Notice: Forums will be shutdown by June 2019

To focus on better serving our members, we've decided to shut down the POF forums.

While regular posting is now disabled, you can continue to view all threads until the end of June 2019. Event Hosts can still create and promote events while we work on a new and improved event creation service for you.

Thank you!

Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Dating Experiences  > AGE GAP      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 101
AGE GAPPage 5 of 27    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27)

Fair enough. I thought you were refering to older. :)


I am also not interested in a man who is so much older than me that he is at a different stage in his life. I meet men who are in their 60's (which is a stretch but not out of the question) who are retired. I work a full-time job and also pick up side work as often as I can. I am not available to "hang out" all day or go on trips on a regular basis. I find that these men get frustrated because I am not available all the time.
 Blackwood85
Joined: 5/20/2013
Msg: 102
view profile
History
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 7:24:18 AM


Blackwood, you are indeed a wise, good lookin' young man. LOL Can we frame the above?
Or at the very least point others in your direction?


Thank you, I should pull some of the quotes from the females in this forum about my looks and use them as testimonials on my profile.

"I'm an attractive man and if you can't take my word for it, maybe you'll believe this...."



Agreed, the best free site that "costs" a lot! ;P (time, effort, etc)

I had the same idea when joining, that it is another tool. But then I realized how easy it is, indeed! Almost like ordering a pizza! lol


Well it's easy to just use OLD and nothing else but I would think that would get disheartening after awhile, plus I still think regular interaction with the opposite sex important even if it's just to keep my mingling skills up to par. Personally I like switching up and seeing what works and doesn't work, I'm in a position in which I can do that because of the city that I live in gives me some flexibility. Because it is easy to say "She's cute, oh she's cute, oh this one is hot, oh this girl will like me." just straight clicking away and then forgetting about it later.



Really? That's interesting.

I would have to believe that the age difference must be fairly obvious if you're inclined to ask that right out of the gate. What happens if he says the same age you are? He still looks the same. What changes?


When I was 16-18 some women thought I was over 21, I remember a woman in her 40s hitting on me this was after a funeral by the way when I was 16 thinking I was older. I was pretty muscular, wearing a suit and was pretty mature for my age, another woman had to point out that I was 16. I'm about to turn 30 soon and people still think I'm 23-25. There's a woman I know who's 30 but looks a lot older which led to an exchange.

"I said she looks good for her age, not that she's hot."
"What are you talking about? She's like our age, she's only 30"
"Oh, oh shit, that's bad"
"Yea exactly"

Personally I'm not attracted who are 9 and 10 years younger than me, I can still see their babyface, I drove to a club that I never been to before because I heard it was one of the biggest clubs in the city but it turned out that it was 18 and up that night, so I just see a bunch of babyface teenage girls standing outside waiting for it to open and I turned my car promptly around to Fells Point where the women are over the age of 21. It's getting to the point now in which I'm not really into women who are 21/22 years old. When I can't reminisce with them about 90s cartoons I know the age gap is too great.

"I'm on Youtube, someone uploaded some old 90s shows, I'm watching Tiny Toons"

"What's Tiny Toons?"

That's when I go on a rant about the superiority of Fox Kids, the Cartoon Network and Nickelodeon in the early to mid 90s and how it was better than anything she watched as a kid.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 103
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 7:28:23 AM

I am also not interested in a man who is so much older than me that he is at a different stage in his life. I meet men who are in their 60's (which is a stretch but not out of the question) who are retired.


I can understand that...


I am not available to "hang out" all day or go on trips on a regular basis. I find that these men get frustrated because I am not available all the time.


