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 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 26
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"Heck no! I couldn't wait that long and if I feel so strongly as to want to marry the guy I sure as heck want to rip his clothes off as often as possible and as soon as possible!

It would drive me insane being in close proximity to someone I care about and love and not be able to show it in that way. I would be a walking hormone."



^^^^^

Ditto X a zillion - but if I said it that would make me a typical horndog male
 RenissanceMan68
Joined: 12/3/2016
Msg: 27
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/28/2017 1:37:30 PM
6jellybeans
One of my long time close friends just got engaged. Her fiance has been accepted into the fold lol, and has since become another close friend. They recently became born again Christians. As a result, my now bro... decides they must abstain til they were married! They were living common law together for quite some time, and got engaged AFTER he made that decision. She HATES IT! Theyve has to sleep in separate rooms to keep from breaking their newly made vows of celibacy.

I dunno, but it can be done, as they are showing...and in some ways its made their relationship exciting she said...she cant WAIT to get married now. Oh snap! I gotta send the RSVP thing back!
Im telling you... women... are... glue!
 RenissanceMan68
Joined: 12/3/2016
Msg: 28
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/28/2017 1:41:53 PM
BCC you could always aspire to be beyond the typical horndog guy and stand out from the rest...
of its worth it and or necessary...
if not... the only opinion that will matter...will be hers. If she thinks youre being a horndog, you must be the first guy shes dealt with...hahaha a REAL virgin.

Theres a question, kinda a fu©ked up one, considering our ages, but would you date a virgin?
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 29
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/28/2017 1:50:43 PM
"BCC you could always aspire to be beyond the typical horndog guy and stand out from the rest..."


Where ? Here on this Forum or out in the real world ?

Here, I don't give a flying fack, but you already figured that out.

In the real world , I try to walk the delicate balance of knowing when to be a gentleman and when she wants me to flirt .


"Theres a question, kinda a fu©ked up one, considering our ages,"


I don't know about you, but I try not to think about my age whenever possible !

" but would you date a virgin?"


I'd rather not - experience is a GOOD thing .

But , if a woman who made my heart stop engaged me in convo and at some point confessed she was a virgin.... I highly doubt that I would....BOLT , haha
 RenissanceMan68
Joined: 12/3/2016
Msg: 30
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/28/2017 2:20:18 PM
Out in the real world, I mean. You could don hats or plays devils advocate here... doesnt reflect on how youd conduct yourself in real life.
Even if you were to aspire to not be a 'typical male horndog', why should you? Id think itd be unfair to label you or anyone that IF you werent 'willing to wait'. Not wanting to wait, doesnt make you a horn dog. Or, you CAN choose to NOT be ANYTHING typical, and just eliminate sex as a deciding factor. That happens too, for various reasons...

lol age is a number, but if Im dating within my age group and a womans a virgin?
I know shes no southern redneck with family!
Ok ok bad joke.
Naw, I dont think thats a common enough unicorn for me to expect my question to be taken seriously lol

But if you DID meet a woman like that? Make sure you surround her with boobytraps so that SHE doesnt BOLT and get away!!
Now THAT would be funny to see!
Literally!
 Nestaron
Joined: 3/22/2016
Msg: 31
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/28/2017 6:06:24 PM

Heck no! I couldn't wait that long and if I feel so strongly as to want to marry the guy I sure as heck want to rip his clothes off as often as possible and as soon as possible!


Oh could have fun with that ... not tonight I not feeling well, how about a sandwich. Tea do you like tea? But I am not quite ready she be like your ready now mister (Police Academy teenage boys dream) Just to hear a women say it.

I am a walking hormone. I want a lady like that where do I find one. Then try to make her wait 3 months just to see her squirm. I am such an ass.

But on another note I am 43 so it's still possible for me to find a 34 yr old virgin so yes I respect her enough to wait if I find her attractive, and respectful to my wishes.
 Nestaron
Joined: 3/22/2016
Msg: 32
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/28/2017 6:11:41 PM
I never actually thought about her feelings back then, but when I was a teen I made this lady wait 9 months for sex, and she had experience long before me. But now Jelly has me wondering if that is how she felt, each time she went home with no nookie and didn't say anything. :) I see how much of an ass I really was doing that too her.
 6jellybeans
Joined: 7/1/2015
Msg: 33
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/30/2017 2:43:58 PM
If a guy is making me wait for sex I assume it must be for one of a few reasons. The two main ones that pop into my head.

1. He doesn't fancy me
2. He has a "problem" (Erectile dysfunction or STD) that he is too embarrassed to talk about.

I have never known a guy hold back. Never. If he did he would be looking at my back as I walked away as that really isn't my style. I don't with hold physical contact and affection so I am damned if I am going to accept that sort of behaviour from a partner. It would be like dating one of those people who with hold affection as a punishment or something. Get a grip! Just get the argument over and done with and resolved and get on with it.

9 months dating with no sex? Sod that. It wouldn't have lasted that long with me.
 Nestaron
Joined: 3/22/2016
Msg: 34
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/30/2017 4:08:47 PM
But you dont understand the reasoning and because of that misinterpret based on lack of understanding the situation. Guy says he is waiting for marriage because he is not ready to reveal certain things about who he is thinking you would.

