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 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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I've had an online relationship since the turn of the century with internet porn...
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 4/9/2016 1:23:53 PM

My next door neighbor had a romantic relationship with a woman for 3 years and he never met her but considered her his GF.

That's wacko. Wacko. I'd say "that's crazy", but that wouldn't do it justice.

I never considered any of them my "GF" since we hadn't met.

To even come remotely close to thinking that would be insanity. :) As a young teen, before people hooked up to the Internet, connecting to Bulletin Board Systems online, I talked with a gal for many months who ran her own BBS (there'd be about 20-30 BBSs in any mid-sized city in the late 80s - early 90s). Once in a while on the phone. I was one of the youngest guys around on there, and she was older. She liked having tons of dudes think they had a special relationship with her online. I was aware of this, and it was a more-than-platonic thing, but even as a young, naive kid -- I knew what was up as far as it couldn't be considered an actual Relationship by any means at all.

I did chat with a gal and a guy who ended up being engaged. I'd log onto his BBS, and she'd log onto mine, too. I chatted one-on-one with both of them for a good while. I was the in-between counsel/listener during their troubles. She ended up leaving him for a guy who ran a multi-line BBS. He ended up getting arrested while he was in a mental hospital and tried hiring a hit-man to kill her, but that "hit man" in the mental hospital was an undercover cop. So there was that exciting drama.

As far as just platonic, I did talk to a gal via AOL IM for many years. Although like any guy I'd pork her if she was open & willing, that wasn't the aim or reason whatsoever as to why we chatted all the time. Someone to vent/talk about stuff to, as it's more comfortable about several topics to someone you don't know IRL. She only lived about 30 minutes from me. She didn't want to ever meet IRL, but I wasn't so inclined to chase her at all anyway. We did meet briefly at a bar when we weren't really chatting anymore, and said Hi. Again, never had more-than-platonic expectations at all.

My last real date, which will be 9 years ago a week from today

9 years? Wow. As drab as you see your dating marketability, even with some truth to it, that's still quite unnecessary. :)

I met another woman after 2 years of on-and-off messaging. 3-6 months or so hasn’t been uncommon. I’ve messaged several women for more than a year without ever being able to convince them to meet.

I think that's a reason why it's been 9 years. A total waste of time if having thoughts of being on the more-than-platonic side.

I had one friend who wrote off girls from his state, so he went on a Catholic dating site that didn't have many people, and talked for a couple months with a gal in Missouri. He flew out to see her. They had an LD relationship for a couple years before he moved out there and ended up marrying her. But he was a teacher, so he had summers off to make that LD relationship work. It was only a few months in the beginning "online only" -- where he considered it on the level of dating, which I laughed at.

We had a FWB relationship going for a short while, but she met some else that's more fitting for her. She's happy, I'm fine with that.

How do you have an online FWB relationship? :)
 wineaboutit
Joined: 2/18/2016
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Posted: 4/10/2016 5:45:19 AM
I don't really consider an internet relationship, a relationship. I did belong to a forum a number of years ago and I went to Boston for a conference and a few people from the forum met up in Boston and we all had dinner and we had a great time and it was obvious had we all lived closer together we would be good friends IRL. One of them has since moved to Europe and we maintain contact via FB and another one passed suddenly.

When it comes to dating, I could never consider somebody a BF if all we did was message back and forth. I am not even all that jazzed up about long distance relationships with regular contact mostly because I tried it and for me it did not work.
 Girluvs2chat
Joined: 5/11/2014
Msg: 29
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Posted: 4/10/2016 11:12:02 AM
Friends only never met 15 years and still friends. Romantically longterm none.
 Hair2day_gone2morrow
Joined: 4/7/2016
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Posted: 4/13/2016 8:01:59 AM
I do have a few online only "friends" one is almost 10 years old. (the relationship, not their age LoL)
 furishiko
Joined: 4/13/2016
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Posted: 4/18/2016 8:55:38 PM
why limit it to romance..what about the whole on line friendship thing? i have online friends that are at least 10yrs old that i've never met in person. I've even done collaborative and meaningful work with them. broaden your mind why dont ya
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 4/19/2016 4:15:06 PM
"I'm not sure how a romantic relationship without meeting face to face would work"

