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 123nightmoves
Joined: 6/2/2015
Msg: 51
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I'm with you regarding prostate and "prostrate", I've worked on a charity event for 9 years raising awareness for prostate cancer so I hear "prostrate" at least once a week.

We all get older and some have health issues. Women hit menopause and desire can either increase or decrease or there are lubrication issues or...some just don't want to bother with sex anymore. Men have erectile issues or....some just don't want sex anymore. It's a fair topic to bring up to both genders "do you like sex". And how much sex? Someone who likes sex twice a week would not be happy with someone who wants it once a month. Some find their libido increases with a new partner.

Some seem to think it's okay to ask financial questions on the second date or sooner yet can't bring up the topic of sex. Odd.
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 52
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Posted: 6/23/2015 3:19:20 PM

..............and a gal doesn't like foreplay and just wants to get right to it -- yeah, if she's hot,

So let me get this straight. If SHE is HOT, you're less in need of 'being on top of your A game", because of course a hot chick doesn't desire to have sex with a man who IS on top of his A game, ANDDDDDD here's the punchline. No need for foreplay because of course a woman is all wet and ready to go at just the thought of sex???????

WTF???????? Am I the only woman here who picked up on this????????
????NO foreplay????? ???A gal who doesn't like foreplay???? Wants to get right to it????
ARE you serious?
Got news for somebody. IT IS foreplay, in all its different forms that gets us women READY! SOMETHING has to start us up, to get our engines running!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It may only take 5 minutes, but without foreplay, OUCH!!!!
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 53
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 6/23/2015 3:30:39 PM
LadyInRed4755...my foreplay technique is simply to enter the darkened boudoir with my suave and debonair aura.
LOL. ;-)
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 54
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Posted: 6/23/2015 3:39:10 PM
LMAOROTF......eric, eric, How could I not laugh! Thank you!
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 55
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 6/23/2015 3:49:49 PM

..............and a gal doesn't like foreplay and just wants to get right to it -- yeah, if she's hot


No wonder enhancement drugs are needed.....

You're throwing 80 pct. of the experience out the window... side of the neck, nape of the neck, shoulders, behind the ears, light scrapes of the finger nails along her side and back.....if you can't help her achieve at least one orgasm or on the brink before you even get to the nether regions you're in epic fail mode.

That's about the most risque post I've ever made so I'm going to go hide my embarassment. ;)
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 56
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 6/23/2015 4:04:06 PM

Buuut, at eight bucks a crack, she better be worth it!


You can always insist she go dutch to get your d!ck up.


BUT you had a good question, do women object to men using Viagra?


I’d rather be with a healthy man.


Yeah, in the past I've had my "whiskey d!ck"


Viagara isn’t for “whiskey d!ck.” although the portrait you paint of an ugly girl slobbering over your limp noodle while you pass out in an alcohol haze is really attractive. :/ Sober up and do it naturally or you may regret using it when you didn’t need it. Probably mixing prescription meds that affect your blood pressure with alcohol ain’t that bright either.


and a gal doesn't like foreplay


is probably a hooker. You sound like a real romantic considerate passionate lover.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 57
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Posted: 6/23/2015 4:33:38 PM
It is a shame that a guy in his thirties would need it. I think that you can become psychologically addicted and feel you cant perform without it, perhaps. It would give me pause that a guy that young would need it and be offputting if I were a young woman around that age as well as men who drink so much as to impair the sexual function.....
 Kay9876
Joined: 7/4/2012
Msg: 58
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Posted: 6/23/2015 5:08:33 PM

Msg. 24: REGULAR aerobic exercise (for men or women) along with a "good" diet and laying off booze, drugs and cigarettes is THE closest thing to the "Fountain of Youth" that scientists are aware of. This is well documented and has many "nice" side effects of all kinds.

The internet is full of articles about a recent study that reports two-thirds of American women and three-fourths of American men are overweight. For both men and women, the percentage who are obese is greater than the percentage who are merely overweight. Because weight-related health issues can impact erectile function, I suspect ED among American men 55 or older is more prevalent than most men want to believe. It’s unfortunate (not only for sexual reasons) because it’s so preventable. Good health is precious and worth protecting.

Sometimes, erectile dysfunction happens for reasons beyond a man’s control, but when men have a choice, I always hope they choose the “fountain of youth,” as Slaffa calls it. (I call it good health.)

Msg. 57: You're throwing 80 pct. of the experience out the window... side of the neck, nape of the neck, shoulders, behind the ears, light scrapes of the finger nails along her side and back.....if you can't help her achieve at least one orgasm or on the brink before you even get to the nether regions you're in epic fail mode.

