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 Whatsamatterbaby
Joined: 5/6/2015
Msg: 101
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Ouija: I did not meet him. Although I probably have no right to be so particular, what with being over 40 ;)


....funny gal!


Right? It's all I got. Everyone wants to be my friend (or maybe just bang me) but nobody wants a relationship with me. Or maybe it's me that doesn't want a relationship. Either way, it's confusing and disheartening. Poor Matterbaby :( I shall need many more affirmations to feel better. Kidding! Sort of.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 102
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Posted: 7/26/2015 12:50:58 PM
ohoh, someone got a case of the blues? Just remember I am here
So don't come here LOL kidding. Of course people want a relationship with you
The Dr I saw this morning at the walk in would have been great for you. Messed up my back doing not much - as I was moaning I said " sure not even a great story like we were having sex hanging off a swing" He smiles and said
" no, it happens picking up a sock" So we had a laugh fest, I gimped out. Spend most of the morning playing Guess what they are here to see the Dr for.. musta gave off a vibe because one guy told me! * note to self, don't stare *
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
Msg: 103
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Posted: 7/26/2015 1:03:42 PM

maleman999 wrote:

^^^The younger ones have virtual babies, they live in virtual houses, drive virtual cars and have virtual dogs.


This would not surprise me in the least. At least we will have a population bust as a result.
 Whatsamatterbaby
Joined: 5/6/2015
Msg: 104
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Posted: 7/26/2015 1:10:51 PM

ohoh, someone got a case of the blues? Just remember I am here
So don't come here LOL kidding.


Haha! Are the meanies finally starting to rub off on you? I mean, in a non-sexual way?
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 105
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Posted: 7/26/2015 2:07:00 PM
Ouja,

Do you have one of those streaming services? If you do, please search for Black Mirror, the episode Be Right Back. That's the ultimate mindf*ck of what money can buy to satiate companionship and not being able to let go.


@Belle is that your typical online chat?
He should have left the minute you said he wasn't your type, unless you said something that would make it seem you were giving him a chance. Get the number within 5 lines. I can't even read that dialogue to the end!


I've had more nut/clit numbing conversations, but I communicate my lack of interest as soon as I sense it, so that they don't claim I've lead them on. Another candidate was pulled from the search yesterday when he asked what I was doing on POF, to which I replied, "the answer to all your predictable questions are on my written biopic."


What a waste of time! You really do reign ,because they don't have the time to f*ck around with anyone else! ;P


It's not a waste of time when you're not doing anything, but I'll give anyone a run for their money, lol.
 Peas_
Joined: 5/2/2015
Msg: 106
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Posted: 7/26/2015 2:15:51 PM
...why do I bother reading and replying to these messages? another one, who just wanted an escort. WTF?

Screw it. I have cake!
 Strawberry_Jello
Joined: 5/13/2014
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Posted: 7/26/2015 4:17:56 PM
Apparently I'm different. A well crafted articulate message will get my attention, and a response, every time. I will agree to meet a man who doesn't appear all that attractive if he sends a great message. The content is very important to me.


No, a woman will respond if she finds the guy hot or appealing for whatever reason and what he writes hardly matters as long as it is not obscene or too suggestive and is written in correct English. If a hot guy approaches a woman in real life and just says "Hi, how are you?" and she finds him attractive, it is enough to get the ball rolling. The guys who have little going for them but write a well crafted articulate message, so what??????



Ding!Ding! Ding! We have a winner. Some women on the forums will complain "How are you?" and cut / paste emails. But the bottom line is people will often look at your pictures first. Then your "stats" including age, height, income and education level, smoking and drinking habits, having or wanting kids, religion etc. If they like your photos and "stats", then they might read the rest of your profile. The content of the email is the least important thing.
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
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Posted: 7/26/2015 4:31:17 PM

Apparently I'm different. A well crafted articulate message will get my attention, and a response, every time. I will agree to meet a man who doesn't appear all that attractive if he sends a great message. The content is very important to me.


That is great, and admirable as well, but what do you think the chances that chemistry will be there when the initial attraction isn't there and you met him just because you liked a message that was great( subjective at best)?

At the end of the day, IMHO guys will get further if they actually only meet gals that have shown themselves to be interested from the get go, and some attraction is there already. That isn't to say, it has to be a high level, but it should be enough to light the proverbial spark.