>>>come to think about it (or overanalyze it), back at the end of the 1970's, there was Citizen's Band radio. "Beavers" would buy a Uniden or some setup from Sears or JCPenny and "jaw" up the truck drivers, getting those old boys lathered up and awake. Not that "Uncle Charley" would allow you to say anything dirty over the air (funny how appropriate language has changed, hmm?), but there was enough innuendo, mercy sakes. sometimes a pair might actually meet at a truckstop to share a cuppa "100 mile mud" but other relationships likely stayed only on the air....
 GhettoFoot
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 33
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Posted: 12/25/2016 1:50:05 AM
on and off for about 10 months. I was 14. Enough said.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
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Posted: 12/25/2016 4:50:53 AM
I knew it!

You were on 'To Catch a Predator'
 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
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Posted: 12/25/2016 8:45:42 AM
My ex has had one for over eight years. They have met up (for two two week holidays) but haven't seen each other in the flesh for over five years.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/25/2016 9:04:48 AM

ClooneysTutor
At one time in my early dating days, I would gleefully consider taking a flight to hopefully find love. I did fly someone here once and also traveled to meet someone else.

I’ve never done that, but I know others have. I remember our late lamented Cowboy flew from Dallas to Florida to meet with another forumite for a date. But she was both beautiful and very nice. I would have definitely bought a plane ticket to travel to her.

A few years back, I met a woman through the forums here. We exchanged private message, then emails, then phone calls. She lived about 1,200 miles away.

After about 6 months, she told me she was going to be in San Antonio for a conference, and that is only about a 3 hour drive for me. I asked if she could stay over for the weekend, and the rest is history, as they say.

Another woman was working in Germany, and coming home (to Houston) for the holidays. She saw my posts here in the forums, contacted me, we talked for about a month, and then had a very pleasant 2 week fling over the holidays.
 five-marie
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 12/25/2016 12:40:21 PM
I once, stupidly, had an online relationship(Chat) with a gentleman. He then disappeared for a few months. When he returned he admitted he'd still been married at the time and was lying about it. I then (again stupidly) agreed to meet him. He lived about an hour away in the US and booked a room for the weekend.
While I had felt extremely close to him, when I actually met him I realized he was a stranger. A stranger I didn't like. Went back to his room as it was late on a Sunday and nothing was open.(I know, my bad). He immediately started grabbing me, assumed we were going to have sex.
I made an excuse to go out to my car and drove home.
Never again! You don't know anyone until you meet them!
Actually you don't know people even when you meet them!
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 12/25/2016 2:03:42 PM
welllll....you did know he lied about being married at the time. To some, that lie's a red flag. But glad to hear you got away and it didn't go worse than you had planned it to go with a married liar in a hotel room. That could have been a real bad scene if you hadn't had a car to get away in (ie, took a plane flight out and he met you at the airport, etc)
 VikingHoosier
Joined: 5/8/2015
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Posted: 12/25/2016 3:05:31 PM
One online friendship with an interesting gal lasted over 5 years. We crossed paths on public posts on an online discussion forum and exchanged countless private emails. Also communicated in some public posts, resulting in some people calling us a couple. One troll made a fake account impersonating me, posting vulgarities about her.

I considered it over when I emailed her that I would be in her city later that year. Never heard from her again, and never tried to contact her again. If she and I were still friends, she would at least have sent a reply saying she didn't want to meet in person. Years earlier there was talk of meeting if I were ever in town (if I had a girlfriend, my online friend would still be interested in hanging out as friends and meeting the girlfriend). She was about a year younger and didn't have any dealbreakers.

It took literally years for me to see a photo of her.

