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 Railrunner
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I've seen similar. There was an episode of Judge Alex about a guy who was violent and abusive to his date. He claimed he left a six hundred dollar laptop in her car when she finally had enough of him and he never got it back. He got most of that money awarded. Now here's the twist. The guy lived literally less than a quarter mile from me. Regular passenger of ours. We kicked him off buses a couple dozen times. Only laptop I ever seen him with was something looking so old and worn out he probably got it at Goodwill. And yes, he is a violent jerk. Had him arrested a few times for threatening and intimidating female passengers. One of my coworkers saw the show while in the driver's breakroom, and within minutes it was all over our radios.

The guy was a compulsive liar. Claimed he had this phantom expensive computer for college. Studying computer science. Right. Whatever. He had been locked up several times for peddling drugs. He had no car, so used our buses to get around. Never went to any colleges. Unlikely he was studying at home by online schools either, given his travel patterns. Far as any of us were concerned, he tried to strongarm or worse his date, she kicked him out of of the car, and he made a phoney complaint about a computer that does not exist, and STILL won.

From that point on, any time he got on one of our vehicles, we gave him a strict verbal warning, and a small card stating the warning too, that any property left on our buses is NOT the employees nor agency's responsibility.

Dating is getting really weird nowadays. Seems the "Gimme gimme gimme" frivolous lawsuit trend has spilled over into the world of dating.
 Damilovely
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Taking a bad date to small claim court? He did “win”
Posted: 5/31/2017 2:03:47 AM
https://www.facebook.com/EliteDaily/videos/1538389412879352/
She didn't see this! :)
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Taking a bad date to small claim court? He did “win”
Posted: 5/31/2017 7:35:01 AM
^^^ Ugh. No.
And she got ripped off on that blowout. It looks like crap.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 4/3/2017
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Taking a bad date to small claim court? He did “win”
Posted: 5/31/2017 8:01:22 AM

And she got ripped off on that blowout. It looks like crap.


I read this before I looked at the video...hahahaha!

I haven't seen these videos before, but honestly, most of that stuff she does
and puts a price tag on so the guy can pay, I do for myself. It wouldn't occur
to me to ask anyone else to pay for my hair and nails, etc. Gads.
Who knew that was an option?
 spot4username
Joined: 12/15/2015
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Posted: 5/31/2017 8:07:08 AM
^^^
Exactly. I do all of those things when I am going to have dinner alone. Or going shopping. Or going to work. Or hang out with a friend. ETC.

Maybe I should put a TIPS jar on my table next time to offset the costs of dining alone and looking so amazing while I am doing it.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 5/31/2017 8:59:49 AM

https://www.facebook.com/EliteDaily/videos/1538389412879352/


What a crock! Thank you ladies who posted above me. That's definitely not the reason I would pay for a date. We guys invest in ourselves, but we wouldn't ask for compensation. Sheesh...
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 57
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Posted: 5/31/2017 9:06:38 AM
^^^^

Agreed , a woman does that for HERSELF not her date

As for the cost of the items, she doesn't use each item only ONCE before each date and throw them out. They can all be used multiple times for multiple dates.


As for the woman in the video , she looks like a high maintenance pain in the butt = NOT WORTH IT
 SilverWings2017
Joined: 12/14/2016
Msg: 58
Taking a bad date to small claim court? He did “win”
Posted: 5/31/2017 6:40:58 PM
She looks like a hooker on her date. lol

Who goes out to a dinner on a date and spends $480 dollars anyway?

