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 Hostess68
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I could understand it if I was dressed in my 'skimpies' but I am in a field on a walk and drinking with mates etc. My profile could not be clearer about wanting more than a bit of hows ya father yet still they come with their red weed
 gimllog
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Posted: 7/12/2016 10:13:45 PM

I could understand it if I was dressed in my 'skimpies'

why? ...
its a fact that people find different attires sexy.. what works for one doesn't necessarily mean that it will work for everyone , You have put yourself in a pool with all sorts of characters , some will never read your profile , some will read your profile and not understand it , some will understand it and ignore it anyway. Its the nature of the human race.
So its a bit naive to expect everyone to have the same morals/attitude as you have.
just because you believe a "you are sexy" means that they want to jump into bed with you , some people may just be using it as what they perceive it to be just a compliment. Judging a book by its cover can easily end up in a false assumption .
once you receive a message its your choice how to reply, either with a no reply,revulsion or gratitude you can even if you choose to ,steer the conversation to a more palatable area for yourself .You are in control of how and who you interact with.
 Hostess68
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Posted: 7/13/2016 1:20:11 AM
gimlog.. This is not the way to approach women. That is all I am saying! It is crude and disrespectful. Men who approach women in this way need to jump forward to the 21st century and stop seeing women as objects of sex. I am a human. A person. Personally I think men who think in this way need to learn a little respect.
 gimllog
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Posted: 7/13/2016 2:27:02 AM
Hostess68 ,, i think you are missing the point that i am trying to make , nothing wrong with your morals or wanting to be treated with respect or keep your traditional values , but like i have already said it is very naive of you to expect everyone to hold the same values as you especially when you join an online dating site such as this one , whatever walk of life thet are free to join without having to go through any character checks. Its a bit like jumping in the water and being surprised that you got wet..
Your using technology to find a partner , they whether you like it or not ,parade you in front of potential partners like a "piece of meat" there is no prerequisite that is set out on how one should make first contact , we are all subjected to the same . some put effort into their first message , some don't , some want to meet up some don't .

Trying to change something that is hard coded into your dna is futile , we are all seeking sexual partner its what is being human is all about , i for one wouldn't want a relationship where sex was off the menu , but i can reluctantly accept that some might. For me there has to be a sexual attraction there as well as intellectual one .

I guess that there may well be platonic dating sites knocking about ,maybe you will be better placed on one of those .

Bottom line is you don't have to reply to messages that you find unappropriate , we all have a block button , or ignore and move on ,you are your own filter ...
 G3 M1 N1
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Posted: 7/13/2016 10:23:07 AM
If you stop to think about it, the following applies

The person writing to you views you as sexy. Whether or not you yourself do makes no difference to how they see you.

You do not need a picture to be sexy, some find the written word more erotic, or indeed what isn't written sometimes, but implied.

If you have images, the manner of clothing and the pose. Do you dress to cover your nakedness? Do you dress to impress? Do you dress to be attractive? Do you take care in how you dress, and the style? Think on your honest answers to those, if only the first then granted you would not be dressing to be sexy, the others? Really, you don't think so?

Vocabulary! What sexy means to you, may not be what it means to another. Sure, there is a dictionary definition, but how many actually read one, or look up a word that may be common usage?
Collins say
1. provoking or intended to provoke sexual interest ⇒ a sexy dress, ⇒ a sexy book
2. feeling sexual interest; aroused
3. interesting, exciting, or trendy ⇒ a sexy project, ⇒ a sexy new car

and yet Oxford Dictionary says
1.Sexually attractive or exciting: sexy French underwear
2.Sexually aroused: neither of them was feeling sexy
3. informal Exciting; appealing: I’ve climbed most of the really sexy west coast mountains

So, even dictionary's differ in their usage and examples, what chance the average woman or man?

The simple answer is YOU do not like to be called it by people you do not know.

What you forget is this is a dating site, ie, designed to attract partners and all that entails, most healthy relationships include sex and that topic will be in any persons mind looking for a partner, be they a woman or a man!

You assume that by them saying it, they wish to have sex with you or are having carnal thoughts about you, why not try ....... I am his type and he has an interest in me because of what he reads and sees on my profile, because I fit the type he finds attractive, he thinks I am sexy.
Pause to think after, and before reacting and consider ..... maybe he would like to get to know the person I am too, if I gave him chance, maybe I could learn that he has feelings, interests and things to share with me, just the words he chooses to use to express himself are not ones I care to have used, perhaps I could educate him to show his appreciation in a manner I would appreciate.

Of course, if he offers you a score for sexy reasons, then you would of course be right in thinking he sees you (other women also perhaps) as a sexual object. Note, if he offered a thruppney bit, a farthing or a tanner, he isn't from the 21st Century in all likelihood!

