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 SS4544Spd
Joined: 8/31/2016
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Hey, SS45, how are you??? Guess I'm "busted"... haha.
I meant to say... I mean I meant to clarify... No more for me. Drugs, that is. I am "allergic". Now sex and rock & roll...
Ya, I was suspicious 'bout that. I guess at this point, I'm allergic to drugs, too. Maybe also even sex. Considering the frequency now in which I enjoy either of those..um..pursuits......I'd never totally rule out a "relapse" back into either, though, lol.

At least I still have Rock n Roll. I'll give that up when I'm dead. What's that sayingn gun owners like?..."They can take my gun away when they pry my cold dead fingers from around it ..?" I say the same thing about my Rock and Roll... "They can take away my Rock and Roll when they pry my cold deaf ears away........." For sex, would it be "They can take my sex life away when they pry my cold dead d*ck from...??" Maybe there's hope then, because mine is not dead nor cold. But I digress.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 202
What is Creepy?
Posted: 4/4/2017 5:05:26 PM
Maybe she was after a body part GTO
Kidney, etc
Take the hand off the dik SS4
R and R.. like?

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 HawkingJr
Joined: 4/16/2007
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What is Creepy?
Posted: 4/6/2017 6:59:41 AM
Creepy is definitely about attractiveness to me. An extremely attractive woman could be eating raw human baby livers in front of me, and I still wouldn’t find that creepy enough not to date her. Whereas a physically repulsive woman could be feeding the homeless while healing puppies, and she’d still creep me out. I can’t think of a single thing an attractive woman has ever done to me to make me feel she was “creepy” – that’s more a female concept anyway, because “creepy” suggests having a fearful reaction, and most of us men rarely have a fearful reaction to what women we don’t know might do to us. (Now “crazy” is another story, since I pretty much automatically assume any attractive woman that’s acting like she is attracted to me must be crazy, or plotting something devious.) If a woman started stalking me, my reaction would depend entirely on what she looked like, but most women consider stalking to be an unattractive personality quirk in a man and an otherwise physically attractive guy would most likely (but not always) get moved into the “unattractive” category for that behavior. That said, I’m no fan of clingy or jealous women, but those things don’t come into play until you’re already in a relationship, and most people who are categorizing a behavior as “creepy” only do so with people they don’t know at all or don’t know very well.

I have no doubt most women think I’m creepy. When you’re as unattractive/unusual-looking and as quiet as I am, that’s just the starting point, and you have to work really hard (or luck out) to get moved out of the “creepy” category. One of my best friends was creeped out by me when she met me, but somehow we eventually became so close that we travel together and share hotel rooms. (I actually don’t know how that happened – that is, how I got out of her “creep zone” at all and to that extent. I don’t even remember making any effort to do so – I just gave up trying to be friendly with her, and less than a year later, I suddenly realized we were close friends! She’s also never been able to explain what I did to make her decide I was no longer creepy.) Usually when I meet a new woman these days, I’m with a woman since most of my closest friends are female, so even though those new women’s creep-dar is probably going off like car alarms after an earthquake, they probably feel I’ve been properly “vetted” and feel more at ease with me than they normally would, but if I meet a woman on my own, I can see the “oh my god, it’s a creep” look in their eyes almost immediately, and it’s without much question that nearly all the women I contact on OLD immediately get the shivers when they see my pictures and profile info, and that’s impossible to overcome because I don’t have a year of working with them to prove that my personality doesn’t match my looks, like I did with that friend I previously mentioned.
 Sweet_Danimal
Joined: 10/31/2015
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What is Creepy?
Posted: 4/6/2017 10:15:29 AM
Psychology Today did a study in 2015 -
Humans constantly react to all kinds of unknown stimuli as a threat, because if we didn't, and they WERE a threat, we'd be in a bad situation. What makes things 'Creepy' is the threats are ambiguous - we can't specify exactly what or where the threat is coming from. It's kind of like a dark alley is 'creepy' because we don't know what could pop out of the shadows, whereas flinching when a cat jumps out and crosses our path is a simple threat reaction that is immediately identified.

