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 forumslady
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I think I commented on this thread already, but.............
As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, if it works for them............
For me, I tried it once (he was 17 years younger than me) and maturity was a factor.
It seems it would be, no matter who was older, or younger.
Then again, I'm the type that likes to have something in common with the person I'm dating. (((SHRUGS)))
 swedishtextiles
Joined: 2/2/2017
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Posted: 4/26/2017 7:01:53 AM

What man would want to date a women for a LTR that's 25 or more year solder than he is.


Emmanuel Macron, who is running for President in France is married to a woman 24 years his senior.
They met when he was 15, she 39. He, her student---She, his teacher.
She is now 64 years old, he's 39.
Seems it worked out OK for those two!

;-)
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
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Posted: 4/26/2017 9:05:40 AM
yikes, well she was a married woman running with someone same age as her child.. bet it didn't hurt she is filthy rich!
Maybe that is the secret.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 4/26/2017 9:44:41 AM

I would hope this doesn't happen. A 50-55 year old woman dating a man that is 40 years younger than her would be statutory rape. That would remind me of teachers that have sex with their students. LOL.

Well, a 10-15 year old could have a crush on a hot mom who looks 40 like Andie McDowell or Christie Brinkley. But those are so few & far between. A crush is different than getting some dates out of it (see POF guys writing girls online). That said, I think when you're pretty young -- like in pre-teen or young teen years, you notice age difference better than others, so one would be more into gals who were 40-45 looking like they were 30-something. But again, it's not like they wouldn't think Attraction on the best of the best 50-55 who look 40ish.

I think he mistyped and meant the age of the guys -- not that many years the junior (as something common)? When some guys go on about "Oh, wait, the gal was 45? Uggh! That's gross man, you're not even 30 yet!" -- they have to be corrected, because, a hot 45 year old woman can outdo an average Jane @30... and then you can point to Hollywood Actresses and say "You wouldn't pork her?"

But again, I think it's social upbringing AKA "high school games" that affect people more than anything. It's not a natural, actual "gross". It's "gross" by social conditioning in the sense of what other people think. Just by a #. This is why some people lie about their age.
 rearguard*2
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Posted: 4/26/2017 11:08:07 AM
Honore Blackman, Ursula Andress, Sophia Loren, JLo, Angie****nson, Catherine Bach, ....

Actually, there are loads of women in their 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s who are very attractive, and to men of all ages. As far as I can tell, if you are interested in being attractive to the opposite sex, you can be at any age, and to any age. If you are not interested, you won't be.

Being attractive gets you noticed, and lands you dates. Its entirely up to you to choose the relationships that you want to have. Everything else is simply wallowing in self pity.

Comments like the one above about relative wealth are, IMO just a sop to make one feel better about not getting what another person has.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
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Posted: 4/26/2017 2:00:05 PM
I don't see anyone wallowing in self pity.
Guess it comes down to confidence level ( and for some being a tad delusional re their " youthful" appearance. nearly every second profile states " I look much younger". Ah the sting of reality.
I feel bad a friend was just dumped harshly by the 15 yr younger guy she was falling for ... bet the next one will be even younger, some ppl just like dating much younger.
103 sounds a good age :)
 gtomustang
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Posted: 4/26/2017 4:26:21 PM
I would be impressed with a 30 yr old who knows Honore Blackman or Ursula Andress and isn't a Bond fan :) and the two Dukes of Hazard movies didn't include Catherine Bach, they replaced her with a skinny gal I didn't find attractive and a Jessica Simpson I did. But JLo is on a TV show now. I'll take a guess Emily Blunt or Zoe Saldana is in more recent movies than Sophia Loren, was Grumpy Old Men her last movie? What was the age of the target audience there? Ann Margaret was the other romantic interest there, right? but I figured you'd have mentioned, say, Gwyneth Paltrow or Cam Diaz--they can still get young men into theatre seats.

being physically attractive can get you noticed, and people initially interested. They'll put the effort into getting to know you. Beats having to work to convince someone to pay attention to you....b/c that doesn't work. no one finds the "Try hard" attractive.

