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 norwegianguy456
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I eventually filed for divorce but only because I met another woman in our bedroom ...

Yeah, that's how mine ended:

Me: Listen, ummm, we need to get a divorce...
Wife: I know it's been tough lately, but... but why, just like that?
Me: Because I met another woman. In our bedroom, too. She's pretty cool.
Wife: Oh, you son-of-a...!

20 years later after he said she "dumped him," I tried it with the same guy AGAIN ... do you believe it? ... I look in the mirror but can't see where "STUPID" must be written on my forehead ...

OH, okay, my misunderstanding. You found HIM with another gal in your bedroom. ;)

In all seriousness... Wow. That's crazy that you took him back after she dumped him, even 20 years later. Why? I think it's because you got dumped, that's why. The person Doing the dumping, isn't (necessarily) the one who files for divorce, officially breaks things off, or yells "It's Over!". Many times, THEY were the ones Actually being dumped underneath it all, and their declaration of an official break-off is their only choice. It's human nature under many circumstances to want who rejects us in their attraction/like about us.
 hey_suze
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/2/2018 1:34:34 PM
Everything is hard, but loosing respect for someone you loved for a long time, that hurts.
 norwegianguy456
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/2/2018 2:29:42 PM

Everything is hard

If he's always hard, no need for a divorce! ;)

, but loosing respect for someone you loved for a long time, that hurts.

In all seriousness, tho... I think when you Truly lose respect for that other person who hurt you, it makes moving on easier. It's something a lot of people Can't *really* do, fully, hence, it becomes really hard to get over them.

If you Truly do lose respect for that significant other who hurt you, you realize they're not a good catch. The Big hurt is when we still think of them as a catch in which we were not "good enough" for, underneath it all. We don't realize this most of the time. We can logically say "Yeah, they're not worthy of respect anymore," stuff like that, and mean it in one way, but underneath it all, when really Hurt -- not down, but Hurt by the breaking up -- much of it is losing someone who we wish wanted us, in one way or another. When you Truly don't respect them, ya Don't want them to want you, because you Truly don't want them.
 Platinum_Blonde_Angel
Joined: 1/23/2018
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/3/2018 8:00:23 AM
The lawyers playing games to jack up the bills + all the financial hits was the worst part for me.

A relationship is a relationship regardless of a piece of paper, but draining one's savings...well in today's world, not a good thing for what should be a simple, clean break.
 NewYorker58
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/3/2018 8:57:12 AM
For simple divorces, you can do your own paperwork for about $400. If you don't want to do it, a lawyer may charge about $1,500. So it shouldn't cost much either way.
 Ladyinred0407
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/3/2018 9:44:38 AM

............a lawyer may charge about $1,500. So it shouldn't cost much either way.



LOL, "much" is relative. I love it when one assumes. Actually that is a lie. I am greatly opposed to assumptions. For those of us who had children involved during a divorce, NOTHING is simple, and $1,500 bucks was .......................and is ............a LOT of money!
 fullmoonguy2
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/3/2018 10:02:39 AM

only because I met another woman in our bedroom ...



20 years later after he said she "dumped him," I tried it with the same guy AGAIN



... do you believe it?


Yes.
the word "enabler" comes to mind.


... I look in the mirror but can't see where "STUPID" must be written on my forehead ...


Maybe you need to look at it under one of those ultraviolet lamps.


and $1,500 bucks was .......................and is ............a LOT of money!


That's 1000 Taco Tuesdays at Del Taco !
 NewYorker58
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/3/2018 10:17:36 AM
Platinum is talking about a simple clean break. Those are the costs for that. Of course if it isn't simple, it's gonna cost more. Kids don't have to make it cost more, only if a couple can't agree. If $1,500 is too much, you can do it yourself. A person can also look for free help with filling out the paperwork, or only hire a lawyer to look over it after you do it. To some extent, hiring a lawyer is a convenience. They can be hired minimally for a consultation.

Fullof💩, that would be 4 years of 1 taco a day. That's a lot of tacos, but still not a lot of money unless you're in a bad place financially when you're divorcing. I may hit up Del Taco today. Cheers🍟
 Platinum_Blonde_Angel
Joined: 1/23/2018
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/3/2018 2:47:39 PM
My 1 & only divorce from #1 was 30K in total

He contested it.
 NewYorker58
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/3/2018 11:42:40 PM
It doesn't take much to get the bill up there, especially when kids are involved, dealing with their legal issues too.
It's still a shame it got run up that high.
 Platinum_Blonde_Angel
Joined: 1/23/2018
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/4/2018 4:22:54 AM
Divorce Lawyers are scammers. They look at income, assets, then stir the pot to jack up the fees as high as possible. Court appearances, blah bla blah.
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/4/2018 6:23:59 AM
I found the hardest part of the divorce was starting over financially, because everything was in both our names,
after, I couldn’t even get a credit card on my own for the longest time.
 NewYorker58
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/4/2018 8:51:02 AM
Platinum, worst feeling in the world to do the financial disclosure that let's the lawyers know what you have. Thankfully, my lawyer wasn't too bad, and my ex's lawyer was into child porn (not a good thing), which he was more preoccupied with than his client.

