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 cookymaker
Joined: 6/28/2014
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My late husband gave me an engagement ring. He hid it in a bag of cracker jacks - a total surprise. He was complaining he couldn't find the prize and wouldn't stop until I grabbed the bag from him and stuck my hand in searching just to get him to quit fussing. It wasn't the biggest ring in the world, but it was beautiful and perfect for me.
I continued to wear it from time to time. One day when I left it at home, my house got broken into and it is gone for good now.
I don't have to have one - not necessary. I don't see the sense in getting this enormous expensive ring. Let's go to Italy or Ireland instead. Jump in the car and drive to nowhere in particular until we run out of road.
Precious moments spent together mean more than any piece of jewelry.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 3/6/2016 5:36:22 PM
ndm147

very good idea to just reset and recycle if the stones are worth anything. Off topic, why do women keep the name of the man they have divorced, often bitterly. I get why Priscilla Presley did, but for the ordinary folk I find it strange.

I also love jewellery especially if it is given in affection and not asked for or expected.
I have had an engagement ring reset and passed on to the eldest female child in the family as an heirloom.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
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Posted: 3/6/2016 6:15:26 PM

Off topic, why do women keep the name of the man they have divorced

I did not consider not keeping it. It's not a game - today I'm A, then I'm B, then I'm A again. I took the man's hand and married him, his name is my name now. The divorce was unpleasant but not bitter, as in he ruined my life. We both gave it a shot and it did not work out. I'm not trying to back to identity of who I was as an unmarried girl before 25. That was a long time ago, that's not me anymore.
 mjinict
Joined: 8/13/2008
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Posted: 3/6/2016 7:12:00 PM
^^^Agreed. Having had his name over 25 years divorced now, I felt it was no big deal really, just a name. And as a single parent I had the same last name as my daughter.

And I believe in engagement rings. I've given two back since said divorce, hopefully third will stick.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 3/6/2016 8:36:09 PM
LOL Legally, you can have any surname you choose.
My lawyer asked me, during my 2nd divorce, "So what would you like your last name to be? Smith? Jones?"
I could have chosen ANY name. I chose my first husbands surname, as it was easy to spell, easy to pronounce and easy to remember.
Now if I had chosen my maiden name, I could share the same name as BF, LOL

With or without a ring!
 ndm147
Joined: 8/1/2013
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Posted: 3/6/2016 9:36:39 PM
I will reiterate. Only married once. He bought me tons of nice jewelry and diamonds. It is sentimental. He died. The gifts were gifts from his heart. Ladies, don't be bitter.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 182
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Posted: 3/6/2016 10:24:21 PM
Wait who's bitter?

I cherish and wear the jewelry I got from my loved ones who passed on. But if I still had an engagement ring from my ex-husband, it'd be sitting on the bottom of the jewelry box together with the wedding band, never to be taken out.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 183
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Posted: 3/8/2016 8:51:01 AM
Hush, little baby, don't say a word,
Mama's gonna buy you a mockingbird.

And if that mockingbird don't sing,
Mama's gonna buy you a diamond ring

And if that diamond ring turns brass,
Mama's gonna buy you a looking glass
 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
Msg: 184
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Posted: 3/8/2016 10:10:24 AM

Off topic, why do women keep the name of the man they have divorced


I kept my married name because I like it and I've had it longer than I had my maiden name.
I can't imagine changing it again.
But my daughter raised an interesting question. I casually mentioned that IF I got married
again, I'd probably keep my name.
And she said, I wonder what your husband would think if you kept your married name...that's
sort of different from keeping your maiden name.
I dunno.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 3/8/2016 11:53:40 AM
Boo, if you’ve had this name for the last 20 or 30 or 40 years, then that is your name. Doesn’t matter how you came by it, or what name you were known by in the dim past.

Your name is your name, and if you have had this name for decades, then I say stick with it.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 3/8/2016 8:14:29 PM
NJgirl

It is also not you anymore to be married and carrying that ex husband's name don't you think? Not much logic there.
He ruined your life and still you want to have his name??
 woodnymph4
Joined: 2/15/2016
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Posted: 3/8/2016 8:33:20 PM
^^^^ How did he ruin her life?

My friend's husband died about 4 years ago and after he died she found out about a lot of terrible things he did, illegal things to her and in business, drugs..all kinds of stuff. They had been married 23 years. So she decided to take her maiden name back and it took her forever to get things sorted, it's not just "gonna change my name". Credit cards, mortgage, vehicles and on and on. And some of this costs money. I remember wanting to change the home phone from husband's name to my name when he died, the phone company wanted $100.00. I said forget and canceled the entire phone and to this day cable is in his name.

Many keep their married name because it's also their children's last name. It's a personal decision.
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
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Posted: 3/8/2016 9:13:54 PM

Many keep their married name because it's also their children's last name. It's a personal decision.


