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 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
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^^^Unfortunately, it also stopped the barrage of young women not wanting to date guys their own age and blowing up the inboxes of men old enough to be their older youthful BF! ;(
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 377
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/28/2015 9:49:11 PM
"WTF is wrong with dating women in your "immediate age group"?"

I've asked a few men this, when I see that they stop the maximum age range a few years younger than themselves.

"Why won't you date women your own age?" I ask.

They all tell me that women their own age are "old ladies and can't keep up with them."

They ALL said this.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 378
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/28/2015 10:56:55 PM

They all tell me that women their own age are "old ladies and can't keep up with them."

Since I entered my 5th decade on the planet, a giant sloth would have no problem keeping up with me. So that's not it.
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 379
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/28/2015 11:40:59 PM
There are some guys out there who just see women their own age (usually once they hit about 45-50 or so) as old women in rocking chairs. One guy who would not date women in their 50's said "I don't want to date my old aunt who has a mustache" and it turned out he was actually over 60 even though he had listed 49 as his age. They have a really negative view of women once women hit 40 plus, it's like Kryptonite to them.

There just seems to be this built in repulsion and almost a sense that if they hang around women their own age, it is going to poison them. It's just a really big turn off for them, and almost a disgusting insult based on some of the responses I got, to even think about a woman their own age.

*shrug*
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 380
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/29/2015 4:43:05 AM
^^^ I have had men my own age or within a couple years tell me I am too old for them when I send them a message. I have also run into some of these same men when I am out and about and they are suddenly SO interested. No thanks.
 Dragracer428
Joined: 1/1/2012
Msg: 381
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/29/2015 5:16:09 AM


^^^ I have had men my own age or within a couple years tell me I am too old for them when I send them a message. I have also run into some of these same men when I am out and about and they are suddenly SO interested. No thanks.


I can only shake my head at what you say about dating in your area because unless you look a lot older up close people might mistake you for my daughter if they saw us together. LOL But I guess it also says something about the prevalence of outdated pictures in online dating when the attitude changes so much in real life.

On topic, I date women +/- 5-6 years from my age, mainly by choice. Grin
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 382
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/29/2015 5:41:58 AM
I actually look much younger in person. I am only 5'2" and fairly petite so that helps with the illusion of youth. Sometimes when I am out with one of my sons people mistake them for my dates. My sons are not amused by this.

I honestly don't think it has anything to do with looks. I think it is a mentality that a lot of men (sorry to be gender specific but this is my experience) have pounded into their heads. These older and often wealthy (again, my area) men believe they are supposed to be with a little 20 or early 30 something. And this is even truer after they have been in a long marriage. They won't even entertain the thought of a woman their own age. I can go through 50 profiles on Match before I come to a man my age or within a few years who is "searching for" a 49 year old. It is the mentality. They see me in person and are interested - I guess because I pass their test - unfortunately for them they usually look worse than their photos! I am not going to change the mindset of these men. I just have to wait for that rare needle in a haystack to cross my path.
 Blackwood85
Joined: 5/20/2013
Msg: 383
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Posted: 8/29/2015 7:05:51 AM
I've run into the same issue with some guys my age who won't date a woman who's over 30 even though they themselves are 30-31 years olds, they continually date girls who are in their early 20s. For example I was asked this by a co-worker.

So what's your age range on Tinder?

Me: 23-35, so a six year difference though I'm into slightly older women.
Him: Wow you like them old.
Me: Hell I'll be 30 in October, it's not that big of an age gap.
Him: Hell I'm 31, my age range is 21-25.
Me: That's your issue now.

Seriously everytime he tells a story about a meeting a girl or going out on a date something bad always happens, sometimes he does something minor and they take a huge offense to it because one: They tend to be non-American so the cultural gap is too high so a small offense is a huge deal to them and he has no idea how to deal with it and two: They're young so they're immature. He's in super shape so I can understand wanting someone who's fit but he acts like women in their 30s are just old, dead inside women with baggage.

At the same time it doesn't help when a 34-35 year old woman thinks a guy who'2 29 years old and kicking 30's door down is a kid. When some women themselves kinda help perpetuate the image then it doesn't really help.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 384
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/29/2015 7:11:34 AM
Nice to see you Jesse :)
The can't keep up line, huhuh..
Maybe they think a woman 20 years younger gives them an air of Youth.
I don't notice many much younger women with the older dudes here tho.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 385
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/29/2015 7:19:59 AM

I for one was happy with the age restrictions. It stopped the barrage of old men not dating women their own age and blowing up the inboxes of women young enough to be their daughters!


The old rules didn't prevent anyone from having email restrictions. It was optional. The people that didn't want to receive emails from someone outside a certain age range were able to do so.
 jessebunnies
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 386
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Posted: 8/29/2015 7:20:01 AM

Unfortunately, it also stopped the barrage of young women not wanting to date guys their own age and blowing up the inboxes of men old enough to be their older youthful BF! ;(

Most mildy attractive young women don't have a problem attracting older men in real life or online. They don't need to blow up the inboxes of old men.


