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 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 76
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Great post, Danimal.

When I first started coming here, it was actually way worse. Almost to the point of the forums not even being helpful because every OP was treated as a verbal punching bag, mocked and torn to pieces. I see more useful posts these days...people actually trying to make an effort, think things out and even follow up with some people.

It's the "thing" now to take a sociopathic "it doesnt matter what I say because it's the internet" point of view, and abuse people.

The temptation to put a screw into people's weaknesses proves to be too great for some. People come here revealing themselves, and people sh*t all over it.


I look forward to more productive and civil conversations here. I enjoy the "Dear Abby" aspect of it but not the cruel words, over the top cursing rants and selfish point of view that "I can do whatever the hell I want so shut the f*ck up."
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 77
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/1/2015 10:36:06 AM
"I really wonder if the people Eulogizing CTRLVector are doing so
because they liked having a 'purpose'
in these forums to correct the ignorance of others - namely him. "

It's tougher to stay polite and kind to new posters that really don't
know or understand the full content of this forum when you secretly
urge to be snarky and sarcastic.

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No differently than you seeming to think your purpose is to correct those "eulogizing"
without holding back your snarkiness and sarcasm.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 78
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/1/2015 12:22:57 PM
I'm curious about this " voting off" possibility.

How does one even do that?

How many people have to gang up on someone
to actually force them out?

How does it work?

And what infraction does it take to justify pushing that button?

Can you get back in? And how? I've seen Aradia slip back in and post
since she was voted off but not Curious in DB.

Will anyone in this thread admit to reporting vector?

Seems to me this place could find itself with a select few
left standing.

I've been banned before and it SUCKS to be put on the
defensive and then silenced!!!!

But I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved
for who I'm not sooo I guess it just comes with the territory!

Theres a few characters in here that could use a swift kick
off the forums but I wouldn't do it as I am good with free speech.
 midnite_icecream
Joined: 12/27/2014
Msg: 79
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 1:24:24 AM
Excusing this due to PTSD, anger, impatience, whatever is unfair to the people he attacked and, in effect, condones it.
If a physical assault is required before enough is enough, then frankly, you deserve the society you get.
I have seen other ex-military personnel similarly traumatized not behave anything like this.
I made the mistake to excuse the verbal assaults to another poster in a thread I posted in a while back.
Completely agree with what was said about the triggers (msg 83).
(And a quick thanks to CharminC).

 Axis555
Joined: 3/29/2015
Msg: 80
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 1:38:44 AM
Vector did some good posts but he was completely out of control. It would of been preferable if he realized his behavior was unacceptable and stopped it, rather than being booted. He has had his bullying behavior pointed out many times, he sees nothing wrong with it at all, and actually tries to justify it. So perhaps the time out will give him some time to reflect on how it really was not ok. I don't think he deleted his own profile, I would be surprised.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 81
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ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 3:30:30 AM
I'm kind of wondering if anybody else has been paying attention to our 'friend' and what he has written himself.... that not only did the guy have PTSD but was , self-admittedly, using drugs and NOT just prescription drugs at that, on a regular basis???? (Control Vector)

I have seen the effects of Effexor mixed with meth and it's NOT a pretty sight....
Which are the drugs that he was using....according to himself....if I remember correctly.

While I don't excuse the behaviour it just isn't reasonable to expect someone who is doing that to be rational in ANY way, imo...

It was quite obvious by his incoherence and viciousness exactly WHEN he was high as well....
Those were the times when I personally, just wouldn't engage with him and would ignore him and let him rant....

I'm hoping that he continues with his therapy, which I believe he mentioned he was in, but unfortunately, until and unless he stops mixing the illegal drugs with the legal ones, chances are that he will remain unstable, and will probably eventually end up in a really bad place....such as jail or dead.

Most addicts are on the higher end of the intelligence scale and CV is quite intelligent and talented....

Too bad that will probably go to waste, should he continue down this path....unfortunate but true....

CV...if you're reading this, I am sincere in saying, don't give up, get whatever help that you need, and don;t make the mistake of thinking that it will ALL go away if you squash your feelings enough....
There's a GOOD Life out there waiting for you, even if you don't believe that, let yourself have it my friend...you deserve it...as we all do.

As far as PTSD and the 'levels' or gradations....

Well, I remember during 911 when I was hearing about all of the people 'suffering from PTSD' who had witnessed the Towers come down.....on TV!!!!!! Many of these people were also living NOWHERE NEAR the Towers or NYC...

