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 22qq
Joined: 8/27/2015
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There's always an alternative and it is............

~gulp~

the REAL world.
 MaleFeasance
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 77
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 8/31/2015 11:58:10 PM
The only difference between the real world and online is that it takes a lot more time to meet the same number of people in the real world. Same people, less efficient.
 LLove2LaughToo
Joined: 3/5/2011
Msg: 78
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Posted: 9/1/2015 5:55:04 AM

Valdis8866 :
I am a bit picky and I don't like when they do stupid little lies...like they are 5'10 and they say they are 6'


Now I'm intrigued. You listed your height at 5'-2", please tell me how you can tell the difference from 5’-10” to 6”-0”? Do you carry a measuring tape to your dates?
 sacredrain
Joined: 4/12/2015
Msg: 79
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 9/1/2015 6:35:11 AM
^^Some get so hung up on their deal-breaker must have lists and minor quibbles that they probably dismiss genuine people offhandedly that could be good matches because of them. The same poster mentioned being switched off by people lying about being non-smokers and then showing up reeking of smoke. I can understand that somewhat and feel similarly as I dislike the smell, though I've met non-smokers that smelled of smoke, because they were exposed to lots of smokers...usually in a workplace environment. That said, if a gal is dismissing guys that are 8" taller than she, because they're not 10" taller, I would tend to believe she is doing them a favor. Likely this is primarily a function of OLD giving suspect "market value" signals where at least the appearance of many options can lead some to incorrectly assume that it's easy to find a good match when the reality can be very different.

Somehow I don't think men & women bringing along measuring tapes and/or scales to first dates is going to do much to improve relations between the sexes. The concept has potential as the basis for a reality teevee program though.
 HFX_RGB2
Joined: 4/14/2015
Msg: 80
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 9/1/2015 6:45:57 AM

I can understand that somewhat and feel similarly as I dislike the smell, though I've met non-smokers that smelled of smoke, because they were exposed to lots of smokers...usually in a workplace environment.


What work place exists today where non smokers would be exposed to smoke by fellow workers in a closed environment?
 JujuO12
Joined: 8/18/2015
Msg: 81
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 9/1/2015 7:12:25 AM

That said, if a gal is dismissing guys that are 8" taller than she, because they're not 10" taller, I would tend to believe she is doing them a favor.


Every one of my heels are at least 4 inches in height. Which means at 5 5 in my bare feet (which YOU will not see unless you live in my house) I am at least 5 9 in public. So if she is 5 2 in private in public she is going to at least 5 5? And I can say men run around saying they are cool with a woman being taller than her UNLESS she is wearing heels. THEN he spends his time talking her into the lower heels.
 22qq
Joined: 8/27/2015
Msg: 82
Tom Da Bomb ~ Women's Height Expert & Professional
Posted: 9/1/2015 8:03:21 AM
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MANY WOMEN HAVE BODY INSECURITIES~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

at 5'4 i'm relegated to women 5'2 and under for the most part. it's a fact I accepted in my teens.

I've dated a couple of women one inch taller without heels but that's unusual.

while I understand that women want their men to be taller I do not care if SHE is as much as 6 inches taller than me in heels.

I do not have the INSECURITIES in height/body size that many women have.

furthermore they want their man to be taller and hopefully LARGER to make their own body seem smaller, less heavy or more petite.

it is akin to a BODY SIZE DIET, meaning if she has a large guy next to her then she believes she APPEARS thinner, smaller, sexier, more svelte and womanly next to him. this is her mental image of herself and that is one reason women seek out taller men.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~IT IS A MENTAL DIET~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

THE MAN'S TALLER HEIGHT AND SIZE LESSENS HER INSECURITIES AND INCREASES HER SELF WORTH.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 83
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 9/1/2015 8:21:52 AM

Every one of my heels are at least 4 inches in height. Which means at 5 5 in my bare feet (which YOU will not see unless you live in my house) I am at least 5 9 in public.


High heels are bad for your general heath and foot health, but they do make you look sexy. By pushing your butt back and your chest forward.

I typically wear sandals or gym shoes. I could care less about what a women I may have been dating wears, but if she wears high heels I expect she won't want to walk very far.

However, I would NEVER demean myself by suggesting a woman wear lower heels to assuage my own ego. Quite the opposite! I would think being with a taller woman would mean she found me irresistible, so I wouldn't mind her wearing high heels.
 Whistle_Stop
Joined: 4/9/2015
Msg: 84
Tom Da Bomb ~ Women's Height Expert & Professional
Posted: 9/1/2015 8:44:20 AM
@TomdaBomb....I have no issues with short men, as I am short. Fact is, I don't like tall men...I have found I'm comfortable with
5'5" and to 5.10.
You mention us women have "Body insecurities"....I admit to this.
Even when I was thin....I always liked a meatier man compared to too bony....with no body fat.
But that's me.