Money itself may not be attractive, but the man who wields this tool well...can get attention. I posted a link to a vid a while back, there are some people who are mature for their age, want to experience the world, and an older man with means can do that for them. "aphrodisiac" may be too strong a word, but it can make someone excited and enthusiastic.
 south_city
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Posted: 4/27/2017 7:12:19 AM

Emmanuel Macron, who is running for President in France is married to a woman 24 years his senior.
They met when he was 15, she 39. He, her student---She, his teacher.
She is now 64 years old, he's 39.
Seems it worked out OK for those two!


It's not impossible. But it's probably very rare though. I think most men aren't interested in marrying a woman that is 20-25 older than he is. If we were talking about a FWB relationship or marrying a older woman with a smaller age difference such as 10 years, then it would be relatively more common.
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 4/27/2017 2:19:53 PM
When in doubt......................I look it up.
http://www.austin-institute.org/research/ask-a-data-scientist-age-differences-between-couples/
http://blogs.elenasmodels.com/en/age-difference-in-couples/
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
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Posted: 4/27/2017 5:03:19 PM

bet it didn't hurt she is filthy rich! Maybe that is the secret.


The worst kept secret in history.
 sandwater
Joined: 4/2/2017
Msg: 86
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Posted: 4/29/2017 9:37:28 AM
There is nothing with a woman going after younger men. But the reality is she needs to realistic. If someone like the OP mostly wants men that are 10+ years younger than her, it can be tough ( unless she is super hot or a celebrity ) because most people seriously date and marry someone closer to their own age. Since the OP is 54, her best chance is probably expanding her age range to also include men in their mid to late 40s. That's clearly still younger than she is. But not a massive age difference.
 Seki1949
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Posted: 4/29/2017 12:07:58 PM
"They met when he was 15, she 39. He, her student---She, his teacher. She is now 64 years old, he's 39."

Don't know about this situation. I had a uncle who married his much older college math professor. They lived and taught at the university level in Texas. Being young, I never questioned it.

I later found out that they were each other's 'beard'. All the adults knew. Strictly platonic but they seemed to enjoy each others company. Sex was found elsewhere although my Uncle may have been asexual. She, for sure, had a fire in her belly even though much older.

In that time period being 'married' avoided a lot of questions and social pressure. It was before you could 'come out' and still have a professional career.

If I was French, I would vote for Le Pen.
 Seki1949
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Posted: 4/29/2017 12:23:40 PM

Actually, there are loads of women in their 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s who are very attractive, and to men of all ages.


In many cases with professional make-up and photography. Might not be so attractive to at dawn. I'm attracted to my own age group; I'm not sure about a 20 year age difference as both parties age.

I'm 20 years old with a Hawt 40 year old, You Betcha!
I'm 30 years old with a Nice Looking 50 year old, Good to Go!
I'm 40 years old with a 60 year old. Hmmm I Don't Think So!

When I was nearly 40, I was FWB with a young 20 something college student for about a year. Meeting each other friends could be awkward. Due to common musical interests, we also had shared overlapping friends who were comfortable with it.

Oddly, her parents were fine with us. She was close to finishing UC Santa Cruz and she was coming out of her LUGS stage with me to their relief.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 5/4/2017 9:48:07 PM

She is now 64 years old, he's 39.

Yeah, but she is Great looking for 64. If she wasn't, he would have let her go 10 years ago. Just sayin'. Probably good motivation to keep herself looking good and vivacious.

Actually, there are loads of women in their 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s who are very attractive, and to men of all ages.

Well, "loads" of women in their 60s and 70s -- no. "Loads" of women to only men of old age -- yeah. It's a much thinner selection for women in their 60s, and a Very thin selection for women in their 70s, when you go toward men Signficantly younger and younger. Our tastes become more blurred as we get older, when it comes to age-lines. Much like people thinking they look younger than they do. Like I can remember a teacher back in the day and was thinking she was real old but hot -- however, looking at those pics from yesteryear, I'm thinking "Whoah, she looks a LOT younger now". Your "feeling" of how old someone is isn't universal, is my point (including to oneself). It has to play catch-up.

It's not as simple as "anyone can be attractive to a High % of the opp-sex At any age, To a High % of Any age". In the future that will be more true, but plastic surgery isn't good enough to say that. Some people, who even remain active & relatively healthy -- aren't very attractive to people when they're pretty young, and although they will look more attractive to those much older... when they're much older, there's not a thing they can do. Doesn't mean one can't be attractive to SOME people, tho.

