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 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 126
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Really?
I'm one who told him off so here I am, lay it on me.
Because I can tell you right now, it will do squat.


Now why have you taken all that on yourself. You played a part as did everyone including Vector. But it had started long before you joined in, I didnt agree with how you handled it but I believe you to be a good person (dont faint) and I believe you did what you felt was right.

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My post was suppose to say I am ONE Of the people who told him off. So no, I'm not taking it all on myself.
When someone (Hearton) says they want to ream a new azzhole, I'm simply showing I don't cower, give the person a chance to get it off their chest and then...........turn the page.

Now.. on to drugs (whoohooo drugs! :D)
As for drugs, they are all drugs to me. Even pot. (A spade is a spade) Thing is they all give different highs, don't they?
Addiction is addiction, some are, some aren't. Pretty black and white to me.
The grey is all the nitty gritty that goes with doing them. imo
I don't bother with the grey because its' an individual thing unless it becomes personal to me.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 127
When I finally realized I'm an A-hole
Posted: 7/2/2015 5:07:14 PM
Both Whistle Stop and Lady in Red have new Main photos - very nice :)
I agree - he has a diff user name, let the past rest re Vector
Vicki - stop the hand wringing
Since he did seek help I am assuming it wasn't because a few people on a free dating site didn't put up with his verbal abuse. Could be wrong - perhaps everyone who gets neg feedback in a message, profile review etc treks off to find their spirit guide in the woods.
Mine is named Bernard and works at the liquor store ( saved me $4.00 I if I could would have his love child)
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 128
When I finally realized I'm an A-hole
Posted: 7/2/2015 5:26:51 PM

You are obviously all a bunch of drug addicts~Which explains a lot:)



And alcoholics... you forgot alcoholics, very important
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 129
When I finally realized I'm an A-hole
Posted: 7/2/2015 5:44:40 PM

Its just unusual for non-smokers to argue in its favour but everyone has the right to their view without the implication that they use.


News flash!!!!

You don't have to smoke pot to use and enjoy it.

Just to keep all the "informed" people, well, "informed".


And alcoholics... you forgot alcoholics, very important


I prefer the label whiskeyolic please. The rest of that shiat I won't touch.

Unless, of course, the bottles are empty.

Like that ever happens in this house.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 130
When I finally realized I'm an A-hole
Posted: 7/3/2015 5:47:36 AM

Really?

I'm one who told him off so here I am, lay it on me.
Because I can tell you right now, it will do squat.
I'm not an enabler.



I'm not either. But I sat here and read his valid points
and saw exactly who came down on him like a ton of bricks
and watched the explosion that could have easily been avoided.

I also watched the gang bang and saw him fighting to hold his own.
If you've never been on the recieving end of a forum of people turning on you
as I have,you couldn't know how you'd react.

You may have told him to stop swearing but you didn't
through the jabs that got him started.

We have two options in the face of aggression.

Fight or flight.

In his frame of mind....flight wasn't an option.

I took into consideration his own issues with PTSD as did others.
I'm not here to fight,but I will always defend an underdog.
I'd have your back too if ever you found yourself
In his shoes.

As for the weed....yup. I'm an advocate.
It's never made me anything but mellow.

Pass the popcorn.

Pass on the vino tho!

According to some I'm just skanky crass,trailer trash
who gives women a bad name.

Might as well embrace the love I find here!!

Peace.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 131
When I finally realized I'm an A-hole
Posted: 7/3/2015 6:26:00 AM
My dad is stronger then your dad...
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 132
When I finally realized everyone's an A-hole
Posted: 7/3/2015 7:55:00 AM
it must be the effects of the heat, many have been a bit cranky lately. Maybe they just need to get laid :)

As someone who didn't even do coffee or aspirin, i'll agree with Cloons that I was surprised by the use of chemicals in the over 40 crowd. Its funny how i'll go to dinner with a person, they'll order liquor, I don't, and from then on...they won't touch a drop around me. maybe I make 'em feel bad, or my presence is a calming influence :) lol

I used to think one of the reasons I didn't get dates so often was I "Wasn't cool" like that (to quote from the movie Dazed and Confused). But cloons doesn't run into the same thing, so I learned something new today. I think that means I can go back to nap time.
 newoldgirl
Joined: 4/16/2015
Msg: 133
When I finally realized everyone's an A-hole
Posted: 7/3/2015 8:36:02 AM

As someone who didn't even do coffee or aspirin, i'll agree with Cloons that I was surprised by the use of chemicals in the over 40 crowd. Its funny how i'll go to dinner with a person, they'll order liquor, I don't, and from then on...they won't touch a drop around me. maybe I make 'em feel bad, or my presence is a calming influence :) lol


When I was young, I used to drink buckets of beer with no ill effects. NOW, a couple of drinks can cause a hangover that feels like a near death experience! As a result, I rarely drink.