She had a sharp wit. She and I often made each other laugh. We had in common experiences, values, and dislikes. Often I knew what she would say in a message before reading the message, and sometimes I didn't make a public post on a thread because she already posted almost exactly what I would have written.

About 4 years in, she had an episode in which she freaked out and lashed out at me illogically. She had done this with at least one other person, her apparent best friend online. Enjoyed / appreciated the long stretch in which we got along "perfectly".
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
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Posted: 12/25/2016 5:57:10 PM
Two or three times I've had pen-pals in other states ( one was in another country ) who would write to me over a period of weeks. The main point of their communications was "I'm moving to your town in the next year or two - please wait for me." I told each of them I absolutely would not wait - and that I never expected them to move to my town or to see them face to face. But if they wanted to be pen-pals, that was okay. I was surprised how long they kept going on about "I'm going to move" .... never met any of them.

Once I had a penpal in another state that wanted to call me - I was stupid and gave her my number (before cell phones). She called at least a dozen times over a period of weeks. She had a big issue about her BF fooling around with her best friend and the two of them running off together. She kept saying she'd move to my city and we'd be a couple. I told her NOT to move to my city. I told her if she came to my city and called I would not go meet her. I NEVER CALLED HER. It was long distance and I told her I would never call. She spent most of the time on the calls venting about how her friends double-crossed her and how could this happen? I was surprised just how much she called and how long she'd talk - on and on. Hey - it wasn't MY dime - and I wanted to listen to what a woman thinks in such situation....especially since I was not vested in any of it - I was totally neutral, so it was easy to hear these stories.
 Nestaron
Joined: 3/22/2016
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Posted: 12/26/2016 10:07:41 AM
Never had anything more than a friend online.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 12/26/2016 2:09:57 PM

I knew it! You were on 'To Catch a Predator'

It wasn't over until the guy conceded to "have a seat, right over there" by the NBC host. :)

My ex has had one for over eight years. They have met up (for two two week holidays) but haven't seen each other in the flesh for over five years.

That, I can understand if you're just IM friends who exchange boy-girl advice -- where you're more apt to get Real advice if you want it -- because it's easier for one to be more guilt-free when saying it like-it-is. But unless it's something like that, not a good idea. 2 two-week holidays doesn't sound like a fun extended weekend vacation spent hanging out like you would with a buddy far away. We can say "Hey it's cool -- whatever floats one's boat" -- OK. But, we should then be consistent and say that in the same approving way as a guy who likes to just sit at home playing video games after work and sinks into a comfort zone after years and years and years, just doing that and too awkward/uncomfortable to meet a gal (as 'reading material' on the Internet will make him happy on that end too).

I remember our late lamented Cowboy flew from Dallas to Florida to meet with another forumite for a date.

Yeah, but wasn't that just a friends thing, tho? Regardless of how that ran thru -- it reminds me of the concept of meeting opp-sex people where one (usually guy) likes the other, while the other is more just wanting to be friends down the line, even when there is/could be a door open to cross the platonic barrier for a hot second. That can be fine to try out if the circumstances always prevent the motivated person to never have any serious interest anyway, and that other person lives just a drive away -- or lives Away Away but where friends & family live and you'll kill two birds with one stone upon visiting, etc.

But when one slips into things and lets their feelings get too invested over time -- even when they're usually lying to themselves that it's not as much as it is to mentally prepare -- it's never a good idea. It's like throwing a 50 yard pass into triple coverage when it's Not some last-second play. Sure, you'll hear stories of that working -- but Far Far more incompletes and interceptions. It's still a bad play to call, even in the off chance it's caught by your team. But at least in football that's just *1* play, where pen-paling with emotion over time is Much more invested.
 ebolakitty
Joined: 3/19/2016
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Posted: 12/26/2016 2:25:44 PM
Never had one. A long time ago when I first started, an OLD veteran advised me to limit myself to three emails per customer and to never chat. I took that advice and held to it strictly. It would be a real stretch to call three emails plus a Goodbye/Good luck a relationship. So, no. Never.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
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Posted: 12/26/2016 2:58:46 PM
Never had an internet-only "relationship". There were men I emailed/chatted with for a month or more before meeting (due to distance). But I tire of penpals so I don't correspond very long with someone I won't be meeting. Or, if it takes too long to meet, then I assume one or both of us isn't enthusiastic enough to make it happen and I stop corresponding.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 7/1/2016
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Posted: 12/27/2016 8:39:12 AM
I've had a few internet relationships...I met everyone I talked to.
Nothing went anywhere after we met...especially since I knew I
wouldn't be moving anywhere.