:)
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 59
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Posted: 6/23/2015 5:13:19 PM
Well, so far, the question has been answered, somewhat. My second question is-How are you women promoting this sort of activity? From my past experiences, not very well. Aside from one that could, and knew precisely how to stimulate me, not many really put any effort into it. Just because you're a woman, and you are ready, doesn't give me any sort of stimulation.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 60
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Posted: 6/23/2015 5:56:27 PM
Guess because it isn't all about you :/ Seriously I am starting to see why women of a certain age start banging young guys
 newoldgirl
Joined: 4/16/2015
Msg: 61
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Posted: 6/23/2015 6:50:14 PM

Now I'm curious. And a question for the women on here. Are you offended by the man using "Outside help"?


I was seeing a man a couple of years ago, and things were going well except in the bedroom. He did tell me beforehand it was a "hit or miss' situation. Sometimes his erections were okay ( just okay) and other times, nothing.

I said, "Honey, maybe you should really think about taking Viagra."

He says " I already did!" Yikes. I don't know what all issues he had, but once for sure was heavy smoking ( funny, his profile said OCCASIONAL smoker...hmmmm).

I am okay with a guy needing Viagra . Not really okay with making do without intercourse, not matter how great he is "downtown".


My second question is-How are you women promoting this sort of activity?


My last boyfriend called me a "head doctor". LOL. That was a new one on me :)
 newoldgirl
Joined: 4/16/2015
Msg: 62
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Posted: 6/23/2015 6:53:06 PM

You're throwing 80 pct. of the experience out the window... side of the neck, nape of the neck, shoulders, behind the ears, light scrapes of the finger nails along her side and back.....if you can't help her achieve at least one orgasm or on the brink before you even get to the nether regions you're in epic fail mode.

That's about the most risque post I've ever made so I'm going to go hide my embarassment. ;)


And the flood gates are open!!

Now you have to tell us more, CC :)
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 63
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Posted: 6/23/2015 7:22:07 PM

You're throwing 80 pct. of the experience out the window... side of the neck, nape of the neck, shoulders, behind the ears, light scrapes of the finger nails along her side and back.....if you can't help her achieve at least one orgasm or on the brink before you even get to the nether regions you're in epic fail mode.

That's about the most risque post I've ever made so I'm going to go hide my embarassment. ;)


^^^ Be still my beating heart.
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 64
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Posted: 6/24/2015 12:13:48 AM

My second question is-How are you women promoting this sort of activity? From my past experiences, not very well. Aside from one that could, and knew precisely how to stimulate me, not many really put any effort into it. Just because you're a woman, and you are ready, doesn't give me any sort of stimulation.

What do you mean, ‘promoting this sort of activity’? If you’re talking about what does a body sexual good – for me it’s mostly mutual touch and talk. One weekend I planned, my ex- and I didn’t get out of bed. I gave him an all-body massage that last for almost 18 hours (interspersed with other horizontal activity), we ate fresh fruit and didn’t care where the grapes landed, a pitcher of ice water provided tactile sensation as well as water when we got thirsty, and to heck with house/yard work. Am I a professional masseuse? Nope, but I enjoyed giving him massages, I loved touching him, not always sexual either. I read him ‘dirty’ novels… well, just the sexy parts. I was always reading and he'd occasionally ask what I was reading - so the first time I pulled this on him he was utterly shocked and delighted. I tried learning belly dancing and do a strip tease for him. Not quite a success there – he thought it was hilarious and I was mortified, but laughter is also an aphrodisiac so maybe it was a success. Still, it's not something I'll try again. Some nights we'd talk dirty to each other, other's we'd be totally silent (ha! except for gasps and moans of pleasure). I can't conceive of not being an active participant and planner in sex; unless it's a sexual game we're playing. Do I know how to stimulate you? Or any particular man? No. Can I learn? Yep. Will I enjoy the trying? You betcha! Will you enjoy the learning curve? I hope so, but if not let me know and I’ll try something different.


You're throwing 80 pct. of the experience out the window... side of the neck, nape of the neck, shoulders, behind the ears, light scrapes of the finger nails along her side and back.....if you can't help her achieve at least one orgasm or on the brink before you even get to the nether regions you're in epic fail mode.
That's about the most risque post I've ever made so I'm going to go hide my embarassment. ;)

We will hunt you to your lair and do the same to you... (hide and seek can also be an enjoyable game).
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 65
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 6/24/2015 12:47:21 AM
Dearest Purple,

I do not understand your question



Well, so far, the question has been answered, somewhat. My second question is-How are you women promoting this sort of activity? From my past experiences, not very well. Aside from one that could, and knew precisely how to stimulate me, not many really put any effort into it. Just because you're a woman, and you are ready, doesn't give me any sort of stimulation.



If we were together in a proper relationship, you would be stimulating me, and I would be stimulating you.
As would many of the ladies on here.

Ummm... not at the same time......ummm not when you are in a relationship with me ......
Ummm ... if/when you are in a proper relationship with them.

It takes two to tango.
p.s.
Please read CrookCatcher's post again.


