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 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 175
No answer is an answer Is that really true?Page 8 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)

Why? Because of dipshit chronically single women on here who call guys creepy, call them stalkers because they had the ****ing control issues that they sent a second message just to be sure that she actually got one before ASSUMING that she's just ignoring their message. Sorry princesses, but the internet isn't all about you.

A written response isn't the only one that's right, but jesus ****ing christ do you REALLY expect 100% of people to know that you saw that they messaged you, opened it, and chose not to respond? The problem is the ****-ass ****ing attitude some of you have over a follow-up message being sent, when all you had to do, from the ****ing beginning, was spend 5 seconds of your precious, clearly super important life, sending a message just saying you're not interested.

Now, since you ****tards can't read and make shit up, I'm not saying that any woman has to send a message, but when you go with complete silence, NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO KNOW THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF YOUR SILENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So enough with the bullshit about the guys messaging you over and over and over and over and over. That's YOUR ****ing choice that led to that, now ****ing live with it.


From all the asterisks, I assume that the answer to my question is, No, RT is not happy.

Though I can't figure out why, I did agree with him that if a person ignores a message they run the risk of getting another.

By the way, RT, if you ever do bother emailing me (ulikely) --- don't worry, I'll delete without reading and block immediately. I'll even consider moving - just in case. You won't have to guess and spend your precious minutes writing a 2nd email. Though if your time is so valuable, why have you been arguing and changing from your original argument that a woman is responsible for any violent reactions her lack of response caused in the person who sent the original email? It doesn't strike me as the words or actions of an intelligent person.

Although I don't disagree with your very first statement of (I think) it would be nice if POF had a 'not interested' button.
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 176
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/2/2015 3:05:17 PM

Though if your time is so valuable, why have you been arguing and changing from your original argument that a woman is responsible for any violent reactions her lack of response caused in the person who sent the original email? It doesn't strike me as the words or actions of an intelligent person.


I'm not changing from that. You chose not to respond, now you get what happens when you don't respond, usually no other messages, but sometimes other messages.

The violent emails... All I said is that there's no way that women don't share the blame for those. The probability of it always being the guy's fault is pretty much impossible.
 LexiInMDR
Joined: 8/25/2015
Msg: 177
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No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/2/2015 3:09:05 PM
When I don't answer, it means DON'T ASK... OTOH you probably don't want to hear my answer. :P
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 178
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No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/2/2015 4:06:11 PM

The violent emails... All I said is that there's no way that women don't share the blame for those.


Yes, because we ALL know a women not answering, or actually answering can contain content that would make any reasonable sane man fly off the handle and send VIOLENT emails.

Nuff said...back to our regular programming!
 02saltydog
Joined: 8/21/2015
Msg: 179
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/2/2015 4:12:03 PM
I always assume that if I send a message and I don't hear back on 24 or 36 hours, the answer is "she is not interested". Why would I bother with anything further? No one owes me a response and I don't owe anyone a response if they message me. A further message is silly, why would I send a message saying "Did you receive my message two days ago?" What is the point?
 Nj2ut
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 180
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/2/2015 4:26:35 PM
"The violent emails... All I said is that there's no way that women don't share the blame for those. The probability of it always being the guy's fault is pretty much impossible."

In what normal adult interaction is sending a "violent email" remotely close to being justified action especially where the recipent is expected to share the blame? Honestly if I was a woman and my options were answer every email from guys I wasn't interested in or expect to receive emails threateneing me or calling me derogatory names, then I would go for option c ...quit online dating all together. What self respecting woman is going to put up with that crap from some guy who lacks the emotional maturity to date as an adult.

If some guys can't handle not getting a response to their message or a thanks but no thanks without firing off a "F U B!#%^" missive to someone they never even had a conversation with.....what's going to happen when they pay for the first date and she rejects the idea of a second date? Or after paying for several dates the woman decides she is no,onger interested in?"
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 181
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/2/2015 4:35:19 PM
Hi RT - that was a very cordial response and I really appreciate the lack of asterisks, thank you.

However, I have to disagree with the following:
The violent emails... All I said is that there's no way that women don't share the blame for those. The probability of it always being the guy's fault is pretty much impossible.


