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 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 342
Survey says...Jaded!Page 13 of 15    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15)
I skate in straight lines. No turns please.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 343
Survey says...Jaded!
Posted: 8/18/2016 2:07:44 PM

Last post here ....


And yet.....it wasn't.


ok ... one more post.


And yet....it wasn't.


I am also doing much of the overlooking!


Something for the male gender to be grateful for?


the people who have no issue with aging gracefully


So aging "gracefully" means you can only find people your own age, attractive?
Do you have an authoritative reference for that, or did you just pull it out of thin air?


Some of you men can continue to look for your 20 year younger woman ... and you woman who accept this go right ahead .....


Should there be a law against it?
You know, there used to be laws against people marrying someone of a different race (skin color).
What did you think of those laws?

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who actually appear to understand my points .


So, are you saying that anyone who agrees with you, understands your points, and anyone who DISagrees with you doesn't understand your points?

So, exactly what ARE your points then?

All we can see from your posts is that you don't think people over a certain age gap should become romantically linked.
Be platonic friends only.
Because they are UNABLE to love each other in a romantic way.
Only a "convenient" (read shallow) way.
Apparently because you, in all your vast "worldliness", have never seen it.

So if those are your "points", we understand them, and do not agree with them.


I don't believe a 10 year old could have a child.


Well, if you Google "youngest mothers in history", you will get an eye-opening eyefull.

So your "beliefs" have no value to anyone else if real proof exists to the contrary.

You have claimed that you treat people as individuals, but your posts indicate something different.
 Whisky_River
Joined: 12/2/2015
Msg: 344
Survey says...Jaded!
Posted: 8/18/2016 2:29:21 PM
treber2

Let me interpret if I can. If a man my age is not interested in me, is instead interested in much younger women . . . it has to be because he is "insecure". It can have nothing to do with the fact he does not find women my age attractive, either from a physical point of view or maybe even an emotional point of view.

Maybe.....it's your way of thinking.....I guess, you missed my "IMO"......

I feel and think they are insecure...If they have to tell me in their profile....How young they are or How good looking they are.
Who does that??
Those that are secure in who/what they are....shouldn't have to point it out to others.....again...imo.
I am very careful to never define...."all" and usually use terms of "some" or "imo".....
Like I said.....Let people date who they want or what they are attracted to....makes no never mind to me.
 treber2
Joined: 7/15/2016
Msg: 345
Survey says...Jaded!
Posted: 8/18/2016 3:17:27 PM

feel and think they are insecure...If they have to tell me in their profile....How young they are or How good looking they are.
Who does that??


That I wouldn't know. I don't generally review profiles. But I do agree with you. If a person in a profile tells you how good looking or how young looking . . . they suffer from something. Not sure it would be insecurity . . . maybe Trumpism though.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 346
Survey says...Jaded!
Posted: 8/18/2016 3:18:41 PM
Hey Boo, LOL Haven't been in roller skates for many years ! When I was, I was pretty damn good at it.
Ice skating last winter. Snow tubing last winter. Never did learn to downhill ski, Oh well!
Congrats for your new "course" adventure! That is awesome! You go girl!

Now about this age datin' thing. WTF.
Seriously, the last time I used the word, "icky", was when........................Hmmmm, now that I think about it, I can't remember. Well ,I threw a rotten tomato, out into the soybean field the other day. I guess it was kinda "icky".
Here's my philosophy. I do what I want to do, I date who I want to date, .........................I don't give a' rats patuttey, what someone else does. Why should I?

LOL Me silent?
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 347
Survey says...Jaded!
Posted: 8/18/2016 5:12:49 PM

... and yes .... I have wasted my time here ..... but it has been an intersting interlude to see the types of people posting here these day.



Literacy is a known issue!


Apparently literacy is not known to all---as you just demonstrated. Again, pot, meet kettle.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 348
Survey says...Jaded!
Posted: 8/18/2016 6:20:29 PM
$5 riding there will be another " I am done here but before I go I wanna say you people who don't agree with me are losers"
Come one
Fiver
Clooney> You can use that to buy me cheap wine when we meet :)
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 350
Survey says...survey says... survey says.... etc.
Posted: 8/18/2016 8:18:25 PM
Hey, when are we meeting for that PoF ghosting party at the Overlook hotel in Colorado?
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
Msg: 351
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Survey says...Jaded!
Posted: 8/19/2016 6:56:27 AM

Let's hear it for we, the people who have no issue with aging gracefully ... we seemto be the healthy ones!


Another way to go was stated in a poem by Dylan Thomas:

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
Msg: 352
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Posted: 8/19/2016 9:58:04 AM
I has a recent interesting experiences with this topic.

I did a search of women over 60 to see how attractive they were to me. Just curious as I have never dated anyone over 55.

I saw 3 women who were obviously under 30 posting their ages as over 59.

The first one said she just created this profile, her actual age was 36, but made a mistake when signing up.