While PTSD can occur under many different circumstances....that, to me, is trivializing the disorder not to mention applying it in such a BROAD and general way, that it practically loses all meaning....

I can totally understand that someone who has been to Hell and back in REALITY, might have a problem with that.....
Far as I'm concerned, an adult who is that 'traumatized' by an event that they WEREN'T a part of, that they DID NOT personally witness, and that they were in NO WAY actually involved in, is ludicrous to say the least....

Of course, pay a shrink enough money and they'll produce a 'diagnosis' on demand these days it seems...for practically anything!!!

Sometimes it makes me long for the 'old days' when Mother Nature would have just 'selected out' those kinds of people, and that would have been the end of THAT!!!
 WhoamI_46
Joined: 3/28/2015
Msg: 82
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 10:43:43 AM
I for one, am glad to see Vector gone. I am not sure why there are so many people so sad to see him go.

He used these forums to vent his anger on innocent by-standers. To say that it is ok because he suffers from PSTD or other effects of drugs, is really just an excuse.

There comes a time in life when you live your life by choice, no matter how tramautic an event someone has gone through. You choice to live well, healthy, and to treat others with respect regardless of what you have been through. He made excuses for his behavior, and in the same note , was mistreating someone else for excusing their behavior because of a diagnosis.

I for one, have lived with my son who has ADHD my whole life. Vector seemed to think he knew everything there was to know about this, but I disagreed with him on these points. We went through a lot of crap during his 21 years of life, and I have seen him completely disrespect people because he didn't know what he was saying or doing. But I can tell you as his mother, I did not allow him to spew such hatred towards others because he didn't want to understand. I made him understand, and would not allow any self pity because of a diagnosis.

It is really too bad that vector was allowed to go on as long as he did. Have an opinion is one thing, but to blatantly disregard another person and fire filth towards them is another. It is a choice that I believe he used his pstd or drugs or whatever it may be as the reason he is doing it.

No , he was doing it because he had a fall back for his attitude instead of manning up and being a decent human being.

No one, in these forums or real life should be putting up with such vile accusations. He will not be missed by some I am sure.
 flaneur001
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 4/2/2015 11:33:30 AM
Dee
Far as I'm concerned, an adult who is that 'traumatized' by an event that they WEREN'T a part of, that they DID NOT personally witness, and that they were in NO WAY actually involved in, is ludicrous to say the least....


I would disagree. I've treated crown attorneys. jury members and parents in high profile child murder/torture case, I assure people who have to look at crime scene photos/videos, listen to coroners reports can be traumatized and can develop PTSD. That is why the DSM V has been changed to include family members and professionals who where not present during the traumatic incident....but have to process the post trauma experience.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 84
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 11:48:54 AM
Whoaml 46- He's been banned?!
I'm not sure he should stay gone.
I have seen the comments where he went too far and I'm not going to make that ok.
However, he has posted some really interesting, intelligent things, too.
If you look up my posting history, in another thread, I commented to mike1101 about PSTD, find it, you will see exactly how I feel about that issue.
Having seen it first hand, I recognize it.
When Vector got like that (angry/attacking), I just stayed away until he was on and sounding reasonable.
Maybe I'm a little TOO understanding for my own good, but I knew what was going on when he was angry.
My brother has add/adhd, he was diagnosed when it was barely heard of, both of my boys have it.
I have said this before, but I'm going to repeat it..............
My grandmother was REALLY frustrated with my brother at one point and took him to a specialist to try to get him under control (he had the type of ADHD that includes moments of out of control anger).
I wasn't there, but she came home and told me what the doctor said and I will NEVER forget it, it will stick with me for life and relates to what is going on with Vector.
"If you are upset, tired and frustrated, try to think how HE must feel inside"
That's what the doctor said to her.
Again, I'm not excusing the behavior, BUT none of us can TRULY understand what he feels like when he gets so angry.
I hope he comes back, because I enjoyed his posts when he was in a good frame of mind.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 85
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Posted: 4/2/2015 12:13:19 PM
My pardon flaneur, I misspoke....

Emergency workers and family members are one thing...or if dealing with some of your examples on a regular basis, even then I can see it....as in court reporters etc.

Watching an event like the collapse of the Towers...as traumatic as the reality was, and I saw the early shots where people were jumping to their Deaths, myself....on TELEVISION....
NOT the same thing at all....especially if you had nobody there yourself, etc.