Thats even more disgusting.
 Jackcrusto
Joined: 2/27/2017
Msg: 59
Taking a bad date to small claim court? He did “win”
Posted: 5/31/2017 7:28:17 PM
Well before I go on a date I got to get ready too. I stand in front of a full body mirror naked with one hand up in a hitler salute screaming "DICK POWER!" for 3 hours beforehand. Then I make the woman pay. She does too because I show her the video of it so she will see how hard it was for me to prepare.
 singleprofessionalinco
Joined: 5/25/2017
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Posted: 5/31/2017 11:54:40 PM
I don't sue bad dates. I delete their contact information and move on. If anything, i'll check with a tax expert on whether or not I can write off the meal expenses as a charitable donation in the form of feeding the hungry.
 spot4username
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Posted: 6/4/2017 10:10:36 AM
I said back on the first page that I think they are both nitwits. I still feel that way.
Apparently he is getting lots of girls wanting to "bang" as a result of his notoriety.
This popped up online today : https://imgur.com/gallery/WF7Rv#qGUFWsW
 Railrunner
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Posted: 6/5/2017 5:40:50 PM

Well before I go on a date I got to get ready too. I stand in front of a full body mirror naked with one hand up in a hitler salute screaming "DICK POWER!" for 3 hours beforehand. Then I make the woman pay. She does too because I show her the video of it so she will see how hard it was for me to prepare.


Is it just your hand up in a Hitler salute?

Somehow the mental picture is just hilarious. Especially if you picture a Nuremburg Rally sort of place where everyone is doing it. After a long day at work, I needed a good laugh!
 ready4u182
Joined: 5/10/2017
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Taking a bad date to small claim court? He did “win”
Posted: 6/9/2017 3:09:39 AM
Just don't date her again and be done with it haha
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
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Taking a bad date to small claim court? He did “win”
Posted: 6/10/2017 8:51:59 AM
I would've jerked off next to her and then held her hand.

Text now biotch
 Jackcrusto
Joined: 2/27/2017
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Posted: 6/10/2017 12:48:51 PM
Or with a little paint and a lot of effort you could get her attention for a sec and do the swap a roo.

https://d26v70zl50qz3k.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/iphone-6s-shaped-like-dick-colors.jpg
 ChattyKathie0922
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Posted: 6/11/2017 9:03:18 AM
I found myself feeling sympathetic to the guy. I don't have much of an opinion about the settlement or if it should have been brought by the man, but I do think this female was about as rude as a person can get on a first date. When your date pays for your meal and your movie ticket, it doesn't mean you owe them anything external. But it SHOULD mean you owe them curtesy. He did a nice thing by paying. Money isn't flowing out of anyone's pockets these days. She could have at least been present during the date. Shame on her!
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/11/2017 1:22:08 PM

I don't have much of an opinion about the settlement or if it should have been brought by the man, but I do think this female was about as rude as a person can get on a first date.

It was rude. But I also think it was probably a by-product of there not being that 'vibe' between to make a successful one -- and their differences flourished with her on the phone and him overreacting. He was mad because it meant she's not-that-interested in him. She was rude, and he got too worked up over it.

When your date pays for your meal and your movie ticket, it doesn't mean you owe them anything external. But it SHOULD mean you owe them curtesy. He did a nice thing by paying.

If it means you don't owe them anything in any way (besides a canned courtesy acknowledgement) -- no, it doesn't mean they did a Nice thing. He did the expected thing. A gesture of courtesy doesn't mean the person did something Nice. It can mean that they followed through on what's expected, and, in a nutshell = "thanks for following through".

I once had to pick up and drop off a friend of mine in college several times when his car was being worked on. Was a bit of pain a couple of the times. All that stuff was Nice of me. After all that, when I asked if he could pick me up from a bar I was going to be at, when on his way back from his GF's since it was on his way -- that would be Expected for him to do that. He certainly Did owe me that type of thing, when it was to his convenience. It deserves a gesture of courtesy from me, sure. But it's not a "Wow, he's/you're nice for doing this!" Both aren't equal is my point.