And, if he resembles Smeagle, you may not appreciate his advances anyway.
 Aggers
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Posted: 7/13/2016 12:39:56 PM

Personally I think men who think in this way need to learn a little respect.


As does probably all society? As gimlog said, there is nothing wrong with having morals, self respect and decorum, yourself. I have exactly the same feelings and can concur with your ire! But, unfortunately when you place your "advert" on here you do become the interest of all and sundry, it is just a matter of thick skin, move on and be very open minded.
 duracell_bunny_one
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Posted: 7/15/2016 3:08:16 AM
Hasn't been sent to me for a while - but I'm open to offers..........

 Hostess68
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Posted: 7/15/2016 4:54:15 PM
You know men.. Most of you have me down as this sexless creature lol! You are so wrong. I enjoy sex as much as you and as much as most women. I just don't appreciate being contacted with just sex in the first message. That puts me and most women off. Mostly men have answered on this thread and think they know me. Silly fools. I am incredibly sexy! Man! I have a sex drive that tops most! I don't just have sex off spec though. I want to know you have a brain; an ability to think; an objective to enjoy dates and such... I want a man who feels the same. THEN! AND ONLY THEN will I have some lovely sex with all day all night even on Sunday and not just on your birthday lol
 TucsonPug
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Posted: 7/16/2016 1:18:25 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Oh well said.
 skiptalker
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Posted: 7/16/2016 4:19:22 AM
once a year..on my birthday..i remember that....not wanting to put you down hostess but after viewing your pics i dont find any sexy think whoever messaged you was taking the pi$$
 G3 M1 N1
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Posted: 7/16/2016 9:23:34 AM

You know men.. Most of you have me down as this sexless creature lol! You are so wrong. I enjoy sex as much as you and as much as most women. I just don't appreciate being contacted with just sex in the first message. That puts me and most women off. Mostly men have answered on this thread and think they know me. Silly fools. I am incredibly sexy! Man! I have a sex drive that tops most! I don't just have sex off spec though. I want to know you have a brain; an ability to think; an objective to enjoy dates and such... I want a man who feels the same. THEN! AND ONLY THEN will I have some lovely sex with all day all night even on Sunday and not just on your birthday lol


Do folk still have Birthday sex then? You again guess and assume what others think, who know what another has someone pegged as? At least you now say you don't appreciate being contacted for, but why speak for other women, did you conduct a poll? In fact, you seem to speak for a great deal of other people.
Why would he go on a date he wouldn't enjoy? Sounds a tad strange to me.
Anyhow, good luck with your all day sex session when it happens, at least he knows what's in store already. It shouldn't be a long wait as after all, I don't know anyone who doesn't think, male or even female.
 npw7557
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Posted: 7/17/2016 9:37:50 AM
Women take great exception to sex being mentioned in a first message.
It is taken as a deep insult that you might just want them for sex.

Have a first date, then meet a few more times and then maybe sex is on the menu.

But you have to play the game that sex isn't the first thing on your mind.

I have had very different experiences of sex on dates.
I have had women never give me sex even after numerous dates.
On the other hand I met someone purely as friends with no strings attached.
Went back to hers for coffee and got dragged upstairs for sex !
You can just never tell which way things are going to go.
 billybonds
Joined: 8/8/2014
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Posted: 7/17/2016 12:22:19 PM
I always mention the iniquity of sexual intercourse in my first message.... I mean banking and indeed in any follow ups where any blocking hasn't yet ensued. How do I reply to any taunts of being labelled a banker with a Herculean equanimity of course, safe in the knowledge that I long ago became my own banker. Sex clearly should be rugby tackled indirectly.It, sex, surely is best when it sneaks up behind you and Lays waste to all senses. Any plotting or central planning, clearly smacks of socialism or the vapidity of the Blair- Cameron years which for me were a low in the erotic downtrodden lives of so many in our lovely nation.
 Justanotherchap
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Posted: 7/18/2016 5:41:19 AM
I had my best sex in the Thatcher years with some very lovely ladies. It all started to fall to bits under Blair and Brown and then came Cameron when it became disastrous. Am hoping the Margaret lookalike, the sainted Theresa, will bring it all back.

 billybonds
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Posted: 7/18/2016 7:19:39 AM
Lol chappie, I like Theresa, especially when she defenestrated Gideon. I don't like to boast and there probably is no record of it in my annals and I am a habitual shit predictor but l predicted she would be our primeminster, long ago, believe it or not. And boy, are we going to need her in the coming years. See my annals.

