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 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 26
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^^^^^
Based on that I must have had sex with 30 homeless people on Christmas Day.
And with all 11 people on a camping trip.
And all 4 people on a sailing trip.
And everyone in my office.

Sheesh. I am a busy woman.
 9Pluto
Joined: 10/15/2007
Msg: 27
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Posted: 9/21/2015 9:11:24 PM

30 homeless people on Christmas Day.
And with all 11 people on a camping trip.
And all 4 people on a sailing trip.
And everyone in my office.

Sheesh. I am a busy woman.


No biggie here, just a bunch of subtropical types comparing notes with residents of the freezing US states and Canada!

Sealady, You're a great Coppertone-girl! Have a super Springtime equinox tomorrow.

If it is cold or dreary outside, a backrub probably would get the juices flowing, especially if everyone wanted to get warm under the covers ... the mood isn't always the same in the sun and heat.
Cheers
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
Msg: 28
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Posted: 9/21/2015 10:35:23 PM
I was going to date this girl a long time ago, but it turned me off when she would get a back rub from guys at concerts or parties. I don't think it's a big deal if a good friend rubs your shoulders if they're sore, but this was with guys she barely knew and she would moan like she was having sex. I guess she's easy to please, but I found it kind of strange.
 purrfectmeow
Joined: 9/16/2015
Msg: 29
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Posted: 9/21/2015 10:49:39 PM
Hand shakes, hugs, and even a kiss on the cheek are alright with me. A massage however is act I consider to be sensual, unless preformed by a professional as a specific healing procedure.
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 30
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Posted: 9/21/2015 11:56:25 PM
I agree with LilliMarleen, chameleonf, Flirtingwithdisaster55, Ouija AND dayna,

I'm in the NO camp


I hate backrubs, ...................ugh. I don't even want a professional massage. It hurts, leave me alone.


Now a foot massage? I'll follow you anywhere! LOL
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 31
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Posted: 9/22/2015 3:52:07 PM
Ladyinred4755- We are opposites here, I don't care for foot rubs.
I met a man IRL, we got hot and heavy for a bit, he had a foot fetish, I tried, I really did, but could NOT get past the heebe jeebies.
A back rub, sure, sign me up, I'll give one right back, but only in platonic relationships.
Now, if we are talking about a man I'm dating, probably not, not unless I was ready to go to bed with him, I have yet to meet a man that offered one that didn't fully intend for it to lead to a front rub. :D
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 32
What does a backrub mean to you?
Posted: 9/22/2015 4:05:28 PM
Both my ex husband and the guy after him asked me for back rubs but never gave one to me.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 33
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Posted: 9/22/2015 5:45:40 PM
They are important "enough" for me to mention them not just once but twice in my profile. But they are long past the 15 second reading mark where [I get the "general impression" from most Forumites] few folks rarely go.

I've paid for multiple dozens over the years and had two Comps from a pro. To find a woman who likes giving AND receiving them would be a big bonus.

I'd have to like a woman a lot to want to give/get one from her. And a massage through clothing is like kissing through a screen. Why bother.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 34
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Posted: 9/22/2015 6:31:13 PM

And a massage through clothing is like kissing through a screen. Why bother.

I've gone to a Korean sauna once and a got a dry massage where she used a cotton sheet, and the reason she did that was to separate the muscles from each other or something like that... Oh my God that massage! I died and went to heaven.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 35
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Posted: 9/22/2015 6:35:37 PM

I was going to date this girl a long time ago, but it turned me off when she would get a back rub from guys at concerts or parties. I don't think it's a big deal if a good friend rubs your shoulders if they're sore, but this was with guys she barely knew and she would moan like she was having sex. I guess she's easy to please, but I found it kind of strange.


