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 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 138
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No,^ ^ ^ ^ ^ Actually I just posted on another thread, a game to play with a "swinging penis". It's hilarious!
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 139
Does anyone follow DATING ETIQUETTE anymore?
Posted: 5/14/2016 6:52:06 PM
For some reason Donkey Kong music is playing in my head...

Someone start a whispering eye thread.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 140
Does anyone follow DATING ETIQUETTE anymore?
Posted: 5/18/2016 12:15:07 PM
The original thread starter is 100% correct - guys should set a first date at least 24 hours in advance.

After you two are a couple, then an occasional booty-call is okay (kids, cover your eyes!).

And as far as some guys expecting sex for taking you to dinner? - perhaps some control-freak guys do think this way. Too bad so sad!
 PassionateSunnyGal
Joined: 7/23/2015
Msg: 141
Does anyone follow DATING ETIQUETTE anymore?
Posted: 5/18/2016 7:05:10 PM

The original thread starter is 100% correct - guys should set a first date at least 24 hours in advance.

After you two are a couple, then an occasional booty-call is okay (kids, cover your eyes!).

And as far as some guys expecting sex for taking you to dinner? - perhaps some control-freak guys do think this way. Too bad so sad!


Why?

Because that is what you do or what you prefer?

This is actually part of the selection process and weeds out the wrong type of person for you--if everyone does what they think others want then you end up with clones who are nothing like who they actually are...why not just be yourself and do what you want and then when you meet the right person it works!
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 142
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Posted: 5/18/2016 7:45:52 PM

Why?

Because of efficiency in getting dates to stick. If you always set up a date in less than 24 hours before your proposal, you're going to have a bad batting average. Not to say they occasionally can't work, but your ideal time, as far as expecting them to be able to make it, should be at least 24 hours.

Because that is what you do or what you prefer?

I think it's what should be expected of the Other person to prefer -- a feasibility issue. As far as guys expecting sex for merely taking them to a dinner -- that's another poor expectation. If one has that expectation, he's going to get pretty frustrated.

Now, if it's a Girl expecting the guy to put out for merely taking him to dinner -- her luck will be better. :)
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 144
Does anyone follow DATING ETIQUETTE anymore?
Posted: 5/20/2016 9:55:49 AM
I'll put out for a cup of coffee.

Wish the gals felt the same :(
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 145
Does anyone follow DATING ETIQUETTE anymore?
Posted: 5/20/2016 10:59:34 AM
^ ^ ^ ^ ^ Awww Thanks Clooney,
Now, you do realize, it's fairly common here, for one of us to choke on or even spew our coffee all over our keyboards right?
I'll tell you what. You "put out" for the first cup of coffee, I'll arrange for the second, plus paper towels?
 OneInAQuadrillion
Joined: 10/1/2017
Msg: 146
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Posted: 10/22/2017 12:58:39 PM
Today's women are so rude. I had one date actually pick up a cel phone and put it to her ear. My thoughts? You guessed it. No second date for you lady.

Get some manners!
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 10/31/2015
Msg: 147
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Posted: 10/23/2017 2:38:39 PM

Now, if it's a Girl expecting the guy to put out for merely taking him to dinner -- her luck will be better. :)

Although men engaging in coitus may not need much in the way of encouragement or a particular approach - or even a reason, "Luck" is a relative term. Ladies accepting the terms of 'What you see is what you Get' doesn't always result in a favorable customer satisfaction rating. What blows my mind is how many ladies DO expect the unexpected - as if finding a piece of clothing at a garage sale for fifteen cents is nearly always supposed to be worth fifty dollars. You're shopping around on a free, universal, very UN-pretentious website - as still expect the best of the Best?

Repeating myself, with a slight addendum:

The time frame for a date is not the same for any PERSON, no matter what seems to be constant, so expecting your point of view to be a universal 'policy' for anyone else is really a selfish and single-minded point of view. The world won't change to match your expectations, so the best you can do is play through, TELL people what you expect, and politely say 'No' to the ones you find displeasing.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 10/23/2017 4:54:11 PM

What blows my mind is how many ladies DO expect the unexpected - as if finding a piece of clothing at a garage sale for fifteen cents is nearly always supposed to be worth fifty dollars. You're shopping around on a free, universal, very UN-pretentious website - as still expect the best of the Best?

Well, yeah, it's a Free site -- so you will have quality prospects, but more in a sea of non-qualities -- a lot lower % of quality picks than Match (pay site). But there's also more people on POF to choose from though. And Tinder's also free -- but most are in their 20s - early 30s. There's quality picks there (some hotties!).