I MSG her, telling her about the age gap and that by listing her age as 60 no man under 46 could contact her, nor could she contact them. The only way to change this was to delete her profile and create a new one with the correct age.

That profile got deleted a few hours after my MSG to her.

Another odd thing, my wife and I just went to a Pitbull concert, my mother who is 89 got resentful I didn't invite her to go along. She can't accept that I know she wouldn't enjoy it and would complain if she did go. Even my wife was surprise that a lot of the audience were teens.

A side note, there were a lot more very sexy young Hispanic woman there then I am used to seeing.
 BlasphemousBombshell
Joined: 11/19/2013
Msg: 353
Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 8/27/2016 9:24:50 AM
What is stupid about the comment, Clooney, the FACT that data shows most women prefer a 2 year age gap? Or the FACT that most men in their mid 50s begin to have erectile issues? Its ludicrous to call someone dumb because you don't care for the research data they allude to.
 drjohnok
Joined: 7/17/2016
Msg: 354
Survey says...Jaded!
Posted: 8/27/2016 2:47:53 PM
Are you sure younger guys always look better? I've lost 35 pounds in the last five months (LOTS of gym time and a good diet) and am thinner and in better shape than I've been in since I was 25 (I'm 70). Now I am also financially comfortable, which I hear also affects a persons' choices. I'm on POF looking for someone like me; around my age, my income, and as physically fit. Still find it hard because they see the age and...phhfft
 zonavar68
Joined: 8/16/2015
Msg: 355
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Posted: 8/27/2016 11:22:24 PM
I haven't encontered any issues related to job per-se, but I very definitely have encountered huge issues related to my shiftwork (highly variable, on 24/7 operational rosters) which means I am rarely if ever available to meet people with regularity.

That, combined with the distance issues associated with living in a country town, pretty much writes off all of the potential matches who might otherwise have been positively interested.

I never lie about my age though. That's just stupid.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 357
Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 9/3/2016 5:24:03 PM
^ You lose. Next!
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 358
Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 9/3/2016 5:35:26 PM
well hypergamy was used in India.. hence the caste. Sometimes in China
Hypogamy more often used here on POF
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 361
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Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 9/5/2016 7:50:57 PM
Everyone is different...dating someone in their 40's or their 80's just won't be within my comfort range.
 AGentlewoman
Joined: 8/30/2016
Msg: 362
Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 9/6/2016 3:07:09 PM
Well one of the most difficult thing about being older is that people think a certain age and automatically attribute a certain life style or look to you. You see my screen name...take a look at my profile pic and tell me if I look my age. That is a recent (this year) picture. NO one I know thinks I am 64. But I put my real age online because I am honest....doesn't matter what I look like. But I understand the writer's concern about 'looking rough'. It doesn't matter if you don't look 40...but don't look like you're 90.
 AGentlewoman
Joined: 8/30/2016
Msg: 363
Survey says...Jaded!
Posted: 9/6/2016 3:35:23 PM
Sorry if this posts twice!

It has been my experience that if a person thinks you look a certain age (and there is NOTHING wrong with people looking the age they are), they will not be attracted no matter how in shape the person is. Unfortunate and maybe unfair but it's a matter of personal taste. Some woman couldn't care less. Some do. One of the drawbacks to online dating.

And something from a woman's perspective: I know men LOVE their facial hair but it makes some older men look....well...older. Not all men, but yeah..it does. BUT...you do you, as the saying goes.

My thought is...the right person will want someone just the way they are...younger or older :)
 AGentlewoman
Joined: 8/30/2016
Msg: 364
Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 9/6/2016 4:52:16 PM
Here's something else to consider when women look for younger men. Just found this article: http://nypost.com/2016/09/06/old-people-sex-is-deadly-for-old-men/
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 365
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Posted: 9/6/2016 5:16:10 PM
TrustInKarma, is that you?
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 366
Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 9/6/2016 5:39:05 PM
I HAD to lie about my age on my profile - no one will believe me that I turned 73 this year.
 Heffelump
Joined: 8/27/2016
Msg: 367
Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 9/6/2016 5:49:27 PM
She's lying. She's lying about her age, hair colour and every other identifiable characteristic because the terms of her probation state that she can't go on the Internet.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 368
Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 9/6/2016 5:59:03 PM
^ That court condition says I can't watch porn - not that I can't go on the Internet at all. At least I don't have to stay away from schools and playgrounds, like some people.
 Heffelump
Joined: 8/27/2016
Msg: 369
Being unrealistic about age of potential dates?
Posted: 9/6/2016 6:05:15 PM
It's okay. I found a loophole. I've discovered if you paint up a van with ice cream cones, play a festive tune over loudspeakers, and drive through residential neighborhoods the kids will come to you. I don't even need to wear the clown make up. I do of course, but I don't have to.
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 370
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Posted: 9/7/2016 6:27:43 AM

Everyone is different...dating someone in their 40's or their 80's just won't be within my comfort range


Odd, since there was a time when dating someone in your 40s would have been your dream, and dating someone in your 80s will, if you live long enough, become your dream...
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