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 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 226
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Hey Chromis, Who is that with you in your pic?LOL
I have 3 laundry loads. 1.Dark/jeans 2. White/lights and 3. RED
OT, Hell yah I'm picky! I want my red to stay red!
 cassie2425
Joined: 3/4/2016
Msg: 227
Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 10:14:09 AM

^^^ Really. I wash whites with darks all the time. All my darks are color fast, so .. no harm, no foul.


I was a believer of the above as well....it's 2014 and textiles have come a long way and everything is colour fast....until I threw those brand new teenie tiny red thongs in with the whites and lights.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 228
Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 10:19:39 AM
Heretics!
Lights and darks. Sigh. I see I have to take in laundry now. Next you'll say you wash white towels in cold water and my head will explode :/
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 229
Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 10:22:03 AM
I know a guy that steams his catfish in the dishwasher.

He wraps the fish in aluminum foil first.

The trick, he says, is to select dry cycle only.

I wonder if the dryer would work just as well?
 elig0724
Joined: 4/11/2016
Msg: 230
Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 10:47:45 AM
Some say 'picky' others say 'having standards'. Depends on the person lol. To each their own, but....in my personal opinion...
Dating, like driving, is about staying in one's lane to be successful. Some people have a higher image of themselves than the actual reality. I only say this because I was messaging with this man on here... he was nice. And he mentioned he typically only received messages from women he didn't find attractive. Now, the interesting part is that he is bald, not the best body, bad style sense, and face was plain. So, I wondered how many nice women he overlooked because they weren't up to his physical standards and that he'd be complaining later down the road that he cannot find anyone.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 231
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Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 12:06:42 PM

Some say 'picky' others say 'having standards'. Depends on the person lol. To each their own, but....in my personal opinion...

The problem though is that there's a difference between 'taste' and 'having standards'. People take their standards of Mere Taste and mistakenly believe it's actually a standard of Quality, and treat it as such. That's when folks roll their eyes at them. If someone knows that X is a taste and not an actual 'standard', they come off as non-offensive to most. There are things that are in the gray area between the two -- but at least one should treat it that way, and err on the side of treating it like a Taste instead. Not just for being PC, but for their own understanding... because the more Unnecessarily picky we are, the more it costs us. If one's famous, real popular, or hot (like yourself) -- one can afford to be unnecessarily picky to a certain degree, as they'll many times have the pick of the litter anyway. But when it comes pretty difficult to be dating or in a relationship with someone to their liking, they better evaluate themselves objectively to see that they're very low on Unnecessary Tastes. And over time, yes, we can change our tastes to some degree. It's just when it gets to actual Standards, is when one shouldn't change it (if they're at least somewhat deserving of said standard).

Standards: Certain degree/trade level within reason, employment status within reason, within a reasonable-but-open age in relation to their own, health level (comes in various markers), positive personality level, income level in relation to their own

Tastes: Wanting someone with a PhD, someone who doesn't work/works-all-the-time, someone Real young or Real old in relation to themselves, someone who's persona isn't so positive (ex:**** or an a-hole), someone with income level way higher than middle-class while also higher their own 'class', someone who's short or tall, someone specifically in our outside their race, girl not wanting guy too bulky/muscular, guy not wanting gal who's notably slender, guy wanting/not-wanting gal with (merely) "big booty", girl wanting/not-wanting guy with a beard or total-bald, etc.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 232
Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 12:18:07 PM


Now, the interesting part is that he is bald, not the best body, bad style sense, and face was plain.


Reminds of the gal that told me she was dumped by an overweight guy for not having sex on the 4th date.

Why did she string along this unattractive male for 4 dates?

Doh!
 ebolakitty
Joined: 3/19/2016
Msg: 233
Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 12:20:24 PM
Does it really matter if women are picky? Why not have a solid standard... "I don't mess with picky."? Does it hurt the pig headedly picky person? Not likely but does it have to? Just saying, "Die alone with your cats!" doesn't make it more probable nor will it get you anything but resentment. Maybe just take it for granted that that's how they are and deal only with those who are not.
 no_kids_please
Joined: 3/4/2016
Msg: 234
Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 5:22:29 PM

Dating, like driving, is about staying in one's lane to be successful. Some people have a higher image of themselves than the actual reality. I only say this because I was messaging with this man on here... he was nice. And he mentioned he typically only received messages from women he didn't find attractive. Now, the interesting part is that he is bald, not the best body, bad style sense, and face was plain. So, I wondered how many nice women he overlooked because they weren't up to his physical standards and that he'd be complaining later down the road that he cannot find anyone.


