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 aintnodeal
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 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 5/3/2016
Msg: 127
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Posted: 11/28/2016 11:47:51 PM
"I know it is wet, and the sun is not sunny
But we can have lots of good fun that is funny."
- Dr Seuss
 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
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Posted: 11/29/2016 3:37:50 AM
She'll swear she's square
Well baby, I donĀ“t care

Close But No Cigar - Dr Feelgood
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 129
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Posted: 11/29/2016 6:03:20 AM
"I'm not losing any sleep over Dunkin [my] Donuts" - Howard Schultz
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 130
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Posted: 11/29/2016 6:17:23 AM
I think with each record, I don't know ... they're like burdens.
Matt Shultz
 maybeebaybee1
Joined: 10/23/2016
Msg: 131
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Posted: 11/29/2016 10:22:53 AM
OP, I'll tell you why no one waits til they're married to have sex for the first time ... because the first time you have sex with someone, it's HORRIBLE, especially for you as a virgin. Sometimes it's horrible even when you're not a virgin lol And it'll probably hurt, so be prepared for that.

So what if you marry some old boy and discover the only way he can get turned on is by having sex in public? Or he wants to tie you up and pee on you? Or he wants you to pee on him? (Yes, a guy actually asked me to do that.) What if he only wants anal sex? What if he's one of those guys who "owns" you when you marry him and he knocks the sh*t outta you whenever he feels like it? We all like surprises, but not those kind.

You can't go blindly into a marriage without finding out what your partner is like sexually. There are lots of weirdos out there and I think you're too naive to realize that. You're living in a land of sunshine and unicorns. Time to wake up to reality.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 132
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Posted: 11/29/2016 10:28:04 AM

I think with each record, I don't know ... they're like burdens.
Matt Shultz

and Ouija sweeps the table!
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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Posted: 11/29/2016 11:05:42 AM
My gf of 10 years and I broke up this summer. We went a few years without vaginal sex for whatever reason. We would do anal, oral, I don't know what the big deal was. We eventually had vaginal and it was all good. I don't know if I would do that again.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
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Posted: 11/29/2016 1:31:15 PM
Being asexual, I'd have no problem with a woman not wanting to have sex before marriage. But would she be okay with me not wanting to have sex after marriage?
 CarefreeBeauty
Joined: 5/30/2014
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Posted: 11/29/2016 2:03:36 PM

Being asexual, I'd have no problem with a woman not wanting to have sex before marriage. But would she be okay with me not wanting to have sex after marriage?


If you're rich, the OP might be interested---no sex before marriage, possibly not after, either. Just keep her in the manner she is accustomed to and you both could be living the dream!
 PennyAnte
Joined: 4/17/2016
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Posted: 11/29/2016 7:17:31 PM
I can not imagine blindly entering into marriage without having carnal knowledge of the man you marry. What if his penis is smaller than your thumb? What if he only wants sex once a year? What if he doesn't want sex at all ( asexual)?. What if he has no desire to make you climax and sex is all about him? What if he wants to beat you during sex and that is the only way he can orgasm? What if he wants men too and is bisexual?
What if he needs multiple partners and an open marriage? What if he has poor hygiene and you can't fvck him because he smells like a garbage truck? What if he has certain fetishes that you can not condone like pissing on your face to get off? What if he talks baby talk during sex? What if he doesn't talk at all and fvcks you like you are a blow up doll? What if he only wants anal?... then you get the shit end of the stick. What if he doesn't want to reciprocate oral? That would suck but he wouldn't. What if he only wanted to ejaculate on your face? What if he needed to wear a fuzzy cat costume to get aroused? You never know until you are intimate.

I would want to know I was sexually compatible with a man before marriage. Yes, the marriage can be annulled if it is not consummated but... what if it is and you are extremely unhappy with your sex life. You waited for nothing but disappointment and an unhappy sex life.
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
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Posted: 11/29/2016 7:51:00 PM
...um...seems to be a common fear of women about being pissed on...? Is it really that common? Now guys DO talk about how women piss since days of grade school and there's great curiosity about how it works. All our water directing tools are hose-like or penis-shaped, even the ones with dispersal heads...so the question is more of a mechanical, 'how do you manage not to piss yourself' more than a sexual thing.

I never imagined women were having nightmares of running a gauntlet of pissing men...?!? Advice: Stay out of the men's showers, because all men piss in the shower.
 moonbeamlover1
Joined: 11/10/2016
Msg: 138
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Posted: 12/1/2016 12:49:31 AM
^^^^

They do? where have I been? ( a very good place apparently ;)
 drinkthesunwithmyface
Joined: 3/27/2012
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Posted: 12/1/2016 4:34:29 AM

So what if you marry some old boy and discover the only way he can get turned on is by having sex in public? Or he wants to tie you up and pee on you? Or he wants you to pee on him? (Yes, a guy actually asked me to do that.) What if he only wants anal sex? What if he's one of those guys who "owns" you when you marry him and he knocks the sh*t outta you whenever he feels like it? We all like surprises, but not those kind.

