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 plantlover1955
Joined: 6/14/2017
Msg: 51
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A text or an email is a non time consuming form of communication. There is time to think about your statements or response.
Those who say phone conversation is old school should realize that the written word is "old school" . I like to exchange some information via text or email before I speak to the person. I then have an idea of what to talk about with them. But that is just me. If the other person doesn't agree, then we aren't suited.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 7/21/2017 9:50:54 AM

Secondly what is it with men that feel that if you respond or message them very next step they want is a call.

Well, it's not so much that way for men around 70, as...

I’m surprised at the number of men over 70 on here, and their lack of communication.

... everyone has their different vibes. :)

But what is wrong with a bit of on-line communication for a couple of days or so to get a feeling for each other.

I don't think it's so much an age thing, even though the gender ratio's about even once hitting 65+, from the last time I did an objective gender head count in the same age range (which I can't do anymore because it won't let you do a full search when not logged in). But for ages up to about 50-something, there's More than 2 guys for every 1 gal who's been recently active online. I think that's the reason guys want to be "speedy" in getting the ball rolling with a gal, because he knows she's got other boys hitting her up. :)

Thirdly--Yes I am one of those that do believe that meeting sooner rather than later. Ideally I would like to message on POF for a a couple days(I'm talking conversations, not just a couple of one-liners). Then move on to emails, & with a meet within a week no more than two weeks.

Yeah, that's a normal pace for those who are willing to meet someone. Standard operating procedure. The inquiry on meeting up comes up during day 1-3, depending on how long & fruitful the conversations are during the timespan, and things go from there. From my experience, after POF-texting convo for a while, and the notion of getting together sometime [this week] was agreed upon, many times a gal will throw out her # to do standard texting instead. Or not, if she's weary about giving out her #, which is understandable. Either way, it's texting.

A few want to chat on the phone a lot before meeting, but IMO, unless it's too inconvenient for one of the people to do some form of texting (like via POF) or ya Can't meet for quite some time, it's best to have that experience in person in the near future.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 4/3/2017
Msg: 53
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Posted: 7/21/2017 12:29:48 PM
I don't mind early meets.
I don't like emailing back and forth...I barely answer emails from people I know and like.
I'm sort of a slow texter. I like punctuation and I refuse to abbreviate words.
So yeah, a message, a phone call and a meet for a tasty beverage.

If sex comes up and I'm not interested....I've no problem saying so.
If it does and I am...so what?

I'm old...time's awastin!
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 54
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Posted: 7/21/2017 1:40:27 PM
Oh Boo :(
I think refuse too strong a word
since you typed I'm,don't, and awastin LOL
There aren't any over 70s forumite guys posting is there?
Might as well speed the plow and meet quickly imo.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 7/21/2017 4:13:26 PM

If it does and I am...so what?

Thing is, you could get younger guys well below 70, Easy. Which would increase your chances of "I am". :)

I'm old...time's awastin!

I should say this line in reverse order the next time I'm out on a date with a woman notably older than me. With an added "That's why I ordered an Uber to go back to my pad and it's only 7PM! Tick Tock, Tick Tock babe!" :)
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 7/21/2017 7:38:14 PM

I'm sort of a slow texter. I like punctuation and I refuse to abbreviate words.


