring back that dowry system. No one can make you buy them anything, that's up to you, and yes many women buy men shiny object, useful or not. What in the world is all the whining about? Don't date people you don't like.
 Iphegeneia
Joined: 2/24/2016
Msg: 165
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/4/2016 12:51:32 PM
It's not necessary. It's just one of those romantic things that men are supposed to do according to tv commercials. Women are brainwashed into desiring it and the poor guy feels pressured. If the guy genuinely wants to do it, that is sweet. But no man should be pressured into saving up for an engagement ring just so his woman can keep up with the Joneses.
 caballerosiempre
Joined: 12/5/2015
Msg: 166
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/4/2016 1:42:06 PM
^^

I like the way you think..
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 167
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/4/2016 4:53:50 PM
I was married but never had an engagement ring. In my culture, we don't have them. My husband proposed with my wedding band. Which prevented a huge waste as I tend not to wear rings that have things on them, only plain bands that I can forget about. Intolerance of jewelry runs in my family, from grandma to mom to me. They both never even has their ears pierced.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 168
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/4/2016 5:59:34 PM
"Women are brainwashed into desiring it and the poor guy feels pressured. If the guy genuinely wants to do it, that is sweet. But no man should be pressured into saving up for an engagement ring just so his woman can keep up with the Joneses. "

>>>golly gee, and I got shellacked a page back for having the same sentiment :)

I suspect that someone who wants a big rock, will likely say yes to the type of partner who believes its his job to deliver. Someone else, who just wants the ceremony and not all the pomp and circumstance that goes with it, will say yes to a partner who thinks along the same lines.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 169
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/4/2016 7:29:39 PM
You bought a lot of diamond rings?
You totally miss why the ring should be important
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/4/2016 9:07:12 PM
if you can afford a diamond ring for your girl then sure why not. But going into debt for one is just silly along with the huge costly weddings and the exxy dress never to be worn again. If the ring is too big suspicion is cast upon its genuineness anyway. As has been said, some girls dream about the fantasy wedding day and forget the everydayness and routine that being married, is. Although most marriages don't fail, it is about 35-40% I think. People don't have to stay married anymore and if things get tough, they look around for another partner.
 ndm147
Joined: 8/1/2013
Msg: 171
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/4/2016 9:23:28 PM
I will give another slant on the rings. I was married for 34 years. He died. He bought me a very large high quality diamond engagement ring. I had it reset since I am no longer married nor engaged, but wanted to wear the stone on my right hand. From time to time I also wear my wedding band, but on my right hand. The last time I did that was in Nov for my son's wedding. Many women after a divorce throw the rings in a drawer in anger. I wear my rings with gratitude. It was a good life. Reset your diamonds, ladies, into earrings, a necklace, or a new ring.
 My_Feet_Hurt
Joined: 3/1/2016
Msg: 172
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/5/2016 6:20:02 AM
It depends on the couple...my Grandmother was widowed in her 50's & got engaged again in her 60's & he insisted on getting her a ring, but it was not huge or garish even though he was well to do.

I love jewelry & never ask for it, but when it is offered to me, I DO NOT turn it down.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 173
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/5/2016 10:12:24 PM
I think in my 60s the ring won't be the type that fits on a finger.

Well. Maybe a thumb...
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 174
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/6/2016 8:38:14 AM
^^^Are you talking about a ring around the bath tub?
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 175
Engagement rings necessary in the 21st century?
Posted: 3/6/2016 8:57:20 AM
This whole engagement ring thing is another BS thing created by the wedding industry to get people to drop money. Engagement ring, expensive wedding, honey moon - what a waste of a lot of money that could be used for more practical things, like savings or a down payment.

When I got engaged back in 1991, my future husband insisted that I get a ring (not traditionally done in my home country). I told him not to spend too much, and I don't want a big rock either. The ring ended up costing around $750 and I loved it. But I would have been A OK if he had never gotten one.
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