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 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 10/14/2015
Msg: 26
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^^^
Exactly.

And yes, very sad.

Nothing was left behind. Not even mortgage insurance.

I gave her a pendant of St. Brendant, the patron saint of navigators to help her navigate the uncharted territory ahead of her. A symbol for hope:)
 o0BrownEyedGirl0o
Joined: 11/12/2014
Msg: 27
On older ladies
Posted: 11/5/2015 7:59:47 AM

At some point I also realized I was in it for the wrong reasons.


But you two photographed well together.... :)

There are definite advantages to being older and wiser. Thanks for the ramble, you'll keep on keeping on I hope?

I think I'll go to the Catholic bookstore and get me one of those pendants.
 SunKist_Gal
Joined: 9/7/2015
Msg: 28
On older ladies
Posted: 11/5/2015 8:39:51 AM
Sorry Clooney....but you got out when it didn't feel right, is a good thing.
I, like a few...stayed too long with one fellow and I knew from the start it wouldn't work...smh.
I often wonder....If I will or can have those completely....trusting feelings ever again.
I hope so!
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 10/14/2015
Msg: 29
On older ladies
Posted: 11/5/2015 8:58:05 AM
Thank you all.

I tell you the strangest thing too, and I'm not making this up.

When I dropped her off on our last date, she turned to me and asked...Did you put spyware on my phone?

Wow. I never touched her phone. No idea what prompted that question.

I was like 'What?' and she left the car and went inside.

Bizarre:(
 vicissitudes
Joined: 10/22/2015
Msg: 30
On older ladies
Posted: 11/5/2015 9:10:53 AM

When I dropped her off on our last date, she turned to me and asked...Did you put spyware on my phone?

Wow. I never touched her phone. No idea what prompted that question.


Her insecurities, obviously, coupled with your previously demonstrated early emotional exhuberance.

Have heard that it can be done, maybe someone did it to her before. Enabled GPS sent to a tracking website.

Enjoy the present moments with your next paramour, allow them to show their own imperfections and insecurities.

Everyone has some. Takes kindness and maturity to accept them still...
 Blackwood85
Joined: 5/20/2013
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Posted: 11/5/2015 9:12:03 AM

Thank you all.

I tell you the strangest thing too, and I'm not making this up.

When I dropped her off on our last date, she turned to me and asked...Did you put spyware on my phone?

Wow. I never touched her phone. No idea what prompted that question.

I was like 'What?' and she left the car and went inside.

Bizarre:(


Sounds like she doesn't know what spyware is.
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
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Posted: 11/5/2015 9:15:41 AM
^^^^

Haha. Yes. That's what I thought, too.
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 10/14/2015
Msg: 33
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Posted: 11/5/2015 9:16:16 AM
YMMV = Your Mileage May Vary

I'm not knocking her last relationship.

All I'm saying is that she was fishing to see what type of future she would have with me by dropping hints here and there about her previous financial arrangements.

It was an agenda, IMHO. Not an evil one mind you, but an agenda nonetheless. It really stopped being organic at some point and I checked out emotionally.

I felt sorry for her because she was left squat. Zilch. Just a mortgage and no equity.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 11/5/2015 10:08:05 AM

ClooneysTutor
I only expected a weekend excursion and was grateful for how long it lasted.

She was a kind soul and I wished her the best.

I get attached too easily :(

I’m sorry to hear it didn’t last. Sounds like you enjoyed it while it did last, and that is what matters.


ClooneysTutor
More evidence though...

Money/trips gets sex but not the relationship.

Gotta budget the dollar amount for that...

I would need a bit of clarification on that one before I would agree / disagree. I get a lot of offers for trips / weekend getaways / cruises. In almost all cases, they are not looking for me to pay their way, just my own. Which can be expensive on it’s own, without picking up “her share of the tab”.

I usually decline politely, there is not only the cost, but the logistics. My two dogs need a house sitter / pet sitter, and the last lady that I was using as a house sitter recently moved out of state.


hearton64
Why would being called "easy" be an insult.
Much better than "hard", no?

I pride myself on being an easy older woman!
My younger man likes me that way!

I definitely like “easy”. The second most important attribute for a woman, whether young or old.

