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 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 137
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Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?Page 7 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
The women who ARE looking for FWB's, at least the one's I've known, were in a time in their lives when either they were ANGRY at males in general (usually due to having been treated AS THOUGH they were just FWB's), or they are on a personal power trip of some sort, or both. Wanting an FWB for most folks, male and female, and in between, is mainly about wanting the fun bits of a relationship without the obligation bits. Calling something an FWB is just a way to elevate it slightly above screwing around pointlessly for the sake of screwing around.
 Laha Math
Joined: 7/15/2010
Msg: 138
Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/1/2011 8:13:17 PM
Less complicated. Less demanding. Less imposing.
 SpittyKitty
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 142
Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/4/2011 9:29:56 PM
Why? Many reasons:
1. horny- just gotta have it
2. hot to trot- player
3. 21st Century- equality
4. immature- too young to know better
5. mature- too old to worry about it
6. busy- work,work,work
7. baggage- ain't worth the "R" trouble
8. lonely- but still have baggage
9. given up- no good prospects
10. but mostly horny

Personally:
I am looking to find me a man, drag him back to the house, and chain him up in the back yard!
(joke)
No! Really, I still want my Prince Charming.....

SEE HOW WE ARE?
 marcus_biggs
Joined: 4/2/2011
Msg: 144
Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/10/2011 10:49:07 PM
ohh.. that's what it means.. fwb.. smh
 vagirl11
Joined: 3/14/2011
Msg: 145
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Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/11/2011 3:38:23 PM
Move on - she' going to end up settling with you and that's not good!
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
Msg: 147
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Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/11/2011 6:36:18 PM
"Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?"

hmmm... I can't answer about 'so many women', which sounds a bit like an over-generalization to me.

Friends with benefits... a friend you are intimate with, without the expectation that the intimacy will lead to a permanent commitment or even maybe exclusiveness. Sounds good to me.

F%*# buddy, not so much - though I had one of those once many years ago - that's more like a convenience.

I can't speak for anyone but myself however I do know that after 2 marriages, raising kids, etc... the idea of 'happily ever after' sort of romantic fantasy comes into perspective and down to earth - as in reality check. I have come to the conclusion that relationships do not have to conform to any particular shape to be legitimate or even highly valuable and fulfilling, in fact some of the best relationships I have had have been outside the box - so to speak. Some were brief, some lasted a very long time.. what I do know is that you never know what an experience is going to be, or how it will affect you and others down the road.

Also, for me, I am at an age where I jealously guard my autonomy, independence and personal space. And I have found that a traditional relationship doesn't allow for that. There's always an expectation of becoming 'joined at the hip', and then expectations that you are going to 'change' to suit the relationship or other person. I'm not willing to do that anymore. It's just easier when I need time alone, or get irritated by someone or have things to do that I can just say, 'okay bye, see you later". No hard feelings.

Jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity and control.. I despise them. FWB makes that unacceptable. score.

Maybe it works so well that it continues and deepens into something more, OR it doesn't, and since there were very few expectations to begin with, extricating oneself is easier.. less painful all around.

So I think for me, at this time in life, since I'm not interested in living with anyone, or getting married again, I've already raised (raising) my family that FWB is a viable option, that respects honestly the needs of both people. Polyamory is also another option - especially for those who have the capacity to care for more than one person at a time.

However I see this as more than a one night stand or a series of hook-ups - it's a relationship structure of it's own. There would have to be trust and honesty and respect. I think some people misinterpret FWB as having a F$@# buddy, totally different concept. But that works for some people too.

and be honest people - how many of us have used an ex as a F%#@ buddy at least once. lol
 lvgDeadGrl
Joined: 12/30/2010
Msg: 148
Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/12/2011 6:39:21 AM
Keeps it honest. Most men can't focus on on sexual partner so it is FWB girl or psycho Lorena Bobbit girl who is die hard fidelity chick.
 greatdjgal
Joined: 5/14/2011
Msg: 150
Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/12/2011 9:43:54 AM
Excuse me military guy! Don't go & put me in that catagory! I can say the same about you guys! People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones! Maybe you move too fast for them? I have a teen at home, so I would NEVER go that route! Most guys on this site are the same as others....they want a young model type with no baggage or drama, they dont like going out to socialize, they would rather isolate their companion and covet them for themselves? Life is a stage and we are only it's players, it's not fair, it's not without drama, it's not always pretty or cut & dry! Deal with it! Chew on that!
 greatdjgal
Joined: 5/14/2011
Msg: 151
Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/12/2011 9:48:21 AM
Not this chick honey! Although he asked for another round for old times, I said no way! I have too much respect for myself...hmmm...respect...there's a word that isn't in alot of people's vocabularies! I think the FWB is for someone who has poor self esteem and no respect for themselves or anybody else for that matter! There you go!
 Cutey1961
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 154
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Posted: 6/12/2011 11:09:47 AM
Its not only the ladies. Out of the guys I met so far on this site, 4 or 5 of them wanted a FWB relationship, which is not my style.

I am currently "seeing" a guy who claims he wants a "full term" relationship but only sees me every 2 or 3 weeks. He has "dating" on his profile as well. To me, I am feeling like a "f#$k" buddy, not a girlfriend. The man lives 20 minutes from me. He claims he's busy yet quite often he is on line (at least POF shows he is chatting). Which means, he is at home when he could be with me. Don't get me wrong. He is a good guy but he has been alone so long, he honestly doesn't know what he wants. I do know this isn't working for me anymore.

IMO, I think guys and gals are more apt to "f@#k" someone they know and trust these days, with no strings attached. They feel safe then. That is the thing to do these days, and who knows, if I get too lonely, I might end up doing the same. Never can tell.
 KAT4EVR
Joined: 1/23/2005
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Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/12/2011 12:31:37 PM
Why not? If they don't want a relationship, then that is what they want, just the evening. Maybe you are letting them think that you don't want to be serious. Do you keep dating the same type of woman? Then, you are setting yourself up for FWB.
Change your tactics and let them know you are not just trolling the waters.
 thomas4713
Joined: 4/17/2011
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Why do so many women like FWB with a guy instead of a relationship?
Posted: 6/12/2011 6:55:38 PM
id disagree its not being tricked into relationship, whole meaning of FWB means you are not attached to them as a view of being a couple, there for the terms of "cheating" dont apply, you cant cheat on a FWB also i'd say like a good handfull of guys girls can also get bored with 1 person, maybe guy A does same type things all time in bed but guy B mixes it up more, but person A might be bigger or more attractive but she desires the alternative ways in bed often so she has 2 FWB to get the best of both without feeling bad on doing anything wrong, beccause she not dating any1 so she really not cheating or cant do anytthing wrong. That seem like a reasonable answer in my eyes. Guys do same thing, they want different ranges like big tits and tight **** well unless u a lucky girl who athletic you wont have both so kinda chubby girl will have big tits and small girl with like b size cup ,might be tight.

Also, girl might be looking for a certain type but never or rarely finds him but she wanting sex at times, so she wants be available for right guy, that can be another reason
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