I can see this as well. I've been to Amelia Island passing through some years back. It seemed to be a retirement resort type area so I guess the majority would be older retired men.
 7seatac
Joined: 8/12/2015
Msg: 104
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 7:43:07 AM
"Personally I'm not attracted who are 9 and 10 years younger than me..." I can understand that as you're only 29. Once you hit 45 +, a 10 year age difference will not be a big deal to you. In fact, you'll probably be looking for 10 years younger as your preference.
 Literate_Hiker
Joined: 1/1/2015
Msg: 105
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 7:45:12 AM
On OK Cupid, I often get hit on by guys in their 20s who say they have never been with an older woman. I want nothing to do with youngsters my daughter's age. They just want sex, anyway. I'm no cougar.

Last night I received a message from a 41 year-old archaeologist:

"Hello, I was just wondering if you ever date younger men? Thanks, Tom"

My reply was concise: "Why are you interested in me?"

Women friends have have been saying that I should date younger men. But with a 41 year-old man, we are at vastly different stages of our lives. For example, he may want children. For me that ship has sailed.
 2ufo
Joined: 2/28/2015
Msg: 106
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 7:56:41 AM
Hi LH,

You are in great shape and have a lively personality (at least through the forums) and I can see why you are popular with men who would love to learn to hike, however this exchange made me do terrible things involving coffee and my keyboard.


Last night I received a message from a 41 year-old archaeologist: "Hello, I was just wondering if you ever date younger men? Thanks, Tom"

My reply was concise: "Why are you interested in me?"


...because archaeologists study old things.

 benartflick
Joined: 3/8/2012
Msg: 107
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 8:05:55 AM

"It is the first thing I ask men who are "hitting" on me. Has been my first question for years. I know it is also the first question of the majority of my single girlfriends."


I don't recall ever asking that question. Once, a much younger woman (perhaps 15 - 20 years) asked me after I said I was retired.

She had asked me to dance. We had a great time dancing and talking for hours. She seemed interested in me until the age question answer. Afterwards, she appeared stunned with a sudden 'yuck' expression. She immediately left the bar, ignoring my request for her phone number. Grrrrrr! I assume she never drank alcohol after that night.

That was 4 years ago, in Florida. Since then Mother Nature made me look my age. Not as old looking as at least 2 male members here claiming to be in their 50's, but an oldie.

I recall one's age was usually revealed without being asked. Sometimes first meeting or after months of dating. Most of my short term relationships - never.
 Moderate_Recall
Joined: 3/1/2015
Msg: 108
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 8:17:13 AM

...because archaeologists study old things.


Don Rickles?

Appears that your comedy routine needs work.

If that was supposed to an attempt at improv comedy instead of just a minute attack on someone you envy here.

Come back here in one year when you ARE "authentically" her same age, and show us any self-improvements and appreciable ageist "humor" you may have developed by then, if any.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 109
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/23/2015 8:18:37 AM
Da Bomb's an archaeologist?

I can dig that :)

Hey, I got a story--back when I was a teen, I got hit on by a 40-something female coworker. Ironically an acquaintance of my male boss who had the hots for her, had sent a dozen long-stems to the workplace. By the time she went out the fr0nt door for lunch, everyone knew, and she was ticked. So she mentioned when asking me out that I seemed like the gent who would keep his mouth shut.

Which I would have, but my old fashioned mom had taught me to date a lady, not just have sex, and I was paying for college and a place, couldn't afford to take an adult lady out to a restaurant. Likely, she wasn't so interested in dinner as dessert. Either way, nothing happened.
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
Msg: 110
view profile
History
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/23/2015 8:27:10 AM
When I was in high school a couple of mothers of my acquaintances hit on me. At first I did not get it but one guy told me "My mom does that all the time." at which point I did. When I was in college a few older women hit on me. I would guess they were all in their late thirties, possibly very early forties.

One high school acquaintance was a paper boy who told me he was frequently propositioned by some of the housewives on his route. He took a few up on their offers.
 Whistle_Stop
Joined: 4/9/2015
Msg: 111
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/23/2015 8:50:15 AM

Come back here in one year when you will actually be at her same age, and show us any ageist "humor" you may have developed by then, if any

You got to be kidding....it was funny.!! I don't think LH will take it as an ageist joke at her expense...at all.
In fact....with her "wit" it was almost a set up.....don't you think?