The reason that I use that as an example, was because I remember seeing I think it was Dr. Phil, who was doing a 'special' on people who were diagnosed with PTSD as a result of having seen it on TV and had ZERO personal stake in this and were NOT involved in any way....
For me, that's just weak personal boundaries at work, there....

Perhaps that's judgmental of me, but then again, I wouldn't deal with people like that myself, the same as I never wanted to work with battered women....I AM human and have my limitations....and opinions, too, and know what I am and am not capable of dealing with....while retaining any degree of objectivity and being effective in helping the individual.
DSM or not, let's face it we know things are changed, revamped and even eliminated in that particular book....so while it's the Bible of psychology, does not mean that it is an infallible source of information.....

A friend of mine was in Crimes Against Persons, and was specializing in children...as in sexual abuse and torture, murder etc. Having to wade through that ALL day, yes, it CAN and does take a toll.....

She often shared many of the details in order to 'debrief' as she did while on a UN Mission in Haiti as well, and I have to say that as disturbing and shocking as much of it was, it was STILL not enough to engender PTSD in ME, for hearing about it....For HER however...a WHOLE other ballgame....she eventually made a decision that going on another mission in Bosnia was a better option than continuing in the force at home....

I had also experienced some real trauma myself, when I worked at Batshaw as well...by association, if you will....
Like the 13 yr old girl who had been 'gifted' with HIV as well as an unwanted pregnancy by a Father who thought that his daughter was really nothing more than his personal sexual plaything....13, no sorry, 14 yrs old and she believed that the best solution was to off herself, which she did....

Experiences like that can cause trauma to a degree, I'm just NOT on board with the 'looser' definitions that I keep hearing about it seems, these days especially....



@Whoami...while you are entitled to your own opinion regarding CV and his behaviour...for myself, expecting someone with his particular issues, engaging in that behaviour, to have virtually ANY degree of self-awareness and check himself...well, I'm thinking that IS his main problem at this point....
No excuses, just a possible explanation.....and I don't in any way condone how he behaved when he was 'off' , make no mistake....I just personally can't see a point to castigating someone who is that 'lost' imo....it is certain to fall on deaf ears....
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 86
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 12:51:18 PM
No one, including me,was making excuses for his
outbursts but I believe he had a valid argument
and valid reasons of his own for overreacting.

And yes his admission of using Meth may have
contributed to his outbursts.

All I know is he has a very decent side I won't
disregard or forget in light of this thread!

But then again I stayed married to an intermittent
verbal abuser for 24 years and I'm desensitized
by the F-word and anger combined!

I can easily read BETWEEN the lines and can dish it
as good as I can take it!
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 87
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 1:43:10 PM
Hearton64- I'm glad me, you and Dee understand.
It's never easy to put yourself in someone else's place and try to understand.
What's the saying?
Don't judge someone unless you've walked a mile in their shoes?
I truly think doing this is where compassion starts:)
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 88
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 2:47:44 PM
I've stayed away from this one because of the last outburst, and because "I know" how I felt at the time of the outburst and how I wanted to react at that time towards him.


BUT none of us can TRULY understand what he feels like when he gets so angry.


Yet, we agree, he does, correct? And we also agree he isn't a dummy. So, in saying all of that, would you not think, that with HIS knowledge, of HIS battle, along with HIS intelligence, he stay away from the verbal outlash at others around him, no matter the reason for his anger? As I suggested to him, during those moments of whatever was going on in his mind, he stay away until things settle down. I say this, especially with the forums, where communication is based on the written word, something that you can look at BEFORE you press "post".

But, he didn't, did he? And until HE figures how to battle the battle, I will suggest, and just a suggestion, his "reasons" never be HIS "excuse".

Very few people here, know, for a fact, the battles many face. Many DO NOT announce to all here our battles, and why they are there. Some of us KNOW how deal with them when they enter our arena, especially when we are dealing with others. When you, as an individual have knowledge of some your own personal "troubles", I would think, at the very least, you learn to deal with them with some regard with those around you. Yes, I can see why anger may enter the picture but, no, I do not understand the reaction to such anger, no matter how much anger one "feels".

The boy, with his own actions, has exposed, to me at least, more trouble than he is willing to admit, though he likes to believe he has given us all of his "history". And though he believes his "experiences" and his knowledge gives him one up on some of us, his ability to communicate this knowledge and experience is lacking. Until he gets a handle on how to communicate his feelings, whatever they may be, I will probably always take what he types with a big teaspoon of salt. His doing, not mine.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 89
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 2:54:45 PM
Bamagirl

Oddly enough I was going to post the exact thing!

