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 scorpioinOregon
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 26
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Thank you for all the great responses. I do like the guy, but I feel like I barely know him. I want to get to know him and that was what I told him when I said he needed to slow down.

When I said I was done with recreational sex, I meant there used to be a time when alcohol was involved and it was much easier to lose my inhibitions after a few drinks. I don't drink anymore, and I am not going to jump into bed with someone unless I know we both want to try to make a relationship work, not just be bed buddies.

Time will tell I guess! I hope we can get to know each other and I feel comfortable soon because I do like sex as much as anyone else does.
 sun___flower
Joined: 5/8/2015
Msg: 27
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3rd date really?
Posted: 11/20/2015 4:07:08 PM
ButterChickenChuck - so glad to see you again!
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 28
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Posted: 11/20/2015 6:34:58 PM

I meant there used to be a time when alcohol was involved and it was much easier to lose my inhibitions after a few drinks. I don't drink anymore



I've been known to indulge.

And part of it was to try and find my inhibitions.

Lost the damn things decades ago.
 Whatsamatterbaby
Joined: 11/7/2015
Msg: 29
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/20/2015 7:30:53 PM
^ There is no way you can prove I slipped anything in your drink.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
Msg: 30
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3rd date really?
Posted: 11/20/2015 8:15:40 PM
I remember sex! Not well, but I do remember....
 Lasthookbringsme
Joined: 11/8/2015
Msg: 31
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Posted: 11/21/2015 1:41:33 AM

Speaking of CHASING , for me the days of chasing are gone. By this stage of my life , if a woman wants me to chase her she’s simply not my type. My type realizes that life is precious and playing ego games like “ I want him to chase me to stroke my ego “ and/or “ he MUST chase me to prove how much he wants me “ , etc not only reveals a juvenile mentality but is a waste of time IMO


"I'm not going to chase a woman because I expect to get my free piece of ass when I call for it."
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 32
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/21/2015 3:08:41 AM

There is no way you can prove I slipped anything in your drink.


Probably best that I don't know how it happened, just happy that it actually did.

You didn't take any pics did you?

You know where to send them if you did.
 JujuO12
Joined: 8/18/2015
Msg: 33
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/21/2015 5:11:48 AM
I met a 'gentleman' off this web site. He was over weight. Something you couldn't tell from his pictures. He was separated... Something he didn't say on his profile. We still had a nice time. I enjoyed his company. As we are leaving the restaurant he suggests a second date. This time he wants to come to my home and watch TV. I inform him that I don't have sex with men until we are in a committed relationship. He say OK never mind. It was nice meeting you......

A guy before that arranges a date. We are to meet at a restaurant before the week before mardi gra. I come into the restaurant dressed as I would for any date, make up, hair done, nice dress and high heels. I sit and wait. I sit and wait and wait some more. There is a man sitting across the bar who looks like him but he is lean in talking to a woman sitting next to him. He is whispering in her ear and she is smiling. They seem very intimate. So that cant be him, right? The man and the woman get up and leave the bar together so I am sure that couldn't have been him. I left my phone at home. I get home and there are tons of messages suggesting he was looking for me. OK sure.. It is a small place. There is really NO way to get lost in there but ok.
I set up a new date this time on Mardi Gra and when I get there GUESS WHO WALKS UP??? The same guy from last week who left with some woman he picked up in the bar. He is dressed so much nicer than he was before. I was very nice. I had a wonderful time. I got home blocked his number and his email.


Let's talk about the guy before that. Black professional who was very successful, insisted we go out on Valentine Day. I don't typically date black men but I was trying to be more open about who I see. IT was a lovely restaurant. We are talking and some what enjoying our time together. Once again he physically isnt my type of guy. He is a bit too short for my taste and he is carrying too much weight for my liking. We get on the conversation of my being celibate and have been since my divorce about 5 or 6 years before. He almost gets up and leaves during the meal. IT IS rushed after he learns that fact. He is in a big hurry to get home. I never hear from him again. He really did think he was going to be laid after that 200 dollar meal.


This is a site listed on AskMen's as a hook up site. It is also listed on Adultdating as the number one hook up site. To say NOTHING of all the random hook up artist who insist this is the best place next to a 70's bar to hook up. Google search POF and hookup sites.

Men live by the 3rd date rule and pretend they are seeking any thing more to up their numbers before their hearts get to bad for the Viagra. They resent how much time they spent in the marriage when they think they could have been sleeping with a bunch of women. Now they are trying desperately to relive that missed youth. TO all you sad pathetic men I have one WORD for you: CHARLIE.
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 34
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Posted: 11/21/2015 5:13:16 AM


I inform him that I don't have sex with men until we are in a committed relationship


I just love when I hear this line!

My response?

I don't spend money outside of a committed relationship.
 JujuO12
Joined: 8/18/2015
Msg: 35
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Posted: 11/21/2015 5:22:37 AM
And can you men really fall in love with a woman who has slept with a bunch of men? 4 or 5? 60 or 70? 100 or 150??? 600 men??? It is easy for women to hit those kinds of numbers if she is half attractive and more than willing to say yes. BUT men are genetically program to be repulsed by women who have slept around.

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advertorial/a4435/study-finds-women-reject-sexually-promiscuous-peers/ Shows women don't friend women who sleep around.
Women pay a much bigger price for that sleeping around....
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/21/2015 5:24:00 AM
Cosmo? Meh.

My olfactory senses are pretty sharp too.

vvv

I don't share my number so easily. You'll have to tell me more about yourself first.

I'm not easy...
 JujuO12
Joined: 8/18/2015
Msg: 37
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Posted: 11/21/2015 5:24:50 AM

I don't spend money outside of a committed relationship.