And I think this misunderstanding what can drive some gals like the gal on that date to be rude. No, she's right if you asked her -- that it was him doing the Expected to pay for the date, and not a by-product of him being Nice (much like my roommate agreeing to pick me up after I was his mini-chaufer for a couple weeks). Unfortunately it Should be an actual Nice thing to do, but due to our culture it's seen as Expected in almost all circumstances. This opened the doors to allow her to unfortunately take it a step further from that norm -- to not even be courteous of it.
 ChattyKathie0922
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Posted: 6/11/2017 3:31:24 PM

He did the expected thing


not as far as I'm concerned
 ThroatLozenge
Joined: 3/2/2016
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Posted: 6/12/2017 10:57:59 AM
Too bad I can't file a class action lawsuit against women for bad dates.

I'd have more money to burn...
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/12/2017 11:33:38 AM


He did the expected thing
not as far as I'm concerned.

Well, if it wasn't expected the guy pay for a date, then it is the social norm that a guy does Not pay for a date, by default. Thus, a guy paying for the date would be no different than Sally & Suzzie going out to a movie -- It's expected they pay their own, by default. So if that is the case, then yes, it IS Nice if/when one pays for the other. Just like if it was between Sally & Suzies. But hate to break it to ya, that's not the case. Unfortunately, that's not the social-norm when boy & girl go out, which is my point (even though it would be cool if it were).

Hence, he's doing something Expected as far as social norms go. A guy paying in and of itself isn't being Nice, any more than just being a cool, friendly guy being considered nice in general... and her being a cool, friendly gal and her being considered nice in general. It's being normal, "par", etc. Hey, just being that Can be appreciated sometimes when there's so many bad dates going about tho - lol.

Since it's socially Expected that a guy by default pays for a date -- you and I liking it or not, that being the case -- many people take it for granted. And that girl in this story, Certainly did, which allowed her to be rude like that.
 ChattyKathie0922
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Posted: 6/12/2017 5:28:16 PM
I truly don't believe it makes any sense for it to be an expectation any longer. The tradition of the man always paying, is steeped in ideals that no longer exist. Men would take a woman out on dates and pay because he was trying to show her what a great provider he would be. Also, women made far less that 77 cents on the dollar (if they worked at all) back in my parent's dating days.

I'm sorry grown women keep expecting you to buy them food
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 6/12/2017 7:19:27 PM
What about for us older gals that may be in your parent's age range? If a guy wants to be put in the friend zone, ask your date for $$$. Also, you do the asking, you do the paying. When I invite a guy over for a dinner date at my place, I don't ask him for $$$. When he comes over to hang out and I provide snacks, I don't ask for money. It all sounds so petty and cheap to be keeping track of this sort of thing. If you don't have much $$$, don't do dates that involve big $$$, and don't do dates where money is involved all the time.
 Jackcrusto
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Posted: 6/12/2017 7:31:03 PM
ChattyKathie0922 is about the same age as you are. Oh my you thought she was younger than you? Like she was young enough you could be her mother? Nope close in age to you and she is opposite to you. Imagine that! lol
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 6/12/2017 9:12:26 PM

What about for us older gals that may be in your parent's age range?

If you're referring to ChattyKathie -- she's 51. I don't think you're old enough to be her mother. Maybe older sister. :)

Also, you do the asking, you do the paying

But not every date is done by asking. Look at it from an honest, unbiased POV that we all overlook: Many dates gals say they'd like to go out sometime. Many ask "What are you doing Thursday, I get out of work early," -- and there is No rule or quasi-rule whatsoever that implies she's Paying His Bill. Plus, many are just done the same way two friends are chatting about doing stuff, once the ice is broken & the 1st date's obviously out of the way.

When I invite a guy over for a dinner date at my place, I don't ask him for $$$.

But if you suggest going out again sometime, do you pay his bill? Girls & guys don't ask for their money -- that's misleading. They may ask or suggest the other to at least chip in money To the services provided to them both, from time to time. If you have a guy over for dinner and you ask or suggest he bring a dish or a bottle of wine, you're not asking for $$.

It all sounds so petty and cheap to be keeping track of this sort of thing.

