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 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 26
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The rare time it's happened to me, it was always the first time because of nerves.

I am quick to apologize instead of pretending it's going to happen after a lot of work on her part. That's BS

The women were sympathetic and yeah, the 2nd time was fine:)

So please give him 2 chances ladies...
 Literate_Hiker
Joined: 1/1/2015
Msg: 27
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Posted: 6/22/2015 10:29:53 PM
I started making jokes: "Hang a towel on it." "Is that thing real?" "Go away." "Quit waving that thing around." "You could poke someone's eye out."

A three-hour erection courtesy of Viagra. We had used up two hours. I was DONE, thank you very much. Any more and I'd be sore.

He was delighted with himself. "Look what I got!" "How long will it last?" "Hate to waste a good erection."

"Oh, dear," I said. I opened a book. It was impossible to read. I had to keep an eye on him. It was comical.
 Whatsamatterbaby
Joined: 5/6/2015
Msg: 28
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Posted: 6/22/2015 10:35:29 PM
^ But HOW LONG DID IT TAKE TO TAKE EFFECT?

If you don't mind my asking.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 29
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Posted: 6/22/2015 10:37:34 PM
Jane Fonda made some good humor of Viagra.

She cautioned men to discuss when the time should be right together, instead of assuming the time would be after she walked in the door.

Point being, don't assume your gal is ready asap once she comes home...

Hahahhahahaha
 Literate_Hiker
Joined: 1/1/2015
Msg: 30
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Posted: 6/22/2015 10:38:44 PM
It took 30 minutes for the full effect (pun intended).
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 31
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Posted: 6/22/2015 11:41:25 PM

^^^ I would prefer not.
Here in Oz, Viagra or Cialis or similar is over $20 per tablet.

Oh wow. Yeah, in the past I've had my "whiskey d!ck", and also generally "blah" times where if I wasn't horny or she wasn't hot or knew to play the flute like a porn star to get the motor running -- I figured maybe buying some off-brand cialis would be good. I also have a couple of friends who use propecia which is a permanent "under par" in that performance dept. But yeah, online it's expensive. But you can get it overseas online in the right places at not a terribly high price. Key is to get a high level mg and just break it into 3rds. So instead of paying $5 a dose at the cheap places, you're paying much less per dose. Plus, they last several days, so taking it on a Thurs will cover that and thru Sunday.

And to answer the question on how long it takes that to "kick in"... Well, they don't kick in "down there" by themselves automatically. Ya don't know how good the fire will be until you start rubbing the sticks together - lol. Tadalafil (Cialis) will warm your face up a bit if you're not an active user of it... varied for me. Would take a couple hours to fully kick in. But again, it'd last days, not hours, so no timing on the dosage needed.

You don't want to take too much of it. My friend took full 20mgs of it every weekend for months, being in his 30s (but on Propecia). After he stopped taking the stuff, it was more difficult than before he delved into the stuff, to get it up for several weeks. Point being, he took more than he needed that had some backlash. IMO, take only the mgs you need. One may not need very much.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 32
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Posted: 6/23/2015 12:51:34 AM
I am assuming these guys were in their fifties? If they are having erectile problems then they are obviously not that fit. However Viagra would help if they dont have heart issues I am assuming.

I wouldnt be asking about their sexual abilities until you are in a situation where it is on the cards. Certainly not upfront.

It may well be a reason why they are using dating sites and looking for that magic woman who will instantly give them the elusive erection. Moving on when nothing happens. Otherwise they would be having success in real life if they were a red hot lover. However if it is within a couple of dates, the guy could just be nervous with a new woman and you may need to be a bit patient.

The answer may be to go for guys in their forties, plenty of attractive older women, do. Grrr!!!
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 33
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Posted: 6/23/2015 1:33:47 AM

Tadalafil (Cialis) will warm your face up a bit if you're not an active user of it... varied for me. Would take a couple hours to fully kick in. But again, it'd last days, not hours, so no timing on the dosage needed.


