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 NewYorker58
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It's terrible that they feel so used as they're trying to use women

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 mrod3041
Joined: 1/11/2014
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Posted: 12/22/2017 7:12:04 AM
Merry Christmas everyone!!!!!

:)
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 12/22/2017 1:50:51 PM

how could a man know for sure it was about a woman wanting a meal and it wasn't about his personality?

Sometimes he can't, sure. But sometimes he can to a good degree of accuracy. But it can be both wanting a freebie Out of lacking attraction in looks and/or persona. But when motivated by being taken out & paid for and filling a bit of a void of feeling Liked lately -- I think it's more about his (lack of) Sexual/Physical Attraction, not the personality part. And many times gals will say it's the persona, when really -- he had the physical attraction to Consider, but he'd need to Seem to have the persona of a dream-boat to truly Like him (which can't be accurately assessed on A date anyway) -- "So, yeah, it was just his persona. Didn't click." :)
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 279
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Posted: 12/22/2017 4:30:50 PM
where guys get the idea women are out for free dinners:

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/video/woman-dates-free-dinner-match-15112192
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 12/22/2017 4:59:51 PM

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/video/woman-dates-free-dinner-match-15112192

Oh my gawd, just saw that. The craziness that this "woman" thinks it's OK. That she was being "traditional" getting 4-5 dinners A WEEK out of guys from Match, and that NY is expensive... and in her spreadsheet of keeping track of these guys, since she wasn't keeping track of the bill amt -- she's not using men for $. LOL. F-ing crazy that anyone would see her POV as legit.
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 12/22/2017 5:31:48 PM
She's a jerk. She wanted her 15 mins of fame. She looked like she was lying about all the dinners she had. How did they find her? Now she has to worry if men spit on her in the street, which she deserves. She really didn't save the figure stated, $1,200 I think it was. My food bill can't be more than $150 a month. I'm not really a meat eater, so that keeps it down, but if I did eat meat, I'll slap on another fifty bucks, so $200 a month.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 282
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Posted: 12/22/2017 5:47:39 PM

Merry Christmas everyone!!!!!

:)

Thank you, mrod Merry Christmas to you...................and to all my fellow Forumites
 saintclara
Joined: 5/30/2017
Msg: 283
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Posted: 12/22/2017 6:21:15 PM
where guys get the idea women are out for free dinners:

Yes Well I could find articles where men rape or murder women so should we get by that the idea all men are murdering rapists ! See dudes don't even have any logic to them bashing the opposite sex which I dislike because we are all human beings:)
 saintclara
Joined: 5/30/2017
Msg: 284
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Posted: 12/22/2017 6:30:18 PM
You know now I'm reading all these articles I'm scared to leave my house! At least the most a dude is going to get is maybe a few quid cheated out of him for a Starbucks . We on other hand have to worry we get home alive and not on news found in a dumpster with our throats slit! Next message I get on POF will be met with a long pause is it worth the risk to my life ?
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 12/22/2017 6:44:28 PM

She's a jerk. She wanted her 15 mins of fame.

I agree.

She looked like she was lying about all the dinners she had. How did they find her?

She was on Match.com. She's pretty cute, living in downtown NY. So that # may be exaggerated, yes -- but it is possible (thus, if lying, a believable one).

She really didn't save the figure stated, $1,200 I think it was.

Well, to be fair, she didn't drum it up -- one article going WTF on her assumed that. They weren't all McDonalds shops. Some were Really Expensive. When you're using guys for dinners, sure, they won't all be expensive ones -- but many at hoytie-toytie places will be (like $200 bottle of champaign was one thing).

4.5 dinners a week, with 4.3333 weeks out of a month = 19.5 dinners a month. That'd be $61.54 a pop. Or, basically around $120 a date overall for both parties. Which, when including drinks (probably not too many 2.5 of 4.5 per week; but still), it's not too outlandish, considering it's downtown NY and an affinity for Fancy places with guys with $$ as her target. To be fair, even living in downtown NY, you're not going to spend $60 on food from 6PM-bedtime 4-5 days of the week. However, you also have to consider Fri & Sat night, where she Would want to spend said high amt paid for... whether out with friends, or on a date.

