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 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Ohenryx -- Actually, there is a database that costs less than $50.00 a year that anyone can subscribe to and get almost any information on a person. And you can cross reference that info with other databases, and come up with almost everything about a person except what they ate for breakfast that morning.
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 177
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Posted: 11/25/2017 10:47:50 AM
^^^Wouldn't a search for information on someone require getting some personal information on the person, to avoid the possibility of more than one person having the same name, and not knowing which person is being checked out? If I meet someone who starts asking for personal information almost right away, I'm out of there, after telling the inquisitor to MYOB.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 11/25/2017 11:57:18 AM

Yes, and some dates can be pretty coarse in their line of questioning.

Yeah, that can be unfortunate. It can be a real mood-breaker, a self-fulfilling prophecy of dates not working out well for someone when they apply that kind of questioning thing as the core part of the date ("But I do that because my dates haven't gone well, I don't want to waste my time!"). And it can inadvertantly take that course because it's a source of conversation stemming when ya don't know someone very well. I would say leave a few questions prior to dating -- and when out on the 1st date, just treat it the same way as if you're mingling with someone at a party. Things will show themselves about them over time. It's more fun, no pressure, just going with the flow, etc.

Wouldn't a search for information on someone require getting some personal information on the person

Yes. A phone #, address, or full name + zipcode, usually. If all you have is a full name + zipcode, and her name's "Jennifer Smith" and you live in a nice sized city, well, you're kind of SOL on accuracy if that's all you know and can discern from besides age range. However, much of the time, even on a 100% free site (truepeoplesearch.com), it's not always a brick wall at all... and provides some great info. All info won't be 100% accurate about someone as it could mix with an on-paper "doppleganger", but you get a lot of info. Look yourself up. :)
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 179
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Posted: 11/25/2017 2:06:05 PM
I got asked once if I drank??????

The silliness of it all mind boggles me.......

 _Cinnamon__Girl_
Joined: 3/28/2016
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Posted: 11/26/2017 1:09:27 AM
@"If I hear one more man complain that his wife never had an orgasm, I'll scream.
Men bring this up during our first telephone conversation....."


"Oh, your wife had orgasms. The reason you didn't know, is because you were never there when it happened."
 Calresident318
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 1/1/2018 7:41:22 AM
Good answer lol
 ShawnP1120
Joined: 1/21/2018
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Posted: 1/29/2018 1:15:10 PM

"Do you know how to shop for your man?"


I don't want to get into the other weird questions but this one resonates with me to a degree. Though I don't think I'd ever phrase it like that, and certainly not very early in meeting someone, however.

For myself, esp. things like clothes, I'm a very casual person, jeans/sweats - T-shirt. I also know I'm not very fashion oriented. I also hate to shop, esp. for myself.

I'm also not defined as a person by my clothes, if that makes sense. If I'm out buying clothes I grabbing a pair of jeans and a Grateful Dead T-shirt, lol. Obviously I would think that set up doesn't bother the lady I'm with or we wouldn't be this far along, but she might find me "easier on the eye" in a pair of comfortable khakis and a henley. If she bought that for me I'd be happy and impressed, whereas if she bought me a button down or a 3 pc. I'd feel like she was trying to change me or at the very least had no understanding of me.

Strangely enough I feel the same about my hair length and facial hair, lol

So yea, the question seems a bit ham-fisted and awkward. I can see a legitimate idea behind it I guess
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 1/30/2018 3:01:05 AM
A guy sent me a questionnaire. I wasn't interested in him, and I wouldn't be filling it out anyway. Instead, I told him to GFH, go fvck himself.
 Platinum_Blonde_Angel
Joined: 1/23/2018
Msg: 184
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Posted: 1/30/2018 6:14:30 AM
If I had any kind of conversation with a person who wanted to know only what I could do for him/her, I'd assume it was a job interview.

To which I would politely respond: "Sorry, I'm retired."
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 1/30/2018 11:01:44 AM
Some questions are more interesting than other questions. Definitely more interesting. I just received this one last night:



I will ask because neither of us is a spring chicken. Can you get excited easily?

I had to think about that one for all of 5 seconds before I realized what she was asking. But I am not put off in the least by that question. Apparently ED is reaching epic proportions. Back about 2 months ago, a woman I know (not someone I have dated) was telling me about her dating experiences.


The last 3 men that I’ve dated between them couldn’t manage one erection.

Which made me laugh, and got her a little miffed at me for laughing. I guess it wasn’t supposed to be funny, but it seemed funny to me, at least the way she said it.


