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 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Getting better at socialising- is what every normal person does as he matures- no need for the fancy PUA name.

No, not every decent person does. Some get worse, depending on their change in social lifestyle. People who are divorced after 20 years getting back into things are very unskilled. Or people who used to work in social affairs and then for years worked in non-social affairs, aren't going to be as good at mingling as they once were. Being a Pickup Artist is one who is good at picking someone up. Everyone doesn't just gradually get better at it. Many decent people get a little worse at it over time.

Negging wont help. I invest time in going on dating sites, getting to know people, going out my comfort zone, but "negging" is nonsense

It seems nonsensical, although to a small degree, many things that go against what momma taught us, even if effective, is going to feel that way a bit. Expressing negative interest (Lack of interest projected in an indirect but proactive way) actually is effective to some people in some situations, to some degree. Saying it Can't work to open up doors, no matter what the angle, is being naive to the human condition. I think the only legitimate argument is how often & how much it works... like, can it make an average Joe get a hot model, etc. I say No, not unless there was at least some potential attraction, even if inefficient, had by said girl about the guy (underneath it all).

Are there women who will sleep with someone they consider even a minor celebrity? sure.

When people engage with someone who they always categorized as a minor celebrity will be a major celebrity to them in the moment, since it doesn't happen very often at all. They won't be thinking "Oh, they're just a minor celebrity." It'll be quite the big deal.

NS in his book, picks up porn stars and strippers and LA club girls. Is their sexual liberty shared with most women's view concerning casual sex? I'd argue no, its only certain women.

Sure. I think there's a much higher % of women with a good amount of sexual liberty than assumed in society. It's all about reputation. Shhh. :) I think the problem is, is that if a guy who's not an obvious stud-looking guy is frequently taking cute women home -- he must be tricking/fooling them into doing so. Why? "Because there aren't enough girls around like that, so you have to be up to something." Why wouldn't there be? Because not enough gals admit (to themselves or others) to the level of sexual liberty they actually have, given the right situations/circumstances.

i'm not trying to put down PUA, I think they work on certain people who are already looking for something

... or open to it, yeah. They're potentially open to X, and doing the effective thing will open door X.

Is it good to learn how to become a self promoting cold call salesman? It sure does transfer to other fields, noticeably, business.

Yeah, it is. In the book The Game, the moral of the story is that the PUA concept changed him for the better as a person. It raised his confidence, got him out of his shell. Once you start having successes, regardless of your batting average, your confidence goes way up. It rings in your ears the time you hooked up with really-cute Brenda. Even if it took 12 approaches with cute gals -- even while being shot down rudely by a gal who wasn't even cute -- it's a sigh of relief. A sigh of "Yes I can." And the degree in which to apply PUA tactics, neg-hitting being one of them, is always up for debate -- and most PUA places exaggerate success rate. But that's marketing. At the end of the day, it's about dealing with being shot down and to experience success -- and to know what brings it more, and what "norms" society says you should do can actually hold you back a bit.
 peakyblinders123
Joined: 8/6/2016
Msg: 177
Dick pics... question for guys and ladies...
Posted: 9/4/2016 11:06:56 PM
Good thing about PUA is that it teaches people NOT to give up

It puts people out their comfort zone

Ill give them that
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 178
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Posted: 9/5/2016 4:44:46 AM
Back to the topic at hand...

If I ever sent a pic, I would probably get a reply like this...

"The only thing big in this pic is your hand..."
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
Msg: 179
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Posted: 9/5/2016 11:56:11 PM

I believe there are a few ladies here--Ouija, Whatsa, Le Pew, etc--who can joke and banter. But would negging work on them? I've never met them, but based on what they post...i'm thinking it wouldn't have the desired effect on them. They'd let it slide by, or be turned off by it, or something else, but it wouldn't make them want to prove value. Maybe i'm totally wrong, only their friends know for sure. Their friends might bust balls every now and then, but some average looking stranger they just met?


You have to gauge if the woman gets hit on a lot or not first. There's no need to neg women that aren't brushing off all the guys that are approaching them. That being said, a guy joking around in a way that's congruent with his personality isn't going to turn anyone off because it's normal. I personally never payed much attention to negs because you don't really need them unless you're chasing the knockouts that get 500 likes for every picture they put up on Facebook. In reality, those women probably aren't more naturally beautiful than the average woman, but they spend all their time dolling themselves up, taking pictures of themselves and collecting men that compliment them and buy them stuff.


The neg works to bring a girl back down to earth...but first, she has to have her sense of self inflated. Does a humble woman take a humbling comment like a neg, and do anything with it? She's already got her feet on the ground and an honest opinion of herself. Tell her your grandma has something she's wearing, and she might just say, "um, yeah, ok, stranger...cool" and go back to her drink. If she doesn't feel she has anything to prove, she's just chillin'....your request for her to DHV (demonstrate higher value) just landed on deaf ears. She's chillin' and you look like any other guy she could pick up with an offer of free sex.