That is find with me. I will call you when I want to do things with you and we will go dutch. BUT when I call you.
 JujuO12
Joined: 8/18/2015
Msg: 38
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Posted: 11/21/2015 5:28:53 AM
Show I suggest you cut out dating... and just seek out women on backpages. IT cut out the faking and lying. BE real BE TRUE TO YOUR SELF. Do not worry about what others think or say. Pay for the attention and she leaves when you are done.
 JujuO12
Joined: 8/18/2015
Msg: 39
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Posted: 11/21/2015 5:33:58 AM
Why are men such cowards??? I mean if you truly just want sex then PAY the professionals on the back pages. AND remove yourself from dating sites. IT is just that simple. She will not make the demands on you that a girlfriend or a wife does. SHE will leave when you are done and YOU dont have to worry about her falling in love. Rather than trolling dating sites and resenting women for daring to expect YOU TO actually like more than what is between her legs. I dont get why you do this to yourself? Go where the pickings are easy. You get to pick her based on body type, hair color and looks... AND she is always ready to do what you want. YOU are making this so much harder than you have too.
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 40
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Posted: 11/21/2015 5:37:07 AM


YOU are making this so much harder


Why is hard a problem?

I'm having too much fun here. I need to get some laundry done...
 JujuO12
Joined: 8/18/2015
Msg: 41
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Posted: 11/21/2015 5:51:53 AM
What ever your ex wife did to you.... IT shows.
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 42
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/21/2015 6:00:50 AM
Which one?

Lmao
 JujuO12
Joined: 8/18/2015
Msg: 43
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/21/2015 6:03:57 AM
http://news.cornell.edu/stories/2013/05/study-women-reject-promiscuous-female-peers-friends


Which one?


I think it more in line of what your parents did... YOUR father that shows... and will continue to show until you stop and take a look at what you witness.. AND how you repeat his actions to this day. I am guessing you will appreciate a Cornell article more than Cosmo.
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 44
3rd date really?
Posted: 11/21/2015 6:08:04 AM
National Geographic and Mental Floss.

I like the cut of your jib Jujo.

I've enjoyed our...banter...
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 45
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3rd date really?
Posted: 11/21/2015 6:42:27 AM
I see the "third date rule" in a historical, human nature at work kind of way.

There's probably nothing more common to humans as an active species, than that they always try to figure out how to lessen the stress of working to exist. So we build tools, and try to craft ways to do things, that will insure better outcomes for ourselves.

The "third date" rule, is one of the many erroneous attempts to address some of the more upsetting challenges of mate-hunting. Ironically, applying rules like this, actually act to prevent people from getting the exact thing they set the rules up to provide them.


I've read the forums enough to know that guys don't want to spend money on dates if they don't think it's leading towards the bedroom.


Money is actually only a secondary concern at best. Time is the more important worry. If you read enough here and elsewhere, another repeating theme you'll see, are people who are trying to decide how long they should wait for a signal of some sort that they are "on the right track" with the other person. Basically, how long, and how much work should a person invest on someone else, before they can be sure they are right to give up and move on?

Here in Online World, there are two basic categories I've decided to group people in to:

a) the ones who are genuinely looking for a life partner;

b) and the ones who have discarded that notion, and see all relationships as temporary entertainment programs.

The category a) people who try to apply the Third Date Sex rule, do so as a way to make it psychologically easy to hit the dump switch with someone. You will find them here, proclaiming that if things don't progress to intimacy on schedule, that this means that the other person either isn't a real match, or they are just wasting their time, and will never commit.

Category b) people tend to use the Third Date Sex rule, to keep to their expected schedule of "Meet, Do fake things together for a short time, Enter into what is functionally a temporary sex-for-fun arrangement, and then move to the next target." They watch TV and movies with the same system: if they don't get the hot scenes they are looking for within a few episodes of a TV series, they are off changing the channel.

One thing that I find amusing to have recognized: many people who follow a "wait until I see a sign of true whatever" process, no matter how long that takes, are actually objectifying their targets every bit as much as the rush-to-sex people are.
 billyjack55
Joined: 11/18/2015
Msg: 46
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Posted: 11/21/2015 6:56:58 AM

Why are men such cowards???


Some are I suppose. Quite a few aren't?

I've never heard of most of these dating "rules" that I read about here in the forums.

How do you categorize interactions, expectations and timelines between two unique individuals?

Perhaps that's the reason it appears so difficult to date by so many on here.
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 47
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Posted: 11/21/2015 6:58:48 AM

I'm gonna take this right foot, and I'm gonna whop you on that side of your face...

[points to Sheriff Posner's right cheek]
 JujuO12
Joined: 8/18/2015
Msg: 48
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Posted: 11/21/2015 7:12:24 AM

How do you categorize interactions, expectations and timelines between two unique individuals?


Fathers with daughters... WHAT do you tell your daughters do to in regards to sexual interactions with the boys they date? WHY would that change simply because the woman isn't your daughter?
 HippyDippyWeatherman
Joined: 3/20/2008
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Posted: 11/21/2015 7:16:25 AM
Rules are meant to be followed. When I meet new person we usually go for walk in the park and stop and chit chat on a park bench. I pull out my secret weapon ( a bag of dates ) and start snacking. If we are not in the bushes having wild monkey sex by the third date I know it is not going to work out.
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 50
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Posted: 11/21/2015 7:19:18 AM
Well, when my daughter is born, I'll be sure to hand her a princess tiara and wand :)

vvv

I'm thinking Beyonce is a fitting name too


[Chorus:]
Cause if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you should've put a ring on it
Don't be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it then you should've put a ring on it

Wuh uh oh uh uh oh oh uh oh uh uh oh
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