But it does Drop significantly for most when you cross lengthy age barriers. But there's always rare under 1% exceptions.
 carolina sophie
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Posted: 5/5/2017 10:20:46 AM
Well, thank you pof. I signed in and responded here and it did not show up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 Ladyinred0407
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Posted: 5/5/2017 2:29:49 PM
Carolina sophie, LOL, The window of opportunity / to post a response is ..................well I'm really not sure how many seconds you have to write and hit POST, so here's the secret.
Write your response, copy, sign back on, find where where you want to respond, paste it, hit POST!
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
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Posted: 5/5/2017 5:12:05 PM
She does not " look great" she looks her age :)
But as long as ppl thinking the look/act/feel younger than their age
I feel 135 tonight, not many my age range logged on
Friends are having their 30th anniversary, when I said if you had killed him first time you thought of it
They didn't laugh
Try the shrimp, I'll be here all weekend
 gtomustang
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Posted: 5/6/2017 7:40:52 AM
"try the shrimp"

>>>we can't, he says he has no luck on POF. Blames his height. maybe he needs some shrimp c0cktails to loosen up.
 L_LuuLuu
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Posted: 5/17/2017 3:59:10 PM
I'm going to have to concur with Silver Wings in msg 46. And have to add: you're going to have to hit the gym and tone up -- not just lose the pounds. After the weight loss, a trip to a aesthetitician to erase all signs of age.

If you're having trouble growing a nice head of longer hair, a beautiful wig or top piece is a good investment. And please don't choose a whacked-off over the ears look.

Also, take the words "well-heeled" and "generous" out of your profile.

Add some interests that a younger man would actually care about. And take the "diamonds and jewelry" out, for goodness sake.

After the make over, post some flattering full length pics.

However, a good couger hook up club in your area is a much better bet than on-line dating.

Even then, strictly NSA is about the best you are going to do under 45.

Most people on the forums would agree that I am usually pretty tactful. So, I really hate to say this. I honestly don't mean to be rude, but that's the way it is. Its a very competitive world these days.



 jelli_fish
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Posted: 5/21/2017 11:04:58 AM
I'm dating a guy that is 37 & I'm 47. We have a friends with benefits relationship that has lasted since last September. I'm actually a bit surprised that it's lasted this long. He's pretty mature lol, very nice, and has treated me with a ton of respect. It's possible to find a younger guy but most want an older woman that they see out of milf porn set, or hlywd type like Halle Berry, or Selma Hayek. I assume there is some false milf info going around with guys 18-35 that think women over 37 are desperate, lonely, and will give them $$.
It's possible to find a man 10-20 yrs younger depending on what each of you wants and expects from the relationship. I'd say to not to give up on men closer to your own age, as well as younger.
 LetitiaLeGrande
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Posted: 5/21/2017 7:40:17 PM
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and yet you dont have a picture up.

You can play grandpa to her child, how sweet.
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 5/21/2017 7:57:21 PM
I am watching the 2017 BILLBOARD MUSIC AWARDS, Cher at 71 looks incredibly sexy with a flawless body,

I would guess she was 35-40 from how she looks on TV.
 LOLTrump
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Posted: 5/21/2017 9:01:58 PM

I am watching the 2017 BILLBOARD MUSIC AWARDS, Cher at 71 looks incredibly sexy with a flawless body,


Great to know, btw I have a bridge for sale in NYC, gets great traffic, the tolls will make you a millionaire in weeks, you interested?




I would guess she was 35-40 from how she looks on TV.


I would guess you are easily fooled and do not understand makeup and lighting.
 JanetPY
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Posted: 5/22/2017 9:51:23 AM
When is a relationship something really connecting two people? In what way? Or, what really is a relationship?

There are sugar daddies and sugar mommies. And you don’t even have to put a name on this kind of relationship. Maybe most relationships are an aspect of either of these. One person is providing something to the other person in exchange for something else. Doesn’t this actually happen in most relationship? I’m being serious.

If you’re in a relationship now, could you honestly say you’re not giving something for something in return? Could be as simple as one person cooks all the meals for the other, and the other pays the bills. Barter. You just find out ‘what works’. You don’t want to lose what you get. So you just continue on.
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