That's not how a neg works exactly. It works by communicating that you're the opposite of the typical man that compliments them and puts them on a pedestal. It doesn't really matter what you say as long as you show that you're not Average Joe #10 that wants to buy her a drink. You are right that it is a trait of a high value man though. A neg doesn't have to be humbling at all. You could say that she's too much of a good girl for you or that you're taking a break from dating. Again, it's kind of silly to obsess over a technique that most people will never need. You're right that it's pointless to use it on the average person because there are way more effective ways of introducing yourself to them.


does that mean these ladies are boring and unsexy? Not automatically. They could be women with healthy attitudes about dating and sex and be fun in bed and not an embarrassment at a party. They might actually be a gal really worth dating, not just serial dating.


Of course it doesn't mean that they're boring, it just means they're not the most popular woman in the room. I wouldn't really want to date a bar star or attention seeker either. The whole idea is that the really popular women get hit on so often that they have to automatically screen men unless they want to have hundreds of boyfriends. It doesn't mean that they're bad people. The neg was just developed to allow men to circumvent that sort of automatic screening.


Good thing about PUA is that it teaches people NOT to give up

It puts people out their comfort zone

Ill give them that


That's why I think it's a great thing to learn. Even if you're not looking for dates, you can use it to get better at socializing in general and making friends. For guys that are socially awkward around women, the only thing creepier than learning pick up is not learning pick up.
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 180
Dick pics... question for guys and ladies...
Posted: 9/6/2016 12:22:32 PM

I believe there are a few ladies here--Ouija, Whatsa, Le Pew, etc--who can joke and banter. But would negging work on them? I've never met them, but based on what they post...i'm thinking it wouldn't have the desired effect on them. They'd let it slide by, or be turned off by it, or something else, but it wouldn't make them want to prove value. Maybe i'm totally wrong, only their friends know for sure. Their friends might bust balls every now and then, but some average looking stranger they just met?


Negging overall has a very negative connotation. And while Comma White describes it or gives it a different men-empowering definition it is still a put down. To me that is rather juvenile. However, what I believe works, and the smarter the woman the better is banter. Banter is something that many of these women have used here in the forums. Banter does not put down, but has fun WITH the person not AT the person's expense.

What I've noticed men that still get hot women in their 30, 40 and 50s is they use a lot of self deprecating humor. They use it in a way that they still come across as self confident yet willing to have some fun. Many women find that very attractive because first, they men do not sound like they are full of themselves, but rather humbling and accessible.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 181
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Posted: 9/6/2016 1:02:17 PM
hey hey hey.. get the negging convo to the right thread.. this is reserved :/
btw, Rate Image was brimming with DPs this weekend, guess they thought no one was looking.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 182
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Posted: 9/6/2016 2:58:32 PM
"Banter does not put down, but has fun WITH the person not AT the person's expense."


Oooh......I like your method better, Mr. IG. :)

I'm gonna go find a Banter Artist (right after I rate some pics).....cause my....pantomime reel you in & wink....dance move is just not hooking any fish. Still fun to do, though. :D


 WhereforeAndWhyNot
Joined: 1/26/2016
Msg: 183
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Posted: 9/6/2016 3:50:40 PM

"hey hey hey.. get the negging convo to the right thread.. this is reserved"

I think we'd all better listen to what she says... or else....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-eSWIZkAH8
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 184
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Posted: 9/6/2016 7:23:21 PM
hey
Don't make me run one of my favorite lines upon you
Now I have to go watch the darn vid
oops, a horror video/ Nope. Scared of my own shadow. No horror here unless you count dog barfing on the carpet. Which is rather terrifying. House full of tile and cork, no, to the rug she goes
kinda like the sound of one hand clapping :./
Sorry, only child can amuse myself
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 185
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Posted: 9/7/2016 2:17:06 PM

Oooh......I like your method better, Mr. IG. :)


Kj, I like the way you say Oooh...


And to bring the conversation back to D i ck pictures. My favorite is during the Debate with Kennedy, or in front of the camera saying that he was not a crook and of course at the helicopter leaving the white house. Classics.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 186
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Posted: 9/7/2016 2:30:57 PM


"if you measure up, call me"


I hope she's flashing a thumb's up pic...
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
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Posted: 9/7/2016 2:50:23 PM
Speaking of "dick pics". I got a lil' story for ya'll.

I work for a fairly small, privately owned company.
Less than 6 months ago, a new supervisor was hired.
Everyone, including the business owner, was aware of the new guy's side job.
A male stripper/pole dancer.
Pics available on Facebook.

New guy asked for and received 4 weeks of paid vacation.
Used the vacation time, and then some....................excessive absenteeism.
All was fine until..............

Owners family showed grandpa, new guys'****pic on Twitter. The****with tattoo AND piercing.............

