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 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 210
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^ "Happiness" is a theoretical construct. Having said that, your description sounds pretty good.




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 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 211
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Posted: 10/30/2016 6:00:33 PM
There's just to many variables to consider this accurate research.

Me, as in just me. I find that living with, or for that matter, just having a woman around me in a relationship, stressful. More than just being by myself.

Now, why would I think that? One reason is that women expect certain things when they are in a relationship to keep them happy. I admit it, my entertainment standards aren't very lofty. Why go to a music venue when the radio is within reach? Why spend $40-50 bucks on one dinner when that amount can buy food for me, for the better part of a week? Alcohol is cheaper by the bottle at the local liquor store. Why stay at a four star hotel when a tent works the same way. Tickets to, well anything, pays for my sattelite for an entire month. And if I don't like it, I change the channel. If the event is a big bust, they won't refund my money.

Yeah, I waffle. I can do that if I want to. Because it's just me.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 213
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Posted: 10/30/2016 7:35:57 PM
I have noticed that a lot of swingers are those who are less than magnificent to look at and why would anyone want to get involved? I guess a very dark moonless night and plenty of booze...lol!!
 Dragracer428
Joined: 1/1/2012
Msg: 214
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Posted: 10/31/2016 4:38:56 PM



Now, why would I think that? One reason is that women expect certain things when they are in a relationship to keep them happy. I admit it, my entertainment standards aren't very lofty. Why go to a music venue when the radio is within reach? Why spend $40-50 bucks on one dinner when that amount can buy food for me, for the better part of a week? Alcohol is cheaper by the bottle at the local liquor store. Why stay at a four star hotel when a tent works the same way. Tickets to, well anything, pays for my sattelite for an entire month. And if I don't like it, I change the channel. If the event is a big bust, they won't refund my money.



See a lot of this kind of thinking and the men all wonder why their SO's are not happy or why they are alone.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 10/31/2016 6:05:38 PM
I have only seen Australian shows and a couple from the US. I am sure that a lot of hot people swing and that would make more sense.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 10/31/2016 7:20:00 PM

See a lot of this kind of thinking and the men all wonder why their SO's are not happy or why they are alone.


But if I'm unhappy, should I just do it quietly?
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 217
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Posted: 10/31/2016 7:26:46 PM
^ Nooo, Dude. But if you want a lady friend, you might want to consider compromise.

Personally, I wouldn't compromise on anything, but I'm different - I know the right way of everything :)
 halforhalfnot
Joined: 9/13/2016
Msg: 218
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Posted: 10/31/2016 7:34:04 PM
I thought I recognized you. I'm pretty sure we were married.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 219
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Posted: 10/31/2016 7:49:29 PM
^ You expect me to keep track of every person I've ever been married to?
 GhettoFoot
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 220
Men happier married vs Women happier single - according to research
Posted: 10/31/2016 7:57:36 PM

I have noticed that a lot of swingers are those who are less than magnificent to look at and why would anyone want to get involved? I guess a very dark moonless night and plenty of booze...lol!!


Agreed. When I was in the BDSM/polyamory scenes most of those folks were not very attractive in the face or body. It wasn't a matter of drinking or lack of lighting that made the people want to get it on, it was more of, "this is what we have to choose from (a very small pool) so make the best of it."
 Dragracer428
Joined: 1/1/2012
Msg: 221
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Posted: 11/1/2016 2:28:02 PM




See a lot of this kind of thinking and the men all wonder why their SO's are not happy or why they are alone.


But if I'm unhappy, should I just do it quietly?



Not at all, your way of doing things certainly seems to be working for you going by your posts.