Hubba Hubba
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 6/24/2015 4:11:12 AM
- I always said that the only Viagra that I have ever needed is to see a sexy woman, or thinking that I'm about to have sex.

- I always considered foreplay to be part of sex. I was confused for a long time when younger when people would talk about sex versus foreplay...I didn't realize that "sex" just meant intercourse alone, and practically anything else was "foreplay". Questions about there being foreplay before sex didn't make sense to me, because I don't see there being any point if just going straight to intercourse and that's it.
 Strawberry_Jello
Joined: 5/13/2014
Msg: 67
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Posted: 6/24/2015 4:50:16 AM
Hey handsome, you shouldn't feel embarrassed, all the whiny bitter guys should feel mortified after reading that.




No wonder enhancement drugs are needed.....

You're throwing 80 pct. of the experience out the window... side of the neck, nape of the neck, shoulders, behind the ears, light scrapes of the finger nails along her side and back.....if you can't help her achieve at least one orgasm or on the brink before you even get to the nether regions you're in epic fail mode.

That's about the most risque post I've ever made so I'm going to go hide my embarassment. ;)
 Iredurbio2
Joined: 4/18/2013
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Posted: 6/24/2015 10:52:08 AM
Sounds a bit like ruination.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 6/24/2015 12:23:08 PM

No wonder enhancement drugs are needed.....

You're throwing 80 pct. of the experience out the window... side of the neck, nape of the neck, shoulders, behind the ears, light scrapes of the finger nails along her side and back....

No, not me. Many gals nowadays don't like rounding the bases. They like to go from half way to 2nd base, straight to home plate. "Oral" is too "intimate" if you don't know them well. Any time as a guy you're not "100%" down there, ya will want some oral exchange to get the motor revved up. In fear of running into a gal who "does not do that until I know him better", and wanting to go from kissing and a little touching to fumbling for the parachute and putting it on -- he'll want to be on his A game going in. Even if that means doing a little Sosa or McGwire.

That's about the most risque post I've ever made so I'm going to go hide my embarassment. ;)

As a side note, my brain first translated "nape" into something else dealing with the neck. Then I thought "Gee, well, I guess he mentioned something I'm missing out on. But wouldn't ya need to be rock hard at that point to accomplish such a bizarre feat?!" :)
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 70
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Posted: 6/24/2015 12:24:39 PM
During the last 25 years, there has been a Generational decline in testosterone levels

This is an age-independent decline, from 501 ng/d; at the first follow-up it was 435 ng/dL and at the second follow-up it was 391 ng/dL. Though the testing was done on men age 45-79.

This is a 22% decline in average testosterone levels in men regardless of age. Meaning a man 45 year of age 25 years ago had 22% higher testosterone than a similar 45 year old man in 2005

While they tried to factor in greater obesity rates, even with that they don't know what is causing it.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3797769/

Secular decline in male testosterone and sex hormone binding globulin serum levels in Danish population surveys.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17895324

So it isn't just the USA.

Just interesting.
 Kissfromarose77
Joined: 4/13/2015
Msg: 71
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Posted: 6/24/2015 12:30:39 PM
There's some evidence that if you don't use it, you lose it.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 72
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Posted: 6/24/2015 12:41:01 PM

No, not me. Many gals nowadays don't like rounding the bases.


That's unfortunate.


But wouldn't ya need to be rock hard at that point to accomplish such a bizarre feat?!


Let's not worry about mine...it's good to go.....and I'm not the one taking Cialis.

Good luck to you NG... carry on. I'm done. :)
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 73
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Posted: 6/24/2015 12:50:30 PM

Many gals nowadays don't like rounding the bases. They like to go from half way to 2nd base, straight to home plate.

LMAO And here I thought we were discussing sex?
Seems to me someone is out in left field?
I never did like baseball.


I guess he mentioned something I'm missing out on.


Yes he did and yes you are!

Yes CC, I will carry on. I'm not done. LOL!!!!
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 74
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Posted: 6/24/2015 12:53:26 PM

Many gals nowadays don't like rounding the bases. They like to go from half way to 2nd base, straight to home plate.


Maybe she just wants to send you 'home' early.



I guess he mentioned something I'm missing out on.


Yes he did and yes you are!

Yes CC, I will carry on. I'm not done. LOL!!!!


LOL! Agreed!
 MaleFeasance
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 75
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Posted: 6/24/2015 1:29:53 PM
No, not me. Many gals nowadays don't like rounding the bases. They like to go from half way to 2nd base, straight to home plate.
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I've never met a woman who didn't like being "warmed up" completely, or in those terms, "rounding all of the bases" and taking plenty of time to do it.

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"Oral" is too "intimate" if you don't know them well.
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I have also never found that to be true.

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he'll want to be on his A game going in.
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A guy should always be on his A game, just as a woman should.

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Even if that means doing a little Sosa or McGwire.
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If and when I need to do that, I would not hesitate in the least.
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