You're in your early 30's and need this stuff?


where if I wasn't horny or she wasn't hot or knew to play the flute like a porn star to get the motor running


So....when you were horny it did'nt matter if she wasn't hot.....but when your not it falls on her to be the porn star because of your physical inadequacies?
 GattoMonstrosis
Joined: 4/4/2013
Msg: 34
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Posted: 6/23/2015 3:30:36 AM
There's no way to tactfully ask someone if Mr Wiggly is on life support, you say mislead though, does that mean you talk about sex, they don't say anything is wrong and then you find out there isn't enough lead in their pencil to blow the brain out of a gnat? Short of giving a five knuckle shuffle under the table i really can't think of any reliable way to check that out before it's time to stand up and be counted.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 35
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Posted: 6/23/2015 3:53:09 AM
How would one engage this type of conversation without being somewhat boorish and crude?
One would think that kind of conversation would occur as the knickers / knicknacks were hitting the floor.

Should the man respond:
"Now we've got me addressed, can you be 100% certain there is ample snap left in that 'thang?"
 Eternitygracesme
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 36
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Posted: 6/23/2015 4:02:13 AM
Some people are delusional and think they are god's greatest gift to vagina ever created. When the time comes, they don't -- there isn't anything aroused at all! (They then say it's because they have some issue they're taking care of -- never explaining that issue -- and after awhile you see what's what.) The problem isn't so much the dysfunction of the organs itself more than it is the lie that all works well that is created to keep somebody, that annoys me.

If it's discussed tactfully and honestly, people can make decisions accordingly, when that time happens. I don't come out and ask middle-aged men interested in me if they can function (I'd wager more often than not that they'll lie through their teeth), especially if I don't know if it'll get to that step. There are always exceptions like nervousness, mindfulness, and medical issues that are being addressed but that are ongoing, to consider.

If somebody's honest, he'll offer up that information or there are tell tale signs when the time is about to happen and maybe that's when the questions should happen.

At this stage of my life, I'm still highly functional and would prefer a partner who is that the same. SInce, I don't abuse food and stockpile my hutches and cupboards full of junk food, smoke nor abuse drugs (and sex), I would prefer a partner who keeps the same reverence with his body (not perfectly), at least reasonably and not be in extremes either way.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 37
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Posted: 6/23/2015 5:38:35 AM

Now I'm curious. And a question for the women on here. Are you offended by the man using "Outside help"?


BUT you had a good question, do women object to men using Viagra?

I think some women will take it personally and fear you need to take it because they don't really do it for you naturally. Silly I know, but that's women.

I am assuming these guys were in their fifties? If they are having erectile problems then they are obviously not that fit. However Viagra would help if they dont have heart issues I am assuming.

Exactly...that can be a sign of unhealthy lifestyle.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 38
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Posted: 6/23/2015 5:45:49 AM
Eric - I don't feel it has to be discussed during a first meet but it def does. NWG made the point that if his member doesn't function it is often the, wait for it WOMAN'S FAULT. rightttttt. But I think some women would fault themselves ( I wasn't pretty enough, hot enough) so it should be mentioned. I wonder how many men say " gee that has never happened before" when it has indeed. Less embarassing to talk about it before than after.
Never known anyone who used the magic meds, as long as their Doctor says it is safe for them wouldn't bother me.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 39
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Posted: 6/23/2015 5:48:52 AM

But you can get it overseas online in the right places at not a terribly high price. Key is to get a high level mg and just break it into 3rds.


Ya, now I see generic Viagra (Sildenafil) online in London for $15 for 4 tabs of 100 mgs each. That's more what I would be willing to pay.

Cialis is $47 for 4 tabs of 20 mgs each. ( I assume I would need a prescription for both of these, but likely for something this innocuous I could get an online doctor/prescription, again far cheaper than the USA)

I buy most all my prescription drugs online out of London. I hadn't had health insurance for ~ 15 years, though I have had it this year. So I have researched the cheapest places to get high quality health care of all types.

Now that I have insurance I know they will not cover some drugs I want to use, or the co-pays still make the drug less expensive to buy in London.