I think a lot of what you're talking about is that many gals go into "Super Picky Mode" when dealing with the "online" thing. Guys outnumber gals around 2.5:1 in age ranges of frequent use -- because it's a negative image thing to "go online" for many women... and for those who do, they want to be in Super Picky Mode. Not all of course. Just a large chunk of them. IRL, they're going to be less picky about a guy's height, build, job, etc.
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
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Posted: 10/23/2017 10:45:49 PM
And WEALTHY people still shop at Walmart because thowing money away didn't make them wealthy.

So, beautiful people use a FREE site because they can get immediate attention for FREE.

And, wealthy, career-minded, nest-egg-building professionals use a FREE site to dodge people who are trying to target rich folk, so they can date incognito ( money-wise ) until they feel secure the other person is about the personality, not the purse.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 150
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Posted: 10/24/2017 5:01:25 AM


(OP) I think it's rude for a man to ask a lady to just drop everything and run off to meet him on the spot. It says to me the man does not value my time.


(halcyon_skies) I would say it's more presumptuous than rude on his part---as if he thinks you're hard up, and he's the only one giving you the time of day. That it would never even occur to him that there might be other men vying for your attention besides him.


Or, he's bold, and/or optimistic. Or, he thinks he's not talking to a high-strung, over-analytical woman...
 browneyesboo
Joined: 4/3/2017
Msg: 151
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Posted: 10/24/2017 7:01:50 AM
I don't mind being spontaneous if I'm not doing anything else.
Hopefully someone wouldn't get mad if they asked and I was
busy.

Of course, depends who it is whether or not I'm busy.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 152
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Posted: 10/24/2017 5:44:06 PM
Analytical is fine, as long as her analysis matches his analysis. If she disagrees with him, suddenly, she is "over-analytical" and "high-strung".
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 153
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Posted: 10/24/2017 6:39:08 PM

(halcyon_skies) Analytical is fine, as long as her analysis matches his analysis. If she disagrees with him, suddenly, she is "over-analytical" and "high-strung".


Nope. She's not "over-analytical" and "high-strung" for disagreeing with (multiple) him(s), as described in the OP. She's "over-analytical" and "high-strung", because she's over-analytical and high-strung...
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 154
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Posted: 10/25/2017 5:21:15 PM
Purely conjecture on your part.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 155
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Posted: 10/25/2017 6:14:41 PM

(halcyon_skies) Purely conjecture on your part.


This entire thread is pure conjecture. I fail to see why you're getting your tail in a twist over this.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 156
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Posted: 10/25/2017 7:41:52 PM
I fail to see why you'd quote a post I made a year and a half ago.

Obsessive much?
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 9/29/2017
Msg: 157
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Posted: 10/25/2017 7:50:05 PM
Now I feel yucky on the inside.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 158
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Posted: 10/26/2017 3:34:45 AM

(halcyon_skies) I fail to see why you'd quote a post I made a year and a half ago.


Not sure I follow: a casual glance at your posts to which I have replied shows them all dated "2017". I see two possible explanations for your temporal dissonance:

1) You're Dr.Who's latest regeneration; or,
2) You can tell that I'll spank you so hard in this thread, just like every other, that the stinging is actually extending 18 months into the past. In which case, we should contact Prof. Hawking.

 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 10/26/2017 4:25:07 AM

Not sure I follow: a casual glance at your posts to which I have replied shows them all dated "2017".

You replied to and quoted a post from April, 2016.
Which is fine but when that is brought up saying

I see two possible explanations for your temporal dissonance:

1) You're Dr.Who's latest regeneration; or,
2) You can tell that I'll spank you so hard in this thread, just like every other, that the stinging is actually extending 18 months into the past. In which case, we should contact Prof. Hawking.

is just rude. You are in error. Perhaps spend less time trying so hard to be contrary and actually read what you are responding to.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 6/16/2017
Msg: 160
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Posted: 10/26/2017 2:35:12 PM


(AT) Not sure I follow: a casual glance at your posts to which I have replied shows them all dated "2017".


(spot4username) You replied to and quoted a post from April, 2016.
Which is fine but when that is brought up saying




(AT) I see two possible explanations for your temporal dissonance:

1) You're Dr.Who's latest regeneration; or,
2) You can tell that I'll spank you so hard in this thread, just like every other, that the stinging is actually extending 18 months into the past. In which case, we should contact Prof. Hawking.


(spot4username) is just rude. You are in error. Perhaps spend less time trying so hard to be contrary and actually read what you are responding to.


Oh, poo. The time-thing was the only arrow in HS' quiver. She had no relevant rebuttal to my scintillating and incisive logic, so she decided to go all Time-Nazi on me. And, now I see that you're trying to jump on the "Let's try and bash Arlo and fail miserably!" bandwagon. Pathetic; just, pathetic.

Don't go away mad. Just, go away...
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