Meetings often tend to flow better when there is an emotional desire to want to meet that person from the get go. Of course that doesn't it can't happen without that initial feeling, but it is harder , especially with OLD. Just my 2 cents!
 patchjoker13
Joined: 8/24/2014
Msg: 109
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Posted: 7/26/2015 10:48:52 PM
Dating IRL can be tough but OLD is a big joke. I am currently seeing a lady that is probably an 8 out of 10 on most people's beauty standard gauge. I could hardly even get a reply with OLD and most of the women were average at best. On here I was instructed to put up a great profile and try all these different message techniques,....Why? To try to get a bit of attention from average to below average women with shitty profiles, slutty pictures, and hypocritical viewpoints? Ya, that sounds great!!! Now, Hot Air In SC or whoever he is stated that millions of people are on POF everyday so it must work. Well, if we knew the amount of dates that this site actually produces, the number would be laughable compared to the amount of people who use the site. Lets take a vote, how many dates has everyone been on with the use of this site? That's what I thought. You look around on these forums and you see tone of guys talking about getting no replies and tons of ladies talking about only getting messages from pervs and undesirables. Now,...tell me again how this site is working? I may be negative but at least my head is not up my A**. And,... I post on here because I can.
 ThePigIsHereForEternity
Joined: 7/19/2015
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Posted: 7/26/2015 11:05:24 PM

Lets take a vote, how many dates has everyone been on with the use of this site?


My first tenure here was 2012-2013, and I would say about 15 or so in that period. Not a single "horror story" to tell. I came back earlier this year, and I've been on 6 since then.

When I read about the lack of interaction from posters here, I am still quick to blame location above all else.
 tangofish
Joined: 6/16/2015
Msg: 111
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Posted: 7/26/2015 11:29:27 PM
Its worked for me, its strongly correlated with ???

Women have an easy time, in that there is a lot of trash and potential to be used for sex.

For men its a little like mission impossible, and if you're not Tom cruise you won't get a reply... Actually, he's like 5'6 so not even Tom gets a reply...

I dunno, its not that bad, but its pretty close.
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 112
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Posted: 7/27/2015 12:17:08 AM
Since I came back a few weeks ago my success rate has been abysmal.
Changed my profile around, tried different things, different intents, to no avail.
I thought it was bad before but this is painful.
Have only met with one man who seemed lovely, said he would very much like to see me again.... but he has vanished.

The rest have been sleazes or liars and I have discovered this prior to meeting.

Women DO NOT HAVE AN EASY TIME.
But YES there is a lot of trash and potential to be used for sex.

2 men contacted me via text on my phone yesterday (I had met up with and dated them in the past)

When I replied via text that Yes I would like to meet up and made some suggestions.... Whoosh they are gone.
They wanted me to pop over to their place or come to mine.

Certainly NOT do something drastic like go out somewhere. Sheesh.


Yep... I am officially jaded and taking a break.
Again.

The time it takes for me to get jaded between breaks is getting shorter each time.
 Literate_Hiker
Joined: 1/1/2015
Msg: 113
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Posted: 7/27/2015 12:33:20 AM
I'll sum up the problem with online dating with one word: expectations. It is easy to get overly excited over someone before meeting. This is a mistake. You are going to feel disappointed when reality doesn't fit the fantasy you built up in your mind.

"I've been searching for the perfect woman, and you are as close to the perfect woman I have ever found," one man told me, after we had a wonderful time together for two months. "I want to keep looking." This "kid in a candy store" mentality is common with online dating, with both men and women.

That had a big effect on me. I decided my lifelong "open heart/open mind" approach to life was naïve. Being vulnerable exposed me to hurt and pain. For two years I kept my heart in reserve, viewing men with amused detachment.

That didn't work. I realized I cannot protect my heart and be open to people at the same time.

Have you seen the wonderful 10-minute TED talk By Brene' Brown, Ph.D. on "The Power of Vulnerability"?

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en

I learned that I need to have courage and be vulnerable. I'm willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out. To let myself be seen, deeply seen. To love with my whole heart, even though there's no guarantee.
 lagomism
Joined: 7/21/2015
Msg: 114
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Posted: 7/27/2015 1:14:35 AM


sealady111: When I replied via text that Yes I would like to meet up and made some suggestions.... Whoosh they are gone.
They wanted me to pop over to their place or come to mine.

Certainly NOT do something drastic like go out somewhere. Sheesh


Sealady, I'm sorry you had these hurtful situations! But when I read it, I see personal power...you didn't want and didn't accept their very limited offer. If nothing else, these men now know they have to make more of an effort if they want to spend time with you. :)
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 115
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Posted: 7/27/2015 1:36:35 AM
Thank you lagomism.
Agreed. But gee, golly gosh... it would be nice to meet a good available man.
They are few and far between.