So 44.4% (2 dates out of 4.5 a week) -- are fully what she's "saving". And surely the higher-cost dates, being Fri & Sat evenings. So the other 2.5 days a week, those would be the lower-cost ones, closer to what she Would be paying anyway, if at-home or maybe once going out to eat with gal-pals. So in the end, it Is Saving her $$, and that Was her purpose... with maybe finding a guy to actually Date. Maybe. :)
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
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Posted: 12/22/2017 7:45:09 PM

t was discovered that one victim was a man that had been convicted of child porn.


He was sentenced to jail, not death.
 goldenknight14
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 287
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Posted: 12/22/2017 8:15:33 PM
The forum is about women who eat and leave and you are trying to switch the subject. I'm just curious. Are you one of those women who use a man to get a nice meal? Is this why you are switching the subject?
 goldenknight14
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 288
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Posted: 12/22/2017 10:13:14 PM
The old chew and screw lol. BTW do you know the one nationality of men that women don't like to date? The dutch. In this day and age it sucks to be male. Women now have the best of both worlds. They get to be top executives and the guy still pays on the date even if the guy works at McDonald's.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 12/22/2017 11:16:25 PM
Seki, there's a good chance men viewing child porn sexually assault children. I know of one that had child porn and made himself a coach on kiddy baseball teams. Then, of course, we all know Jared Fogel, the spokesperson for Subway. I think most people would want to see them locked up for Life or Dead.

Golden, boo hoo, lol. Yeah, life is better for women. They're so lucky they get to work along with still cleaning the house, doing the cooking and caring for the kids, which should all be mutual responsibilities in a marriage. Why are you piping up anyway? Did you take someone out for an expensive meal, and then the woman didn't want to see you anymore? If a man wants to make the first date a pricey dinner, that is his free choice to do that.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 290
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Posted: 12/23/2017 1:25:43 AM
Gawd, you’re so full of shit
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Posted: 12/23/2017 2:08:37 AM

Gawd, you’re so full of shit

Yesterday I was but today I did a cleanse.
We are all full of shit.
BCC is back- your name changes remind me
of Sybil (multiple personalities)
 goldenknight14
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 292
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Posted: 12/23/2017 6:42:17 AM
Newyorker58. You are asking me why I'm piping. Why are you trolling? I'll bet you have never paid for a date in your life. I would be surprised if you have even gone Dutch on a date. And here you are making slick comments being a cyber bully. There is no such a thing as mutual responsibilities. It's entitled twats like you that are the reason why pof is a joke.
 from site to sight
Joined: 11/30/2007
Msg: 293
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Posted: 12/23/2017 8:10:39 AM
This thread reminds me of some of the gold diggers who used to post, who said they would never go on a first meet/date unless it was to a restaurant for a meal where the guy foots the whole bill (and no coupons or discounts allowed. For some reason, women find that insulting). If a guy wanted to do something less expensive for a first meet, he was labelled a cheap SOB, and they wouldn't go out with him. At least they didn't keep their gold digging a secret, so it made it easy for guys to cross them off the list of potentials. I would rather know up front if a woman is just looking for a free ride in life, and is allergic to opening her wallet.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 294
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Posted: 12/23/2017 8:50:25 AM
If some lady has the genes or the gym time to maintain the figure of a 20 yr old, if she has a sparkling personality, and she dates the high rollers who can blow $200 a dinner...then she deserves to keep her standards up. No sense in selling a Ferarri at Toyota prices. BUT, she's going to cast a narrow net, and only get the guys who can live up to her standards. Not as much a problem in NYC or LA or Miami as it may be in EastNowheresville, West Virginia. If she wants to complain she can't find a man with her high standards, well, she's a fool--its up to her to lower her standards to what is realistically found inside her time zone.

