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 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 551
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He has a life and needs to pay for his place, car, and work.


Unlike someone else we know.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 552
honesty is the best policy. please change profile to not single/not looking
Posted: 9/12/2016 11:07:32 AM

Him and I are both still on the dating websites, apps, he wants us to become Boyfriend/Girlfriend already, but I don't want to just yet.


So now he's gone from a man who stood you up on your birthday, to a man who wants to go steady with you, but you don't want to do that yet---in other words, a complete 180 degree turn. Sorry, Nat, but I'm not buying it.
 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 553
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Posted: 9/12/2016 11:22:43 AM
^^^ Maybe he's asked her to come to him for once and she can't be arsed. That does happen; it becomes just too much of a bother to reciprocate some effort.
 PlutoLover68
Joined: 7/28/2016
Msg: 554
honesty is the best policy. please change profile to not single/not looking
Posted: 9/12/2016 1:31:42 PM

So now he's gone from a man who stood you up on your birthday, to a man who wants to go steady with you, but you don't want to do that yet---in other words, a complete 180 degree turn.


she was contradicting herself in the very first post. It was a guy she was getting to know in the opening, then then near the end she calls him "my guy". She is very confused on what they are, what she wants and what she expects from him. And, frankly I'm not a bit surprised. She is really lacking real world experience. As a 29 year old virgin that doesn't have a job, nor drive, she's really lacking all kinds of life and relationship experience. Very sad. Her parents have done her no favors at all.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 555
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Posted: 9/12/2016 2:53:50 PM

Him and I are both still on the dating websites, apps, he wants us to become Boyfriend/Girlfriend already, but I don't want to just yet.

You don't have to be BF/GF to agree to go steady, when you're coming up on a month or later. But, if as you say, there's questionable things about compatibility + he lives far away (LD relationships don't work unless Both people enjoy being not-so-social homebodies) -- it probably is a good idea to just casually date him. But if he wants to go-steady, or be BF/GF given how you feel about things, then even casually dating may run amok. With that said, if you were upset he couldn't make it to a bday thing, given the distance & difficulty of dating + you not wanting to be BF/GF to keep options open -- then you can't complain about that. Things can't be about you-you-you, or what momma says is true.

(2) it was illegal for a woman to work outside the home

It's been legal for a woman to work for many many many generations -- even while the guy-works-gal-stays-at-home was good & strong. I think the main reason it parted was that middle class pay was lower compared to the cost of living + women now having middle-class jobs in combo of their husbands to live more comfortably due to this. I think settling down to have kids is a choice -- and to fulfill that choice, ya gotta have enough comfortable income.

That said, if you're Nat who doesn't want kids to look after, at home doing weekend cleaning and weekday kept-tidy -- that's something she'd be doing when living outside maw & paw's, and living on her own anyway (same with the guy although probably not as tidy). Doing all the chores + raising young kids for handfuls of years -- I can understand, if/when the guy makes enough money to have that being comfortable. Otherwise, IMO, you go another combo route -- or like some who have kids raised just fine where both people work full-time.
 nataly66687
Joined: 5/18/2016
Msg: 556
the Birthday Bluez
Posted: 9/12/2016 3:13:41 PM
Thats the thing though, he doesn't do casual dating, he was a commitment and wants us to be boyfriend/girlfriend. I want us to be that but I don't want to take that step just yet. Because him and I keep talking things over and are still seeing about us dating. When we are together there is sometimes dead silence, and we only have a little bit in common, and his work schedule makes it difficult for him to hang out more often except for weekends.
 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 557
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Posted: 9/12/2016 3:24:20 PM
It's HE and I, not him and I...

Mutual silences are comfortable when two people are totally happy in each other's company and where you 'get' each other, but your silences are obviously down to you both having little or nothing in common (he's told you that already). Then there's a distance involved where only one of you is prepared to put in any effort. I love the fact that you blame his work schedule and not the fact that you've voluntarily made yourself immobile. You do nothing all day so it's not inconceivable for you to get on a bus and go over to see him on a weekday for two or three hours.
 GlassArmonica
Joined: 7/28/2013
Msg: 558
honesty is the best policy. please change profile to not single/not looking
Posted: 9/12/2016 5:31:44 PM

Him and I are both still on the dating websites, apps, he wants us to become Boyfriend/Girlfriend already, but I don't want to just yet. I want to learn more about him, and just see how much more fun we have together before jumping the gun. I am noticing him and I only have a little bit in common, if not anything at all, we live far a part from one another, and his work schedule makes it difficult for us to hang out anymore than on the weekends only. But him and I do like each other, and enjoy each other's time.