The extremely high price of even generic drugs in the USA is another subject entirely.
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
Msg: 40
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Posted: 6/23/2015 7:03:58 AM
My guess is that a lot of ED, even through the later decades, is avoidable.

A healthy plant-dominated diet, eliminating or minimizing stuff from mammals, and moderate activity to achieve/maintain lean weight, cardiovascular/pulmonary fitness, avoiding overweight, obesity, CVD, atherosclerosis, diabetes, etc, all which can contribute to ED.

Fat is not passive, but releases chemicals and hormones which unbalance the testosterone and estrogen hormonal balance, in both males and females.

Then there is the ingestion of estrogen analogues like BPA from plastics, and estrogenic plants like unfermented soy. BigChem, BigFood disable, poison you over the decades, "death by a 1000 cuts", and then BigPharma will fix you up (for a life-long price).

d!ck hardeners work by dilating ALL blood vessels, not just those of the d!ck, which is hardeners are risky for people on BP meds. The hardeners can cause a quite big drop in BP, bringing a sometimes fatal vascular "event". No, ladies, he didn't die from loving you so much. :)
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 41
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Posted: 6/23/2015 7:50:34 AM

Posted by satx78218:
"...No, ladies, he didn't die from loving you so much. :)..."

Classic!
Concur on importance of maintaining a fit and healthy lifestyle with good diet, pure water, good exercise, and sleep.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 42
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Posted: 6/23/2015 8:35:57 AM

WomanInProgress
What is it they say in marketing? If it's not brand new or greatly improved it should sell itself without advertising. If you have to pitch it all the time it's a pretty safe bet sales are down.

Just because “sales are down”, that is no indication that performance is lacking!


Walts
You girls can talk and ask all you want.

But, remember, most of guys lie thru our teeth, and will say anything to get anything. Even if we are unable to get it even when it's given to us. We men, are phucked up.

Damn, Walts, you are NOT supposed to give away this secret. Your man card can be revoked, you know!


Don't worry though girls, you are running a close second.

Now that’s more like it! (handing back his man card)


purplerider1200
I saw on the 'net a couple weeks ago about a pill that helps out the ladies with lubrication issues. I certainly wouldn't mind if I had lady that needed that sort of help.

I have encountered women that needed help with lubrication, but did not have any available. Which seemed very short sighted to me. I mean, I carry a condom in my pocket, but it’s kind of hard to hide a bottle of lube in your pants pocket.

“That’s a very strange looking cell phone in your pocket.”

“Why, yes, dear. That is the very latest design, it helps me to communicate with your vajayjay.”


purplerider1200
I'll freely admit that I'm not on all the time. I found it easier to ask my physician for them. My reward was that he had samples, and gave me some. Buuut, at eight bucks a crack, she better be worth it!

Buy the 100 mg Viagra from India, quantity 100 at $150 delivered. Cut them in half with a pill cutter (WalMart pharmacy, $4), and you have 50 mg Viagra (standard dosage) for $0.75 each.

If you don’t need 200 ( I WISH I did!), then split the order with your friends.

Whatsamatterbaby
^ But HOW LONG DID IT TAKE TO TAKE EFFECT?

If you don't mind my asking.

The information from the drug company says 20 minutes. If a man has a naked, willing woman in front of him, and can’t think of anything interesting to kill 20 minutes, he might as well shoot himself.

The only problems I ever have are “performance anxiety”, which is what clooneystutor was talking about. If I’m having a problem due to nerves, I can pop the pill and then I KNOW things are going to work. That confidence usually means that the pill works for me almost instantaneously.
 Literate_Hiker
Joined: 1/1/2015
Msg: 43
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Posted: 6/23/2015 8:56:30 AM
One man who developed diabetes at age 40 joked that he cannot ejaculate without 14 hours of vigorous masturbation.