I'm in the same boat as Boo on this. Plus I like natural flow of talking versus the wash, rinse, and repeat choppiness of texting. By the third exchange my patience starts to run thin.
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 7/21/2017 7:54:07 PM
I don't like to abbreviate either. Our age is showing:) We could also be those people that still like to hold a book in our hands, instead of a Kindle☺
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 7/21/2017 10:16:21 PM
I am not big on abbreviations either. OMG..........does this mean I would have to learn the abbreviations in the language I am working so hard to learn...............too much pressure for me. Too old for this nonsense.
However, I love my E Reader. Let's see..............I can take a suitcase of book with me to read over the winter or I put my E Reader in my purse, and I have 6 month worth of reading pleasure.
 Ouija2025
Joined: 6/11/2014
Msg: 59
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Posted: 7/22/2017 5:36:21 PM
BUt I like the smell and touch
I buy real papers
I need to hold the book, weird hmmm?
And guess it was I given a book a week when I was a kid, books and bookstores make me content
I would take a suitcase of books
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 browneyesboo
Joined: 4/3/2017
Msg: 60
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Posted: 7/25/2017 6:53:28 AM
I like holding books as well. I have a ton of books. Mostly first editions
and signed ones...others I don't keep. I still buy a lot of books, but we
get plenty of free ones at the bookstore.

I have a nook and I LOVE it...didn't think I would, but I take it
everywhere with me. I'd rather do that than take one of my hardcovers.
Paperbacks...yeah, I don't mind carrying them around...I usually get
rid of them after I read them anyway.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 61
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Posted: 8/13/2017 8:43:53 PM
Yeah....what's that "lets go to bed TODAY thing" about? I think that before people sleep together they should be tested for STD's...just saying. My thought is, if you don't care about your own sexual health, you couldn't possibly care about mine.
 NewYorker58
Joined: 6/11/2013
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Posted: 8/14/2017 2:53:01 PM
Definetly, Black Lady! Herpes is rampant, and people are forgetting about AIDS. I've read a few profiles where men have admitted they have herpes. Legally, they can be prosecuted if they give someone herpes if they didn't admit having it, but who knows how many men and women hide that little fact about themselves!

From an article: It may strike some as surprising, but the rates of sexually transmitted disease (STD) in older adults are rising. Older people who are sexually active may be at risk for diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydial infection, genital herpes, hepatitis B, genital warts, and trichomoniasis. Disturbingly, 27 percent of new AIDS diagnoses in the US in 2013 were among people age 50 or older.
 eightracker
Joined: 8/13/2017
Msg: 63
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Posted: 8/21/2017 1:51:52 PM
I'd like to weigh in here, at the ripe old age of 72, and having recently become a widower. I don't know how to text, have never used an ATM, and only have my 7 year old cell phone with me when I drive somewhere, in case of an emergency.

I've been told that I look years younger than my actual age, guess it's in the jeans, err, genes (or both ;) ). The phrase, "age is just a number" certainly seems cogent, at least as a general guideline.

In looking at ladies pics on the pof dating site, the age thing seems to be quite individual; some gals just don't take care of themselves, and appear older than their stated ages, while in other cases, I've done double-takes on women who look years younger (now they wouldn't be trying to fool us with old pics, would they?).

On the discussion regarding meeting; personally, I simply want to exchange messages at this point, which I stated in my profile, but have been approached a number of times by ladies wanting to talk on the phone, or hurry up and meet. So it ain't just the guys doing the rush, ladies.
 femmefatale0007
Joined: 5/19/2015
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Posted: 9/23/2017 12:59:37 PM
Well i am not 70
20 years makes a lot of difference !! and I look younger un saludo
 Baron1644
Joined: 2/22/2009
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Posted: 10/9/2017 2:23:47 AM
What? Are you trying to say that every over 70 should walk around with a piece of paper saying I am free of all STD's?
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 10/9/2017 9:41:07 AM
"Are you trying to say that every over 70 should walk around with a piece of paper saying I am free of all STD's?"


Under and over 70 YES!
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 67
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Posted: 10/9/2017 11:50:39 AM

What? Are you trying to say that every over 70 should walk around with a piece of paper saying I am free of all STD's?


No, that would sound presumptuous. But you should still get tested for STDs if you are sexually active, or plan to be.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 10/9/2017 12:50:48 PM
Baron, I want to know a guy doesn't have an std. Its simple to get tested. You do know that some stds are not curable? That could end your sex life. I don't want to end mine or have one kill me. It's said that with the advent of Viagra, more seniors have stds, which makes sense.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 10/9/2017 7:00:42 PM
I'd get tested if I knew I was going to have sex.