How do you even know this guy is telling you the truth? As others have stated he could be married with kids for all we know.

It sounds very much like he just wants to bed a virgin and doesn't actually care about you as a unique individual. Be careful!
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 559
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Posted: 9/13/2016 11:03:51 AM

It sounds very much like he just wants to bed a virgin and doesn't actually care about you as a unique individual. Be careful!

What makes it sound like that? Because she is a virgin? If he doesn't do casual dating and wants to settle down, he certainly is not showing signs of that.

Thats the thing though, he doesn't do casual dating, he was a commitment and wants us to be boyfriend/girlfriend. I want us to be that but I don't want to take that step just yet.

If you want to be that, then be that. Sounds like you're wanting both ends. What if you found out a week from now he made out with a girl, and has a 2nd date with her and she's nice looking and they seem to be hitting it off well?

When we are together there is sometimes dead silence, and we only have a little bit in common, and his work schedule makes it difficult for him to hang out more often except for weekends.

That happens -- being quiet. You're sensitive to that, as you like a non-stop-churn, ok. But some people do like periods of quiet/chill when the situation flows to it sometimes. With that said though, it sounds more like a compatibility/meshing issue. Shouldn't be a deal breaker -- but combine that with not much in common and living far apart being a rel key -- yeah, I understand not wanting to be exclusive.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 560
The senior ( 35 and over ) blues
Posted: 9/13/2016 11:09:19 AM
"That happens -- being quiet. "



Usually the quiet is caused by nodding off ( for senior couples 35 and over ), which is the main reason why people over 35 shouldn't date younger .
 browneyesboo
Joined: 7/1/2016
Msg: 561
The senior ( 35 and over ) blues
Posted: 9/13/2016 11:33:33 AM

"That happens -- being quiet. "


Being quiet is something some do well and others not well at all.
Learning to know when to be quiet is an art, I think.
I'm not quiet because I'm nodding off, I'm quiet because I'm tempering
my response. (Even though I think your post was mostly in jest)


OT, there's something really sad about this OP. Not sure if she's really
naive, or just clueless. Seems harmless but incredibly annoying. Childlike
or childish? I can hear her voice in my head just reading her posts.
I hope she has good friends, but I suspect she doesn't and that makes
me sad. If she were my daughter, I would surely do something other than
what her parents are.

But it is what it is.
 CarefreeBeauty
Joined: 5/30/2014
Msg: 562
The senior ( 35 and over ) blues
Posted: 9/13/2016 1:39:41 PM
^^^

But it is what it is.


Yup, twenty four pages of commiserating with N.'s 'birthday bluez'?

Lordy<
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 563
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Posted: 9/13/2016 2:01:53 PM

Usually the quiet is caused by nodding off ( for senior couples 35 and over ), which is the main reason why people over 35 shouldn't date younger .

Oh, it's nothing a little Viagra and Red Bull can't fix -- for any age. :)
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 564
The senior ( 35 and over ) blues
Posted: 9/13/2016 3:04:20 PM
^^^^^^


True, but if things get carried away, neither of those will prevent you from breaking your HIP !
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 565
The senior ( 35 and over ) blues
Posted: 9/13/2016 3:05:11 PM
Double post


Best wishes ?
 SS4544Spd
Joined: 8/31/2016
Msg: 566
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Posted: 9/14/2016 5:39:38 PM
Nataly wrote:



https://www.youtube.com/user/NataliezWorld



OMG.... LOL *Snort*...She's a heavy metal journalist! I used to be a metal guy, and if this is something she cooked up herself, it's fairly impressive. IMO, she's far from being a "loser living in her parents' basement." All these bands are newer, so I'm not that familair with them, but Sepultura is a pretty big name in that genre, and she's sitting down with the guy for an interview. I watched her Sepultura interview and that guy looks like he could eat her alive, lol. She needs some polish interviewing, but it's really kinda cool, in a goofy "Wayne's World" kind of way. Maybe she drives a "Mirthmobile"..lol And Nataly....learn how to pronounce the band's name, please, before you interview them!!!! And you need to practice interviewing without constantly staring at your notes.


