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 newoldgirl
Joined: 4/16/2015
Msg: 151
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You know, this does cut both ways. Or at least in my age bracket it does. There are many women in their 50’s and 60’s who have problems with lubrication. And even with artificial lubrication, they are often out of practice and get sore and beg off long before the evening is over. Just sayin’ …


Yikes. That's not a pretty picture! My fiftieth birthday is in couple of days, and so far I haven't noticed any noticeable difference in the way my body responds to sex. I better catch me a man before I get all dried up. Damn, I better hurry!!!
 Strawberry_Jello
Joined: 5/13/2014
Msg: 152
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Posted: 7/3/2015 4:20:51 PM
Doesn't happen to all women, just sayin'.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 153
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Posted: 7/3/2015 4:45:44 PM
I think you girls should give a guy a piece of paper during your first meets and ask him to give you a list of things he can do, and things he can't. Be forewarned though. If you actually accept such list, you're in. Meaning, you must do everything on said list. Doesn't matter one bit if you have, wanted to, or will never do, you must.

Just part of the deal, I would think.

What do ya think? Sound good?


Off to get a pen and paper. Okay, two pieces of paper. Gotta be prepared.
 MisterEd0950
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 154
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 10/1/2015 11:27:57 AM
I can and do everything I did in my 30's but don't recharge as quick as I did them:)
 tictook
Joined: 9/26/2015
Msg: 155
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 10/1/2015 12:19:26 PM

I have dated several men from the site, its frustrating when they get a gal in every other way and then mislead about their sexual capabilities, or lack of. How does a woman tactfully ask the question of sexual activity ability of her prospective partner?


You don't ask the question . . . not if you want another date. And women don't seem to understand that a man's capabilities is very dependent on the woman he is with. If a guy can't perform, there may be nothing more than his not being attracted to the woman or her making him feel uncomfortable for one reason or another.

A good woman knows how to bring out the best in a man. Any woman who doesn't know how to do this is not worthy of dating imho.
 tictook
Joined: 9/26/2015
Msg: 156
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 10/1/2015 12:20:29 PM

You know, this does cut both ways. Or at least in my age bracket it does. There are many women in their 50’s and 60’s who have problems with lubrication


And this of course works both ways. Lots of time it is the guy who is the problem I am sure.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 157
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 10/1/2015 1:48:40 PM
"A good woman knows how to bring out the best in a man. Any woman who doesn't know how to do this is not worthy of dating imho."


Hmmm......yeah.....not quite sure I would express it that way.

I believe when you meet the right one....you desire to bring out the best in your partner and they in turn inspire you to be your best self. :)
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 158
honesty regarding sexual capability
Posted: 10/1/2015 2:07:03 PM

Posted by KJ521:
"I believe when you meet the right one....you desire to bring out the best in your partner and they in turn inspire you to be your best self. :)"

I knew of a couple in coastal Savannah, Georgia who did just that and they were darn near magical together.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 159
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Posted: 10/1/2015 2:19:27 PM
That just warms my heart, Eric.....but it is not surprising.

Savannah itself is magical, I hear. I sure hope I get there one day. :)
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 160
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Posted: 10/1/2015 2:25:47 PM
Just in case not everyone got the memo...

Sex starts in the little head for both sexes, although many men might disagree.

This translates to too much porn and/or use of battery powered devices will LIKELY lead to "problems" of some type down the road.
 sailinges
Joined: 9/28/2015
Msg: 161
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Posted: 10/2/2015 8:20:39 AM
{quote] This translates to too much porn and/or use of battery powered devices will LIKELY lead to "problems" of some type down the road.

LOL. Classic. You sound like somebody from the sixties who claimed rock and roll would ruin the minds of young people.
How old are you really anyway? Eighty?
 sailinges
Joined: 9/28/2015
Msg: 162
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Posted: 10/2/2015 8:32:18 AM


I believe when you meet the right one....you desire to bring out the best in your partner and they in turn inspire you to be your best self. :)


That is a given. But how many people ever meet "the right one".

So for most people here who engage in sex for the sake of sex . . . the women should recognize just how important their role in the responsiveness of the male they are with.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 163
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Posted: 10/2/2015 9:34:37 AM
"So for most people here who engage in sex for the sake of sex . . .


Well...I shouldn't know about that Mr. Sailinges....but with regard to this...


"the women should recognize just how important their role in the responsiveness of the male they are with."


I should think that the issue here has more to do with the recognition of how "unimportant" a woman's role is sometimes. :D
 sailinges
Joined: 9/28/2015
Msg: 164
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Posted: 10/2/2015 9:50:03 AM

I should think that the issue here has more to do with the recognition of how "unimportant" a woman's role is sometimes. :D


Even in a physical hookup where the man and women do not care in the least for the other, the woman's role can still be paramount to how well a guy performs. The woman's role is defined by a combination of her attractiveness, her personality and how she communicates with the guy of course.

I still remember reading on here a post from a women who publicly lamented how "humiliated" she was when the guy could not perform . . . as if it was all his fault. I just don't understand why so many women do not see that they are part of the problem.

I don't know how prevalent erectile dysfunction is among men as they get older, I know lots of women on here are always complaining about it . . but I am guessing that psychology has a lot more to do with these problems than physical issues. And psychology is very much influenced by the female the man is with.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 165
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Posted: 10/2/2015 10:09:02 AM
"the woman's role can still be paramount to how well a guy performs."

Mr. Sailinges.....

I agree...along with forthrightness from the gentleman with regard to any medical and/or psychological issues that might impair any physiological responses.

I mean....for crying out loud!...I could be standing there in my French maid's outfit from Fredrick's of Holoywood...and...NOTHING! So I ask you....Is that my fault?

