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 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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LOL Beware here gentlemen. You may rile Ms Lucy up. She'll hunt you down!
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 12/24/2015
Msg: 827
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Posted: 4/2/2016 1:40:17 AM
This is, like, the most fun I've had ever!

lol wut?

Try to focus!
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
Msg: 828
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Posted: 4/2/2016 1:48:38 AM

Purple trust me it's not something you will ever have to worry about again

You are too cynical , nothing irks normal fully functioning women more than a cynical defeated man
They get visions of last foot in the grave


Sexy!
And that goes for tightwad clooney


You're being cynical about them being cynical though.
 cassie2425
Joined: 3/4/2016
Msg: 829
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Posted: 4/2/2016 6:18:04 AM
Boy, a lot of crap info about women asking men out and that means men are weak...do you have any data to back that up? Also about if a woman asks a man to marry it will end up n divorce....do you have any data to back that up? No? Didn't think so. Just crap musings.

Men and women both need to learn a few courting skills and how to interact.
 Kay9876
Joined: 7/4/2012
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Posted: 4/2/2016 6:43:36 AM

Msg. 868: Sexy!
And that goes for tightwad clooney

I don’t think of Clooney as a tightwad, though perhaps he has a tight butt?
:)

I assume he believes the majority of women he dates are after his money. … Silly man. With his looks, wit, and intelligence, he could choose to date women who would love him for who he is. (Clooney: You're quite lovable.)

On topic: If, for the purpose of this thread, the definition of courting is that men treat women with consideration for their comfort and well-being, then surely it’s to men’s benefit to do so. I’d say the same for women. In matters of the heart, the focus should be on the other person.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 831
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Posted: 4/2/2016 7:25:54 AM
Whenever a woman has hit on me...i'm pretty sure she wasn't thinking far into the future about talking to any children we might have. Especially if she was drunk when doing it :)

sometimes, people do what feels good right now, not worrying about future ramifications. Maybe if they thought about the ramifications, they'd do something differently, but...
 Whisky_River
Joined: 12/2/2015
Msg: 832
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Posted: 4/2/2016 8:20:58 AM

Nothing to do with a guy being weak.
More like Whoever invites pays.
Women show interest, but they never invite for that reason, IMHO.

Meh!! I think some men worry too much about the money end of it.....I have never followed the thought of..."who invites pays" ....always pay more than my way.
Call it "old school"...shy or whatever! I think, a man needs to show interest in me first. If he messages me and just wants to chitchat with no mention of a meet...I soon lose interest and do the fade.
To think.....he is worried about buying a coffee or lunch is beyond being silly...a self sabotage...imo.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 833
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Posted: 4/2/2016 8:43:27 AM
Let me, ahem, re-frame this.

I have absolutely no problem at all paying for dates. How long though can be an issue for some men such as the OP. I gotta be honest and say that SOME women will continue to expect dinners before sex if that is how the courtship started. These women view sex as a commodity, and if they ain't gotta ring, they better be getting evenings out. SOME women :)

The 'who invites pays' is more of an OLD thing than anything else.

During the hundreds of conversations I've had online, only maybe 5 did the woman suggest meeting first.

Even then, I always insisted on paying. Maybe I'm old school?

I'll say this too. The few times I went all out, I usually got lucky so to speak.

Investing in romance usually pays off (i.e. quick sex). Would I have 'gotten lucky' if I didn't go 'all out'?

When all is said and done, I've had several short term experiences and only 1 LTR in 4 years of OLD. Admittedly, I also called off several of them.

Perhaps assuming that quick sex will result in a LTR is my dilemma?

So, how much do I budget for sex that will likely not become a LTR? Maybe do the Starbucks > Hike > Dinner route sober instead? Hahahahahahaha

YMMV
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 834
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Posted: 4/2/2016 8:47:58 AM
lucy,

Edit it will work with some though the ones who are more Masculine or just plain misguided the male hormone tests have shown have grown in women since postfeminism so it's screwing up the natural order of things_:) and tests have shown the female honrmone in water which men are drinking_:)


A half-truth at best.

extract from: http://www.arhp.org/publications-and-resources/contraception-journal/august-2011


A literature review published in Environmental Science and Technology by researchers at the UCSF PRHE debunks the myth that birth control pills (and other estrogen-based hormonal contraceptives) are a major contributor to the presence of estrogenic compounds in waterways. The reviewers conclude that birth control pills contribute a negligible amount of synthetic estrogen to waterways, and EE2 is minimal or nonexistent in drinking water.8 The notion of unsuspecting Americans drinking water filled with birth control hormones may get headlines—but it does not accurately describe the state of the science.

The UCSF review cites several other sources of endocrine-disrupting compounds in our water, including synthetic estrogens in crop fertilizer (e.g., Atrazine), synthetic and natural estrogens from livestock, including dairy cows, which can be fed hormones to increase milk production, and an unknown number of industrial chemicals, like plastic additive bisphenol-A (BPA). Industrial chemicals may enter waterways either through chemical plant runoff or the disposal of products in landfills (Fig 1). Chemicals in pharmaceuticals such as anti-seizure medications and anti-depressants may also mimic estrogen.18 Furthermore, women using birth control are not the only ones flushing estrogen down the drain. Pregnant women excrete high levels of natural estrogens, and nearly everyone (both women and men) produce some amount of natural estrogens also released into wastewater.8


Either that or it's all the tofu.