ClooneysTutor
She also said our relationship was in a holding pattern at the 2 month mark.

And what’s wrong with a holding pattern? I see that kind of mistake (her mistake, not yours) quite often here in the forums. If you have a good thing going on, enjoy it. Don’t try to rush, let things move at their own pace.

Ginastime
I don't understand what a holding pattern is. Thinking about it I don't understand what YMMV means either and its kind of bugging me now.

A “holding pattern” basically means maintaining the status quo, not trying to change anything, being happy with what you’ve got.

YMMV, Your Mileage May Vary. Originally a disclaimer attached to mileage claims for new cars here in the USA. “When we tested this car, it achieved 31 miles per gallon in highway driving, and 24 miles per gallon in city driving. Your mileage may vary.” It just meant they were not guaranteeing you would get the same miles per gallon as they achieved in testing.

The way it’s being used here, it just means, “This is my opinion, based on events that I have seen / experienced myself. Your experiences, and the conclusions you reach based on your experiences, may be entirely different than mine.”
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 10/14/2015
Msg: 35
On older ladies
Posted: 11/5/2015 10:26:48 AM


Money/trips gets sex but not the relationship.


You might be on to something Ohenry.

I'm sure she would have enjoyed the weekend at my bachelor pad versus the getaway at the wine resort.

I'll try that approach next time, lmao!
 hearton64
Joined: 11/2/2015
Msg: 36
On older ladies
Posted: 11/5/2015 11:39:12 AM

I definitely like “easy”. The second most important
attribute for a woman, whether young or old.


OoooHenry I like my men easy too!
Old or young!

What's the first?

Having their own money?

I don't mind a broke man as long as he's great in the sack!

Hey Clooney it's her loss man!

Gotta find you a rich ****!

Sorry I'm taken. : )
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 37
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Posted: 11/5/2015 12:15:18 PM
Come on. First she was a “kind lady,” now she’s a man-cycling gold digger asking about your finances and having sex with you after supposedly getting a trip out of you?


More evidence though...

Money/trips gets sex but not the relationship.


Why do you think you can buy a relationship with a woman?

You say she was interrogating you on your finances, offering fiscal advice, and buried her husband last summer, etc., etc., yet you pursued it anyway. Quit pretending YOUR decisions are HER fault, and “evidence” of gold digging non-committal women.

Please stop trashing her in here. It’s not fair or kind of you to post about all her failings knowing she can’t give her side of the story. Do you really need people cheering you on escaping out of her clutches? It makes you look small.

At least you haven’t had an emotional meltdown and called her an impotent freeloader, yet.
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
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Posted: 11/5/2015 12:22:17 PM
Ok, Clooney, I'm confused. You said her spouse died just 4 months ago. She put the relationship with you "on hold" at the 2 month mark. So, you started seeing her about 2 months, or less, after her husband died?
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 10/14/2015
Msg: 39
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Posted: 11/5/2015 12:37:55 PM
^^^
Exactly.

2 months after he passed. I know, I know. She is lonely, confused and still sorting things out.

We both went into this thing only expecting a weekend excursion and it slowly developed from there.

She eloquently told me the best way to get over someone was to get under someone, so I think emotionally, she had more or less moved on pretty fast.

Man-cycling gold digger? Lmao

Searching for a provider isn't as evil as prospecting for gold.

Hell, if I can cycle women, women can cycle men. No judgment on either Mars or Venus:)
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 40
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Posted: 11/5/2015 1:10:38 PM

At least you haven’t had an emotional meltdown and called her an impotent freeloader, yet.


I am confused, I thought impotent was an exclusive of men, not women.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 41
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Posted: 11/5/2015 1:13:50 PM
I am not clear why it was weird for her to put your picture on her FB page, yet seemed you were down with having HER face featured on POF.
 hearton64
Joined: 11/2/2015
Msg: 42
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Posted: 11/5/2015 1:27:40 PM
Aren't you glad you thread jacked
so you could answer for yourself Clooney?
 Blackwood85
Joined: 5/20/2013
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Posted: 11/5/2015 2:28:56 PM

ps, I don't know what spyware is either but Ive had a few mates who have had trouble with it from their ex's trying to track them. Im a bit paranoid about it now as well its horrible. Id hate to think of someone being able to read my text messages.