Hanover, gone is our innocence from the days when everyone combined everything, when that was normal, when we didn't feel the need go protect ourselves from our spouses. That's called co-mingling, which is not a good thing. I think we all know that now. I married young and learned from that, so my 2nd marriage was easy to untangle. We had our own credit cards and bank accounts, and I didn't use his last name. It made life so much easier. I walked away with my 800+ credit score intact.
 norwegianguy456
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/4/2018 1:33:01 PM

$1,500 bucks was .......................and is ............a LOT of money!

Yeah, but, one also needs to put it in perspective of what $1,500 is about. It's not a weekend getaway. It's something that doesn't happen overnight, nor is intended to. $1,500 is not a lot of money to save up over the course of a year (less than $30/wk). A pain in the arse for those who don't make much money, but again, it's not like one's trying to buy an entertainment center next week.
 HanoverFella
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Posted: 3/4/2018 1:57:47 PM
Money well spent, just to close that chapter of my life, and move on
 MadameBoisseau
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/4/2018 2:18:12 PM
The knowledge that I could have spent my years, efforts and the one opportunity you get to build a family, on a man that would have appreciated it; instead of the selfish loser who literally would make the world a better place to reside in by dropping dead. My children deserved way better than to be born to such a piece of lying garbage.
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/4/2018 3:02:08 PM
^^^ sounds just like a romantic Disney movie 😆
 purplerider1200
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/4/2018 4:29:17 PM
I read these responses over the costs. Gad zooks!

Mine cost me $152.50.

I THINK, I got off for dirt.
 NewYorker58
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/4/2018 5:20:51 PM
Yeah, you dodged a bullet, but costs have risen. When did you get divorced, when Indians were circling the wagons☺
 ThePigOfYourDreams
Joined: 6/30/2017
Msg: 70
What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/5/2018 4:16:23 AM
The fact a divorce costs anything is f*cking ridiculous.
 HanoverFella
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Msg: 71
What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/5/2018 7:21:07 AM
Why some spend so much on their weddings now a days is even more ridiculous, especially when they split up after a few years
 MsSkeezix
Joined: 7/1/2017
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/5/2018 7:50:14 AM

Why some spend so much on their weddings now a days is even more ridiculous, especially when they split up after a few years


Some folks enjoy the pageantry of a wedding ceremony. Sometimes it's the brides, sometimes the groom, sometimes the moms, sometimes the dads---sometimes the whole clan likes to join in!

Nothing wrong with that. If it's not on my dime, I don't care.
My 'to be husband' and I went to the Justice of the Peace and had a fairly low key party later~

I don't think any couple goes into a marriage expecting it to last only a few years. I could be wrong<<<
 norwegianguy456
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/5/2018 12:38:39 PM

^^^ sounds just like a romantic Disney movie 😆

"Come on Cinderella -- we got to get you ready for the ball!" (Dumb & Dumber movie reference)

Some folks enjoy the pageantry of a wedding ceremony. Sometimes it's the brides, sometimes the groom, sometimes the moms, sometimes the dads---sometimes the whole clan likes to join in!

I agree, nothing wrong with that. Going down to the local govt office to get a marriage certificate doesn't cost much. The "real" cost isn't getting married, but the whole ceremonial thing, putting it on stage, catering, DJing, renting out places, etc. It's not required, of course. Divorce? If the two people (knock on wood - lol) aren't squabbling much over it, it doesn't have to be too expensive -- but the big costs are about Lawyers. Different party cost that's hard to avoid. :)
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 3/5/2018 1:14:33 PM
For me, signing the divorce decree was the hardest part, but not that hard.

I paid nothing zero for the divorce and have no idea what it might have cost. My wife got a lawyer, the settlement looked OK, I could have gotten money from her, but no really a big deal for me. And I did keep suggesting we should get a divorce.

Financially it worked out well for both of us, but that is because Texas is a homestead state. But it was planned out to work well, no children was a major plus.

It was a hassle moving, but it's always a hassle moving.
 NewYorker58
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What is the hardest part of divorce?
Posted: 3/5/2018 3:52:48 PM
The hardest part of divorcing is deciding who to have sex with first
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