A.) Never believe him, and find it unthinkable and he is lying.
B.) Decide not to wait around to find out if he could ever develop the sexual desire to you, that you do him.
C.) Regardless of how understanding and caring a women might be, or think she is, she will not wait for a man's body to say let's do it.
It's not on her list of things that are acceptable behaviour.

I have no problems discussing myself with people when asked or occasion calls for it. It's women's actions that bother me.

See porn does nothing for me it's a joke that serves no purpose whatsoever. If that is put on anywhere I get up and leave.
Dirty magazines might be good to read if they have something, otherwise I could to start a fire with them, and think of them as pointless ad. Never actually owned or looked at one so I dont know what's in them.
Strippers same as porn maybe their dances might be something, but I have never had a desire to return to see one, after my first visit to see them made me vomit and I was 26 I rather not go back.

All three I find revolting and degrading to women, and men who are in that industry,but it's their job and people pay billions to the sex industry so my feelings about it are countered with the benefits to society it provides. Might not like it but someone pays their bills with it and to me it's a job I never judge people by where they work.

Lastly I am attracted to and get involved sexually with women who I am emotionally connected not within my control. If a women decides to wait for me I cannot guarantee if it will ever happen hence my biggest barrier. I cant control length of time it takes I had one night stands and it take months it's how she makes me feel. Women would think I am either holding sex, as punishment or their not attractive enough, and it's actually their attitude to the situation that makes it worse.
 GoodLord1
Joined: 2/21/2017
Msg: 35
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/31/2017 5:27:27 AM
Married 50 years
  
After being married for 50 years, I took a careful look at my wife one day and said, "Fifty years ago we had a cheap house, a junk car, slept on a sofa-bed and watched a 10-inch black and white TV. But hey I got to sleep every night with a hot 23-year-old girl.
 
Now ... I have a $750,000 home, a $45,000 car, a nice big bed and a large screen TV, but I'm sleeping with a 73-year-old woman. So I said to my wife "it seems to me that you're not holding up your side of things."
 
My wife is a very reasonable woman. She told me to go out and find a hot 23-year-old girl and she would make sure that I would once again be living in a cheap house, driving a junk car, sleeping on a sofa bed and watching a 10-inch black and white TV.
 
Aren't older women great?
They really know how to solve an old guy's problems!
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 36
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Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 3/31/2017 3:42:12 PM
The secret is, youth has the energy to deal with BS, and if the parents are still paying the bills, youth also has the time for the drama. When you get old, you just cut to the chase :)
 NYCKOSI
Joined: 4/24/2015
Msg: 37
f a man needs sex to 'be around' with a woman, hes around that woman for all the wrong reasons. You
Posted: 4/1/2017 12:44:15 AM
If you gona wine and dine her every time you see her and all you get is a thank you, then there is a problem.
 Seki1949
Joined: 9/4/2013
Msg: 38
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Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 4/1/2017 5:57:32 PM

None of this, "Well I'm technically still a virgin because my hymen is still intact ", bull crap)


Unfortunately my hymen is a shambles.
 Nezz123
Joined: 9/6/2011
Msg: 39
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Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 4/1/2017 8:49:30 PM
Yup. That's me.
 Nestaron
Joined: 3/22/2016
Msg: 40
Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 4/2/2017 5:17:09 AM
Wait wait here wait a second does it mean any type of sexual activity like oral? Hold the phone this better not include that! Can I reverse my answer if it does. I should have asked what type of sex first we talking penetration kind, or any kind?
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 4/3/2017 4:15:28 PM

Would you date someone knowing they will not have sex with you?

No, almost all people won't. Most people who try to do that (usually not enthusiastically mutually wanted to refrain at all times) don't succeed, and there can become emotional issues with it. Once over 21 or so and in a serious relationship, you're not only going against basic normal nature, you're also going against even what most socially conservative people end up doing. So it's pretty fringe.

Say I'm 25 and I'm dating a younger gal at 23. If we're somehow otherwise compatible, and I'd be more than confident that after 3-9 months of being an item sex will end up being had -- and sure, with a great gal, there'd be no rush for straight-up porking... but my issue would be the drama held surrounding it all. Even at being 25. Fast forward about a decade -- yeah, no way. 30+ and they're still a virgin and saying they want to wait until marriage -- you can pretty much bank that it'll be pretty much that... and you realize that there is some issue as to why they haven't. I certainly would not with some gal I mingled with and got her #. Nor would I advise that for even a socially conservative guy (or gal) to follow thru/chase them either.
 RefinedRibbon
Joined: 10/6/2011
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Would you date someone who was waiting for marriage?
Posted: 4/24/2017 2:16:02 PM
Well I will just say this the hole virgin thing I can understand. But how its going to be after. I talked about this with my guy friends before I have friend that married. Its best to test before you get Married as long as you both are the same. Why do I say this because I have friend that been married 10 wife sleep in another room does not give him anything sexually. Its a two way street is she going to be a wife that going to please not just say o it hurts. Men want passion just as women but know one wants to deal with being stuck after marriage is she going to be sexual enough in the bedroom or make you do it all. You should find your kinks wants needs and desires and the women should as well. Sleeping around you don't need to do you find someone that the same that great just use safe sex get tested. As long you both dated each other for a long time you work out that great. Test it before you marry it.
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