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 tacitly
Joined: 9/16/2015
Msg: 275
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"Her dating prospects are close to nil, thanks to that requirement."

Her dating prospects are nil because somehow in her development, she failed to comprehend that dating, like love, is give and take and it can't always be about her.
 Whatsamatterbaby
Joined: 5/6/2015
Msg: 276
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Posted: 9/20/2015 9:01:25 AM
Oh, for crying out loud - enough about Literate Hiker! Why are MY dating prospects nil, hmm? HMM??
 HalftimeDad
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 277
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Posted: 9/20/2015 9:02:43 AM
Well, you live in Kamloops and can't stand hockey or country music.

That one was too easy. Give me a tough one.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 278
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 9/20/2015 9:04:47 AM
"Oh, for crying out loud - enough about Literate Hiker! Why are MY dating prospects nil, hmm? HMM??"

Change your screen name to LiterateHiker2.
 LuvFishes
Joined: 7/1/2011
Msg: 279
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 9/26/2015 4:52:40 PM
OP Throttle_ Junkie "Re: Dealbreakers in a profile"

LOL I just went in and put deal breakers in: I'm 58 and because it takes a lot of guts for many(not all) males to write. I use to spend all my time trying to be kind and say "Thank You but no thanks..." then the darn computer will think I prefer that males profile and start loading me with that personality, smoker etc... Do I instigate emails, absolutely if I'm interested. But I also send emails to tell a guy, what a great profile. I think we all need to encourage each other. I don't want to compete with someone who's 20+ yrs. my Junior either. But that is just me.

Dating is hard enough online. Weeding through the one's seeking someone to fix them (I'm no fixer), the predators who are seeking to bed/use a person, and just finding good people can be difficult. But they are out there. My problem is my matches live in Raleigh/Wilmington which is just too far. Not doing the long distance thing.

So good luck, I am with you on specifics. I like direct...
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 280
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 9/26/2015 6:29:57 PM
My entire profile is an intentional deal breaker (including the caption on my "misleading profile picture"). And the funny thing is, I am getting more "Meet Me" hits. LMFAO
 baconflavoredbacon
Joined: 9/12/2015
Msg: 281
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Posted: 9/27/2015 3:22:14 AM
No biggie, "Mamet me" hits are worthless.
 pepperstrand
Joined: 1/25/2015
Msg: 282
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Posted: 9/27/2015 8:22:19 AM
You need to clarify, most women have children in their 50's and 60's.
 PassionateSunnyGal
Joined: 7/23/2015
Msg: 283
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 10/7/2015 9:30:45 PM

"Her dating prospects are close to nil, thanks to that requirement."


Sorry that is bullshit, here in Tampa almost everyone is out and about all year long--so it's not her requirement that is the issue-it is maybe her location.

See to try and say someone has a high standard etc is so wrong, it's like you are trying to tell the person what they should like...well I'd say bravo for Literate for knowing what she wants and not compromising on it...

This concept of being clones of what most people think everyone should be and do so you have more choices is complete bullshit...now we have to weed out a ton of PRETEND people to find ones who are what they say.
 baconflavoredbacon
Joined: 9/12/2015
Msg: 284
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Posted: 10/8/2015 5:50:17 AM
My profile is scant. When I tried to change it to add more depth about my love for bacon, I think it was disapproved.

Anyways, just there mere mention of the word "bacon" And having no interest in a relationship get 'em very excited.
 coffeetogo127
Joined: 5/16/2015
Msg: 285
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 10/8/2015 10:25:47 AM
I want to know why my dating prospects are nil too!

Oh and I'm in my 50's- my children are all grown up, I am happy if they ask me to do anything they are so busy with their own lives!! No grand kids either. So I know its not that!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 286
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 10/8/2015 11:31:44 AM
^^^"I want to know why my dating prospects are nil too!"

Could the fact that your profile says you're just here for the forums have something to do with it-at least with this site?
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 287
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 10/8/2015 11:48:09 AM

Posted by coffeetogo127:
"I want to know why my dating prospects are nil too!"