As for cynicism, I like cynical men. they're true romantics at heart (how do you think they became cynical?).

Anyway, back to our regularly scheduled program...
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 835
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Posted: 4/2/2016 8:50:11 AM

There is nothing wrong with your television. Do not attempt to adjust the picture. We are now in control of the transmission. We control the horizontal and the vertical. We can deluge you with a thousands channels, or expand one single image to crystal clarity and beyond. We can shape your vision to anything our imagination can conceive. For the next hour, we will control all that you see and hear.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 836
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Posted: 4/2/2016 9:26:14 AM
It's funny how the word Court is used to describe both the beginning and the end of a relationship.
Courting------Divorce Court
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 837
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Posted: 4/2/2016 2:36:56 PM
Didn't miss it at all.
Some of those men are the same kind of crazy as me.
And, some aren't.

The posters I distrust are the one who angrily spread lies, half-truths, and rumors. I don't particularly like posters who are insulting to other posters or whine and blame their troubles on anyone but themselves (no matter how 'real' or not) even though they are occasionally entertaining.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 12/24/2015
Msg: 838
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Posted: 4/2/2016 5:10:15 PM
Where the hell is Lucy? Lucy!! Luuuuuceee!!!!! I HATE you people! She was entertaining me. Oh, Lucy :(
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 4/2/2016 5:32:06 PM
LOL Calm down baby, she had to delete and hide, hubby expected home. LOL
 cassie2425
Joined: 3/4/2016
Msg: 840
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Posted: 4/2/2016 5:34:35 PM
She said in one of the 5,000 posts in the last couple of days that she was self deleting as her husband was home. Sends like a healthy relationship.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 841
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Posted: 4/2/2016 5:51:36 PM
maybe they have separate beds, just like on the TV show.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 12/24/2015
Msg: 842
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Posted: 4/2/2016 6:08:36 PM
^ I'll not have her name cheapened by your... bedroom talk!

Wait! Like Earnie and Bert? I'd like to remember her that way :)
 Onyx49
Joined: 3/6/2016
Msg: 843
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Posted: 4/2/2016 6:20:47 PM
Courting is not a skill, it's more like a headache !!!
A smart man knows that all women want the same thing...a man and a meal.
If a woman wants sweet talk...she should find herself a stalker......
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 4/2/2016 6:50:33 PM
All this hoopla over a pushy, married woman that thinks we should all take her word as the gospel truth?

I don't think so.

How smart can one portray themselves, when she can't even use spellcheck?
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 845
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Posted: 4/2/2016 6:54:54 PM
She may be a shrewd lass.

She's doing something right to keep her man happy when he comes home from work :)
 ndm147
Joined: 8/1/2013
Msg: 846
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Posted: 4/2/2016 7:38:02 PM
Have nothing to say other than I was laughing over the comments people made.
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 847
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Posted: 4/3/2016 8:44:46 AM

I have a very happy life:) I have a happy marriage and run my own successful business and a good homelife

As we say in the South, 'how nice for you'.


Might as well have just said Lucy _:)

You're not that unique.
You're not the only one.

Onyx -

If a woman wants sweet talk...she should find herself a stalker......

No, we just talk to ourselves. Like this: "I have a very happy life.' LOL. Actually, some women have learned that men 'sweet talk' by touch.
I've never had any problems getting or giving sweet talk. I just have problems getting out the very Low Middle German and Old English words compromising bedroom talk.... it makes me stutter and blush red.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 848
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Posted: 4/3/2016 1:09:24 PM
hey whattababy, your wishes came true, loosey-goosey came back. Maybe you should make a wish come true for me, I want a bird, the large breasted swallow. meanwhile, have we decided that courting skills is a good thing? I thought "Courting" was a phrase from the days of knights and m'ladies, which typically were people of teen age, and thus all the dramatic sayings. I believe Tuney's Clutor said he had a good rate of return with courting, or was that another post?

speaking of other posts (oh no watch out, going off topic), I passed by an old classmate's house on the way home. according to the toys in the garage, if his single mother still lives there, so does he. at one point in time, we posted that was a big red flag, but as we get older and our parents get older, and TV shows have dads living with their bachelor sons (no doubt for comedic foil effect), is it more tolerable for children to be sharing space with elderly parents who might fall down and can't get up again? Or is it still something that happens only in Loserville, population them?
 kidreason29
Joined: 9/25/2015
Msg: 849
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Posted: 4/3/2016 6:04:28 PM
Actually the OP is right, even if she has princess syndrome or not, it is still correct.

Generally, it is how it works. But of course not always.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 850
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Posted: 4/3/2016 6:11:09 PM
^^^Yes, she is right, but because she has made it so obvious that she has a princess syndrome, the readers are less inclined to take her seriously/appreciate her input.

Everyone on this forum has their idée fixe though.

For some, the pet peeve is financial investment into dating. For some, women who choose to wait with intimacy. For some, women who ignore incoming messages without an explanation. For some, American/western women, because they're apparently spoiled and don't know their place. For some, women in general. The posters condition you to be annoyed with everything they say based on the fact that they talk about their idée fixe ad nauseam, even if sometimes they happen to make a valid point.
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