How does one determine one's "own lane" then Elig0724? You can't just say it's who's messaging yourself as the messagers are likely swerving out of their own lane themselves, right? His pursuers could have been as far off from himself as he was with what he was looking for.

And where is the subjectivity in your theory? Many women think bald guys are sexy AF. When I was getting profile reviews in the past, people were riding my jock to cut my hair because that's OBVIOUSLY why I couldn't get any action on here. I was pretty "great" otherwise. As soon as I did (to my own volition), I started getting messages asking me, "Why did you cut off all your sexy hair?".
 HealthySkeptic
Joined: 8/3/2010
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Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 7:22:56 PM
The laundry quirks crack me up.

I bought 3 dozen pairs of black socks for work, and 3 dozen pairs of grey casual socks. I never pair them, I never count them. I never know if I have an odd number, don't care, and I never am concerned about throwing out a single worn-out sock.

Fashion plate I am not. Lazy, yes.
 geekgrrrl
Joined: 1/28/2009
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Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/15/2016 10:01:11 PM
HealthySkeptic I love your workshop. Did you make that nice work bench?
 rockstartrucker82
Joined: 11/22/2015
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Posted: 4/15/2016 10:04:56 PM

Some say 'picky' others say 'having standards'. Depends on the person lol. To each their own, but....in my personal opinion...


No.... It's like I said either in this thread or another one...

If you don't want to date me because you're not attracted to me, you have standards.

BUT

If you ONLY date hot guys, you're picky.

The reason matters.

And your story can be turned back around on you. I can point out your physical flaws and question how many guys you overlooked because they weren't up to your physical standards, and accuse you of having a higher image of yourself than reality.
 LJane_6
Joined: 6/10/2015
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Posted: 4/16/2016 12:00:50 AM

Some say 'picky' others say 'having standards'. Depends on the person lol. To each their own, but....in my personal opinion...
Dating, like driving, is about staying in one's lane to be successful. Some people have a higher image of themselves than the actual reality.


I agree to some extent, but it depends how you define “your own lane.” People have accused me of being judgemental for saying this, but I believe I am an average-looking woman who is fairly intelligent, and prefer to date guys who are close in age. Yet many/most of the guys who have messaged or hit on me were either much older, very overweight, my height or shorter, and/or lacking basic grammar/English writing ability. And, if I contact men who I believe are in my own “lane,” they mostly ignore me. So, which of us is delusional? IMHO, I’m inclined to believe that men shoot out of their “lane” in terms of age and looks; women in terms of career/finances. I’m guessing a gorgeous woman like you probably has your pick out of the “average” guys, since the type of guys I message who I feel are average like myself are probably going for someone like you who is a bit above their level.


And he mentioned he typically only received messages from women he didn't find attractive. Now, the interesting part is that he is bald, not the best body, bad style sense, and face was plain. So, I wondered how many nice women he overlooked because they weren't up to his physical standards


Case in point.


If you don't want to date me because you're not attracted to me, you have standards.

BUT

If you ONLY date hot guys, you're picky.


Also agree, but women’s versions of “hot” seems to vary more greatly than men’s. My friends and I all like different types of guys (when it comes to style, image, body type, etc.), while most men seem to consider a more generic (young, thin, model or movie star type) as “hot.”
 LJane_6
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Posted: 4/16/2016 12:04:04 AM

"ps. DO NOT CONTACT ME IF YOU OWN A SELFIE STICK"
It's nice to know she has her priorities in order on her "must haves."


TBH, if a guy I was dating owned a selfie stick, unless it was work related, I'd question if he was straight. Lol
 LJane_6
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Posted: 4/16/2016 12:13:11 AM
My above post also explains why I think OLD is mostly BS; without being able to get a sense of chemistry or compatibility off the bat, it's based way too much on superficial qualities like looks and income level.
 HealthySkeptic
Joined: 8/3/2010
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Posted: 4/16/2016 12:40:39 AM

geekgrrl
HealthySkeptic I love your workshop. Did you make that nice work bench?


I love a woman who loves a workshop. I did make the bench, many many years ago...

Your bike has a lot more horsepower than mine. I bet your brakes are better, too...
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 242
Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 4/16/2016 8:55:16 AM

And he mentioned he typically only received messages from women he didn't find attractive. Now, the interesting part is that he is bald, not the best body, bad style sense, and face was plain. So, I wondered how many nice women he overlooked because they weren't up to his physical standards


This can apply to both genders. For example, there is a thread with a woman talking about getting attention from men she's not interested in.