LMAO, Too bad I was OOT when new guy was ushered out the door.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 188
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Posted: 9/7/2016 5:06:06 PM
Tony Weiner can't stop himself ( perfect name btw)
To me it is a form of sexual assault against women, if not asked for don't send. Use it for Christmas cards or something ( that's going to impress the fam)
First uncut one I got, I said you have a convertible
He didn't find my wit all that entertaining
I mean, send naked pix to your partner, get that
random strangers
12 on the creep scale, which only goes to 10
 GhettoFoot
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 189
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Posted: 9/8/2016 12:15:12 PM

Ladies any of you here who like to receive them prior to meeting?


Only time I liked it was when there was a mutual sexual interest before even meeting, and that only occurred via sex/BDSM "dating" sites.
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
Msg: 190
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Posted: 9/8/2016 3:08:43 PM
I've only received one that was truly appreciated. Dude was hot as hell, with skills to boot! We still text naughty things from time to time. And yes, I met him and he's real, hence the skills comment. Otherwise no, I don't want to see it. I don't care what it looks like or how proud you are.

I was texting with a guy one time. He quickly started to send pics, nothing bad, but the writing was on the wall, I knew where he was going to take it. I straight up said "Do NOT send me a picture of your penis". Like 5 minutes later here came the pic. NOPE! You're out. Pointed out that I had specifically requested he not do that and if he was that rude and uncaring before we met we would never make it dating. I blocked him.
 flman2015
Joined: 10/3/2015
Msg: 191
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Posted: 9/8/2016 3:21:31 PM




"Do NOT send me a picture of your penis".


You might have judged him unfairly... maybe it was a pic of somebody else's penis.
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
Msg: 192
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Posted: 9/8/2016 4:29:21 PM
that is true, doubtful, but true. I did not ask whos penis was in the photo. Based on context I do believe it was his. And it if it wasn't, that is even more weird.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 193
shake it like a Polaroid dckpic
Posted: 9/8/2016 8:19:35 PM
so now I imagine a dude on a crowded subway, texting away to his new interest...and then he stops, there's a look on his face as an idea reaches him. He leans over to the bum sleeping under the New York Post and asks, "hey, um, dude? Can I borrow your d1ck?"


This way, he gets rejected, he can feel better. It wasn't his d1ck that was rejected.

meanwhile, why show a dong to a woman named Pluto? wouldn't it be more appropriate to send his moon?
 flman2015
Joined: 10/3/2015
Msg: 194
shake it like a Polaroid dckpic
Posted: 9/8/2016 10:20:45 PM


that is true, doubtful, but true. I did not ask whos penis was in the photo. Based on context I do believe it was his. And it if it wasn't, that is even more weird.


You still have to reciprocate and give him a few inches of doubt.
 InnerGorilla2
Joined: 8/1/2016
Msg: 195
shake it like a Polaroid dckpic
Posted: 9/9/2016 6:44:17 AM


that is true, doubtful, but true. I did not ask whos penis was in the photo. Based on context I do believe it was his. And it if it wasn't, that is even more weird.


You still have to reciprocate and give him a few inches of doubt.


Who would want to send a picture that does not happen to be their own Bratwurst. It's stupid. What happens if the lady likes you and then you show up and all is there is a Libbys, libbys, libbys wearer. That would be not only a disappointment for the woman, but what an embarrassment for the guy. And what happens if she is used to a Nathans and you show up with a Chorizo or even more shocking a Morsilla. At the end she is going to realize that you're full of baloney.
 flman2015
Joined: 10/3/2015
Msg: 196
shake it like a Polaroid dckpic
Posted: 9/9/2016 10:04:35 AM




Who would want to send a picture that does not happen to be their own Bratwurst. It's stupid.


There is fun to be had... a white guy sending a BBC pic claiming he is tanned can be a conversation starter. Send an ice d/pick to break the ice.... LOL

For the record, just having fun here. I don't think that sending d*ck pics is a bright idea.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 197
shake it like a Polaroid dckpic
Posted: 9/9/2016 12:37:37 PM
This entire thread is a disappointment. I thought we were going to be assessing****pics, kinda like what they do in the profile reviews.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 198
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Posted: 9/9/2016 2:13:26 PM
^^^^^^Apparently, you just have to go to the rate images and there are pics of.....well...you know....aplenty.

Problem with that is you only get to rate the image. I mean what if I find one I like? How am I gonna find the fella it belongs to? That's a dilema.....am I right?


Oh! Maybe.....I could try copy and pasting it to that Google image thing....never know where that will lead! I might find my Prince Charming and won't even have to guess what's in the tights! :D

Well! Looks like I got my weekend activities planned! Yay!



*****And y'all don't be trying to steal my bright idea here! It's my light bulb moment....keep finding men the way you've been doing it.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 199
shake it like a Polaroid dckpic
Posted: 9/9/2016 2:40:23 PM
It's a science :/
Next one I get I'll send some horror picture ( diseased something ) back to freak them
 WhereforeAndWhyNot
Joined: 1/26/2016
Msg: 200
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Cornering the dik market
Posted: 9/10/2016 2:28:41 AM

” Too bad I was OOT when new guy was ushered out the door.”

OK… so fess up--how long has he been locked up in your basement? Do you at least let him out for walks, once in a while? :-)
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