Idk maybe I'm "too" compassionate at times
And maybe I can see that he was doing his level
best to be civil and express himself and he was told
to "watch his mouth" long before he went off
and that's exactly when he lost it.
It just saddens me that his points were lost
when he was forced to defend himself.

And then he was gone and how frustrating that must be!!
Not to mention LAME that he can't even defend himself now.

I get it and can understand his outburst and valid
anger and even his defensiveness.

He's been dismissed for his pov and then antagonized
And that just seems unfair to me.

He's been a lot more of an asset here than he's
been given credit, for that's for sure.

So yeah I've been in his shoes before and I can relate

Forums can be brutal.

I disagree with ALOT of people here and could
very easily GO OFF on them or better have them banned!

But I choose to steer clear so I don't snap all over
their sorry butts!
 slowitalldown
Joined: 1/25/2013
Msg: 90
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 3:46:51 PM
Wow I have been away for a bit and missed this entire thing.

I wouldn't give a free pass to anyone for the kind of behaviour CV showed. First of all he derailed the entire thread in which someone was asking for some actual advice and made it his personal little show.

Secondly, I don't see why it matters what was behind his outbursts. Fact is he doesn't have the right, according to the established rules of this forum, to treat people the way he did. It is entirely appropriate that he be removed. We don't have to allow uncontrolled behaviour just because we may understand where it comes from.

It's not actually helpful to anyone including CV to allow it to go on.
 lookinginco83
Joined: 3/20/2015
Msg: 91
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 4:49:28 PM
I missed most of this and noticed where it has risen and fallen in intensity. I'll add some thoughts to it.

PTSD is not majority "military hubris" as victims of rape, attempted murder, and other personal assaults of intensely violent nature suffer from it. I have actually encountered more lifetime civilians who claim PTSD than Veterans of Iraq and Afghanistan, and that says a lot considering most people I know are from that generation of Veterans.

PTSD may development lightly or severely dependent on the willpower and psychological fortitude of the individual. By psychological fortitude, I am referring to an individual's capacity to withstand, tolerate, and move forward from the incident that may or may not cause PTSD. Example: I've seen enough shit this lifetime that I literally don't get bugged by reading about a murder that happened 5 miles away from where I live. Why? I've been to a place where car bombings destroyed three busy Iraqi markets in a day. It takes time to build that kind of mental strength, but it is possible.

OP: Ask the guy to seek treatment versus turning you into a soundboard. Make it a condition of the relationship, and if he refuses, end the relationship. You can be a support a person going through shit that is working towards getting better, but you can't support a person who is drowning in a pile of self-pitiful shit voluntarily.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 92
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 5:07:30 PM
Let's not forget his contribution of the Swiss Seat either.
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 93
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 5:48:34 PM
Who “judged” him? If anyone was judged, it was the OP and at least one other poster who said they have PTSD, as well, by Vector screaming that they don’t have the right to have PTSD.

Go back and actually read the thread.

OP:
But here's the issue, this guy experienced a little kid drowning in a pool while he was at someone's house, so that caused him to get PTSD - Post traumatic stress disorder….


Did that really deserve his unrelenting, hateful wrath?

Now the OP is gone, too. She didn’t deserve to have her thread hijacked, and contributing posters attacked and THEIR pain minimized, actually rejected just because he said so. Why was it okay for Vector to disregard and ridicule THEIR pain and suffering, with profanity and vulgarity, as if he’s the only person on earth who suffers? Why is no one weeping for them?

Walts:
Very few people here, know, for a fact, the battles many face. Many DO NOT announce to all here our battles, and why they are there. Some of us KNOW how deal with them when they enter our arena, especially when we are dealing with others.


I completely agree…not everybody billboards their battles on these forums. That doesn’t mean there are none.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 94
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 9:34:22 PM
Walts- The trouble with PSTD is that it involves impulse control. He's see's something that angers him and you might and well try to harness a tornado.
What set him off, I think, was some one using something as an example of PSTD that wasn't PSTD, since Vecor lives with it every day, something like that is GOING to trigger his anger.
I guess we will have to see when he comes back, maybe he will do as you have suggested and take a time out before posting, which might be a good idea for many of us.
Otherwise I stand strong in my support of Vector.
WHY?
Because I think those intelligent, well spoken comments that we have gotten from him are MORE the REAL him than his angry side.
 midnite_icecream
Joined: 12/27/2014
Msg: 95
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 10:01:03 PM

Why is no one weeping for them?