_Cinnamon_Girl_
"Oh, your wife had orgasms. The reason you didn't know, is because you were never there when it happened."

That indeed made me laugh. But you should probably be careful saying that directly to someone. That just might come under the heading of “fighting words”.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 1/30/2018 12:32:27 PM

Which made me laugh, and got her a little miffed at me for laughing. I guess it wasn’t supposed to be funny, but it seemed funny to me, at least the way she said it.

Yeah, the way she worded it Is funny. The last 3 men I've dated between them couldn't manage 1 erection -- that basically makes it sound like she had all 3 guys at the same time, and not one of them could get the ball rolling for her. LOL.

It'd make a great Viagra commercial of it working out, with all 3 guys managing 3 erections, as the gal is like a kid at the candy store with the fruitful by-product of all 3 fully erect... smiling from ear to ear, and enjoying all 3 limbs as the commercial goes on about Viagra's side-effects. And it ending with her "hands full", saying: "Now they're 3-for-3, not 0-for-3. Thanks Viagra!"
 Platinum_Blonde_Angel
Joined: 1/23/2018
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Posted: 1/30/2018 2:18:26 PM
^^^
The 2 of you are watching too much porn & too much "Fantasy Island" IMO ;0D
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 1/30/2018 2:44:06 PM
This ahole with the questionnaire lied about where he lived, to start with. The questions starts with innocuous questions, like what's your favorite color, what's your favorite food, then BAM.....what didn't you like about your mother, lol. He lives in a cold, gray, rainy, rural part of WA, so I guess he has a lot of free time to be an ahole.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 1/30/2018 3:40:02 PM

The 2 of you are watching too much porn & too much "Fantasy Island" IMO ;0D

I think that'd be the Gal watching too much Fantasy Island. She's got 3 dudes on her, springing into action!

The situation Henry refers to reminds me of my friend way back when he lost his virginity. A cute older (mid 20s) gal had him come over to where she was babysitting. They make out and he asks if she had a condom -- she said yeah-yeah, and they continue. Then when they're naked he asks again -- and she freaks out: "Out of *ALL* the guys... YOU want to wear the condom!" and stammers upstairs to the owner's bedroom to grab one.
 greatgal1977
Joined: 3/1/2017
Msg: 190
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Posted: 1/30/2018 5:34:03 PM
This was from the guy that I've never met in person. His mother was a friend of a friend of my mother. We live in different provinces. Somehow our mothers thought it would be a good idea for us to get to know each other.

Anyhow, we communicated on the phone since we lived so far apart. First words out of his mouth were something like: "My mother wants me to meet someone but I don't." That should've been my clue that something is wrong here. We talked for few days, normal stuff, like getting to know each other. He asked me to come and visit him. I was seriously considering it. He couldn't leave his work to come and visit me. I couldn't get any time off from my work at that time but told him that hopefully soon. Everything was OK till he started asking me about where I was buying my makeup. Like, where I buy it, what brand is it, how much it costs. Do I buy different brands? The color of the lipstick that I buy, the color of mascara and eye shadow, etc... Very weird questions. I repeatedly tried to change the subject but he t wouldn't let it go. I asked him why he needs to know all that but he got very defensive. It's like he was trying to shop for makeup for himself.

I ended all of the contact with him. Couldn't get over that weird conversation. His mother tried to explain to my mother that her son was just trying to keep a convo going and that I need to give him another chance. No thank you. It was a total turn-off for me.

P.S. Our mothers are no longer talking to each other.
 Platinum_Blonde_Angel
Joined: 1/23/2018
Msg: 191
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Posted: 1/30/2018 6:13:25 PM

P.S. Our mothers are no longer talking to each other.



Everything was OK till he started asking me about where I was buying my makeup. Like, where I buy it, what brand is it, how much it costs. Do I buy different brands? The color of the lipstick that I buy, the color of mascara and eye shadow, etc... Very weird questions. I repeatedly tried to change the subject but he t wouldn't let it go. I asked him why he needs to know all that but he got very defensive. It's like he was trying to shop for makeup for himself.


Maybe they disagreed on Cover Girl?
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 1/30/2018 6:19:56 PM
Awww, I feel bad for his mom. She's in denial. He needs to come clean with her. Rip that bandaid off.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 1/31/2018 1:18:49 PM

Somehow our mothers thought it would be a good idea for us to get to know each other.

Aww, that's sweet. But if they start putting video-cameras in the bedroom after dating gets underway -- it's going too far. Never fall into that trap! I've fallen into that trap too many times... ;)

First words out of his mouth were something like: "My mother wants me to meet someone but I don't."