I don't really have the attention span for that anymore.
I have a hard time answering texts in a timely manner, never mind
emails. Can't imagine having to go back to writing letters...talk about
pressure!

Between my jobs and visiting friends in other states, I meet enough
people in real life I don't have to carry on on line. I think I must be the
only person that thinks you can have too many friends anyways...who
the heck has the time for that?


PS...It's nice to see you typing again, Mr. Clooney...love the new photo! :o)
Hope all is well.
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
Msg: 46
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Posted: 12/27/2016 11:36:48 AM
I've been part of a group of moms that have been friends for 18+ years, since our children were born in 1998. I've met a couple of them.

As for men, I've had develop in to a great friendship after 1.5 years. We are able to talk very open and honestly about how men and women view and interpret the other actions of the opposite sex. He lives maybe 45 min from me. We are friends on facebook, text regularly and talk on the phone every few months. We met here on POF, but it just never seemed to happen for us to meet or date. We actually have some facebook connections in common, so I know he's not just a catfisher. The last time we were going to meet, I had to cancel on him. I'm content with our odd relationship. It seems to work for us.
 Wilkes_Barre_Candy
Joined: 9/7/2016
Msg: 47
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Posted: 12/27/2016 8:40:10 PM
https://youtu.be/zx50MHgnP5o

here we go the sex tape we've all been waiting for, Mr O Henry & his 10's!


I asked if she could stay over for the weekend, and the rest is history, as they say.

Another woman was working in Germany, and coming home (to Houston) for the holidays. She saw my posts here in the forums, contacted me, we talked for about a month, and then had a very pleasant 2 week fling over the holidays.


glad they survived the chains ;0P
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
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Posted: 12/27/2016 9:15:16 PM
Well, if you're going to consider 'friends only' with absolutely zero intent of anything more than platonic, then I've had hundreds of internet only relationships - I used to moderate a forum and chat room that had around 100 regulars, and then dozens more who'd participate for a couple weeks and drop out. We'd have one or more meet-ups per year around the U.S. I organized one in Las Vegas and attended another in Florida and one in Connecticut so I actually met somewhere around 35 people.
 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
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Posted: 12/28/2016 5:42:27 AM


My ex has had one for over eight years. They have met up (for two two week holidays) but haven't seen each other in the flesh for over five years.


That, I can understand if you're just IM friends who exchange boy-girl advice -- where you're more apt to get Real advice if you want it -- because it's easier for one to be more guilt-free when saying it like-it-is. But unless it's something like that, not a good idea. 2 two-week holidays doesn't sound like a fun extended weekend vacation spent hanging out like you would with a buddy far away. We can say "Hey it's cool -- whatever floats one's boat" -- OK. But, we should then be consistent and say that in the same approving way as a guy who likes to just sit at home playing video games after work and sinks into a comfort zone after years and years and years, just doing that and too awkward/uncomfortable to meet a gal (as 'reading material' on the Internet will make him happy on that end too).


She swears they're in love, ditched a marriage for him, and skype for hours every day. She's just that sort of person, I guess.
 matthew832016
Joined: 11/27/2016
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Posted: 12/30/2016 1:57:40 AM
This beautiful blonde woman from Ireland. We started corresponding in December of 2007 when my unit was well into mobilization for Iraq. She kept me centered until November of the following month through email and phone calls while I was deployed. I didn't return to the U.S. and completely off deployment orders until January of 2009; however, her disappearance left a void. That would be my longest.
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