Also agree, but women’s versions of “hot” seems to vary more greatly than men’s. My friends and I all like different types of guys (when it comes to style, image, body type, etc.), while most men seem to consider a more generic (young, thin, model or movie star type) as “hot.”


Not all men like thin supermodels. There are plenty of men that like women with an athletic / fit body type or women with curves or even women that are somewhat overweight. It's probably more accurate to say that most men ( and women ) aren't attracted to someone that is obese.
 caballerosiempre
Joined: 12/5/2015
Msg: 243
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Posted: 4/16/2016 9:06:07 AM
esteemed leader of Canada, PM Justin Trudeau must own several selfie sticks, he takes enough of them..adores photos of his own face..but is kind of very metrosexual/in love with himself.
Is everything "superficial"? Looks, income, personality..?
Depends on who's doing the defining, I think
Actually Barack Obama is fond of selfies as well..
 ebolakitty
Joined: 3/19/2016
Msg: 244
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Posted: 4/29/2016 3:02:14 PM

Both men and women are allowed to be picky, and sometimes all of us get pickier with time.


There is more to it than that. I guess one could say that someone who won't drink from the sewer or eat road kill is just being picky. Still, in the realm of dating, it isn't all that outrageous to hope that a few of your contacts could possess some minor positive qualities. Last night, just for chuckles, I went through the profiles of about 25 or 30 of my potential matches. None of them, not a single, solitary one had even ONE positive attribute. One could argue that I was being picky if I were to select only blondes and reject all of the brunettes but it didn't even get that far. None, blonde, brunette, redhead or bald presented themselves as a reasonable choice. How can someone be picky when there are no choices to make?
 Dinno76
Joined: 2/11/2016
Msg: 245
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Posted: 5/4/2016 11:27:12 AM
There is nothing wrong with being picky. The older you get the pickier you get . By the time you are 30 years old you should know what you want in life . You should know what kind of people you want in your life . If not well then you are doing something wrong . You need to correct it before it is too late.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 246
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Posted: 5/4/2016 8:12:32 PM
^^^You SHOULD but you don't, you NEED TO but you won't, and you ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG but it's absolutely fine. :-)
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 247
Why are women so picky? it's not fair is it?
Posted: 5/4/2016 9:04:00 PM
"you should know what kind of people you want in your life"

>>>I suspect what we want are, people who make us feel comfortable about ourselves. We might fantasize about the person who validates our worth, shows the w0rld we're so amazing we can attract *this* type of person. but we want to stick around with someone who embraces our ways. as we get older and hopefully mature and change our ways, we change what we find comfortable in a partner.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
Msg: 248
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Posted: 5/4/2016 10:06:35 PM
So true. Which is why Cycling may as well end his crusade against addicts and cheaters and look for opportunities to connect with people who believe the same things he does. Unfortunately, most of the time rigidity is indicative of poor relationship skills. With his incessant smiley faces, GARBAGE and mantras, he seems to be someone in need of serious help. I say this most compassionately.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 249
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Posted: 5/5/2016 4:15:23 PM
You know the simple crux of this matter is that FEmales are the ones who can become pregnant. The ONLY ones... as far as I know. They MUST be more careful [picky] in picking a partner... The pickiness "training" starts early for them.

It's part of their basic programming. And men have their own programming. Men are far more likely to think with their little head. Just look at how many smart/nice/brilliant/famous men have literally been caught "doing" an improper lady throughout the ages and those guys were simply the ones who got caught. Don't you think it would also be in the news if ladies were acting the fool? Humans ARE just animals and subject to following basic guidelines to keep our species going. The vast majority of Humans anyway.

IF men could become pregnant, they TOO would be far more picky.

Men are usually almost always physically stronger and are not "required" to spend so much time and effort on their appearance and women [on the surface anyway] seem to hold all the cookies and can usually get "most" men to "help" them in one way or another..

Fair tradeoff?
 rockstartrucker82
Joined: 11/22/2015
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Posted: 5/5/2016 4:44:55 PM
So, you're saying men should pick a girl they like and just fight, winner mounts her?

Thing is, way less women are "picky." Tons of them are married because they talked to a guy and he was interesting. She didn't start dripping at the sight of him, she wasn't instantly fantasizing about going back to his house and tearing their clothes off. She acted like a social being and communicated, and built an interest.

Why do you think your most outgoing friends have always been the ones to have the most success with dating? There's a connection there. The reason it seems like women are picky, is because most of the ones who aren't that bad found someone. What's left, and coming onto these sites, are the ones that if he didn't have a 6-pack, he wasn't good enough, or she'd never date a guy that's only 5'9. Definitely can't date a Virgo...
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