Nah who cares about that when there's the prophesied Second Coming to await.
 PenelopeLeChat
Joined: 7/29/2014
Msg: 96
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/2/2015 11:05:46 PM
One thing I have wondered about, through out his posting is his claim of having ADHD and Dyslexia. How did he clear his MEPS in order to join the Army? The rules have relaxed a lot since 2004, but prior to that it was an automatic disqualifier.

This is taken from an Army website on disqualifying medical conditions for the Army.

http://army.com/info/usa/physical

Learning, psychiatric and behavioral disorders

" Attention Deficit Disorder/Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or Perceptual/Learning Disorder(s) does not meet the standard, unless applicant can demonstrate passing academic performance and there has been no use of medication(s) in the previous 12 months.
Current or history of academic skills or perceptual defects secondary to organic or functional mental disorders, including, but not limited to dyslexia, that interfere with school or employment. Applicants demonstrating passing academic and employment performance without utilization or recommendation of academic and/or work accommodations at any time in the previous 12 months may be qualified."

What happened with CVect is very sad. So many things going on there that we will never really know the extent of. I think it is safe to say, most of us wish him well and that he gets the help and treatment he needs.

Le Pew
 PenelopeLeChat
Joined: 7/29/2014
Msg: 97
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Posted: 4/3/2015 6:25:54 AM
Vicki

According to this thread he didnt say he had ADHD, he doesnt even appear to know what it is (thats your learning Vector, your wrong), he said he had Dyslexia.


CVect- msg 21
This kid throws caution to the wind - and blames his actions on PTSD, and two developmental disorders. Dyslexia being another DD that I also share with the OP's date.


I probably should have said through his entire posting history... I do think he has stated before that he (and his brother) have ADHD. He very well knows what it encompasses and also argues in msg 41, there are less adults then children with ADHD. In the quote above he refers to OP's date as having PTSD and two DD's and then says Dyslexia is another he shares with him. Which is a total of 3 DD's when the OP only related 2?

Like another poster (Dee?) pointed out, he recently mentioned he had stopped his meds and admits to using other drugs. He also hinted at if he was "off", that was why. So please do not make excuses for his poor behavior. I won't, however that does not negate my compassion for his health and hope he finds the right care for himself.

BTW, my formal education is in Sp. Ed. with focus on Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADD/ADHD, Severe Behavior Disorders and Adjudicated Youth. I can say that in all of the group settings I have participated in, CV's behavior wouldn't have been tolerated.


Ive written this with my views and opinions in an attempt to clarify and help. I dont mean it as an attack on anyone and without the PTSD would say all had valid points. However, once the PTSD has been established I just feel people need to support the individual and take a different approach IMO. Sorry if I offend anyone.


Vicki, I don't think any of us are hurt or offended. There have been a lot of very good points made and raw feelings expressed. I think we all wish him the best.

On Topic,
If MB is still reading, I wonder if your friend has "graphlexia? in addition to the dyslexia? I do think the poster who suggested asking him to seek therapy as part of the condition to you dating him, had it right.

As Always,
Le Pew
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 98
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/3/2015 6:41:09 AM
This horse is one tough SOB.

Somebody check for a pulse...
 DeepakTolle
Joined: 3/18/2015
Msg: 99
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/3/2015 6:44:33 AM
^^^^^ There are pros and cons to no mods, wouldn't you agree Cloon ?
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 100
ADHD, Dyslexia and PTSD How to Deal with Someone Like This When Dating?
Posted: 4/3/2015 7:05:37 AM

Dismissed. IMO he is correct, I also believe that Soldiers and Policemen should have their own diagnosis, I think they have earnt it. Not disregarding anyone elses but I think a distinction should be made for no other reason than the job they do to support the rest of us. I think it is an insult to those services. Im angry about it and Im not even in the service nor a sufferer.


I have a question for everyone. I've meet men and women that have had PTSD, from mild to really intense. There are a lot of reasons for it.

Yet, and here's the question. I've met plenty of doctors that have seen combat and treated patients bleeding all over the place. I've known doctors that worked in ERs and saw shattered bones, intense blood, dismemberment and death.

Yet hardly ever, do I hear of them talking about PTSD. Why? Are they immune to it? Do they just keep it inside and not talk about it? Or something else. Your thoughts?
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