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 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 238
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generally speaking, the better company you are to yourself, the easier it gets to be alone better.

or have distracting hobbies to lose yourself in.
 memtoo
Joined: 6/2/2016
Msg: 239
Why is it so hard to meet someone?
Posted: 7/7/2016 10:10:41 AM
Meeting people and falling in love is far easier when you are young . . . which is why it is always best to find a soul-mate while in college where there are coeds available galore. After that, after entering the working world, it gets much harder, partly because many people start pairing up and marrying soon after college, and of course the older you get the harder it gets. And even if its easy to "meet" people and date, it is hard to meet people whom you might actually fall in love with or who will fall in love with you. As they say, love is for the young.

As far as "hot" guys go. There are women who "detest" hot guys simply because they are hot without knowing anything else about them, just as I'm sure there are guys who detest hot women for no good reason. But don't kid yourselves, good looks open lots of doors, especially when you are younger, that otherwise might not open to you . . . not only in the dating world but in the employment world and the selling yourself world also. The more women available to a hot guy, the more likely he is to find that needle in a haystack, i.e., a soul mate . . . . but then he has to take advantage of his opportunities when they present himself. Sometimes that's hard to do, I am guessing, when there are always tons of women available.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 240
Why is it so hard to meet someone?
Posted: 7/7/2016 1:33:53 PM

I think you have to respect yourself, in order to have respect for others.


- Bingo.

- Contrary to popular belief, the bad boys don't do any better than average guys - you just notice them more because they are such a train wreck. They do, however, fair better than the nice guys..... at least in the beginning of a relationship.

- The problem with the so called "nice guys" is, they have social issues - that's all it amounts to. They don't understand people and women well enough.

You have to respect yourself just a little bit more than others (the bad boy does not respect others, the nice guy has too little self-respect). It has to be this way for you to socialize at your best. There is an old saying - You have to help yourself before you can help others. It makes sense.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Why is it so hard to meet someone?
Posted: 7/7/2016 4:09:51 PM

The problem with the so called "nice guys" is, they have social issues - that's all it amounts to. They don't understand people and women well enough.


Good point. Overcoming that becomes harder, when women throw up roadblocks, or don't give a guy a fighting chance to improve. They expect someone else to do it for them.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 242
Why is it so hard to meet someone?
Posted: 7/7/2016 5:00:15 PM
there are women who claim to detest hot guys, but oddly enough they keep falling for them.

Bad boys do well b/c like musicians, they work via their emotions.

Nice guys wait for the relationship to fall into their lap. they want to feel they are so attractive the woman makes all the moves. plus, it helps them to know whether or not she's really interested.

Women want what they want. and like any client, if you want to make the sale, you have to sell them what they want.
 rockstartrucker82
Joined: 11/22/2015
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Posted: 7/9/2016 6:22:55 AM

- The problem with the so called "nice guys" is, they have social issues - that's all it amounts to. They don't understand people and women well enough.


And this is exactly what I was talking about. Every potentially positive trait comes with a stigma. There's tons of guys that are "nice" and even call themselves nice and they're complete socially competent. According to POF forums, these guys should be struggling, but instead tons of them are happily married. Just MAYBE the problem isn't them, but it's the people who use their positive traits as an excuse to want nothing to do with them... Because that's all these forums are, excuses.

If you have options of who to date, but can't find someone worth dating, the problem is probably you. If you want a certain type of guy, then stop wasting your time on losers and give that guy the chance. Most people aren't ***holes that are going to try to take you away from a boyfriend, you're causing all your own dating problems. You're picking these guys that are clearly the opposite of what you want, staying with them, getting passed over by better guys because you're taken, eventually Mr. perfect doesn't work out, you break up, and now you're single wondering why you can't meet anyone and flirting with another guy who is clearly a**** but you're overlooking all the obvious signs because "he's so hot." Meanwhile, you're doing a great job of killing any decent guy's interest in you because you're dumb, and most decent guys want a girl who can use her brain.

You girls want real things to complain about in dating? Try picking a girl up and then finding out that you were just her ride to her real date. Try being told to your face that a girl can get someone way better looking than you, great way and reason to end it... Or what about when it works out, have to deal with insane jealousy issues from other people, where you're getting threats, you're dealing with things you'd think you'd only see in a soap opera? Yeah, I have no sympathy for a hot girl who has her choice in guys never being able to meet a decent one. You're kind of the one who makes the call on who gets to date you, make better choices.
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