Here's what they concluded:
1) Perceived creepy people are more likely to be males than females.
2) Females are more likely to perceive sexual threat from creepy people.
3) Occupations do differ in level of perceived creepiness. Clowns, taxidermists, sex-shop owners, and funeral directors were at the top of the list.
4) Unpredictability is an important component of perceived creepiness.
5) A variety of non-normative physical characteristics and nonverbal behaviors contribute to perceptions of creepiness.
6) Participants did not believe that most creepy people realize they are creepy, nor did they believe that creepy people necessarily have bad intentions. However, they also believed that creepy people could not change.
7) The most frequently mentioned creepy hobbies involved collecting things, such as dolls, insects, or body parts such as teeth. Bones or fingernails were considered especially creepy; the second most frequently mentioned creepy hobby involved some variation of "watching," such as taking pictures of people, watching children, pornography, and even bird watching.

The results are consistent with the idea that creepiness is a response to the ambiguity of threat. Non-normative non-verbal and emotional behaviors, unusual physical characteristics and hobbies, or suspect occupations set off our “creepiness detector."

The part that stinks up our chances in online dating is part of #6 - We believe creepy people could not change.
Often those online dating conclusions of 'creepiness' are not drawn from actual contact or any sort of complete conversation. At best, it's a reaction to a handful of text messages and a few photos. We don't know these people in real life, and yet we assume we do. It's kind of like guessing the weight and body shape and even the profession of someone from little more than a photograph of their shoe. But we've trained ourselves to be paranoid to the point where we no longer allow anything past that first impression to take hold - and we don't let go of it. After saying 'No' ten thousand times, and getting let down the maybe ten times we said, "Yes" - the only thing that's improved over time is our avoidance of anything real.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 205
What is Creepy?
Posted: 4/6/2017 2:41:51 PM
I don;t know if Lebonese Laila with the big brown...eyes in school was hoping to get any body part of me, but it was irritating that I wanted to admire her in peace (she developed early, and boy I would have liked a peace) and she kept catching me. Its easier to be creepy when people don't notice :)

I'll say there is generally creepy behavior--like the lonely dude who has to turn every topic back to sex. and I think I agree with Danny, if you think someone has power over you (physical or otherwise, I had a female body sneak up behind me, grab my hips and grind against my ass. I tightened up out of instinct, and she whispered in my ear "its ok", which REALLY was creepy), you feel threatened. Creepy is a feeling of unrest. But, also, having said that, Laila with the large bossom staring at me wasn't creepy, but if there had been a Larry doing it and licking his lips, it would be creepy.

the problem for us guys who haven't got it in a while, we tend to look at a woman to see if she'll be "The solution". we may even undress her with her eyes to wonder if she'll have a hidden downfall. At the very least, if we look like we're putting the burden on her to be our "release" from a dry spell, I can understand why she would find that creepy. unfortunately we guys might get so focused on what we desire biologically, we don't check ourselves.
 Laidbackguy1964
Joined: 4/20/2017
Msg: 206
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Posted: 6/17/2017 9:39:36 PM
Sometimes A guy might approach a woman and show interest in her and be labelled a creep, just because she's not interested in him and she might even tell other women, he is a creep...The moment a woman tells other women a guy is a creep, is the moment the guys reputation is destroyed...why not just say she's not interested and good luck with your search?...why the need to destroy an innocent man? Double standards exist and women never get labelled creeps, regardless of how creepy they might act, it just don't happen...

I always think of a creep as someone, who hides in the bushes and stalks people, or someone who does, very odd things that many would never do, or has very odd hobbies or goes out at night dressed up like a ghost or something really weird...are goths creeps? Maybe they could be defined as creeps, because they are not dressed, like most people dress and wear gloomy makeup? I never envisioned a person approaching, another and asking them out on a date as being a creep, but some women do? how can someone define a guy to be that way, by just approaching her and showing interest? It make's no sense at all and displays the woman, has no idea what a creep is and has serious unresolved issues