THis is the main reason I kept my ex-husbands last name. I would feel "separated " from my kids if I had a different last name. Even if I were to get married, I would make it a hyphenated last name.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 189
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Posted: 3/8/2016 9:16:11 PM
I apologize for not being clear. I said that he did NOT ruin my life. Apologies for the clumsy English.
 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 190
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Posted: 3/9/2016 9:50:48 AM

Off topic, why do women keep the name of the man they have divorced
Because I had that name for a very long time and it became mine (not just his).
It is my children's name.
Too much of a hassle to change it again and why bother? I didn't despise him or the name.
It's just a name.
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On topic:
Engagement ring is a symbol of a promise and to me, the diamond size or type of gem is irrelevant.
No it's not necessary, but it's nice.
Also serves as man deterrent when I'm out with friends---bonus :)
First time, we picked it out together and it fit within our budget. Spent the big $$ on the honeymoon.
This time, it was a complete surprise and because of that, I love it more.
I would have loved anything that he picked out himself; he also knows I'm very practical and don't like anything big or fancy. Just not a jewelry gal.
Except for my earrings...but with wearing 11 at once, it's just not practical to take them out.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 191
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Posted: 3/9/2016 11:32:48 AM

My mother says I didn't open my eyes for eight days after I was born, but when I did, the first thing I saw was an engagement ring. I was hooked.


- Elizabeth Taylor

There's no way in hell I'll share the prices of my ex's engagement rings with my future ex.

 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 192
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Posted: 3/9/2016 12:03:37 PM
Mariah just scored a 35 carat!
Ms Taylor once famously said when someone was being catty about her ring to try it on, then smugly said
" not so vulgar now is it?"
Imagine a 10 million dollar ring - and I worry about my cable bill :/
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
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Posted: 4/14/2016 8:26:23 AM
I just stumbled across the perfect solution for this problem.

Silicone Wedding Ring - Premium Quality

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They also have a pretty pink one for women.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 194
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Posted: 4/14/2016 9:03:49 AM
^^^A 2-fer-one deal. Bigger boobs and a ring. One stop shopping.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 195
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Posted: 4/16/2016 8:30:15 AM
You only need to spend a couple weeks pay on a ring.

If ya want it, ya have to put a ring on it.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 196
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Posted: 4/16/2016 8:33:28 AM
Them Zirconias are good for a night of bliss before she has it appraised guys.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 197
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Posted: 6/19/2017 7:53:49 AM

In these days of equality, shouldn't traditions be updated too?

Why does a man’s commitment need to be quantified by a diamond?


You need to ask yourself that question, since you still seem to be obsessed by rings over two years later. A man's commitment doesn't need to be quantified by a diamond.

If you still feel a need to support the diamond trade with their artificially inflated prices in order to keep a woman in your life, that's your issue, and yours alone. Stop projecting your ring obsession onto other people.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 6/19/2017 6:27:41 PM

In these days of equality, shouldn't traditions be updated too?

They are, but many times, at a snail's pace when it comes to "relationship" based stuff. People like nostalgia. I say nostalgia's for nostrils, and folks should quit picking their nose, but ce la vie. Thing is, not every guy & gal are going to be in the same boat. Some gals are going to be Comfortably financially independent, while some won't be. So IMO, how some traditions apply should be to varying degrees on a case by case basis -- not uniform.

Why does a man’s commitment need to be quantified by a diamond?

I don't think the level of his commitment is, but putting a valuable ring on her finger is to symbolize a commitment for Together-Forever, as it is an expensive piece of jewelry. But a more expensive diamond isn't quantified as a higher commitment. However, one out of the bottom of a Frosted Flakes cereal box would on the low end. Unless is was one of the rare-find rings. ;)

Is the honeymoon supposed to be the bride's gift to the groom?

She saving up pre-wedding to spring for it? Sooo, I guess not. The only other way I could see the honeymoon being a gift to the guy would be "Since we're married, I'm not going to do [these sex acts] anymore. BUT, on the Honeymoon -- I will, as my gift to you..." lol.

In the end, I think it's silly to spring for some super-expensive ring that's too much of a financial sacrifice. A lab-created diamond (which is 100% Real and tend to be Superior than the ones pulled out of the dirt) -- namely in colors that are harder to get mined, but significantly cheaper would be a good idea IMO. I mean, after all, mined diamonds are inflated prices so they're not as rare as it's inflated to be. And lab-created ones aren't Cheap -- they're just more toward what non-inflated prices would be, while being just as 100% real and less dirty.
 LetitiaLeGrande
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Posted: 6/19/2017 9:58:20 PM
njgirl

Okay sorry about the misunderstanding. I can understand a widow keeping her husband's name but not if it was a bad divorce. You are carrying the vibration from him and I think sometimes women want to keep some connection to the guy unconsciously.
I would never lose my maiden name when I married anyway. It would be incorporated. I get that you may have children carrying his name but in some cultures even when married the women keep their father's name. I agree with this. Horses for courses.
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