But, since I know that's not going to happen-why worry about it?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 10/12/2017 11:09:07 AM
There are many people out there who have no idea how to go about getting tested for STDs without going to their doctor, and they don’t feel comfortable talking to their MD about this subject. So let me offer up the following as a Public Service Announcement.

Go on the internet (if you’re reading this, you’re already on), do a google search for “std testing houston”. Substitute the name of your city, or if you’re in a podunk cross roads, use the name of the nearest large or semi-large city. Many insurance plans will cover (or partially cover) the costs. If your insurance plan doesn’t cover it, or if you don’t want to use your insurance (to keep this off your medical records), then the cost is only about $175.

You make the appointment online, and you get the results online. Protected, yes, no one else can see it, but online. You do have to walk into a medical lab somewhere, pee in a cup and give blood. It’s easy, and you SHOULD do it at least once a year if you are sexually active at all.
 Baron1644
Joined: 2/22/2009
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Posted: 10/20/2017 6:58:37 PM

"Are you trying to say that every over 70 should walk around with a piece of paper saying I am free of all STD's?"
Under and over 70 YES!


Does the same rule apply for women?
 Baron1644
Joined: 2/22/2009
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Posted: 10/20/2017 7:18:35 PM

No, that would sound presumptuous. But you should still get tested for STDs if you are sexually active, or plan to be.

You do realise that all STD test is only as good as you last sexual contact may it be French kissing, oral sex or any other kind of sex.
Also for a few STD's you should wait at least six months, and abstain from any form of sex and be tested again. to be 99% sure from any STD.
For example >>> You can have HIV and not know it. HIV can remain undetected for as long as 10 years, and during that time, someone who's infected can spread it to many others.
If you can believe what is said in the medical journals >>> a negative HIV test at 3 months or 6 months for that matter, is considered to be safe.
You should have your self tested again to be 99% sure.
Some Medical Practitioners are saying that HIV can remain dormant for 10 years and in the mean time you are convince you are free of all STD.
Dr. Edionwe answers a reader question about how often they should get tested for HIV, as it can remain dormant for up to 10 years.
Number 3: You can have HIV and not know it. HIV can remain undetected for as long as 10 years, and during that time, someone who's infected can spread it to many others. The only way to know for sure whether you or your partner is HIV-positive is to get tested. Late-stage HIV — before it becomes AIDS — does cause symptoms, but they can be easily confused with other ailments.
https://www.everydayhealth.com/hiv-aids/10-hiv-aids-facts-everyone-should-know.aspx
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 9/29/2017
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Posted: 10/20/2017 7:20:14 PM
(Above.)

Not if they have STDs. That would be unethical, if they're going to be sexually active. Mind you, most of us on here probably don't need to worry about that.
 Baron1644
Joined: 2/22/2009
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Posted: 10/20/2017 8:12:34 PM

Mind you, most of us on here probably don't need to worry about that


At last an intelligent comment.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 10/20/2017 9:23:46 PM
Regional infection estimates

Estimates for HSV-1 prevalence by region among people aged 0-49 in 2012:

Americas: 178 million women (49%), 142 million men (39%)
Africa: 350 million women (87%), 355 million men (87%)
Eastern Mediterranean: 188 million women (75%), 202 million men (75%)
Europe: 207 million women (69%), 187 million men (61%)
South-East Asia: 432 million women (59%), 458 million men (58%)
Western Pacific: 488 million women (74%), 521 million men (73%)
Estimates of new HSV-1 infections among people aged 0-49 in 2012:

Americas: 6 million women, 5 million men
Africa: 17 million women, 18 million men
Eastern Mediterranean: 6 million women, 7 million men
Europe: 5 million women, 5 million men
South-East Asia: 13 million women, 14 million men
Western Pacific: 11 million women, 12 million men
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