And BTW...in that interview, she's adorable....in a vulnerable, quirky kind of way. Definitely not every guy's cup of tea though. Being so quirky, though it doesn't surprise me that she's having a problem finding the right guy. Nataly, you gotta understand that you....um....are an original...and that's OK, but that means it will be *much* more difficult to find the right person. Don't fish in the rock 'n roll pond, though...dangerous! You're going to get commitment-shy men, and probably nobody interested in a woman who wants to remain a virgin. That may 'splain some things about the responses you are getting.

Folks, I don't think she's a troll, or impaired......She's just really quirky...I think you are my misfit soul-mate here, though. :D And those guys who were making fun of you online.....bleep them! They have no clue as to how difficult it must be for a *woman* ...much less one *who wants to remain a virgin* to operate in that male dominated business. You're a brave young woman.

And if you created your show yourself, which I assume is your "dream job," you should be bragging about it. The net-net is the same...living with the parents and all... but there's a big difference between "Living in my parents' basement without a job," as you self proclaimed somewhere, and "Living in my parents basement so I can chase my dream of being a rock journalist." Fail or not, there are many people out there my age who wished they'd had the nerve to chase their dream, and now it's too late. The latter description of yourself...chasing your dream.... is a WHOLE LOT sexier to many men. Chase fellow music journalists, or journalists, period; don't chase needy RnR men!!!! But, good luck to ya!......\m/.......
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 567
The Birthday Bluez
Posted: 9/14/2016 6:41:23 PM
Pssst..............^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
LOL Don'tcha just love it when someone comes waltzin' into the party, makin' an anouncement the rest of us heard daaaayyyys ago??????????
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 568
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Posted: 9/15/2016 1:14:34 PM

True, but if things get carried away, neither of those will prevent you from breaking your HIP !

Or her hip! "If you want to break her hip, ya gotta give her more than just the tip!" -- that's what my grandfather used to say....
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 569
The senior ( 35 and over ) blues
Posted: 9/15/2016 1:51:42 PM

"If you want to break her hip, .................


OK I have to ask, NG, WTH does this ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ mean?
?????You quote your grandfather?
Am I missing somethin' here?

Sister-in-laws mom, just fractured her femur. A few days ago, surgery to insert a rod and screws in her bone from hip to knee. OUCH!!!!!!
 call_me_tater
Joined: 12/30/2014
Msg: 570
The senior ( 35 and over ) blues
Posted: 9/15/2016 3:03:11 PM
Lady, try reading as if it's the last line of a dirty limerick ;)
 GlassArmonica
Joined: 7/28/2013
Msg: 571
The Birthday Bluez
Posted: 9/15/2016 9:05:51 PM
Any updates, Natalie? We care about you and want to know how things are working out. You are the star of these forums!
 nataly66687
Joined: 5/18/2016
Msg: 572
The Birthday Bluez
Posted: 9/16/2016 3:48:00 PM
The guy and I are still talking, and plan to have our 5th date this coming weekend. Hope it's just as fun and great as the last 4 before it. Him and I are getting along great and talking out our issues and problems, and working through everything piece by piece. So I know this will work out and so does he, we both want it too.
 blackbeauty744
Joined: 12/1/2015
Msg: 573
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Posted: 9/16/2016 3:59:27 PM
Your haircut looks very nice.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 574
The Birthday Cheer, like the Bronx one
Posted: 9/16/2016 4:15:08 PM
see, that's great. She talks to us, we give her advice all over the map, and she has a great time. More couples should rely on us for happiness.
 GhettoFoot
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 575
The Birthday Cheer, like the Bronx one
Posted: 9/16/2016 6:33:26 PM
Sounds great Nataly! I hope you two progress well. Love the new pic btw :)
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