If he said that verbatim, yeah, I would have just responded by saying "Yeah, it is awkward, and since we live in different provinces, hey, let's just add each other on facebook to appease them, and just call it day - cool?"

If he didn't say that verbatim, but you got that Impression -- still, it's up to you to Directly ask him if is keen to the idea, to verify if he really is or not -- not to "chase" him. You don't want even the circumstances twisting his arm. Bad idea.

We talked for few days, normal stuff, like getting to know each other. He asked me to come and visit him. I was seriously considering it. He couldn't leave his work to come and visit me.

Sounds like it was more of an Impression you got where he was more expressive that he's not in position to aim to meet anyone, but he could be up for it, ok. But again, I would have put it at fish-or-cut-bait from the outset on the 1st convo.

Everything was OK till he started asking me about where I was buying my makeup. Like, where I buy it, what brand is it, how much it costs. Do I buy different brands? The color of the lipstick that I buy, the color of mascara and eye shadow, etc...

Yeah, that is weird. Really weird. Even if...

It's like he was trying to shop for makeup for himself.

.... he's more likely getting it for a girl he's kinda seeing, and doesn't really care about meeting this gal living in another province, but if she wants to cum down, sure, fine. :)

P.S. Our mothers are no longer talking to each other.

Well, if they were friends of friends, that can happen kinda naturally. But if there was some bad blood or something -- that's immature by at least one party. Aging doesn't really make you emotionally mature, even though we're taught that it does.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 1/31/2018 7:11:43 PM

A guy sent me a questionnaire.


I had someone do that once. It was kinda cure.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 1/31/2018 7:12:29 PM
What is this "too much porn" you speak of?
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 196
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Posted: 2/1/2018 6:10:20 AM
its handy to have some porn, but if you have too much...well, don't beat yourself over it.

last time I had sex, the woman gave me a 50 questions interview,too. She was an ex-Hawaiian Tropic model with a wonderful rack, so...I tried not to see it as a red flag. it all depends on what we're looking for.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 2/1/2018 11:05:48 AM

gtomustang
last time I had sex, the woman gave me a 50 questions interview,too. She was an ex-Hawaiian Tropic model with a wonderful rack, so...I tried not to see it as a red flag. it all depends on what we're looking for.

Ahh, the pre-date, pre-sex job interview questionnaire. Gotta love it.

I just failed one last night, apparently. I’ve been talking for about a week with a really attractive woman. If I had actually scored a date, she would have easily been the most attractive woman in the past year and a half. We hadn’t met because she has been out of town on a business trip. Last night, she was driving home from out of state and called me on the phone, our first (and only) phone conversation. It was a very frustrating experience. Lots of questions from her, me answering, asking the same questions back, and receiving only deflections for answers.

I thought I had acquitted myself fairly well under the circumstances, but this morning I received this text message:


I'm not interested in meeting after speaking with you last night you seem very nice but I don't think our personalities will mesh I wish you good luck in your search


If I had it to do over again, I would play it differently. After the first time I answered and she deflected, I would have refused to continue that game. And normally I would have done that, but as I said, very attractive. I was trying a little too hard, and that pretty much guarantees failure when it comes to the Dating Game.

 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 2/1/2018 11:49:29 AM

I was trying a little too hard, and that pretty much guarantees failure when it comes to the Dating Game.


Exactly, and her interrogation process was the shit test. If she walked away from that feeling like she could have you wrapped around her finger, it's a failure.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
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Posted: 2/1/2018 12:27:49 PM

I just failed one last night, apparently. I’ve been talking for about a week with a really attractive woman. If I had actually scored a date, she would have easily been the most attractive woman in the past year and a half. We hadn’t met because she has been out of town on a business trip. Last night, she was driving home from out of state and called me on the phone, our first (and only) phone conversation. It was a very frustrating experience. Lots of questions from her, me answering, asking the same questions back, and receiving only deflections for answers.


I don't understand all the questions.
What sort of questions?
I miss the old days when you'd get your questions answered by not asking them, you simply had conversations.

I never remember asking a lot of questions.

I do remember one guy saying over and over "I'm not in a rush to jump into anything, I'm going to take my time",
which I thought was unnecessary to say and I translated it to mean "I might be interested, but I'll let you know after
I see what else is out there" so I called it quits after the meeting. He did call a few weeks later and left a message, but I
never responded. He made it worse by saying he didn't think he gave me an honest chance and figured he
at least owed me a dinner. A chance? WTF?

Gads. People can be really sucky galore.
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
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Posted: 2/1/2018 12:38:12 PM

sucky galore.


Is that P*ssy Galore's younger sister?
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