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 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Hmmm… several points to make here, in no particular order:


castlehillsmile
James Bond movie "Spectre" was awesome.
Everything you expect from a Bond movie plus a few extra laughs.

I haven’t seen it yet. I would like to, but I have encountered a string of women lately who don’t like going to the movies. Not sure why. Several of my initial meets, might have gotten a real date if they were open to the idea of going to the movies.


castlehillsmile
Plus, the man, my date, used a voucher card thingy to get half price tickets.
I thought it was clever.

Diana, I am very pleased to hear you say that. I have serious doubts about those women here who do have a problem with coupons / vouchers.

And by the way, “honeypot” (mentioned in message 220) is NOT an outhouse or outdoor toilet. It is the small container kept indoors so that you don’t have to go outside for number 1 in the middle of the night. And it requires emptying every morning (not one of life’s more pleasant chores).

CrookCatcher3, welcome back! Glad to see you. I’m hoping InnerGorilla and DragonBits and many others make their way back as well, but I’m not holding out a lot of hope.


ShowboatSupreme
I'm gonna focus on making them laugh and less on satiating their palates...

When I first started this journey (OLD) about 6 years ago, I was astounded at how many women said “must make me laugh” on their profile. Motorcycles were a close second, but that appears to have been a fad, and has mostly dissipated by now. I did not understand the “must make me laugh” – what, you want to date Jay Leno or ???

Now I do. One of my good friends in the Meetup group makes women laugh. He is a good dancer, and he tends to “play around” out on the dance floor. He laughs, and jokes, and does exactly the wrong kind of dance moves for the music that is playing. All the while making it very obvious that he does know exactly what he is doing. A few women don’t like it, they get irritated that he isn’t doing exactly what they learned in dance class. But the great majority (95% plus) come off the dance floor laughing, with a huge smile. And later in the evening, they will invariably ask him to dance with them again.
Being the introspective type (translation: I think too damn much), I have pondered this at length. I don’t think that you can change your basic personality type, if you’re not the type who makes women laugh all of the time, then you just aren’t.

And one final word on the “won’t date a friend’s ex” topic:

b]kj521
As an alternative explanation......sometimes... that excuse is used as a gentler rejection than a simply not interested one.
Not saying that applies to your situation, Mr. O'Henry, just another possibility is all. :)

Yes, it is possible, and indeed I considered that. Sometimes the lady just isn’t interested in what I’m selling. In this case, I don’t think so. We had met, talked, danced, on about 3 occasions over the last year, so…

And, even if that were true, it would not change the basic nature of my question to the group here. If she used that as an excuse, that meant she believed it to be a valid excuse, she expected others to understand and accept it as a valid excuse.

I, for one, don’t believe it to be a valid excuse. Obviously, some here agree with me, and others disagree. The free exchange of ideas and opinions, that’s what we should be about here.
 castlehillsmile
Joined: 11/4/2015
Msg: 219
Home ownership a dealbreaker?
Posted: 12/13/2015 3:55:03 PM

And by the way, “honeypot” (mentioned in message 220) is NOT an outhouse or outdoor toilet. It is the small container kept indoors so that you don’t have to go outside for number 1 in the middle of the night. And it requires emptying every morning (not one of life’s more pleasant chores).


^^^ That is a guzunda - 'cos it goes under the bed.


Thank you Henry.
I would enjoy an evening of a movie and dancing.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 12/13/2015 6:58:34 PM
This 32 year old that married her " father figure", and then is surprised when he does not want to be a father at grandfather age, should not be surprised. I suppose she will divorce him and get some of his assets even after 12 months. She can move on and find a more suitable partner.
 castlehillsmile
Joined: 11/4/2015
Msg: 221
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Posted: 12/13/2015 7:04:40 PM
^^ They are having another go at making it work.
At the time of typing, all is good in paradise.

BUT she has her eyes open.
She still wants a home, owned (preferably) or rented and children.
He still says he wants that too and does not want her to work.
She is insisting on working and having a home and children.
They still have no 'home'.

Who knows what the next installment will bring.
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 222
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Posted: 12/13/2015 7:08:33 PM
^^^
Oy vey...

Sounds like she wants the trophy family while both her and hubby focus on dual income luxuries.

The kids will be raised by a third party and home entertainment systems in their bedrooms.

Both parties will be financially secure and the kids will learn a 2nd language.

He wants the stay at home mom dependent on him and she wants her own pot of gold.

Poor kids...
 castlehillsmile
Joined: 11/4/2015
Msg: 223
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Posted: 12/13/2015 7:35:50 PM
At the moment they have nothing.
He travels a lot for work and she is currently travelling with him staying in motel type accomodation and moving around.
When they are 'home', they stay with either his or her mother.

She thought when she got married that mean't having a home of her own.
Rented or owned. Somewhere to raise a family.
Considering his age I am not convinced they will be able to get a mortgage on his salary alone.
And I think they still only take 1/2 of hers into consideration.
So 1/2 a salary does not pay rent nor a mortgage.

Whilst lots of people have

Sounds like she wants the trophy family while both her and hubby focus on dual income luxuries.

The kids will be raised by a third party and home entertainment systems in their bedrooms.

Both parties will be financially secure and the kids will learn a 2nd language.

He wants the stay at home mom dependent on him and she wants her own pot of gold.


I doubt this will happen.
Sadly I fear that she will fall pregnant.
He will say that was not in his plan.
He will leave or keep travelling.
She will be a single mother living with her own mother. With or without a husband.
3 generations in the one house.


I also mourn for the kids if there are any.

Disaster waiting to happen.
BUT they are both adults.
 throttle_junkie
Joined: 7/13/2013
Msg: 224
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Posted: 12/16/2015 11:28:41 PM
"Comments like "He doesn't even have his own home. Nope!!!" "

Here, owning a home seems to the exception to the rule as nowadays many people my age are living in either an apartment or condo. I guess as time goes on assisted living will become the norm :-)
 Lakesidegemini
Joined: 9/3/2015
Msg: 225
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Posted: 1/9/2016 6:51:12 AM
I've met on a first date with the question" what kind of wine would you like ,do you rent or own?"
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
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Posted: 1/9/2016 9:50:29 AM

I guess as time goes on assisted living will become the norm :-)


No problem! There's plenty of rock 'n rolling going on in assisted living and nursing homes. My wife was a social worker in one ... the stories I heard ... LOL!
 showboatsupreme
Joined: 1/25/2016
Msg: 227
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Posted: 1/31/2016 7:32:11 PM
^^^
Some of the stuff I've read about those nursing homes. Wow.

The women are very promiscuous and the older chaps just want to settle down.

Lmao.
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