Only one person writes an email.
That person is 100% responsible for the content of that message and sending it off.
I believe that's a legality; there is no excuse of 'it's her fault I wrote that because she did/said this.'
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 182
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/2/2015 4:37:38 PM

The violent emails... All I said is that there's no way that women don't share the blame for those. The probability of it always being the guy's fault is pretty much impossible.


I can't see any justification for violent emails either from a woman or a man. Not as an initial email, or in response to an insulting turndown.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 183
If a poster screams in a forest, does it make a point?
Posted: 9/2/2015 7:28:26 PM
Shoot, everyone's gonna know the circumstances of my silence...it means I got the boot :)

Personally, I think RT should just go out and get laid. He seems stressed over something. His caps button might be getting fingered more than Saucy Sue.

"You chose not to respond, now you get what happens when you don't respond!"

>>>ida know, just sounds angry. He didn't have the exclamation point, I added it in. if I had a sister who showed me that sentence in reference to her, that's what i'd read into it.

"All I said is that there's no way that women don't share the blame for those."

>>>why is she responsible for how we react or overreact? its not like she came to our house and made us a proposal. she put up a public ad, and we are the ones who came to her proverbial door and rung the bell.

"The probability of it always being the guy's fault is pretty much impossible."

>>>if some telemarketer calls you, and you hang up or don't bother to answer...do they have the right to blow up over your refusing to pick up the phone?
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 184
If a poster screams in a forest, does it make a point?
Posted: 9/4/2015 6:02:28 AM

Only one person writes an email.
That person is 100% responsible for the content of that message and sending it off.

Exactly. Non participation on someone else's part doesn't make them responsible for what you do. It's immature to even think the person getting the message has any responsibility to the person writing it.

If your theory was correct, Brad Pitt would have a whole hell of a lot of responsibility for any negative response I have to his ignoring my requests that he leave his wife and marry me. How dare he ignore messages from me - I am a person after all, damn it! I deserve to be acknowledged for reaching out. LOL
 ClooneysMentor
Joined: 8/2/2015
Msg: 185
If a poster screams in a forest, does it make a point?
Posted: 9/4/2015 8:27:25 AM
This sucks.

Christie Brinkley is only 14 years older then me this month, but she won't respond!

Fussy women :(
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 186
If a poster screams in a forest, does it make a point?
Posted: 9/4/2015 8:38:39 AM
The dog growled and barked, then looked around with suspicion. He barked again and showed his teeth. He looked left and right and then jerked his head to the left and found his enemy, his lifelong enemy, just right off sight so he ran in that direction, but it kept disappearing from view so he turned and turned and turned hoping to grab it, and finally destroy with his corpulent jaws that nasty thing that was his enemy.



And we go again and again and again.
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 187
If a poster screams in a forest, does it make a point?
Posted: 9/4/2015 11:30:59 AM

............but it kept disappearing from view so he turned and turned and turned hoping to grab it, and finally..............



?He found a little tail?
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 188
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If a poster screams in a forest, does it make a point?
Posted: 9/4/2015 12:34:12 PM
Why is this reminding me of Journey? Good song for truckers!

Wheel in the sky keeps on turnin'
I don't know where I'll be tomorrow
Wheel in the sky keeps on turnin'
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 189
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/4/2015 3:05:24 PM

In what normal adult interaction is sending a "violent email" remotely close to being justified action especially where the recipent is expected to share the blame? Honestly if I was a woman and my options were answer every email from guys I wasn't interested in or expect to receive emails threateneing me or calling me derogatory names, then I would go for option c ...quit online dating all together. What self respecting woman is going to put up with that crap from some guy who lacks the emotional maturity to date as an adult.

If some guys can't handle not getting a response to their message or a thanks but no thanks without firing off a "F U B!#%^" missive to someone they never even had a conversation with.....what's going to happen when they pay for the first date and she rejects the idea of a second date? Or after paying for several dates the woman decides she is no,onger interested in?"


What if you messaged a girl and she responded with "I don't date [racial slur used for black people]."? You're not allowed to tell her off for that?

On another thread we went through this whole thing with the theoretic response of explaining that she isn't interested because "You're not attractive enough."

If you're going to word things like an ***hole, you're going to get treated like an ***hole by people. Don't want that to happen? Talk to people with the same respect you want from them.

