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 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 25
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You are an Engineer and are going to analyze, dissect, and relive this until you go insane.

You're not getting the answers here that you were hoping for, but you are getting excellent answers.

Heed the advice.
The 1% chance you give yourself is overly generous....forget her and move on before you can't get out of her web.
 New2NewYork1234
Joined: 6/14/2015
Msg: 26
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It was going well and she ended it, why? Should i remain friends?
Posted: 11/30/2015 6:26:27 PM
If anyone cares....

I decided to stay friends with this girl. Texted once last week just to see how she is, had a small conversation. Told her it was my birthday next week and she suggested we go out and celebrate together this weekend. I agreed.

I decided I will keep quite until the weekend/date she proposed that we would go out. She texted me late Saturday night asking what I was up to and told her I was out drunk with friends. I was pretty drunk so texting her some obscure stuff which she thought was hilarious. She then sends me a selfie - obviously fishing for compliments. I didn't give any.



And here is the big thing - I don't know if it was because I have been ignoring her/trying to look cool and busy on social media or her just coming out with it, she pretty much announced via facebook she still loves her boyrfriend in South America. It was his birthday a couple of days ago and sent this big message to him with a photo of them together. Basically she was saying how she loved him so much and that when she returns back home they will celebrate many birthdays together.
She has a ton of white knight beta orbiters always liking her profile pictures so they must be devastated lol.
The scary thing her boyfriends birthday is 1 day apart from my birthday....

Even though I knew it was over between us it did kind of hurt. When she originally told me why she didn't want to be with me she said there was no other person in her life - which it seems is not true.

I guess the positive here is that I dodged a bullet. Even if I was able to hook up with her and make her my girlfriend she seems not so reliable and trust worthy. Being on Tinder and dating/kissing guys while having a boyfriend is not something to be proud of.

Perhaps if I played my cards right I may have been able to have sex with her once, but I doubt I would of been anything more then that after.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 27
It was going well and she ended it, why? Should i remain friends?
Posted: 11/30/2015 6:29:20 PM
Oy, love stories these days. I texted... She texted... And then I texted.......... THEN here's what happened on Facebook!
 New2NewYork1234
Joined: 6/14/2015
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Posted: 11/30/2015 6:57:38 PM
I hate online dating.

Beginning of the year I was dating a women who I found out was married. when I found out I pretended to not care but gave up when we couldn't get passed kissing.

I then dated another girl, on the fourth date I built up the courage to kiss her and she started to cry. She then texted me a message saying she felt bad for me and that she is going through a rough patch with her long term boyfriend and is confused.

Now this south American girl has a boyfriend back home she cant stop thinking about. Even though they are going to be away for 1 or 2 years.

I seem to be the rebound specialist for women hahaha
 ShowboatSupreme
Joined: 11/10/2015
Msg: 29
It was going well and she ended it, why? Should i remain friends?
Posted: 11/30/2015 7:15:15 PM
^^^
I hear ya.

I'm typically the guy that's good for now, but not foreva :(
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 11/30/2015 7:31:50 PM
When you say it was over between you, I have to say that it was never really "on". If she is here and obviously going out with other guys, then the boyfriend back home is not the great love of her life. My feeling is still that she is looking for the main chance and to find someone more eligible than he may be.

Nothing scary about having a birthday a day apart from the boyfriend. You are looking for connections, that is all. Glad you are not allowing yourself to be used for whatever reason, and your self esteem will remain intact hopefully.
 New2NewYork1234
Joined: 6/14/2015
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It was going well and she ended it, why? Should i remain friends?
Posted: 11/30/2015 7:55:47 PM
She has made plans to do something this weekend to celebrate my birthday and i said i would leave it with her to organize. Should i just wait for her to get back to me or do i ask her if we are still on for Saturday? Part of me thinks she has already forgotten about it, or its a "test"by her to see if im still interested/keen on her.

I am feeling a bit smug right now, in some ways i feel like being the "bad guy" and playing with her mind, flirting etc (but not fall in love) - and at the same time try date other girls (easier said then done) and maybe just keep her as a side project (as bad as that sounds).
She is a "bad girl" as she has said and she cant control her bad side some times. Maybe i might get to try her bad side once lol
 LLove2LaughToo
Joined: 10/8/2015
Msg: 32
It was going well and she ended it, why? Should i remain friends?
Posted: 11/30/2015 8:01:36 PM
If I was you, I would make other plans and forget about her.
 CheezePissa
Joined: 11/25/2015
Msg: 33
It was going well and she ended it, why? Should i remain friends?
Posted: 11/30/2015 8:27:27 PM

I have a 99% fail rate with online dating lol, hence why I maybe tried to hard with this one.


So you have a 1% success!!! That is awesome. You're a head of many others. One is all you want in the end. I hope. So in the mean time, keep failing your way into getting what you want.
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