LH there is a massive difference between having an open heart and being naive.
You have often posted that you will not accept the married or men who lie, or are sleazes.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 116
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Posted: 7/27/2015 1:53:58 AM

I could hardly even get a reply with OLD and most of the women were average at best. On here I was instructed to put up a great profile and try all these different message techniques,....Why? To try to get a bit of attention from average to below average women with shitty profiles, slutty pictures, and hypocritical viewpoints?


So you had no success and because of that every female that ignored you is described above....um um um....you're consistant though, you piss and moan everytime you open that gutter mouth. I have to believe Demidar got laid at least once.....



I may be negative but at least my head is not up my A**. And,... I post on here because I can.


Well that's obvious....the negative I mean ....and there's no way you're getting that melon up there so quit pretending you haven't tried because you at least managed to get your attitude shytty. :/
 HotNSC123
Joined: 10/17/2014
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Posted: 7/27/2015 2:31:06 AM
@patchjoker - Ha-ha...awe, did I upset you? =) C'mon dude, if you're going to make insults, at least try to make them entertaining! I know it's hard for you to make a rebuttal without making them, but do make more of an effort. (It's common knowledge, people that can't articulate themselves effectively always default to personal attacks.)

You have single and looking on your profile, which doesn't make sense if you're seeing someone. And for someone that has this "hot woman", you sure are angry and have a negative outlook. That woman has to be thrilled to be with a guy that's so bitter. I mean, you say you're seeing someone new and you're still ranting and raving about OLD? LOL! Why? If it didn't work for you, why are you continuously whining about it? How is that productive? It's not and you know it! People whine because they enjoy it. And yeah, I know you post here because you can, but, that's not what's unusual. It's the fact that you're so angry about dating, when you say you have something good in your life.

And what's your definition of success on here? Getting dates? Getting laid? Long term relations? Marriage? Everyone measures success differently, so how would you know who has success on here and who doesn't? Did you take a poll of the ENTIRE site of PoF? No, you're only using the forums to make that judgement. Yeah, you definitely see people complain in the forums, that's the nature of the forums. However, do you really think that the forum represents the masses? Millions of people are on this site, and I don't see millions of people in the forums, do you? So, is it really your contention that millions of people are here because they're not getting what they seek out of this site, whatever that may be? No, people are clearly getting something out of this site. Most people don't waste their time on things that are not netting them their desired outcome. Your point of view is illogical.
 patchjoker13
Joined: 8/24/2014
Msg: 118
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Posted: 7/27/2015 4:14:57 AM
Ha,ha,ha ,haaa, haaaa. aaa.....and I thought my jokes were bad... You see, other people have posted that they have had little success on here... Why has CrookChaser and HotPants chosen not to insult them as well. I mean...after all, they made negative statements about your wonderful POF. What's the matter?, does your mom own this site or something? When the ladies post about getting tons of messages from perv and creeps....are you going to call them all liars? Of course not. That would go against your white knight - save the day mentality. You got to get right on here and put me in my place,...show me whats really going on. "There ain't nothin wrong with this here datin site...." The same site that advertises other dating sites and Russian bride barns on their own banner spaces. Oh, and try this...do a search for ladies in your area that live about 50 miles from you,...now count the ones that have been on the site in the last week versus how many you find that have been off in months. I don't know if you smart fellers are aware of this but all of those who have profiles are counted as part of these millions but many are not even active. How can a woman message you back if she does not even visit her inbox? Look at new dating sites being started and see why they are being created. You will see that the failure of these types of sites is the reasons why. If these sites worked, there would be no business in new dating sites. Think about it????? Would you even need farmers date, Christian date, Jewish date, taxidermy date, hot cougar connection,.... along with the new trend of female ran sites where only invited men are allowed. You can attack me all you want, but the truth is I have dated more women that you two clowns realize. You see....I am not a monster, I am just ahead of the curve.
 HotNSC123
Joined: 10/17/2014
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Posted: 7/27/2015 4:48:14 AM
@ patchjoker13: LMAO! I tell him to come up with better insults and the best this guy can muster is a mother joke? Really, that's it, bro? That's all you got? You are in your 40's and the best insult you've got is a mother joke? That' hilarious! =)

Why would I call the ladies liars about there being pervs? There's pervs everywhere, not just here. There are female pervs too. What's your point? You've got something against women altogether, bro? My whole thing with you is, that you're so bitter and angry about dating, and yet you still CHOOSE to be here. Then you make assumptions based on zero facts about the ENTIRE site as a whole as to whether people are having success. You're miserable, so you're assumption everyone here must be? Really? Bring facts into this than. Don't tell me to research, when you're making the claim. The burden of proof is on the person making the accusation. Bring in the stats on how many people are unhappy with their PoF experience. Not assumptions, guesses , or anything of like, but FACTS. You do know what that is, right? But, I know you won't because you can't. What you will do and seem to enjoy doing, is complaining and whining that he's not having success. It's everyone's fault, but yours, eh patchjoker13?