on the flip side, some guys could use a polish. but then, if they present themselves on the first date, the way they're going to act on the 21st date, at least they aren't being something they are not. and if a woman finds them good looking, she's going to overlook it anyway :)

many times, we lose the date simply b/c...we ain't compatable.
 ohenryx
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Posted: 12/23/2017 9:55:27 AM

gtomustang
If some lady has the genes or the gym time to maintain the figure of a 20 yr old, if she has a sparkling personality, and she dates the high rollers who can blow $200 a dinner...then she deserves to keep her standards up. No sense in selling a Ferarri at Toyota prices. BUT, she's going to cast a narrow net, and only get the guys who can live up to her standards. Not as much a problem in NYC or LA or Miami as it may be in EastNowheresville, West Virginia. If she wants to complain she can't find a man with her high standards, well, she's a fool--its up to her to lower her standards to what is realistically found inside her time zone.

Thank god (lower case) for such women. Life would be SO dull without them. One of the reasons I keep working is so that I can afford those $200 dinners. And I not only get the pleasure of a beautiful woman across the table, with interesting conversation, I also get to enjoy the meal and the atmosphere. When was the last time you ate chateaubriand in a white tablecloth atmosphere? It is a very nice experience.

I suppose it would get old, like anything else, if you did it every night. But once a month? Very, very nice.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 12/23/2017 10:10:15 AM

who can blow $200 a dinner...


If I spent $200 on dinner, I would hope to get blown...
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 12/23/2017 1:34:13 PM
Golden, to want to demean a woman, and someone you don't know, you must think your mom is a twat. Don't worry about paying for a date, because it won't help you. You need to address your mommy issues first. I don't see that happening, so I suggest you enjoy being alone. FYI, my husband was a grad student, didn't have a penny to his name. I paid for everything, and then when we married, I gladly paid for his clothes, food, vacations and all entertainment. Being a twat waffle, you're not going to get that lucky. Take your mom on a date if you're that lonely. Oh, that's right, she's a twat. I suspect the real twat is your father. He evidently was not a good example of what a man should be.

Mustang, $200 isn't a lot for dinner these days. I think it's too much to spend though with any constancy. A few drinks with dinner, there's your big bill. I don't get an alcoholic drink, I don't want to boost the guy's bill unless he prods me to get a drink.

Henry, when I told my older sister about the $/dating complaints here, she said the same exact thing about the guy also enjoying himself. For men that don't enjoy the journey, I don't know what to say, except find something else to do besides having dinner.

CoolD, stop trying to pay for sex thru food. Women aren't that hungry. Use your sparkling personality
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 12/23/2017 3:12:43 PM

Yesterday I was but today I did a cleanse.
We are all full of shit.

That's why we eat. "Time to make poop!" I always exclaim when Xmas or Thanksgiving dinner is ready. It took me a year to learn to never refer to it that way with a gal, when suggesting going out to dinner. Asking her where she'd like to make poop at tends to kill the mood!

This thread reminds me of some of the gold diggers who used to post, who said they would never go on a first meet/date unless it was to a restaurant for a meal where the guy foots the whole bill (and no coupons or discounts allowed. For some reason, women find that insulting).

That's how many can evolve. The reason it flourishes in forums is that going a more normalized route Logically speaking, makes Clear sense -- even though IRL most of us don't think about it too much and it "is the way it is, just because". Forums are a great arena to make fun of cultural or sub-cultural fallacies, as there always has been some, and there seemingly always will be some.

If a guy wanted to do something less expensive for a first meet, he was labelled a cheap SOB, and they wouldn't go out with him.

To require a 1st date/meet to be wined & dined at a relatively fancy place PLUS thinking he's a cheap SOB if that's not the case? Yeah, strong sign of gold-digger. Entitlement issues + falsely assuming that Is the way IT is, and should be. Thankfully, most women aren't that way of course... and many are ok or actually Like it being more low-key, out of the gates.