OMG society promotes the word creep, as a guy doing nothing wrong at all and just showing interest in a woman...WTF...I have never, ever heard the words...she's a creep and never seen a woman get that reputation, unlike men can get...Too many double standards exist in society and it's wrong
 Maria11418
Joined: 3/14/2017
Msg: 207
What is Creepy?
Posted: 6/17/2017 11:09:41 PM
I don't use the term. I'm not a native English speaker and this is one of the terms I don't completely understand (while I may sort of get the big picture) so I don't use it. A female bartender at a spot I go to, complained to me, she called an older customer a creep for staring at her legs. She wore tight short shorts, tattooed all over, and she has nice legs. "I only wear shorts cuz it's so hot in here!!!" So he's a creep, somebody else may very well be calling her a slut, both have a solid defense (he's only looking at what's clearly intended to be looked at, she feels too hot) and overall I don't use terms like this too much.
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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What is Creepy?
Posted: 6/18/2017 10:25:47 AM
Creepy is the Cannibal Cop having a profile on match.com.
 Laidbackguy1964
Joined: 4/20/2017
Msg: 209
What is Creepy?
Posted: 6/18/2017 12:30:41 PM
Gold diggers are creepy too...keep your wallets safe guys and avoid
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 210
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Posted: 6/18/2017 12:36:54 PM
Creepy is a woman expecting small expenditures from the men she dates.
 benartflick
Joined: 3/8/2012
Msg: 211
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Posted: 6/18/2017 2:08:50 PM
Creepy is a feeling ya might get after hearing your new bride ask, "Can my mom join us in our honeymoon suite?" or hearing your new hillbilly boss say, "Ya gotta purty mouth, boy."
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 6/18/2017 7:13:27 PM
I want to know how many women are clamouring for your attention with that profile Laidbackguy??
As for giving advice to men about how they spend their money, you just take care of your own..... It sounds like you have been taken for a ride and didnt get what you expected with the money you spent... lol!
 NoxzemaWA
Joined: 2/19/2017
Msg: 213
What is Creepy?
Posted: 6/18/2017 8:34:55 PM
Funny that this thread was bumped. There is a man at my job who is very flamboyant and effeminate but claims he is straight. He flirts with all the female colleagues, shakes his butt in the break room, rubs their palms with his thumb, the smalls of their backs, pretends that he is going to kiss them, etc but he's not seen as a potential perpetrator because he acts so....gay. I've known a few gay men who were very flirty with everyone and they weren't seen as creepy. If my co-worker was obviously straight and acting the same way, he'd be a walking HR case or just fired.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/18/2017 9:47:34 PM

Funny that this thread was bumped. There is a man at my job who is very flamboyant and effeminate but claims he is straight. He flirts with all the female colleagues, shakes his butt in the break room, rubs their palms with his thumb, the smalls of their backs, pretends that he is going to kiss them, etc but he's not seen as a potential perpetrator because he acts so....gay. I've known a few gay men who were very flirty with everyone and they weren't seen as creepy. If my co-worker was obviously straight and acting the same way, he'd be a walking HR case or just fired.

He could be Bi and/or struggling with his sexuality, not really knowing what truly straight Really means (and/or not coming to terms on how he really is/feels). Of course, if he is straight-up straight and that's his "tactic" -- I know if I was playing that card at a workplace, I'd be like "Okay, okay girls. Yeah, maybe I am... gay. I Want to be straight. Can anyone help me out? I think it'll take going to a bar and us getting a little tipsy as I'll need all the help I can get. Oh, and speaking of which, I think it's going to take two of you at the same time. It's going to be a challenge, but I'm willing to do it! Who's with me??" :)
 IBup4it
Joined: 6/15/2017
Msg: 215
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Posted: 6/19/2017 6:32:18 AM
One of them there scary people who create multiple profiles to talk to you, cause you keep blocking them.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 216
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Posted: 6/19/2017 3:34:54 PM
some people's default body language is flirty. I remember a female coworker of mine, happily married, sitting on another fellow's lap during the office Christmas party, as his wife sat next to them. I think of celebrities like Charo (she's still out there and hot, at least at a distance standing on a stage :) ) who's whole schtick is to be sexual. some people are just friendly to everyone, and others interact by being..."Friendly". I used to be a "Tap the shoulder" type. but I didn't ask them out, so I guess my boundaries were clear.

I still say, "Creepy" is in the eye of the beholder. which is a pity b/c its hard to make a rule about that, except to deny human contact between any employees, and since we spend 8+ hours with these people, our human nature makes us want to bond. "Office husbands/wives", and all that.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 6/19/2017 3:49:53 PM
He sounds bi or gay, maybe just trying to have fun at work. Still, can't touch a woman like that in the workplace. If they're okay with it, then that's okay, but he's one office door away from being called into HR, LOL!!!!
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 218
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Posted: 6/20/2017 5:10:54 AM
NY - still can't as I am in Canada. Just wanted to send you a Lilith pix.
I don't care if someone's as gay as pink ink but rubbing palms with his thumb? Nope, He'd be explaining that to HR
 NoxzemaWA
Joined: 2/19/2017
Msg: 219
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Posted: 6/20/2017 9:11:50 AM

He sounds bi or gay, maybe just trying to have fun at work. Still, can't touch a woman like that in the workplace. If they're okay with it, then that's okay, but he's one office door away from being called into HR, LOL!!!!