What kind of insecurities do you or a person have if they do botox or facelifts...as you have?
Is it to attract younger or is it your insecurity of aging?
Just curious...
 22qq
Joined: 8/27/2015
Msg: 85
Tom Da Bomb ~ Women's Height Expert & Professional
Posted: 9/1/2015 9:10:04 AM
you hit the nail on the head with me Whistle Stop.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~My INSECURITY~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I dislike the fact that every year that goes by I am closer to my grave, closer to perhaps a major incurable illness and more wrinkles.

with age comes deterioration of your face and body. I can work on my body and I have used moisturizer every single day several times a day since I was 16. Mom taught me that and she did the same.

BUT IF YOU NEED TO REALLY FRESHEN UP YOUR FACE YOU NEED A FACELIFT.
so I had one and also got rid of slightly droopy eyelids, some wrinkling and a little skin that started to develop under my chin. I could see little lines starting on my upper lip. I got botox too. if I lose a tooth I get an implant to replace it. if my hair thins I get a few transplants to fill it in. I have age spots on my hands and that will be my next step.

I admit it! younger women make me feel younger. but I love a woman my own age as well if they have a young spirit.

by the way I woke up to 4 new emails this morning. three were from women I had not written to.
only one was a reply from a woman I wrote to who is 5'6 and it read "i'm sorry but i'm not interested."

question: had she been 5'0 would she have said the same? probably not.
 HFX_RGB2
Joined: 4/14/2015
Msg: 86
Tom Da Bomb ~ Women's Height Expert & Professional
Posted: 9/1/2015 9:29:18 AM

I do not have the INSECURITIES in height/body size that many women have.


Good thing you left out your age, or someone would have to call you out on that.

So yeah, you have no insecurities, other than your insecurities.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 87
Tom Da Bomb ~ Women's Height Expert & Professional
Posted: 9/1/2015 11:48:35 AM

by the way I woke up to 4 new emails this morning. three were from women I had not written to.
only one was a reply from a woman I wrote to who is 5'6 and it read "i'm sorry but i'm not interested."

question: had she been 5'0 would she have said the same? probably not.


Tom, in your experience do older women, women older than 50 or 55, still have the same sort of restrictive views on height that is so common with younger women?
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 88
Tom Da Bomb ~ Women's Height Expert & Professional
Posted: 9/1/2015 12:20:36 PM

BUT IF YOU NEED TO REALLY FRESHEN UP YOUR FACE YOU NEED A FACELIFT.
so I had one and also got rid of slightly droopy eyelids, some wrinkling and a little skin that started to develop under my chin. I could see little lines starting on my upper lip. I got botox too. if I lose a tooth I get an implant to replace it. if my hair thins I get a few transplants to fill it in. I have age spots on my hands and that will be my next step.


Tom, I don't think I could do any of that. But, to each their own so I don't judge you for it.

My hair is thinning. I have wrinkles on my face. As I age it's harder to get rid of the weight. But for my money, what attracted women to me was more my attitude than my looks. My fiance is about 13 years younger and likes me the way I am. Her only concert is that I stay healthy, so we push each other to stay that way.

She is tall, so if she wears high hills she is over 6" tall. When she dolls out she looks like a freaking super model. When she doesn't she looks more tomboyish. The other day I figured she looks like a supermodel of the Seventies Sheryl Tiegs.

So to me, to stay young my medicine is trying to keep doing 50, 60 and 100 milers on my bike.
 22qq
Joined: 8/27/2015
Msg: 89
Tom Da Bomb ~ Women's Height Expert & Professional
Posted: 9/1/2015 3:35:52 PM
to answer dragonbytes they ALL seem to have that restriction. i'm 5'4 so the cutoff for older women past 55 is 5'4.
I rarely get an offer from a woman who is 5'5 unless she's really unattractive.
i'm pretty much relegated to women inches shorter for the most part.

Inner Gorilla, I did biking in Ohio and I loved it. it's very popular here and they have a ot of trails and bike roads many on our scenic bridges.

i'm buying a bike very soon as the temps are going to come down into the 80's in September/October.

i'm sorry Eric, I am not wearing that pointy helmet!
 adventurejoe70
Joined: 3/1/2013
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Tom Da Bomb ~ Women's Height Expert & Professional
Posted: 9/1/2015 3:38:19 PM
You mean it isn't in the 80's yet? How does one bike ride in such hot humid weather I wonder. Even here it is miserable pass 80 degrees. Must take an Ohio boy time to get use to.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 91
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 9/1/2015 3:48:39 PM

Posted by HFX_RGB2:
"What work place exists today where non smokers would be exposed to smoke by fellow workers in a closed environment?"