If some lady has the genes or the gym time to maintain the figure of a 20 yr old, if she has a sparkling personality, and she dates the high rollers who can blow $200 a dinner...then she deserves to keep her standards up.

Yes and No, as far as "deserving" is concerned. YES, when she has Real Interest in the Guy. NO, if she's not really interested in the guy, but interested in the "experience". The latter at least takes a hit on any potential "sparkling personality", but let's be honest -- sparkling personality isn't required. It's the face & body (looks), and having a par personality.

BUT, she's going to cast a narrow net, and only get the guys who can live up to her standards. Not as much a problem in NYC or LA or Miami as it may be in EastNowheresville, West Virginia.

The only issue is -- is she interested in the Experience, and riding in the wake of a guy who she's Not Really interested in, in-that-way? If so, there's no "deserving" about it. :) It's a clear negative if she's misleading a guy, and just neutral-zone if she's not, maybe like with Henry...

One of the reasons I keep working is so that I can afford those $200 dinners. And I not only get the pleasure of a beautiful woman across the table, with interesting conversation, I also get to enjoy the meal and the atmosphere. When was the last time you ate chateaubriand in a white tablecloth atmosphere? It is a very nice experience.

... where in your case, You also Like the experience. But let's be honest here -- if she was a gal who wasn't UGLY but was the type where eying her at a bar you'd think "Ehhh, not great looking, seems nice, but, I'd pork her if she chased me and I had some drinks," -- would it really be that great of an experience? :)

I've been to fancy-pants places, they're nice atmospheres, but to me, it can only go so far. I don't get spirit-fingers for being in them; doesn't affect how I feel as a person VS that or going to Burger King. And for me, knowing I'm going to be spending $200 on dinner -- when it's just a nice atmosphere that other not-Super-expensive places Also have -- kind of a turn-off. Sure, I'll do things that aren't fiscally worth it -- and avoid making a habit out of it of course -- and that's one of them. You and I are different, but if it's not a beautiful woman, but, some guy you go there with after a baseball game -- I think you'll know my POV better. Hey, still nice place, and (knock on wood) great food -- but no, not worth it.

It's the insert-hot-chick-here that makes it potentially worth it. :) I say potentially because if she's out of my league, it's potentially. It won't be worth it to I or anyone else (except for maybe a rare occasion that can't otherwise be had) to just do that with a beautiful woman where she doesn't truly like me in-that-way and fat chance she would. That "experience", I can't ignore the conceptual elephant in the room, just like I can't ignore her thighs -- she's not really into me. Is doing 6 of these ($1200), worth it where 5 of these out-of-league gals are straight-up just dinner escorts, and the 6th there was a little potential interest on her part, and got some kissing, but, no surprise, fell thru? I certainly don't think so. She was interested in the experience of the place itself, not I. In the same sense as GTO, I can be the temporary guy-friend (except "playing house" on a date), and maybe luck out once in a great while. Expensive way to do it. I mine as well just get the PG-rated (dinner) Escort. :)
 goldenknight14
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 299
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Posted: 12/23/2017 5:30:50 PM
Newyorker58. Don't call my mom or my dad a twat you c**t. your mom is a c**t too. You probably don't even know your daddy so on top of being a c**t your a f**king **stard. Your husband he's a mangina as well. You don't know me nor how I treat women. I come and state facts and you want to cyberbully me. You are just a keyboard warrior with a low self esteem who likes to cyberbully people. You must have been bullied a lot in your life to be doing this crap.
 saintclara
Joined: 5/30/2017
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Posted: 12/23/2017 6:22:13 PM
Scum of the earth^^^ as grandma said tight with money tight with emotions
What's off putting for a date is not the money issue it's fact if they are that petty minded over a simple dinner they will not provide anything emotionally either
They are as much for using a women for sex as they perceive she is doing for a meal :) says bin them fast ,irrelevant bottom of barrel not going to invest selfish creeps:)
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