I on the other hand have to put up with a tall slim attractive (well I certainly think so ) lady who insists upon paying her own way and thinks going out every couple of weekends is the way life should be lived. I somehow managed to get thru having a great meal and watching some thought provoking theater Sat night with her wonderful company.
 inlawsnoutlaws
Joined: 1/20/2016
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Posted: 11/5/2016 1:13:48 PM
Men satisfied. Women unsatisfied. Usual. Ancient Wisdom. "Research"
 blasta85
Joined: 6/27/2015
Msg: 224
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Posted: 11/22/2016 10:06:13 AM
Yes I'd like to see his as well
 moonbeamlover1
Joined: 11/10/2016
Msg: 225
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Posted: 11/22/2016 1:45:09 PM
I think a lot of people that may agree with the statement as women ( which I know a lot) were nurturing caretaker wives who expended a lot of time energy compassion on their husbands and they either because of personality, different love style of just being selfish , took these as his dues and was catered to without returning the favor and caring for her feelings... asking about her day... doing little things that mattered to her ( or if he did zzz it was things he thought was important but did not know her enough to know those were not things that connected with her).

they were burned out and had given and care took for decades and felt like the man was doing a favor letting her... not understanding it was a choice she made because she cared about him.

after all those years of nurturing and care taking without much if any reciprocation in many instances... and with her needs always being dead last because if husband and children.. many of them want the peace tranquility and freedom of actually being able to do what they want... see who they want and actually do things they care about and that get them excited. there are many great husbands out there don't get me wrong. and there are some non nurturing wives. but I know many who would agree with the sentiment of the probably bogus research. they want nothing whatsoever to do with marriage ever again and many not even live in. they cherish their freedom and relish it.

for those who think we nurturers need to be needed and are incomplete without having someone specific to spoil?

there is something to be said on finally giving to ourselves... after a lifetime of giving to others.

if someone great comes along that wants partnership and give and take and mutual spoiling? cool it could be worth exploring. I am a caretaker but am no longer interested in one direction nurturing. it has to be two way.. both people should care spoil appreciate and do special things for each other..

but many of us are done with the takers... our freedom is absolutely wonderful and it is only worth giving up for a very special kind of person and a very good kind of connection. ( for BOTH parties ... it has to be special for both people . not one at the expense of the other). .. every single woman I know is happy. as she is. a special connection with a special man can be a great thing but finally having the chance to connect to oneself after a lifetime of focusing solely on others can be special too. and the person she discovers she is when she is fulfilled in herself makes a better partner if lightning strikes and she finds someone who fits well and they mutually respect value and care about each other. but if someone just is looking for someone to caretake and service them? there are a whole whole lot of women who have been there done that and would not look at the guy twice.

I am sure some men probably feel the same for different reasons but many express the loneliness the missing of a woman's touch and the softer things that he took for granted while married.

i know many care taking guys in the same boat from their marriages who want to focus on themselves.. I think caretakers of either gender who felt like they were in an emotional black hole marriage who gave but didn't receive back are going to cling to freedom unless they find someone who lets them be themselves... gives and takes.. cares about their wants and needs as they care about the other persons.. values respects and is crazy about them as they are their partner. that is the only thing worth giving up singledom for.. . whether you are a man or a woman.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 226
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Posted: 11/22/2016 2:46:54 PM
^^^^^

Ah crap. Now we have a voice of reason back in the forums. ;)

And worse than that, I agree on most of what Moon points out about why some of us feel as never ending giving. I also feel a little disheartened that I feel this way at this point of my life but, as Moon pointed out, there are reasons.

Did you notice she included both genders too!!!!! :O
 moonbeamlover1
Joined: 11/10/2016
Msg: 227
Men happier married vs Women happier single - according to research
Posted: 11/22/2016 3:39:19 PM
^^^ I am really sorry... I didn't mean to mess up the flow in here .. lol
 jelli_fish
Joined: 9/11/2016
Msg: 229
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Posted: 12/15/2016 8:55:49 PM
bamagrl68 you are very much like me lol. Your msg to il capitano, and anyone like him, hit the nail on the head!
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 230
Men happier married vs Women happier single - according to research
Posted: 12/16/2016 7:51:00 AM
All them nurturing women being neglected by them provider male types.

Boring Jack isn't the life of the party after pulling some overtime to get that vaca and hot tub installed.

He's just not being attentive like he was when they met.

Boo Hoo.

Nurturing only pays the bills in Pahrump ladies...
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 231
Men happier married vs Women happier single - according to research
Posted: 12/16/2016 8:56:35 AM
^^^Does that mean you never went to the Academy of Clowns, Circus Acts and Magic to keep them entertained 24/7? Shame on you. Invest in a circus tent instead of a hot tub.
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