Haha, funny story. I think he's bi. There is a new, very hot 6'4" guy who works in my dept and the dude asks me about him. Ex: "When is he working again?", "Have you seen him?" The straight gay guy asked me for my number a few days ago and then we exchanged a few benign texts ("What are you up to?", "I'm eating dinner") Yesterday he asked me for nudes. I am a fag hag, fruit fly, etc so I'm accustomed to gay men being flirty and touchy but the nudes things took me for a loop.

And no, I'm not sending him any because a) he's a co-worker and b) I'm not attracted to him at all.
 SLAFFA
Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 220
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Posted: 6/20/2017 10:01:01 AM
"Creepy"? No, but perplexing or mysterious... yes. And since there is no existing thread for either...

Why on earth do so many women list their body type as PNTS when they often have at least one pic (if not 8 or even 16) when all pics clearly show nothing "worse" than average?

The most likely answer (I am just guessing) is that either they are currently heavier than any of their pics show and/or they are not currently "happy" with their body.

???

This^^^ in all likelihood translates into sex with their partner will be at the very BOTTOM of their priority list because of their "poor" self image.

???

I cannot ask a Q as to this mystery but anyone feel free.
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
Msg: 221
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Posted: 6/20/2017 10:07:15 AM
I guess daytime sex wouldn't appeal to those types :(
 spot4username
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Posted: 6/20/2017 10:17:39 AM

Why on earth do so many women list their body type as PNTS when they often have at least one pic (if not 8 or even 16) when all pics clearly show nothing "worse" than average?

The most likely answer (I am just guessing) is that either they are currently heavier than any of their pics show and/or they are not currently "happy" with their body.

???

This^^^ in all likelihood translates into sex with their partner will be at the very BOTTOM of their priority list because of their "poor" self image.

???

I cannot ask a Q as to this mystery but anyone feel free.p

When I had a "for dating" profile I had the following in the About Me. I also made sure to put a new photo up every month. Of course there is no need for that stuff now. I know that doesn't answer your question for everyone but it is my personal take on it. Others may feel the same.

***I did not choose a body type because I find people's opinions in reference to the choices to be all over the place on here. My stats are correct (5'2" & 130 lbs +/- 5) and my photos are all dated. You can decide for yourself if I am too fat or not fat enough or too short or if my hair is too long or too short, etc. ***
 IBup4it
Joined: 6/15/2017
Msg: 223
What is Creepy?
Posted: 6/20/2017 10:20:47 AM

Funny that this thread was bumped. There is a man at my job who is very flamboyant and effeminate but claims he is straight. He flirts with all the female colleagues, shakes his butt in the break room, rubs their palms with his thumb, the smalls of their backs, pretends that he is going to kiss them, etc but he's not seen as a potential perpetrator because he acts so....gay. I've known a few gay men who were very flirty with everyone and they weren't seen as creepy. If my co-worker was obviously straight and acting the same way, he'd be a walking HR case or just fired.


So because the guy is what you believe to be gay he hasn't made a trip to the HR? Wow I heard of stupid stereotyping but that takes the cake, you do know guys can be feminine and have female characteristics and not be gay right? Any act that is considered sexual harassment or atleast a warning should be reported to HR regardless of your own bias thinking. Nice little confession by a straight guy who is feminine just so you know that guy who you think is "gay" really might be into women.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/james-hunt/2015/05/confessions-of-a-feminine-straight-guy/
 NoxzemaWA
Joined: 2/19/2017
Msg: 224
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Posted: 6/20/2017 10:38:53 AM

So because the guy is what you believe to be gay he hasn't made a trip to the HR? Wow I heard of stupid stereotyping but that takes the cake, you do know guys can be feminine and have female characteristics and not be gay right? Any act that is considered sexual harassment or atleast a warning should be reported to HR regardless of your own bias thinking. Nice little confession by a straight guy who is feminine just so you know that guy who you think is "gay" really might be into women.


Yes, if he wasn't so flamboyant and gay-acting and still touching women, he would've been gone a long time ago. It relates to my original point of this thread that stated certain people can get away certain behavior while others will be plastered as a "creep" for doing the same thing. There's more to the story, as I've told a few posts ago. He's awfully curious about another man at the office.

Before you accuse me of "stupid stereotyping" read the entire story.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 225
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Posted: 6/20/2017 12:34:00 PM
Nox - if he wasn't a co worker I'd say send him nudes.. of dogs and cats without collars, etc.
I'm curious about Mr 6 4" :/
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