They all tell me that women their own age are "old ladies and can't keep up with them."

I call BS! There's little activity difference between a 45 yr old and a 50 yr old or a 60 yr vs a 65 yr old. I spent my early 20's dating older men and let me tell you this whole keep up with them is BS. It's almost entirely and ego/control/sexual thing. Since the invention of Viagra these men think their Superman in the sheets! I find it rather disgusting!

I have men 15/20/30 yrs older than me write to me on OKC all the time. It's such a turn off to know I'd be their arm candy that supports their fragile failing male ego. I want to find someone to live my life with not someone whose already lived life. Yes someday I'll be old, wrinkly, rocking chair, white haired old lady but I want my equal sitting next to me when that time comes not someone ten feet underground already! Just me though!
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 387
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/29/2015 7:24:02 AM


I'm always amused by the amount of old men who think that dating someone 20-30 years younger is age appropriate!


Can you hear me laughing at you with your use of the word "appropriate"??????

Can ya?


WTF is wrong with dating women in your "immediate age group"?


Nothing.
Doesn't mean that me, you or anyone else can't date outside our "immediate age group", whatever the phuck that means? Care to define?


I've asked a few men this, when I see that they stop the maximum age range a few years younger than themselves.

"Why won't you date women your own age?" I ask.

They all tell me that women their own age are "old ladies and can't keep up with them."

They ALL said this.


"ALL" of those "few"?????? I've never been asked that question from anyone in my life? Any ideas why that is? Would it be because the answer that I would give wouldn't be the same "generic" bull ca ca you get from those that you have decided to "ask"? As in, you are asking simpletons a simple question. Start asking intelligent people questions and maybe you'll get replies that you can ponder on.

Try it.
It's cool.

I don't date aliens.
Older or younger.

Those phuckers tend to be kinky as shiat when they drop the linen.
 jessebunnies
Joined: 2/18/2013
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Posted: 8/29/2015 7:40:41 AM

Nothing.
Doesn't mean that me, you or anyone else can't date outside our "immediate age group", whatever the phuck that means? Care to define?

You have no idea what age appropriate means? It's common sense! We don't need Wikipedia for this!


As in, you are asking simpletons a simple question. Start asking intelligent people questions and maybe you'll get replies that you can ponder on.

So now everyone that gets a question asked of them should have the average IQ of a genius in order to get a cohesive answer?
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 389
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/29/2015 7:51:40 AM

You have no idea what age appropriate means? It's common sense! We don't need Wikipedia for this!


That can be subjective to some degree. For some people, anyone not within 5 years of their age is "not appropriate". For others, it could be 10, 15, or even 20 years. Granted, probably not a large percentage of people want to date someone that is 15-20 years older / younger. But it does happen.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 390
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/29/2015 7:54:03 AM

You have no idea what age appropriate means?


Age "appropriate". There's that word again, and again, I'm laughing at your use of it. What you define as "appropriate" is based on a few things. Upbringing. The society of which you live. Your country. Your "appropriate" may not be mine. Which is basically what this whole conversation is about. You, may not even consider dating someone 20 years older than you, or younger. That doesn't make it "wrong" for another to do it. Well, sorry, in YOUR eyes it IS "wrong", isn't it?????? Again, your definition of "appropriate" will be different than others. You can either accept that, or argue till you are blue in the face that it is "wrong". (we are not talking about murder here by the way)


So now everyone that gets a question asked of them should have the average IQ of a genius in order to get a cohesive answer?


Matters what kind of answer or information you are looking for. If you are looking for answers or replies that agree with yours, I'm sure you can pick your audience. If you actually want informative and intelligent answers, don't aim your questions at phucktards. Now, that I would define as "common sense" but, I digress.
 overunity
Joined: 8/16/2014
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Posted: 8/29/2015 8:11:45 AM
For some women the ONLY thing they have going for themselves IS their younger age. Which in some cases isn't worth anything to more intelligent older men.
 Blackwood85
Joined: 5/20/2013
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Posted: 8/29/2015 8:21:15 AM

For some women the only thing they have going for themselves IS their younger age. Which in some cases isn't worth anything to some intelligent men.


This X10.

I remember watching a documentary about sugar daddies and younger women and how it's somehow that women can just use their bodies and sex in order to get ahead in life. Going to conventions to meet rich older men, who'll fund their projects and pay them as long as those chicks are spending time with them and giving it up every so often. People have tried to justify it as adults being adults and that women are behind anyway etc......But there is something about the toil, the hardwork, the long nights, the sacrifices that one makes and getting by on your own merits that makes it more rewarding in the end.
 benartflick
Joined: 3/8/2012
Msg: 393
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Posted: 8/29/2015 8:37:02 AM

"Since the invention of Viagra these men think their Superman in the sheets! I find it rather disgusting!"


Perhaps faster than a speeding bullet, but certainly no Superman.

From 5 to 16, I pursued girls my age or older. At 16 I tried to leap a few tall older bodies in a single bound. Failed! At 17 & 18, I liked the girls 16 & up.