Ooooh....did I just say that out loud? See what happens when you get me all fired up? I have to go get an iced coffee now to calm down. ;)
 sailinges
Joined: 9/28/2015
Msg: 166
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Posted: 10/2/2015 10:26:40 AM
If a man has a physical problem that makes it impossible for him to have an erection, even with pills, than I suppose he owes it to the woman to let her know before they end up in an embarrassing moment for both. Other than that, when it is a hit or miss situation, I would think the best way to handle it is to see what happens in the bedroom. I would never discuss with a woman . . . beforehand . . . my possibility of not performing with her in bed if it was only a possibility.

On the other hand, I probably would not end up in bed with a woman, at this stage of my life, that I was not physically attracted to to begin with . . . so there shouldn't be any problems if I did end up in bed with her.

And I can't imagine being attracted to a woman enough to want to be in bed with her if I detected she was not one who was good at communicating and making a guy feel at ease. No ball-busters for me thank you. For Me . . a display of obnoxious or narcissistic behavior would torpedo any interest I might have had in the woman otherwise.

That is one thing I can say Ms. KJ. Throughout my life, and my many dates as a young man . . . I NEVER tolerated obnoxious or rude or narcissistic behavior from women. That is not to say that there were not women who did not drive me absolutely crazy. But nastiness . . rudeness . . . offensive behavior . . . . that resulted in termination of any budding relationship in a micro-second.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 167
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Posted: 10/2/2015 10:26:50 AM

kj521
I mean....for crying out loud!...I could be standing there in my French maid's outfit from Fredrick's of Holoywood...and...NOTHING! So I ask you....Is that my fault?

Ooooh....did I just say that out loud? See what happens when you get me all fired up? I have to go get an iced coffee now to calm down. ;)


Damn! I hope no one comes in my office for the next few minutes!
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 168
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Posted: 10/2/2015 10:40:44 AM
Oh My Gosh! Mr. OHenry!

I was teasing!!!! What kind of woman do you think I am?

I wouldn't wear Fredrick's of Hollywood!

Get those thoughts out of your head! Sheesh! Go enjoy a Starbucks coffee, instead! :)
 BBEisBack
Joined: 9/16/2015
Msg: 169
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Posted: 10/2/2015 10:52:44 AM

I agree...along with forthrightness from the gentleman with regard to any medical and/or psychological issues that might impair any physiological responses.

I mean....for crying out loud!...I could be standing there in my French maid's outfit from Fredrick's of Holoywood...and...NOTHING! So I ask you....Is that my fault?

Ooooh....did I just say that out loud? See what happens when you get me all fired up? I have to go get an iced coffee now to calm down. ;)


I fully admit the only Lady I've been with since my late wife died, I had some problems & they were all in my head... Fortunately, she was very kind & gentle with me & helped me work thru my problems. & yes, if I let the wrong thoughts creep in, I can still have some trouble.... I accept my role in the problem......
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 170
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Posted: 10/2/2015 11:02:44 AM
Mr. Blue Eyes...

And that is what it is all about...honesty , communication....and....no placing blame.

You are lovely. :)
 sailinges
Joined: 9/28/2015
Msg: 171
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Posted: 10/2/2015 11:07:52 AM
Ms. KJ, read Mr. BE's post again. He is saying the same thing I am saying, albeit a little more nicely. He admits his psychological issues but met a kind woman where those issues were overcome. That's what it is all about. It takes two to tango. Both parties play a role. The women's role in the bedroom in making the guy comfortable is perhaps her greatest skill.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 172
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Posted: 10/2/2015 11:14:53 AM

Ms. KJ, read Mr. BE's post again. He is saying the same thing I am saying, albeit a little more nicely. He admits his psychological issues but met a kind woman where those issues were overcome. That's what it is all about. It takes two to tango. Both parties play a role. The women's role in the bedroom in making the guy comfortable is perhaps her greatest skill.


Totally agree with this statement. A woman can bring out the best in a guy.... and also his worst.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 173
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Posted: 10/2/2015 11:25:24 AM
Mr. Sailinges....

Please read Mr. Blue Eyes' post again...notice where he says...he accepts his role?

You sir.....have used words like "paramount" to describe the woman's role. Leading one to surmise that it is of more importance.

And now you say....both parties play a role. Pffft!

I fear those pain meds may be impairing your cognitive processing. ;)


******Good thing you have a long recuperation period ahead of you.
And before I forget....I hope it is filled with breathless moments.
Cause it's not about the breaths you take....but the ones that take your breath away!
George Strait says so....and he's smart! ;)


 BBEisBack
Joined: 9/16/2015
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Posted: 10/2/2015 11:43:41 AM
Mr Sailinges,
Miss KJ, IMHO, is a kind & gentle, lovely lady & she fully understands these things....

But don't let that Kindness mislead you... I also believe She can be a Mamma Grizzly Bear, if You threaten those she cares about....

^^^^^^ Mr Strait also says....
"Well, excuse me, but I think you've got my chair.
No, that one's not taken, I don't mind
If you sit here, I'll be glad to share."
 seafoodandeatit
Joined: 12/23/2011
Msg: 175
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Posted: 10/3/2015 7:44:05 PM
"Seriously I am starting to see why women of a certain age start banging young guys "
and on the flip side ladies need also remember that your not that hot sexual partner you were at years ago.
muffin tops (?) over weight are not the best of turn on's either!
so whey do you think older men like to bang younger woman?
Its a very one way street ladies, at times anyway.
I love lots of for play, teasing , oral then wait to she make she right moves to have sex.
I am not a stud or past it! but very very few woman seem to think that they are not good in bed.
just saying is all.....
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