Sometimes, I order a drink and have a few sips of it, because I don't want my date to think I am morally against booze, OR a recovering alcoholic. I don't want anyone to restrict their behaviour around me.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 134
When I finally realized everyone's an A-hole
Posted: 7/3/2015 8:41:18 AM
Newoldgirl...

It gets easier with practice...the wine that is :)
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 135
When I finally realized everyone's an A-hole
Posted: 7/3/2015 10:02:11 AM

According to some I'm just skanky crass,trailer trash
who gives women a bad name.


I love women that give women a bad name.

Bad, bad, bad.
 Hearton64
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 136
When I finally realized everyone's an A-hole
Posted: 7/3/2015 12:27:12 PM
IG I can always count on you
to make me feel
less like odd girl out.
Thank you.

Off to get high and laid in some AC!

I suggest the same for the rest of you! ; )
 ThePig0fYourDreams
Joined: 2/2/2015
Msg: 137
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Posted: 7/3/2015 2:16:27 PM


I also watched the gang bang


Gang bang??!?! Where???
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 138
When I finally realized everyone's an A-hole
Posted: 7/4/2015 6:28:29 PM
well...I had the A/C part. I'm told that vino makes good bong water, so perhaps don't be so quick to dismiss.

as for the bang-gang, it must have been on pay-per-view. I didn't even see where it got mentioned. did see a nifty Vietnam memorial at a car show, chiseled into the giant granite was letters written home by those who didn't return. really humanized the names, let you know what they were thinking.
 MaleFeasance
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 139
When I finally realized everyone's an A-hole
Posted: 7/7/2015 2:33:07 AM
I love women that give women a bad name.
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I love women who love women.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
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Posted: 4/1/2016 7:32:36 AM

I read about this it's called a blind spot _:)


I am not sure that most people know that every human has a blind spot.

It's just part of how we are built. Our brains can create an image that we think is there to fill in the blind spot, so the only a few ways to notice this is true.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
Msg: 141
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Posted: 4/1/2016 9:09:14 AM

Hmmm I wish some people were blind spots following me into off topic and then calling me paranoid when 2 show up to address me and who I am

Here is a clue to those who reckon they were soooooo disinterested and were going to ignore me


When you spit into the wind, don't be surprised it hits you in the face.

IMO you invited this sort of response, fully expected it to happen and set it up that way.

How else can you explain making multiple references to an 18 year relationship while your profile age is 28? (Note, the relationship wasn't your parents).

My flu only lasted a few days, though I had a cough for over a week. Glad you are feeling better.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 142
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Posted: 4/1/2016 6:12:21 PM
Whether something like 9/11 is deserved is a matter of opinion. There were other nationalities besides Americans killed. Australia lost many lives there for instance. That the US goes into countries and interfers in their policies and administrations etc is a cause for some retaliation in many people's minds but it is mostly innocents that are slaughtered and by both sides. Dont get me started....
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 143
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Posted: 4/1/2016 7:39:57 PM

Friends are easily made.


Sure.

Just go into any bar and offer to buy the next 2 rounds for everyone.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 144
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Posted: 4/2/2016 8:16:52 AM
Enters room, looks around for those free whiskies..........

 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 145
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Posted: 4/2/2016 8:50:57 AM
If a$$holes had wings, this place would be an airport.
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
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Posted: 4/2/2016 3:56:32 PM
^^^^^ Weird.
 cassie2425
Joined: 3/4/2016
Msg: 147
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Posted: 4/2/2016 4:00:00 PM
^^ Totally bat shit crazy. Far from weird, needs mental health help.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 148
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Posted: 4/2/2016 4:32:17 PM
Did the door hit someone in the posterior on the way out?
?Married 18 years, but jumps right on a dating site when hubby is out of town?
Yah, and I have a bridge for sale.
What I do, what I write, is known to BF. Nuff said!
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 149
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Posted: 4/2/2016 5:53:15 PM
if A-holes have buffalo wings, I hope they're kind enough to share.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 150
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Posted: 4/2/2016 6:50:58 PM
At what age does a buffalo grow wings?
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