There's way more than enough examples of where women prove that women are 10000000000000% as capable as men to be a**** And if someone tells you off for it, well, that was your own fault. It's not hard to act like a decent person.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 190
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/4/2015 3:10:50 PM
Actually no, you are not allowed to " tell her off" she gave you a reply you claim Men pine for..
If you say hi to a stranger on the street and they walk by do you grab them, slam them into a wall and scream " I said HELLO"? no, you just carry on the the street.
I do get what you are trying to say regards responses but some DBs here on POF have ruined it for others. Fair is where the pig wins a blue ribbon - you just need to take a deep breathe and message another woman. Way less stressful, hmm
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 191
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/4/2015 8:22:25 PM
if silence is her response...she's being polite.

If your response is to bother her...you aren't being polite

If your response is to call her out or make any other accusation...you aren't being polite.
 Nj2ut
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 192
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/4/2015 9:52:59 PM
[What if you messaged a girl and she responded with "I don't date [racial slur used for black people]."? You're not allowed to tell her off for that?]

1. "I don't date [racial slur used for black people]." Is not even in the same ballpark as no response or "thanks but I'm not interested ".
2. Sure..... I could tell her off but then why would I then bring myself down to her level? The time I spent writing a response to "tell her off" could be easily be invested in writing to another woman who hopefully is of a better character.


[There's way more than enough examples of where women prove that women are 10000000000000% as capable as men to be a**** And if someone tells you off for it, well, that was your own fault. It's not hard to act like a decent person.]

That's not the topic we're discussing unless you think a woman who doesn't respond to every message she receives is a a********.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 193
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/4/2015 10:09:20 PM
RT online dating is like cars.com. Or ebay. People make offers, people don't take offers. You contact a seller, the seller doesn't respond. The rejected party won't be soothed. The rejected party will shrug and keep looking.
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 194
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/5/2015 7:26:48 AM

1. "I don't date [racial slur used for black people]." Is not even in the same ballpark as no response or "thanks but I'm not interested ".


Right. And in those cases, no, the girls didn't deserve that response. But in the case of "You're not attractive enough.", if someone chose to react like that, she kind of deserved it.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 195
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/5/2015 7:30:30 AM

I can't see any justification for violent emails either from a woman or a man. Not as an initial email, or in response to an insulting turndown.


I'm not saying a rude retaliation email is right. However people that receive such emails after sending an insulting turndown have no business complaining about it.
 Nj2ut
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 196
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/5/2015 7:55:49 AM
[Right. And in those cases, no, the girls didn't deserve that response. But in the case of "You're not attractive enough.", if someone chose to react like that, she kind of deserved it.]

Honestly I have yet to have a woman cite my attractiveness (or race) as a reason she wasn't interested. But even if I got a response like that, I wouldn't even waste my time I telling her off. Someone like that wouldn't be worth my time to engage in further.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 197
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Posted: 9/5/2015 5:32:36 PM
All this because You can't get a polite "No thank you?"

You ought to know by now that dating is like gambling in a casino. The odds are ALWAYS with the house. Only play with money that you can afford to lose. If you don't like losing-don't play. Find something else to occupy your time.

What these women want, you, nor I, have. Quit beating your head against the wall. Grasp the idea the women can't recognize a good man, even when one comes up and kicks them in the hind end. If you have to argue with them, you've already lost. Put your effort into something else.
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 198
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Posted: 9/5/2015 6:07:03 PM
^^^Agreed. Why waste time on the nay's when there is Yay's in the sea...someplace. The reason doesn't even matter because it is as varied as the stars!
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 199
No answer is an answer Is that really true?
Posted: 9/5/2015 8:35:52 PM

Grasp the idea the women can't recognize a good man, even when one comes up and kicks them in the hind end.


LOL. I think kicking a woman in the hind end invalidates the 'good man' card.

Women want what they want. The same as men want what they want.

Complaining about it or letting loose with an angry email to the person does nothing to change anyone's mind and usually only makes someone look foolish, desperate, or crazy.
Keep your cool and keep on looking.

Recognize that there may be something in your profile they recognize as eliminating them. For me, I eliminate myself if the profile indicates he wants a slender woman (so many code words!) or no kids (I have a child). I usually send an email, but not always (that depends on their profile and their first email).
But maybe you have something about not dating a smoker and they are or perhaps they're allergic to your dog/cat, totally bored with your choice of music, not enjoy going out to concerts like you do, and feel you are not religiously compatible.
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