And dude, get OFF the internet once and awhile, that's probably part of your problem. Someone who uses the term "white knight" spends entirely too much time on the internet. You don't hear that term off the internet, thus you don't here everyday people using it, because they're not spending their entire life on here.

"You can attack me all you want, but the truth is I have dated more women that you two clowns realize. " Yeah, we all believe you, bro! No, seriously, we do! You're the man, that gets all the hot tail. You've got it all, bro! I mean, this is the internet, where everything that's written is true, right? LOL! What are you going to tell us next, that you're Bill Gate's long lost son? C'mon, man, if you have to brag about it, then there's more than a good chance it's bogus. But, do keep on tell us how much of a lady killer you are. It certainly is comical.
 MaleFeasance
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 120
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Posted: 7/27/2015 5:14:04 AM
The difference between online and real life is this. Online, you need to have a little imagination to convey your personality instead of the shit most people write about how much they love their jobs, how great sushi is, whatever. If you write a decent profile, you can even get dates without a photo if you can figure out how to work that into something funny. If your profile is really good, people will contact you from BFE just to say so. You also need to have a little intuition and not be too lazy to talk with a potential date before meeting. I dated quite a bit on okc before meeting my gf and I can say that only one date was bad, but I ended that before we reached the table. In real life, you have to play the game of pretending you aren't really talking to someone for the reason you're talking to her. In real life, you can find one or two women to talk to in the time it takes to talk to twenty online, so long as you can write a message that isn't like the 10 million others she gets everyday. Dating online is just not that difficult and it's certainly more efficient than going out to look for dates in real life unless you happen to be an extrovert with nothing else to do or you just happen to work in an environment filled with datable women.
 MaleFeasance
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 121
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Posted: 7/27/2015 5:22:57 AM
The guys who have little going for them but write a well crafted articulate message, so what??????
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Let me put it this way. When I was dating on okc, I thought it would be interesting to see how well I could do with no photo and a well written, totally off the wall profile. As it turned out, I still managed to get dates. However, "articulate" is not enough and "well crafted" doesn't mean writing the same shit using big words. Writing an interesting message that is articulate (so that one doesn't appear illiterate) goes a lot further than you think. The operative word here is interesting as in interesting enough to make someone curious about who would actually have written it. Sure, the person will eventually ask for a photo, but making a game out of that only helps. Women seem to love to play with words, so being good at it and having a quick wit makes it pretty easy to get a conversation started.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 122
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Posted: 7/27/2015 6:32:35 AM

Why has CrookChaser and HotPants chosen not to insult them as well. I mean...after all, they made negative statements about your wonderful POF


I don't care that you make negative comments....that's your nature, has been almost everytime you post with this profile and your last one.

What I don't like is the gender name calling. It makes you look like a angry foot stomping whiney schmuck. Those guys need to be told what they are because it's obvious he's really not dating an "8" and in a healthy relationship. You reek of desperation and frustration. Always have. :/
 LLove2LaughToo
Joined: 3/5/2011
Msg: 123
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Posted: 7/27/2015 7:23:15 AM

patchjoker13 :
Lets take a vote, how many dates has everyone been on with the use of this site?


I’ve been using POF on an off for about ten years, under previous profiles. I can honestly say that in the past I have had my share of casual dates, including two long term relationships. My profile was activated in early May I think, after my last long term relationship ended. A couple of weeks ago I turned my profile off again, because I am currently seeing someone.

POF works for me, and it is the site I usually recommend my friends to use.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 124
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Posted: 7/27/2015 7:38:41 AM
Patch,
1-2 dates a week.
 Peas_
Joined: 5/2/2015
Msg: 125
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Posted: 7/27/2015 8:15:54 AM
Gee,...I dunno with a profile that states:

About Me
Online dating is a joke and not a good way to meet people in my opinion. I do not put information about me in this section because it does no good. When I had a more traditional profile and more pictures, no ladies would respond to my messages. I am sure that I am not the type of guy the ladies are looking for,.... so I expect nothing.

First Date
There are no dates.... well at least not generated from this site


...why even be a member? That's not marketing yourself, not even for only forum posting. Just plain 100% negative. blech.

I would imagine that this would shine through in his daily real life also.
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