You can't go blindly into a marriage without finding out what your partner is like sexually. There are lots of weirdos out there and I think you're too naive to realize that. You're living in a land of sunshine and unicorns. Time to wake up to reality.

It is true that many people who remain virgins for a while or are 'saving themselves' for marriage...are doing so for a dumb or wrong reason. But I don't think that this can be said for more than a minority percentage of them - I never really understood or agreed with the knee-jerk attitudes towards intentional virgins. Often it's like people want to ruin their mindset in some way out of some insecurity, claiming that they're dumb or wrong. Some are, but not that many of them.

For the ones who don't have the wrong reasons...it's not really that darned difficult to get to know someone beforehand and tell what their sexual capabilities or tendencies might be and whether or not they are sociopathic in some way. At least as much as you could do so after sex, marriage, or the beginning of a relationship.

It just doesn't apply to say that they're living in some land of unicorns and aren't in touch with reality. This is really a certain kind of unsupported intolerance.
 2ufo2
Joined: 8/29/2016
Msg: 140
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Posted: 12/1/2016 7:24:19 AM
I have nothing but respect for her remaining a virgin due to her convictions.
Well, technical respect for a technical virgin anyway.

It's her entitled attitude that some white knight had better come to rescue her from the wicked ogres (her parents?), showering her with jewels (the proceeds of his employment) and request nothing more of her than her mere presence in his life. That tends to put people off.

His presents for her presence.

From her on-screen persona, I don't blame any man for not being interested in her.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 141
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Posted: 12/1/2016 2:19:36 PM

I have nothing but respect for her remaining a virgin due to her convictions.


I don't-if she's using her virginity as some sort of prize to be won in exchange for marriage and a lifetime of financial support. She hasn't said (at least I don't recall seeing a post about it) if the guy has to be a virgin as well. If so, how would he go about proving it-or would she just take his word for it?
 BeckyHT
Joined: 1/1/2013
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Posted: 12/1/2016 3:07:57 PM
The OP is long gone, and this thread just keeps going and going like an EverReady battery.

Some people will grow old before they figure out some mistakes they have made.

What does being a virgin and waiting until marriage prove to anyone? I mean, wouldn't you only be proving something for yourself? No one else should know. Are you testing how stubborn you can get?

When you have a six month courtship, aren't you testing other character attributes? Like, can the partner cook? Can the partner earn a living? Can the partner keep from slobbering at the table? Does the partner like children? But excuse me, we won't know what the partner likes about sex. In fact, this potential partner knows NOTHING about sex.

And I could be wrong about that also. They could sit around watching porn every night, and never touch the other person. And they'd be a virgin.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 143
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Posted: 12/1/2016 3:10:46 PM
^^^^^

The op isn't long gone actually.


She started a thread just the other day asking what to do if you open a jar of pickles and a guy tells her she opened it like a man
 2ufo2
Joined: 8/29/2016
Msg: 144
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Posted: 12/1/2016 3:12:00 PM
Maleman...

Whether she's a virgin due to convictions or she's withholding it as a 'prize' or even if no one has previously wanted to relieve her of her virginity... only she knows for sure.

ETA: Butterchuck... how does one open a jar 'like a man' or 'like a woman'?
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 145
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Posted: 12/1/2016 3:17:21 PM
^^^^


Why are you asking ME ?

I was just telling someone what the topic was about !
 drinkthesunwithmyface
Joined: 3/27/2012
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Posted: 12/1/2016 3:32:13 PM
...opened that jar of pickles...like a BOSS, yo.

No innuendo here.
 VikingHoosier
Joined: 5/8/2015
Msg: 147
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Posted: 12/1/2016 4:03:00 PM
The OP is not long gone. She just posted on another of her threads on November 29.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 12/1/2016 4:19:51 PM
She might be gone for alittle while however. She sounded like she was drinking alittle heavy on the wine and had a tantrum.
 2ufo2
Joined: 8/29/2016
Msg: 149
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Posted: 12/1/2016 4:30:48 PM

Why are you asking ME ?

I was just telling someone what the topic was about !


You're right -- perhaps I should go read the thread for my answers (because I'm sure there's more than one way to open a pickle jar). I usually just twist off the top, but I suppose there are some people that try to open it from the side or the bottom or... well, enquiring minds want to know.

If it hasn't been deleted...
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 150
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Posted: 12/1/2016 4:40:51 PM
^^^

In fact, it was deleted.
I would estimate it was about the 536th of her topics that has been deleted so far

She's tenacious, I'll give her that





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