I think as we age.....the differences show more.....once we reach the 55's to 60's and beyond.
We age faster....not only body wise but also the mind.
That's why....we hear the stories of ...A few years back....I picked up someone way younger than me.

That in itself....is tiring to hear over and over about.....the good ole days.
The stories of "what I use to be" or "what I did" in my day.
I know.....We all have the memories and wasn't it fun.
Now we are what we didn't want to be "older" and we are not going to pick up or attract those much younger anymore.

I enjoy men my age now.....I had the younger guy in my day, he was more mature and responsible than older ones.
I look for a man who can accept his age now but I want him to have some wit and a sound mind that isn't stuck in the past.
Nothing more boring than listening to one of these men....repeat their old stories about their past women....ugh!
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
Msg: 112
view profile
History
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/23/2015 8:59:08 AM

One high school acquaintance was a paper boy who told me he was frequently propositioned by some of the housewives on his route. He took a few up on their offers.



I used to get propositioned by some on my post also..but it was a whole different thing and the ages varied from younger to old. They make up fake crimes or that they needed help to get me into their apt's, or invite me out to some party or whatever!
 22susie22
Joined: 8/12/2015
Msg: 113
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 9:52:04 AM

Many people in their 40s, 50s and beyond don't seem to worry as much about height, hair, wrinkles and fluff as much and tend to focus on reality like what is inside a person and what attracts them or draws them to a person. I don't think too many women have tossed Tom Cruise out of bed for being 5'7".


I'm fifty and I care a lot about being physically attracted to my partner.

I find most men my age care quite a bit about being physically attracted to women they are dating. Of course the inside is more important, but the outside is not unimportant.

Besides, is your point about Tom Cruise that most women don't care that he is short because he is such a wonderful person "on the inside" ?

ha ha ha
 7seatac
Joined: 8/12/2015
Msg: 114
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 11:57:30 AM
I didn't say the outside was unimportant at all. It's just like I said, after a certain age I and others don't to mind some wrinkles or an extra 15 pounds or a bald head or grey hair.

And Tom Cruise gets what he wants because he's rich and famous, I personally think he's a dork. But his height, or lack of it, hasn't stopped him.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 115
AGE GAP
Posted: 8/23/2015 12:59:05 PM

I am also not interested in a man who is so much older than me that he is at a different stage in his life. I meet men who are in their 60's (which is a stretch but not out of the question) who are retired. I work a full-time job and also pick up side work as often as I can. I am not available to "hang out" all day or go on trips on a regular basis. I find that these men get frustrated because I am not available all the time.


Speaking for myself, I am retired and glad my wife got a full time job.

Now I can have some time to myself. The down side is now I have to fix dinner as she works a 12 hour day.

So who wants to hang out all day 24/7 forever?

(Not much time today, I have to help my wife with her homework.)

I wouldn't assume everyone retired feels the same way.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 116
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/23/2015 7:48:55 PM

You got to be kidding....it was funny.!! I don't think LH will take it as an ageist joke at her expense...at all.
In fact....with her "wit" it was almost a set up.....don't you think?


So poking fun at someone's weight is unacceptable, but poking fun at someone's age is somehow okay?

Why is that?
 Whistle_Stop
Joined: 4/9/2015
Msg: 117
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/24/2015 6:34:21 AM
Another one that missed the point....lol.
Yes.....If you insist....I like poking fun at women younger than me and anyone with
warts....warts too!
 Literate_Hiker
Joined: 1/1/2015
Msg: 118
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/24/2015 8:03:46 AM
Thank you, moderate_recall and halcyon_skies. Although I saw the humor, 2ufo's mean crack about my age stings. I considered the source and let it go.

Here is the 41 year-old archaeologist's thoughtful reply:

Hello Kathleen,

Well I am well past my 20s, and I can understand your need for more maturity in the people you see.

