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 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 20
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]Page 2 of 2    (1, 2)
TheGuyInThePix...welcome to the Profile Reviews forum.
I concur that "anarchist" is likely not the feature to highlight at this time. It won't help and can only hurt your efforts.

Have a friend take two dozen well-lit, outdoor, crisp photographs using a high-quality digital camera...which is preferred over a fuzzy cellphone. Include a variety of backgrounds, activities, and bring various articles of clothing to create greater interest. Present yourself as she is likely to encounter you at a date. Be mindful of your backgrounds because people DO notice those details. Ensure plenty of them do not feature masks, costumes, hats, helmets, or sunglasses. Upload the best images and ensure you date and caption each pic...which makes them more fun to read. Resist the urge to use "selfie" snapshots taken in a mirror. You'll wish to ensure a full-length body snapshot remains in the mix. Good luck with your romantic search.

 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 21
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/20/2015 12:48:58 PM
Okay, I happen to like the term Anarchy in the pure sense of the word and the philosophy behind it...not the violent associations. I know I'm in the minority. I also dig the hippie vibe of socialism...don't stone me.

Shaun,

Sorry to see your pics haven't changed since you opened the review.
Single most important part of a profile and will make or break you.
You got lots of advice in that department.
Brighten the rock/waterfall one, delete the sleeping one, and get some close ups of your happy face.

The header is cliche and boring.
Think song lyric or movie quote for something better.

Answer the children question--evasiveness isn't good.

Delete the Myers Briggs stuff. Nobody remembers the abbreviations and I doubt it gets anybody a date.


So, just had someone tell me I'm a black man trying to be a white man because, and I can only assume, I took the time to explain myself when I'd asked a question..and maybe because I did it without quoting rap lyrics (which I could've done tbf) this was after two messages.
That's just sad. Someone has issues because you are articulate...tad bit racist or stereotyping.
Whatever the case, it's negativity and doesn't belong here.

That "you shouldn't bother" list is so negative, condescending, and full of drama/baggage :(
Will keep away the good women and not deter the bad ones.

The profile describes a person with issues and a huge chip on his shoulder.
It's not going to attract the type of woman you seek at all.
Sure you're ready to date?
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 22
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/20/2015 3:23:12 PM
OP is indeed handsome. I wouldn't answer this profile though. I got a strong negative vibe. I don't negativity in my life.
 Forums_only
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 24
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/20/2015 3:31:53 PM

I'm going to ignore the 'delicate sensibilities' part as I fail to see how it could be anything but an unfounded statement based on next to nothing


It's the "next to" part that was the giveaway. I reiterate: you are going to be sorely disappointed with your experience with online dating as evidenced by your overreaction to the posts here. Not going to waste any more of my/your time with comments as you have already got it all figured out. Good luck.
 castlehillsmile
Joined: 11/4/2015
Msg: 25
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/20/2015 3:40:34 PM
I stand by my initial comments that in your photos you look handsome.

Sorry OP but your comments since on here are UGLY.

I would bet that if ANY woman saw a glimmer of what we have witnessed here she would run away. Very fast.
Please calm down.
Take a break.
Try and have your attitude match your packaging.

How would your boss or your customers respond to someone writing as you have here.
Agreed. They would run away too.
You are overreacting BIG TIME.
Please calm down.


vvvv
Anyone who has told you 'not to change a thing' is being facetious.
This is a perfect example of how the written word can be misinterpreted.
Comments, jokes, compliments and insults can be completely misread.

You still have "Prefer not to say" about a car.
And have not paid any attention to the constructive criticism given here.

I will be clear.
CALM DOWN.
RELAX.
Rewrite your profile when you are in a happy mood and are in your marketing and sales mindset.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 28
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/20/2015 4:00:32 PM
A profile review that's into page 2 is always a sign of a tiff in-progress.