It is too anal to keep track of everything -- nobody's asking or implying whipping out a calculator. We all know that's really not what this is about (although there are some weird people out there in just about every category that crops up). What certainly can be considered cheap though -- is Expecting a guy to pay her way virtually all the time Unless she clearly & specifically asks to Take him out -- even when he didn't ask to Take her out.

Anyway, ChattyKathie...

I truly don't believe it makes any sense for it to be an expectation any longer.

It doesn't make sense -- but there are some social norms that don't. It's by the dating market. It still exists because (a) "traditional" people will keep espousing it, (b) guys will follow-thru not to look bad even on a blah date, because that Is how things "are" (self-propagating concept), and (c) when some guys don't follow (b) and instead suggest a gal chip in or i'll-get-this-you-get-next, even when he does it's more pricey VS hers aimed to be less pricey -- enough gals are turned off enough because there'll always be Far more other guys More "respectable" guys not willing to cross that line, to keep it at the norm. :)

The tradition of the man always paying, is steeped in ideals that no longer exist.

Oh very true -- but the social norm keeps it going, because the dating trend is to garner a gal's interest. Even when not asking to Take her out -- the guy is going to have less dating success in general. The market's trapped in this ideal, even though -- yes, the notion was borne out of most of history when women didn't work or didn't have fulltime jobs.

I'm sorry grown women keep expecting you to buy them food

It is the expectation by default, yes. "That's what the guy does," even though more women go to college than guys do. But again, you're going to be in the dating market with one hand tied behind your back as a guy if you motion for i-got-this-one/you-got-next, or even accepting the common "faux" offers by gals to split it or contribute to dinners, movie tickets, drinks, etc.

With that said, more gals are content to contribute on some level if/when a guy motions for it -- and a small but noticeable % will even have a Genuine offer and expectation to do so. Many guys don't want to risk it -- or will only when she seems to Genuinely ask to split the bill on a seemingly good date, saying that she can get the tip or get the 1st round of drinks at the bar after dinner, etc. From my experience -- 1st hand and 2nd hand -- that doesn't happen too often, although in big cities I'm sure it is more often.
 NewYorker58
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Posted: 6/13/2017 4:38:52 PM
The situation remains the same. I was raised by strict parents with etiquette on dating, as were my friends. I'm talking about it here, but I have no problem with this in real life. I don't date cheap men.

When I invite a guy over, I feel I want to create an experience in it's entirety, which means all he has to do is show up and be treated like a king. Why would I ask or expect him to bring anything over? I don't want a guy bringing anything over. I don't need the money and don't want it in cash or in something brought over. It's his turn to be pampered. I enjoy doing that; it's not a bad deal being a guy in my world:) All of this keeping track of who does what is too much for me. It takes all of the enjoyment out of dating, not something I'm interested in doing. You pay this, I pay that, it's what you do with a roommate, not with a s/o.

This reminds me of George Costanza from Seinfield when his gf's family vaca place burns down, and while they watch it burning, he says to her, btw, you owe me money from the change at the toll booth, LOL. LOSER!!! I don't care if the guys here want to be losers. I don't have a problem dating and they do.

I don't do expensive dates. I'd rather be out walking a trail and grabbing a snack or drink afterwards. Restaurants are okay to be out in a fun environment, but I'd rather have a drink and share an appetizer and not waste a lot of money on a full dinner. To think a women is saving all of this money from not buying food is ludicrous. If a guy doesn't want to spend a lot, then just don't do it. Taking me out every few months to a restaurant, if even that, is not putting money in my pocket, LOL!!!! Don't worry guys, women are not banking cash and getting rich from you spending a few dollars on them.

I'm not even interested in 2 cents being spent on food, I like to travel as I always have and need a guy that can afford to come along, so I don't date these low rent men that complain about pennies they think they need to spend on women. They need to do womanhood a good deed by staying home with porno and their hand. I see an arthritic hand in these guy's futures, LOL.
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