Your current POF profile will dissuade the vast majority of men from ever making initial contact.
You very clearly state that you are NOT dating and that you are on POF strictly for the Forums.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 288
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Posted: 10/8/2015 1:07:39 PM
^^^^I think it was meant as a rhetorical statement. There was no question mark at the end of the sentence.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 289
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 10/8/2015 2:00:32 PM
Smokes often is probably the ONLY Deal-breaker for me. I have seen at least a lady or two put Drinks regularly (often?) but at a Fishmeet one lady told me it's because she has a glass of wine most nights with her meal. Not sure what the choices are for Drug use are, but even a lady who smokes those "special little cigarettes" would not be a good match for me.

A plus is any lady sharp enough to put some dates on at least one of her pics if not ALL of them. I suppose people could fudge the dates though? Eight nice pics w/o a date to be found on any probably means something but it does no good to speculate on it.

Does it?
 coffeetogo127
Joined: 5/16/2015
Msg: 290
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 10/8/2015 4:58:37 PM
It was semi rhetorical, lol, thanks hs.

I guess I should have clarified my post- I am not here for dating right now, but I have in the past, and I am pretty sure my profile always covered the basics as has been discussed so many times before here.

But honestly, its been a tough go dating!
(Eric, I have been contacted by way more men now that I put I am not dating, than I ever did before! And I did even go on a date with one, just because he seemed like a match when we chatted. But when I met him and we talked more, so much bitterness and estrangement towards his family was revealed. :( )
 acads
Joined: 6/11/2012
Msg: 291
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Posted: 10/9/2015 12:46:26 PM

She likes to do the equivalent of the Bataan Death March every day and twice on Sundays.


Sounds great to me, what state.
 Akitahun
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 292
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Posted: 10/25/2015 12:11:53 AM
I won't date anyone who will not date a woman his own age. Ridiculous when a woman's age automatically disqualifies her.
 grover14
Joined: 2/14/2014
Msg: 293
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Posted: 10/25/2015 9:33:56 AM
On the other hand, I got chewed out in a message for rejecting a gal 8 years younger than me. I'm retired and would like to find someone retired or close to it. Someone to travel with and enjoy all the spare time to do fun stuff.
 LuvFishes
Joined: 7/1/2011
Msg: 294
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 1/13/2016 10:55:48 PM
OP I can only speak 4 myself: I have Deal Breakers and it weeds out quite a bit 4 me.
But I will tell you just because you think you've found the one... chances are you haven't. Had what I thought was the one, some red flags surfaced... gave the benefit of the doubt and stumbled on porn, conversations with some of the slut trash that is on every date website all the while dating me, professing love for me, in church professing Faith/Communion and walking out and doing the crude. So I say deal breakers and likes are good things but you have to trust your intuition about people. I can forgive but the forgetting, check it off as a new lesson learned about good guy gone bad. Just sayin, your mileage may vary.
 kwik_kiss
Joined: 3/20/2015
Msg: 295
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Posted: 2/6/2016 8:36:48 AM
The only deal breaker I have is that the person I am chatting with is open to being asked questions about the profile he posted. I was chatting with a guy who told me "it seems to me you are picking me apart and not wanting to know me at all". In actuality that is how you get to know someone. Some people are just nitwits imo.
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 296
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Posted: 2/6/2016 10:39:59 AM
I won't date anyone who will not date a woman his own age. Ridiculous when a woman's age automatically disqualifies her.
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Yes, that is one of my deal breakers as well. People here tend to hate on me because I "only" got a few years older than my age, but they have no idea how many men on all sorts of dating sites will ONLY date women younger than themselves, not even same age, or God forbid, a few years older. I'm talking men my age or older for the most part. When I was still on Match, I would get tons of messages from guys in their 50s and 60s whose age requirements were 25-45. Then they would complain to me that I "needed" (!) to raise my age limit (of course, they didn't see that they should do the same, what a joke).
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 297
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 2/6/2016 10:44:39 AM

Ridiculous when a woman's age automatically disqualifies her.



Yes, that is one of my deal breakers as well



A much better definition of irony than you can find in any dictionary, including Webster's.
 coffeetogo127
Joined: 5/16/2015
Msg: 298
Dealbreakers and +'s in a profile
Posted: 2/6/2016 8:39:05 PM
LuvFishes, I am curious about some of your comments. I am not a religious person, but are you saying that if someone watches porn, or engages in sex talk online that that that is contradictory to their attending church? Can't someone enjoy porn or sex talk and still be a good religious person?
 OneInAQuadrillion
Joined: 10/1/2017
Msg: 299
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Posted: 10/24/2017 1:18:48 PM
"grandmother"

Not interested.
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