I was wondering about the age question because I am outside your stated preference. Otherwise I really enjoyed your profile. You are very interesting and your pictures are lovely.

But I am also aware that age is a factor for two people to be truly comfortable with one another. If my age is an issue for you I will not be offended.

Tom
 Whistle_Stop
Joined: 4/9/2015
Msg: 119
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/24/2015 8:20:37 AM
Well...I apologize if anyone was offended by "me" thinking it was little funny.

I assumed someone that quite often laughs at others about being "old" and we have repeatedly heard the stories,
could take it when it comes back.

Oh for heaven's sake. At 63 years old, what makes you think you are attractive to women in their 40s?
.
Gotta love it!
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 120
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/24/2015 8:31:59 AM
AGE, Yours, theirs. It only matters to the people involved, as a preference or a deal breaker.
LOL And POF, an OLD site.


...........it is about being at the same stage in life. At this stage in my life I am not interested in dating some guy the same age as one of my sons or closer in age to them than to me.


I am also not interested in a man who is so much older than me that he is at a different stage in his life. I meet men who are in their 60's (which is a stretch but not out of the question) who are retired. I work a full-time job and also pick up side work as often as I can. I am not available to "hang out" all day or go on trips on a regular basis. I find that these men get frustrated because I am not available all the time.


I'm of the same mind set as spot4username. "Too young" is near my son's age AND all of his friends who know me, and "too old", most likely, he is retired. (Sorry Sir Dragon, LOL)


.........this exchange made me do terrible things involving coffee and my keyboard.


LMAO, ^ ^ ^ ^ We need fair forewarning! Alert the reader! "Hey you, set your cup of coffee down, waaayy over yonder." Or provide us with a handy dandy keyboard wet vac with complimentary paper towels.


...............a man who can accept his age now but I want him to have some wit and a sound mind that isn't stuck in the past.


Right on Whistle Stop!
Although speaking of the "past", as others have mentioned, it is great to be able to share some good memories of the past.
For Blackwood it's the cartoons he remembers.
For BF and I, it was the music of the late 60's and 70's. We went to see Frankie Valli and the 4 Seasons last night. Loved it! ( LOL That man is 81 yrs young!)

"My eyes adored you" 1974, Ahhhh!
 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
Msg: 121
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/24/2015 8:37:28 AM
Well, I'm sorry I thought it was funny as well.
And seriously, are people here really jealous of other people
here?

What the heck is there to be jealous of?
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 122
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/24/2015 8:44:18 AM
^^^^ How great you look in the hat? :/
People can be jealous about most anything.. me I save it for Shoe Porn. omg, this woman had the best shoes on the other day!
 7seatac
Joined: 8/12/2015
Msg: 123
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/24/2015 8:45:38 AM

Well, I'm sorry I thought it was funny as well.
And seriously, are people here really jealous of other people
here?

What the heck is there to be jealous of?


I thought it was funny too and not meant as "mean". And jealous of what?? I've seen people say far, far meaner and hurtful stuff to people in Profile Reviews.
 CrookCatcher
Joined: 7/14/2014
Msg: 124
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/24/2015 8:47:52 AM
Just being a bit of an arbitrator here, I think this may have been misinterpreted as an attack of sorts, but the poster made a pretty good disclaimer prior, indicating otherwise...imo



Hi LH,

You are in great shape and have a lively personality (at least through the forums) and I can see why you are popular with men who would love to learn to hike, however this exchange made me do terrible things involving coffee and my keyboard.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 8/14/2015
Msg: 125
Mind the gap
Posted: 8/24/2015 8:49:12 AM

If that was supposed to an attempt at improv comedy instead of just a minute attack on someone you envy here.

Come back here in one year when you ARE "authentically" her same age, and show us any self-improvements and appreciable ageist "humor" you may have developed by then, if any.



His nibs here thinks some of us are envious of others.


And thank you for the compliments on my hat! :o)
Show ALL Forums  > Dating Experiences  > AGE GAP