A dealer working in a casino.
 22qq
Joined: 8/27/2015
Msg: 92
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 9/1/2015 5:12:55 PM
many bars in Ohio allow smoking inside and don't obey the law because a vast majority of their patrons puff.
 Whatsamatterbaby
Joined: 5/6/2015
Msg: 93
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Posted: 9/1/2015 5:25:31 PM
I like laugh lines around a man's eyes and mouth.
 HFX_RGB2
Joined: 4/14/2015
Msg: 94
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Posted: 9/1/2015 5:35:49 PM

A dealer working in a casino.


Only if that casino allows smoking and none of the ones I have been in allowed smoking inside.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 95
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Posted: 9/1/2015 5:43:54 PM

A dealer working in a casino.



Only if that casino allows smoking and none of the ones I have been in allowed smoking inside.


Yet, My experience, has been exactly the Opposite.... Either they have both a Smoking Section & a No Smoking Section.. Or Smoking is Allowed on the Whole Casino Floor...... Every one that had a No Smoking Section, it was only Slots in that Section....
 HFX_RGB2
Joined: 4/14/2015
Msg: 96
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 9/1/2015 5:47:22 PM

Yet, My experience, has been exactly the Opposite....


Really, where at?

As I have been to several casinos all over the world and for the last 10 years or so, none allowed smoking inside.
 Brave_one
Joined: 6/26/2015
Msg: 97
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 9/1/2015 5:47:40 PM

Those Indian girls are more racist than me, a lowly white woman not feeling safe around short men. ha.



This thread has turned into the, ‘’napoleon complex ‘’ or the little man syndrome of stature & race....good luck with that....
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 98
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Posted: 9/1/2015 5:51:16 PM

Yet, My experience, has been exactly the Opposite....



Really, where at?

As I have been to several casinos all over the world and for the last 10 years or so, none allowed smoking inside.


Indian Casinos in California, Oregon, & Washington..... Every Casino I've been in, in Nevada....
 22qq
Joined: 8/27/2015
Msg: 99
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Posted: 9/1/2015 6:01:53 PM
at JD's in Indian Rocks on the Gulf of Mexico they have an outside deck where people smoke and the three bar tenders do not smoke. I sit on the side where the fans are above my head and blow things toward the bar. those poor girls are sucking down the stink.

I've noticed people nodding their heads hello to me when I enter JD's dance deck area. they've seen me on the dance floor so i'm making inroads in becoming as world famous in Clearwater as I was in Youngstown/Cleveland Ohio.

it's exciting to be me! yay
 dragonbytes
Joined: 12/25/2014
Msg: 100
If you have a totally honest profile, genuine pics, etc. do you actually get genuine results?
Posted: 9/2/2015 6:34:05 AM

to answer dragonbytes they ALL seem to have that restriction. i'm 5'4 so the cutoff for older women past 55 is 5'4.

I rarely get an offer from a woman who is 5'5 unless she's really unattractive.
i'm pretty much relegated to women inches shorter for the most part.


I was hoping with more maturity this wouldn't be so much of an issue. But outside of my ex-wife, who was 7 years older than me, I only dated one maybe two women that I believe were over 50. But both were shorter than me. So I don't have your wealth of experience.


Inner Gorilla, I did biking in Ohio and I loved it. it's very popular here and they have a ot of trails and bike roads many on our scenic bridges.

i'm buying a bike very soon as the temps are going to come down into the 80's in September/October.


Biking over 90 doesn't bother me, as long as I keep on moving. When it gets to 100 and you have to stop for any lenght of time, then it really hits me. But I seldom bike for longer than 90 minutes. The longest ride I ever did was 3 years ago and it was 50 miles round trip.


My hair is thinning. I have wrinkles on my face. As I age it's harder to get rid of the weight. But for my money, what attracted women to me was more my attitude than my looks. My fiance is about 13 years younger and likes me the way I am. Her only concert is that I stay healthy, so we push each other to stay that way.

She is tall, so if she wears high hills she is over 6" tall. When she dolls out she looks like a freaking super model. When she doesn't she looks more tomboyish. The other day I figured she looks like a supermodel of the Seventies Sheryl Tiegs.

So to me, to stay young my medicine is trying to keep doing 50, 60 and 100 milers on my bike.


My wife didn't want me to shave my mustache, it made me look younger, and she would rather I wear glasses for the same reason. I think it might annoy her if I lost 30 lbs. 130 lbs is my ideal weight.

So my good looks aren't any sort of issue for me. :)

I don't think I would ever get a face lift, and I don't have an noticeable wrinkles. Maybe a little loose skin on the neck. I do worry if I lost 30 lbs, would I have more sagging skin around my abs. But so far I don't seem in any danger of losing a lot of weight.

Tooth implants are a matter of retaining good health, so that is a little different.

So while neither of us is thinking about our good looks, I can say for myself I would do a lot of medical type things to remain active and healthy.
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