"Is ED a deal breaker for you?" he asked. "There are infinite ways to sexually pleasure each other without penetration," I replied tactfully. I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

Above the age of 50, the likelihood of having difficulties with an erection occurs in 50%-60% of men with diabetes. Above age 70, there is about a 95% likelihood of having some difficulty with erectile function. He was pushing 70.

Why do men with diabetes have erectile dysfunction?

"To get an erection, men need healthy blood vessels, nerves, male hormones, and a desire to be sexually stimulated. Diabetes can damage the blood vessels and nerves that control erection. Therefore, even if you have normal amounts of male hormones and you have the desire to have sex, you still may not be able to achieve a firm erection."

Source: "Erectile Dysfunction and Diabetes," Web MD, July 30, 2013.
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 44
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Posted: 6/23/2015 9:24:42 AM

Are you offended by the man using "Outside help"?


Knowing sexual capability or lack beforehand is comforting since I'll realize it's not because he doesn't think I'm the hottest thing since the Carolina Reaper. However, it isn't something I want to know on the first few dates.


So please give him 2 chances ladies...


Always. At least.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 6/23/2015 9:57:14 AM

You're in your early 30's and need this stuff?

NEED? No. Even with most guys who drank too much on a given night, are on other medication like Propecia that dwindles Mr Happy, or have anxiety issues don't NEED it as THE means to make Mr Happy consistently be ready for game-time. But it is an incredibly effective one that requires the least amount of work -- and even the placebo effect of taking it by itself is all good if one's in that dept. Sure, one can say no wacking it, no porn, consistent exercise, non-pill form of resolving anxiety issues (if an issue) -- or they can take a small bite out of a pill, and not have to worry about any other means.

So....when you were horny it did'nt matter if she wasn't hot

When anyone's horny, they're less picky. When one isn't chemically in-the-mood, they're going to be more picky, yes.

but when your not it falls on her to be the porn star because of your physical inadequacies?

If you drink too much, have social anxieties, and/or on certain meds that makes Mr Happy shy by default -- and a gal doesn't like foreplay and just wants to get right to it -- yeah, if she's hot, you're less in need of "being on top of your A game" in things that effect it down there. If she's on the other end of looks spectrum -- yeah, don't drink, don't jerk off for a week, take low doses on any meds, meditate beforehand, and break out the Viagra - lol (obviously exaggeration on that, but you get my point).
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 46
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Posted: 6/23/2015 11:01:44 AM
When I'm up at bat, I'm bringin' a slugger!

Enhanced home runs are a fan fave.
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 47
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Posted: 6/23/2015 11:51:15 AM


purplerider1200
I saw on the 'net a couple weeks ago about a pill that helps out the ladies with lubrication issues. I certainly wouldn't mind if I had lady that needed that sort of help.


I have encountered women that needed help with lubrication, but did not have any available. Which seemed very short sighted to me. I mean, I carry a condom in my pocket, but it’s kind of hard to hide a bottle of lube in your pants pocket.


Ohenryx - they do come in individual packets as well and it will snug up nicely against the condom in your pocket. Just make sure to feel to find out which is which before opening..
 J3LV3HL_WV3JP
Joined: 4/5/2015
Msg: 48
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Posted: 6/23/2015 11:59:29 AM
Viagra gives me a stuffy nose. So, if it's the middle of the Summer and the guy is having trouble breathing, he might be on Viagra.

I, personally, had ED for 4 years. Then I went to a doctor and he told me I had an enlarged prostrate. A quick operation to trim it down and I was back to normal. But I kept the Viagra prescription. Because I can go for DAYS when I take one of them.

As long as I don't suffocate first.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 6/23/2015 2:26:30 PM


Alright, for a start, it is NOT a "Prostrate", it is a "Prostate"


I did not know that, I've been wrong all this time. Thanks for info.
 J3LV3HL_WV3JP
Joined: 4/5/2015
Msg: 50
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Posted: 6/23/2015 2:33:03 PM

Alright, for a start, it is NOT a "Prostrate", it is a "Prostate"


I apologize for my typo. I promise to scan all of my future posts with a spell-check and employ a few Korean migrants to give it a good second go-round before I post.
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