Spyware is a software that gathers information about a user without their knowledge (or with their knowledge depending on some) and sends that information to another entity or they assert control of the computer without the users knowledge. For example, you decide to install a free program onto your PC, the program has fine print that you don't bother reading because it's not important, the program gives you a prompt to click "yes" on such and such in order to complete installation, you're clicking yes. Lo and behold you just agreed to have some software installed on your PC to track your information and send it to a company that tracks your browsing and sends you pop up ads based on what you search. OR you visited a shady site (Often porn) that's unsecured and is a program that tracks your surfing, so all those porno pop-up ads are going to appear.

The thing is, you'll know when you have spyware if she has to ask then her phone probably doesn't have spyware on it, not only that but most phones are secured enough that they don't have spyware plus unless someone has your phone on a regular basis they can't just install spyware on the ur phone, it just doesn't work like that. In order to have spyware, she would have had to install some app that's a 3rd party app not in the Apple or Google Play store, if she's just worried then removing spyware is an easy fix, there are no shortage of apps that can remove spyware from your phone, I don't know what Clooney for a living but the average person isn't proficient enough in computer programming to exploit your phone for spyware.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 44
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Posted: 11/5/2015 2:40:58 PM
Sorry Mr. Clooney that it didn't work out. Glad you had some beautiful moments.


I am amazed at this though.....and it exemplifies how differently we all handle life's tragedies.


"She eloquently told me the best way to get over someone was to get under someone, so I think emotionally, she had more or less moved on pretty fast."


Looking back on the first few months after my husband passed....the thought of dating or being with someone other than my husband made me violently ill. People who move on so quickly have always been an enigma to me.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 45
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Posted: 11/5/2015 2:44:08 PM

Looking back on the first few months after my husband passed....the thought of dating or being with someone other than my husband made me violently ill. People who move on so quickly have always been an enigma to me.


It took my fiance, 4 years to get over the death of her husband.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 46
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Posted: 11/5/2015 4:52:58 PM
1) I wouldn't say that a person who is comfortable with having sex, is "Easy". I figure they are just sex-positive. Not a good or bad judgment, just a statement of existence. most of us like to get laid, the question we have to answer with our partner is "When".

2) having said that, yes, generally speaking, the candle that burns twice as bright, may do so by lasting half as long.

3) human behavior can be the same for everyone--when we're looking for something, we don't see what else is there. yeah, I too was interested in the comment about getting under someone. Its a cool line to throw out, but those who believe in it tend to do more than just say it, they act it. and who's going to say no to that offer? :)
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 47
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Posted: 11/5/2015 4:55:28 PM
One never gets over the death.
KJ - nicely worded, I have hmm, different words :)
 tangofish
Joined: 6/16/2015
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Posted: 11/5/2015 6:27:59 PM
Isn't it kind of implied that there won't be a relationship if there is a significant difference in age?

For men dating far younger women, it's likely about money.
For women dating far younger men, it will largely be about sex.

I'm not saying it can't work both ways, or that there aren't exceptions...

What I am saying is that a guy in his 20s isn't going to see himself in his 40s and happy with his 60 year old wife down the line.
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 10/14/2015
Msg: 49
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Posted: 11/5/2015 9:02:17 PM
I'm very sorry if I offended some posters today by oversharing.

I have my own grief today and will be saying farewell to my mother in hospice.

I always knew a funeral trip would happen but not a goodbye trip.

I shouldn't have shared my grief today with this gal, but she was very compassionate and offered kind words.

Anyway.

Sometimes life just flips you off in the face.

vvv
Thank you and likewise sir.

And thank you to KJ for her kind words outside of this thread.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 50
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Posted: 11/5/2015 9:12:51 PM

One never gets over the death.


My bad. But people learn to live again.



I have my own grief today and will be saying farewell to my mother in hospice.


I feel you're like my family. I hope all goes well with your mother. I do not know what to say, but that my prayers are with you and your family. It's weird. We do not know each other, yet we know each other better than people we know.

Take good care.
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