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 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 25
aw, what's wrong with being long?Page 2 of 2    (1, 2)
Well, I can probably claim I put more emphasis on sex when I was a teen, than I do now. I was out all the time, going to all places, hoping to find someone. I'm not that motivated now. Those who think sex is over-rated, may indeed feel that way for themselves. Good for them, but for the rest of us, we want what we want, and if we aren't hurting anyone else, so be it. sometimes we do like to compare ourselves to others. Large may not always be in charge.

good point about sex starting in the brain. After our skin, its the second largest sex organ. but then, probably a lot of our problems begin in our head :)
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 26
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Posted: 12/12/2016 4:57:09 PM

More likely, I think it had something to do with her not trusting him. And she was right, shortly after this Palm Springs bust, he stopped talking to her, got back together with his ex-girlfriend and they have since married.

That's not cheating, that's moving on due to lack of compatibility. Besides, you said this guy had ( intercoursed ) other company women and had a reputation for being large.....make the trust issue really a non-issue.

Also, you seem to have had plenty of free time to learn very intimate details about the****of-the-walk and his porno-riffic adventures, as well as the opinion of the peanut gallery at the office. That is the very definition of 'keeping company'.

Please don't rewrite your previous comments. We are still waiting for the precise DEFINITION of "penetration issues".
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 27
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 12/12/2016 5:52:54 PM
I'm awaiting the definition of packing
Or as some guys prolly say
let it stay heavy if not hard
I seriously doubt a person who has been sexually active in the past needs the Jaws of Life
If things slam shut, other reasons in my opinion
 Mz_Informed
Joined: 11/15/2016
Msg: 28
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 12/12/2016 6:03:43 PM
Vaginal spasms, vaginismus, might be the culprit, too.
 GhettoFoot
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 29
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 12/12/2016 6:16:48 PM
Penetration issues = issues with penetration, either penis not entering due to vagina being too tight/tense despite wetness OR penis not staying hard after entry. Read between the lines.

Aintnodeal, you have way too much time to assume you know squat about my circle and the company I keep, especially from a job I left in 2011, based on some posts on an internet message board.


 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 30
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 12/12/2016 7:05:17 PM

Penetration issues = issues with penetration, either penis not entering due to vagina being too tight/tense despite wetness OR penis not staying hard after entry. Read between the lines.


Well, is it one, or the other????? There are two lines to read between here.

For instanced, a slammed clam is more mental than physical. A limp dog, could be one or the other, or both.

I've honestly never experienced, either of the situations after known dry spells with the parties involved.
And I've definitely have had some pretty long runs of dry spells. In fact, in one right now. Anyone wanna do test run?????? :P
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 31
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Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 12/12/2016 7:16:48 PM
I have seen a lot of posters, down through the years, try to rewrite history, change their story on the fly so to speak.

But I don't recall seeing anyone more reticent to actually explain just what in the hell he or she was actually talking about.

Who in the h-e-double-l had the issue, the man or the woman??????
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 32
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 12/13/2016 5:42:19 AM
Walts LOL.
So we may or may no be discussing a Man. Or a woman.
Maybe they both have issues.
Crazy idea - why don't they consult a Doctor?
btw, some lubes aren't friendly to your lady bits, buy wisely.
I have a funny nsfw lube story
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 33
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 12/13/2016 5:59:11 AM
well, either the fellow couldn't get in, or he got in and then went flaccid. Its kinda one or the other. Or someone was too drunk to really know what didn't happen down there, all they know is there was no climax. I figure we're getting a second hand version of the story with few details. That makes it harder (heh) to guess what's up (heh).
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 34
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Posted: 12/13/2016 6:32:17 PM

Penetration issues = issues with penetration, either penis not entering due to vagina being too tight/tense despite wetness OR penis not staying hard after entry. Read between the lines.

Well, your previous posts were explained which one it is (the gal taking it in). I dated a virgin for a good while Way back in the day. She was abnormally tight, and didn't like to use tampons because it was so uncomfortable... and wasn't keen on the idea of "working it" with fingers and other things, to loosen it up, so to speak. Much of her mentality of something going in would only make it clinch and added to the problem.

I will say though -- a guy having erectile dysfunction isn't going to be called "penetration issues" - lol. Going soft, even when going toward the "golden cavity", is still going to be called erectile issues. Saying a guy has penetration issues would imply he has a problem getting penetrated, or that he has an emotional problem or lack of feeling penetrating someone else... not merely "he goes soft". You could say such an emotional problem could make him go soft, but by the phrase alone, that wouldn't be assumed at all.
 aintnodeal
Joined: 4/10/2016
Msg: 35
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Posted: 12/13/2016 7:43:42 PM
^^^^ Well, then, I guess fisting is right out. :(
 imanorangetiger
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 36
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Posted: 12/14/2016 9:49:10 AM
If you're the first after a dry spell, you're unlikely to be the last. Practice more like.
 pfif
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 37
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Posted: 12/23/2016 10:24:53 PM
Sex is communication.

The things we said to each other -- those were what mattered.
The stuff that we knew, without using English to learn them,
thrilled us.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 38
Being the last after a long wet spell
Posted: 12/25/2016 4:53:38 AM
The shags near the end get a very diluted experience.

I try to not be at the end...
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 39
Why did the condom fly across the room? It came off
Posted: 12/25/2016 11:19:15 AM
wait, maybe this is all about premature ejaculation? He was hard going in, so it was easy, but he felt like it hasn't felt in a long time, so he came too easily and thus it was not hard nor long for a long time?

Those of us who've been lonely too long need to hear a lot more details. Then we'll grasp the situation and work something out. Hopefully the solution will be within reach.
 GreatGal1977
Joined: 8/25/2016
Msg: 40
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 1/23/2017 12:13:31 PM
Hate to ask, but did the mystery "issue" got resolved?
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 41
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 1/24/2017 7:44:10 AM
Everybody knows men peak at age 19, and go downhill from there - that's biology 101. Try Viagra.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 42
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 1/24/2017 7:59:16 AM
If the length of time since the last sex partner is important to people, why not just put in your profile: "Looking for someone who has recently had sex. If you haven't had it in a while, we're not a match"?
 therowboat
Joined: 12/22/2016
Msg: 43
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 1/25/2017 8:43:32 AM
No way. History.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 44
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Posted: 1/25/2017 6:05:21 PM

If the length of time since the last sex partner is important to people, why not just put in your profile: "Looking for someone who has recently had sex. If you haven't had it in a while, we're not a match"?

I'm sure that girl would get some hungry writers stuffing her mailbox full. And I'm sure she'd get offers to show her video evidence of him porking others, to verify her request.

"Wanted: Men who are currently sexually active, but not TOO sexually active"
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 45
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 1/27/2017 2:28:04 PM
"Wanted: Men who are currently sexually active, but not TOO sexually active"

Or, men who have been done by some, but not by all.

still, a guy who is active, but not active enough, isn't there a word to describe that?

oh yes...

married

:)
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 46
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Posted: 1/27/2017 3:47:16 PM
whatever peak means at 19. Most men become more sexperienced as they get older and are better lovers. It is not all about just wham bang, thanks ma'am...
 superchillie
Joined: 7/21/2015
Msg: 47
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 1/30/2017 3:47:51 AM
Unless he's just not into you physically, if you really like him or love him, try just giving it time, no pressure.
Not that l'm saying your pressuring but sometimes a guy just feels pressured and this can really upset the apple cart but it's only temporary .
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 48
Being the first after a long dry spell
Posted: 2/2/2017 9:11:36 AM

but for whatever reason(s) penetrative sex was an issue.


Anal or oral?
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