After my divorce I preferred women about my age until now.

Currently a woman over 55 who enjoys golf, travel and we hit it off might be appropriate for ME.

What others find appropriate for them is their business. Michael Douglas's wife is 25 years younger. Is that inappropriate or disgusting? (I do believe Woody marrying his step-daughter was disgusting as well as the nude pictures he took off her while she was under the age of 18.)
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 394
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Posted: 8/29/2015 9:02:12 AM
"I have had men my own age or within a couple years tell me I am too old for them when I send them a message. I have also run into some of these same men when I am out and about and they are suddenly SO interested. No thanks."

This is an interesting example of how online dating and the concept of "shopping for perfection" makes things so restricted and difficult for some. There is absolutely NO bending whatsoever on things that are *not* actually deal breaking line-in-the-sand qualifications, but they *become* that when they type out their "I want list" and set up their profile.


Dating online is like sitting in an enclosed cel with earplugs in and partial vision. And once "released into the wild" to actually see what is out there in real life, suddenly the full dimension and scope of possibilities opens up again.

It's funny, you will have a bunch of people sitting in Starbucks, all plugged into their laptops and phones on dating sites, ignoring one another. No one is looking at each other, talking or interacting. In order to meet people now, you almost HAVE to be filtered thru a dating site. And then all the paranoia starts...I dont want to seem too desperate, needy, should I ask for a phone number, how long do I text, he didnt end up looking like his photos, she didnt tell me about this or that, etc...interesting times.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 395
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Posted: 8/29/2015 9:24:14 AM
Admittedly, a young lady is pretty, a young guy is a skinny thing that can't pay bills or have his own place to take a date. Generally, we expect less of the young girl on a date, versus what we expect the young guy to handle on a date.

There's a talk about maturity. Do immature girls really want to date older guys? Not likely, its probably the ladies who are mature for their age, can't find a peer who is as mature, who end up trying out the older fellow.

so, in some cases, there's an explanation. in others, yeah, its a dream that won't come true.
 HalftimeDad
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 396
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/29/2015 9:31:11 AM
I've seen many profiles - usually guys - where they are clearly lying about their age.

But there is one poster here who is unique in my experience. She's a young woman in the UK who lists her age on her profile as 44; she's clearly around 20 years younger than that, and admits in her profile that she's younger than her stated age. This is a young woman who wants to date an older guy.

There are so many men lying about their age to date younger, if there was a demand among young women to date older we'd see more of their profiles with ages pumped up.
 Blackwood85
Joined: 5/20/2013
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Posted: 8/29/2015 10:05:13 AM



There's a talk about maturity. Do immature girls really want to date older guys? Not likely, its probably the ladies who are mature for their age, can't find a peer who is as mature, who end up trying out the older fellow.

so, in some cases, there's an explanation. in others, yeah, its a dream that won't come true.


I always hated the "mature" thing growing up, when I was in high school girls touted how much mature they were than me and my friends were so they were dating guys in their early 20s, 23 year old guys who have nothing going for them taking advantage of a 16 year old girl and who are immature themselves. Was it really maturity or growing up and believe that you're mature when you just want to grow up fast? I was a 16 year old doing 16 year old things but having fun and focusing on school, they're out worrying about shit they have no reason to worry about like relationship issues.

One of my ex-girlfriends always dated men who were older than her. I was 23 and she was 26 but before me she dated a guy who was 40, another dude who was in his late 30s, another guy who was in his mid 40s. Besides another guy, I was the only guy she ever seriously dated who was younger than her. Turns out she was immature, she claimed to have more experience which of course she did but besides having some real world experience what else did she have? She didn't have a job, didn't have a money, didn't have a car so I had to be the one to drive us everywhere, all she did was sit and complain, so it's not like she was the wise, mature woman who was an old head. She was an immature, mental midget who cried when she never got her way, an hypocrite who cheated and I rue the day I ever met her.

And considering the amount of petty arguments I've seen so far in this forum, cliques causing people to have their profiles deleted and have seen threads get derailed over dumb shit, I have to wonder , about the maturity levels of some members in here.
 BLonde^J^AngeL
Joined: 6/16/2015
Msg: 398
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Posted: 8/29/2015 11:10:34 AM
I like a man who is intelligent & has something going for him.

Since I am in a serious relationship, not looking...but IF I were, I wouldn't say I prefer an older or younger man, etc. BUT rather the right man for me!
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 8/29/2015 6:01:57 PM

I do believe Woody marrying his step-daughter was disgusting as well as the nude pictures he took off her while she was under the age of 18.)


Woody never adopted her. She was adopted by his wife in a previous marriage. She was a older child of his wife in a shared household, but he had no legal relationship to her.

I think it is creepy as is but he did not marry his 'step-daughter'.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 400
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Posted: 8/29/2015 6:21:30 PM
He DID so
He is a vile little man.. [he should be in jail
Meanwhile Blackwood does whoever raised him Proud
One of the smartest posters here
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