And no I'm not saying annals because it's amusing me on aVery hot train. Grow up forumites. I agree with chap that socialism kills all erotica. From 1964 through Wilson, the Statist europhile Heath, through Wilson again and then sunny Jim , I had no sex! ONLY after a year of dearest maggie did Billy bonds slip anchor. Acne and sex are empirically worse under the dirigiste!!!

I'm now disembarking the south-west train. I'm very hot but see my car and its air conditioning beckons and I've decided I'm going to play love on the rocks at full volume with the windows up. It is a song that is bringing back some memories. Can't believe I'm standing on the platform still typing on my samsung.....There's two ladies talking about boeing and some trade deal now. I think they are Brexiteers. Orla from strictly is a brexiteer. I really need to get my tight trousers off which means stopping now. Sorry.
 RoxyMoronic
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Posted: 7/18/2016 8:00:50 AM

How do you reply to 'you are sexy'

I'd do the same here as I'd do in the big wide world and laugh it off. Whats to say? 'er cheers mate'

Just Imagine..........right time, right place......Barry White [voice effect] whispering this into your ear......tingles....
 Hostess68
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Posted: 7/18/2016 3:33:10 PM
Awww bless! I still maintain there is someone for everyone in life or online but I aint going there with the guys who just want sex and nothing else despite the hounding I have gotten on here for just being a decent nice gal who whats a chap in her life who sees her than more than a shag bag
 gimllog
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Posted: 7/19/2016 8:36:50 AM

Awww bless! I still maintain there is someone for everyone in life or online but I aint going there with the guys who just want sex and nothing else despite the hounding I have gotten on here for just being a decent nice gal who whats a chap in her life who sees her than more than a shag bag

To be fair , i can't see where you have been slated , the overall theme of responses seems to be , don't take the first message to seriously.
You have no way of knowing who is truly behind the message, you can either ignore or try and find out more by exchanging messages .
Its not just gender based either, some of us males receive similar one line opening messages even from males as well as females "your fit" "hi handsome" "Fancy some cam fun" ect ..
If i thought like you then i would think that every woman wants to bed me and every guy wanted to bone me .
If you don't like the content of the first message then ignore block and move on , simpullzz
 G3 M1 N1
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Posted: 7/19/2016 11:30:28 AM

Awww bless! I still maintain there is someone for everyone in life or online but I aint going there with the guys who just want sex and nothing else despite the hounding I have gotten on here for just being a decent nice gal who whats a chap in her life who sees her than more than a shag bag


Ah, now that I can understand and respect you for ..... the other? 'nuff said already
 Hostess68
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Posted: 7/19/2016 2:20:46 PM
Interesting ideas and prerequisites on here but I maintain my beliefs, morals and dignity though I have listened to opposing idealist views and that cements 'my' idealistic views. I realise I am looking for a needle in a haystack by I would rather that than eat straw x
I hark back to my original view that approaching women with an initial sexually based statement is not my bag and so be it for others but not for me thanks and I don't know how more clearly I could state this in my profile. I think I have made my point and some will listen and some will not women or men! I didn't specify gender at any point
 gimllog
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Posted: 7/20/2016 5:09:49 AM
The internet is a different kettle of fish from real life , it makes it easier to make random comments without giving it any thought.
Those that use "hi Sexy" as there opening message may use the same for every person they message ,without even looking at your pic let alone reading your profile.
The same people could also be the ones you see in a bar/club stood in the corner stirring at their beer and not willing /able to approach anyone until they are half drunk or even not at all.

Your Morals will only ever get tested if you allow them to be , your on a dating site, so you have opened the door to receive any and all sorts of messages ,whether you like it or not , its up to you how you filter them not the sender .
 TucsonPug
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Posted: 7/20/2016 5:35:33 AM
Yeah all sorts of messages lol I received one today that consisted of 2 emoji's, when I figure out what he's trying to say I might reply. So even Allo darling is too much for some, I think the heat has addled their brain.
 MrTJM
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Posted: 7/25/2016 11:17:53 PM
I'd guess most just... don't reply, haha
 Marquis_de_Michaelmas
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Posted: 7/29/2016 9:16:12 AM
I'm perfectly fine with it; infact it encourages me to break out singing in the immortal tune of Rod Stewart's Da Ya Think I'm Sexy?

If that and the Leopard skin tight trousers doesn't scare them away: nothing will!
 Beckyinspires
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Posted: 7/30/2016 3:56:36 PM
I agree with you hostess, but a lot of men are plonkers in real life and loads tend to congregate on pof! I once sent a message Hi sexy just cause I was sooo bored of the site. It was tongue in cheek but I ended up meeting him, having a drink then another time a meal out but he was totally confused that I wasn't on the menu too! He had believed I was shallow enough to send him a message like that and the innuendo was in the greeting!
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