I was in a similar situation back in college. This girl loved back massages and even commented on guys that did a great job. I felt like I was competing with these other guys. So I simply removed myself from the equation.
 funchesf
Joined: 6/27/2014
Msg: 36
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Posted: 9/22/2015 8:22:24 PM
I would opt for a sexless back rub especially if she has the ability to crack joints or more specifically cause the nitrogen bubbles in your vertebrae to pop
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 37
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Posted: 9/22/2015 9:27:53 PM
well, there are shoulder rubs and there are MASSAGES.

when i gave them at work; they obviously were not sensual; they were something that made people feel better, that I could do really well. No biggee.

My daughter and I exchange them all the time and I guarantee you, my daughter does not want sex from me. (nor I from her). we both know how to give them; we both desperately need them; no harm no foul.

but when the senior vp in executive banking took it upon himself to just give me one unasked in the elevator?

hell no.

One is like a hug with me; ti's a kind way to relieve stress. when someone offers a shoulder rub at a Twins game? I will absolutely accept it and I will even reciprocate. I am GOOD at giving them.

but when a perfect stranger wants a no clothes massage complete with oil, in his home?

uh, that is a TOTALLY different ball of wax. if I'm dating someone I give and receive; love giving love receiving.

but accepting a sensual massage from someone who I don't know from adam?

that is a totally different kettle of fish; and my boundary is drawn there.

there are two different kinds.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
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Posted: 9/23/2015 6:49:15 AM
Most people that rub you anywhere( if you havent asked them to) are trying to relax/turn on your intimacy radar and let you know they are UP for it.

Ditto on not touching my feet Bama
 L_LuuLuu
Joined: 8/2/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 9/23/2015 7:11:47 AM
NOT ALWAYS:

But if it's done by member of the opposite sex it tends to be a thinly disguised prelude to pushiness.

Oldest trick in the book. Most annoying insult to the intelligence.
 ShipForBrains
Joined: 5/16/2015
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Posted: 9/23/2015 9:23:48 AM
Ladies...personally, if you don't want me to be thinking nasty thoughts about you while I'm straddling your back and digging my fingers into your inner body, searching for that g spot that is going to bring about a sound of wind from your mouth...and you would be offended by where my eyes are focused and if or not I have the desire to smell your scent even if to just sniff my fingers...if the thought of me also enjoying myself as well as what my face must look like as my mouth contorts to the oooohh shape sounds appalling to you then...

...maybe you shouldn't ask me for a massage. That is unless of course you don't mind that sort of thing and want to get some blind lovin of your own and cop a feel. We can certainly just be friends.
 Mz_Dressup
Joined: 11/15/2014
Msg: 41
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Posted: 9/23/2015 10:46:10 AM
Ick.

Ick ick ick ick ick.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 42
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Posted: 9/23/2015 10:51:44 AM
^^^^ big time ditto!!
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 9/23/2015 12:51:51 PM
I think I'm going to be sick.
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 44
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Posted: 9/23/2015 1:43:01 PM
JAY-sus

My hoo hoo just dried up.
 Whatsamatterbaby
Joined: 5/6/2015
Msg: 45
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Posted: 9/23/2015 2:35:34 PM
This reminds me of something: I once got an unsolicited long pornographic (copy and paste) message from a guy on Plenty of Fish, and I responded with an explanation of what constitutes sexual harassment. He told me to chill out because it's a "sex site". So sometimes these things can be based on misunderstandings, I suppose :S
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 9/23/2015 3:13:22 PM
OMG. I trying hard not to believe that people are that stupid, but sadly some are terminally stupid.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 47
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Posted: 9/23/2015 3:17:09 PM
mine nearly walked out of the room alone.
Off to try an unsee a post
bleach and a grapefruit knife good first step
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 49
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Posted: 9/23/2015 4:26:44 PM

Posted by ShipForBrains:
"...I have the desire to smell your scent even if to just sniff my fingers..."

You have quite a way with your brand of poetry, ShipForBrains.
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 50
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Posted: 9/23/2015 4:59:07 PM
Dear ShipForBrains.

Methinks you have a typo in your user name, p should be t.
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