Shaun, your mistake was to not jump fast enough when the professional profile reviewers said jump. And to take umbrage with any of their suggestions. We're professional (albeit unpaid) reviewers. How dare a mere beginner question our 'suggestions'. (see what I did there? It's called sarcasm)

Reviewers, your mistake was expecting changes to be made in near-real time as if the OP doesn't have a life off the computer. And getting pissy when he didn't make changes (that he agreed to make) fast enough to suit you. And crossing the line dictating that the reader's interpretation is MORE valid than the writer's. And forgetting that a profile should *always* be in the OP's 'voice', not crafted by reviewer consensus.

Some things that are true:
- a reader may have a different interpretation than the writer intended.
- all interpretations may be "valid", depending on perspective and purpose
- if the writer is trying to attract the reader to meet, then the writer should care how the reader interprets the words
- the writer always has the final word choice - not the reviewers, not the readers
- there's a difference between "explaining" and "arguing"; y'all should look up the definitions.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 29
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/20/2015 4:08:19 PM
theguyinthepix- Post #11 is the way to go.
The nerve of you, young man, insisting on keeping something that is vital to you in your profile.
I do not support anarchy, but that's me, so if it is THAT important to you in a match, keep it.
Answer the questions you didn't answer.
You know by now how ASSumy people can get.
What you said on your list "Say way less about what I don't want and more of what I do."
Yes, do that.
Good luck :)
 HalftimeDad
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 30
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/20/2015 4:40:39 PM
I am an antichrist
I am an anarchist
Don't know what I want
But I know how to get it
I wanna destroy passerby

'Cause I wanna be Anarchy
No dogsbody

Anarchy for the UK
It's coming sometime and maybe
I give a wrong time stop at traffic line
Your future dream is a sharpie's scheme

'Cause I wanna be Anarchy
In the city

How many ways to get what you want
I use the best
I use the rest
I use the N.M.E
I use Anarchy

'Cause I wanna be Anarchy
It's the only way to be

Is this the M.P.L.A or
Is this the U.D.A or
Is this the I.R.A
I thought it was the UK
Or just another country
Another council tenancy

I wanna be Anarchy
And I wanna be Anarchy
(Oh what a name)
And I wanna be anarchist
I get pissed, destroy!
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 31
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Posted: 11/20/2015 4:43:49 PM
^^ oh geez.
An anarchist is defined by the winner, not synonymous with antichrist. Hence IRA are anarchist terrorists vs the Minutemen were patriots.

And this is a profile review thread - not the political forum (2 doors down)
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 32
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Posted: 11/20/2015 4:50:41 PM

Do you want children? Prefer Not To Say


On the topic of 'evasiveness' regarding answering the question of children with 'prefer not to say', this is only because there isn't an 'I don't know' option available. I'm not climbing the walls to have children neither am I averse to procreation...I simply don't know! - what would you prefer to see in this case? A yes with an explanation later or a no with the same? or leave it as is?


One of the options available to you is "Undecided/Open". This is the option you should choose.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 34
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Posted: 11/20/2015 5:38:40 PM
Point to OP.

Well played! You may just have the hang of it here.

Carry on.
 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 35
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/20/2015 6:58:20 PM

^^ oh geez.
An anarchist is defined by the winner, not synonymous with antichrist. Hence IRA are anarchist terrorists vs the Minutemen were patriots.

And this is a profile review thread - not the political forum (2 doors down)
And that was a song by the Sex Pistols...ever heard of them?
Halftime Dad gets that point if you have any left.
Very well played, sir.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/20/2015 8:09:39 PM
Perfect as is! Don't change anything.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 37
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Posted: 11/20/2015 8:32:17 PM
Well done. I like this version very much. Good luck (in a sincere, non-snarky way).
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 38
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Posted: 11/20/2015 10:07:57 PM
I dunno.

Your main pic reeks of yeah baby, let's get a groove on

I suppose there's a market for that though.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
Msg: 39
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/20/2015 10:25:24 PM
This latest version is a vast improvement over the original. Bravo!
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 41
I'm feeling brave - Hit me!! [gently]
Posted: 11/21/2015 6:26:06 PM
theguyinthepix- I saw your changes.
MUCH better!
Don't worry, I have redone my profile, 4 times.
It's not always easy to get it right, the first time.
It's great that you took the advice you were given and made good changes. :)
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